In a situation where I'm meeting up with people whom I'm potentially getting to know, how do I know if I'm getting the brush off? [more inside]
Two months ago I started teaching at a small community college, a 90 minute drive away from home, two afternoons a week. There are two other teachers who live in the same neighborhood as me who also work at the same college. Actually, it was one of them who alerted me about an opening position there and told me it would be a good opportunity for me. Only one of the three of us owns a car and the three of us carpooled a few times when I started work there. Then, one day I stopped receiving texts saying "We'll pick you up at X". [more inside]
I need help non-hurtfully brushing off someone who wants to be friends with me. [more inside]
He's Just Not That Into You, from two writers on Sex and the City, posits the theory that a man who sends mixed signals to a woman just doesn't like her enough to step up his game with her, so she shouldn't bother waiting around for him. Examples of behavior from the book where the guy is not really that keen on you (and possibly wants to avoid a difficult or emotional confrontation): You invite him up after a date and he bows out saying he has an early day tomorrow; he says he's afraid of risking the friendship by dating you; he's recently divorced and afraid of getting involved again; he emails you or even calls you and flirts but doesn't ask you out; he gives you his number in a bar and tells you to call him, etc. Also, in the phrase, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," the first 'I love you' really means "I don't want to hurt you," and the second part really means what it says. MeFi, is this true? If a guy is really into you, will he always pursue?