I am upset at a (once) close friend, how do I work out the anger on my own and get past it?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 6, 2013 -
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How do I escape these mental traps post breakup? FYI: I'm in therapy but I'm turning here for extra insight and tips about combatting mental distortions.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2012 -
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Does the person who did the breaking up typically look down on the person broken up with? How can I stop worrying about this issue?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2012 -
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Went on some dates with a friend, I'm not so into him, he's REALLY into me. How do I end this? I feel sick just thinking about it.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 29, 2011 -
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I got involved with a friend who was in a relationship. He is confusing me and I am backing off. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2011 -
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On New Year's Day, my partner abruptly ended our four-year, cohabitating relationship. I had almost no warning, and will probably never fully understand why. I believe she is making the wrong choice. Give me advice on how to gracefully accept her decision anyway, and hold on to my sanity in the process.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2011 -
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My SO of 13 years and I just broke up. It was mutual and amicable but we feel numb. How do we process this and oh god, logistics? What do we do now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2010 -
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Please tell me your stories of running away from it all, going home again, and all those impossible things: the bits that tripped you up, the ways it did work out after all, etc. I am exploring the possibility of doing just that and I can't decide if this is a jump worth taking or just crazy.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 5, 2010 -
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Soon I will be giving testimony in my own divorce trial. How can I prepare for the judgment, whatever it is?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2010 -
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I just ended a 2+ year relationship. I don't know how to bounce back. (anonymous because he lurks)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2010 -
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My friend has asked me to have a conversation with her about whether she should leave her husband for a new man. I have a strong view: should I tell her and can I do so in a way that is constructive? What else should I consider about the content and format of what I say?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2010 -
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BreakupFilter, sort of: My former SO has left me doubting my worldview, my judgement and my sanity. That's a lot to carry on top of heartbreak, to say the least. I'm used to being a fairly confident and self-assured person; how do I get back there?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 6, 2010 -
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Break-Up-Filter: I just broke up with my first-ever boyfriend, of two years. I don't really know how to deal or how to react to people when they bring it up. I feel really awful right now and I've never done this before.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 24, 2010 -
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I met a girl the other night. Problem is, my girlfriend was there, too. Hopefully less scummy than it sounds.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 9, 2009 -
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Over the past year, I have slowly been dumped by a friend... I think? Should I just let her go? How to deal with the hurt feelings? What questions should I be asking about my own role in the breakup?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2009 -
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We broke up. Then, I had a miscarriage. It's been several months, but I'm beginning to feel really guilty. Should I tell him? If so, how? (maybe a little NSFW, better safe than sorry)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 20, 2009 -
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Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2009 -
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How should I deal with my on-again, off-again relationship? Should I try to fix it, or should I just break up with her? (Ridiculously long and detail-heavy question.)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 16, 2009 -
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He broke up with me eight months ago. We are still living together. Although he initiated the breakup, he isn't initiating anything else... like, say, moving out and moving on with his life.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2009 -
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In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 12, 2008 -
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If I know I wont be happy with him in the long term, why is it so hard to break up with him now?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 9, 2008 -
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Complete communication shut down as a means of ending a relationship: How often is this employed? And why can't people have some courtesy?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2007 -
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How do I maintain my dignity and my sanity while my ex-lover is in town (and living with me)?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 12, 2007 -
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messy long distance breakup + attractive close friends = more of a mess than any one person can handle
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2007 -
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How can I get over the selfish jealousy I feel towards my ex-girlfriend who is also my best friend and her new man?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2006 -
29 answers
You are not my attorney, and I'm not asking for legal advice. I would like an opinion, though, on the financial situation of a rough breakup. I've been with my girlfriend for seven years, and we're splitting up. It's gotten ugly. She has $10k in credit card debt, some of it for things she's bought for me/us, some not. She's telling me now she wants $5k from me, or she's going to start selling the things she's bought for me (such as the PowerBook I got last Christmas). I was going to be the bigger man in this, and help her pay her debts off a bit at a time, but now I'm extremely angry. I want to find out if there is any legal grounds for me telling her that no, we were never married, she gave me these things as gifts, and I don't owe her a dime. I live in Texas, for what it's worth, and I
am looking for an attorney locally.
posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2004 -
33 answers
So I accidentally got involved with a coworker/subordinate. We both decided it would be good to end the relationship. She is under the impression it is still okay to "hang out." How do I disway her from this notion?
posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2004 -
10 answers
