I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
32 answers
How do I escape these mental traps post breakup? FYI: I'm in therapy but I'm turning here for extra insight and tips about combatting mental distortions.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2012 -
12 answers
I was with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we lived together for much of that time. We had built a home and a family (albeit a two-person family), but two months ago he left me. On paper, I'm doing really well. But I still struggle with blame and attachment. Can you offer advice that will help me let go? (Lot's more detail inside. Hope it's not
too much).
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posted by pantheON
on Oct 20, 2012 -
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First date after a breakup. I am dreading it, and getting back into the dating game in general. I've never felt this way before. Has anyone ever experienced this before? Does jumping back into the dating game help these feelings go away, or would I be better off waiting until I feel excited about dating again?
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posted by tokaidanshi
on Jun 10, 2012 -
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It's been years and I can't forget this guy. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
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posted by deeba
on Jun 7, 2012 -
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Does the person who did the breaking up typically look down on the person broken up with? How can I stop worrying about this issue?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2012 -
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I got involved with a friend who was in a relationship. He is confusing me and I am backing off. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2011 -
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On New Year's Day, my partner abruptly ended our four-year, cohabitating relationship. I had almost no warning, and will probably never fully understand why. I believe she is making the wrong choice. Give me advice on how to gracefully accept her decision anyway, and hold on to my sanity in the process.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2011 -
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My SO of 13 years and I just broke up. It was mutual and amicable but we feel numb. How do we process this and oh god, logistics? What do we do now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2010 -
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I just ended a 2+ year relationship. I don't know how to bounce back. (anonymous because he lurks)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2010 -
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Regarding polyamory and potentially breaking up a monogamous LTR. A question for a friend. Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by NoraReed
on Jun 28, 2010 -
15 answers
My friend has asked me to have a conversation with her about whether she should leave her husband for a new man. I have a strong view: should I tell her and can I do so in a way that is constructive? What else should I consider about the content and format of what I say?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2010 -
27 answers
Relationship Filter: How do you know, and what do you do, when a 25+ year friendship may have reached it's logical end? Novella length setup:
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posted by SecretAgentSockpuppet
on Apr 20, 2010 -
32 answers
How do you break the terrible cycle of mutually destructive co-dependence in romantic relationships?
Can it be broken?
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posted by mondaygreens
on Apr 10, 2010 -
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Have you ever been in a relationship where your best coping mechanism was to maintain friendly contact, but the other partner's best coping mechanism was complete silence? And, if so, did you ever become friends again, and how?
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posted by timoni
on Apr 5, 2010 -
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BreakupFilter, sort of: My former SO has left me doubting my worldview, my judgement and my sanity. That's a lot to carry on top of heartbreak, to say the least. I'm used to being a fairly confident and self-assured person; how do I get back there?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 6, 2010 -
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Break-Up-Filter: I just broke up with my first-ever boyfriend, of two years. I don't really know how to deal or how to react to people when they bring it up. I feel really awful right now and I've never done this before.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 24, 2010 -
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My S.O.'s life is falling apart and has decided to break up with me, however, S.O. has requested that nothing change. (LOOONG, so sorry)
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posted by penguingrl
on Feb 2, 2010 -
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How can I support my good friend (and roommate) through a breakup, and not lose my patience?
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posted by jalebi
on Oct 9, 2009 -
11 answers
How can love and the certainty that you want to marry someone fade away and leave numbness?
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posted by whitelily
on Sep 28, 2009 -
46 answers
How do you mourn a long term relationship in a healthy way? There is no animosity, just two people who grew in different directions. But it is so hard.
posted by Nothing
on Sep 13, 2009 -
23 answers
We broke up. Then, I had a miscarriage. It's been several months, but I'm beginning to feel really guilty. Should I tell him? If so, how? (maybe a little NSFW, better safe than sorry)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 20, 2009 -
41 answers
Relationship Filter: I dated this guy for a month. We broke up a few weeks ago mainly because I am moving this summer. We have overlapping friends and hang out at the same places, which was fine until last week. He hooked up with a girl that I also know. Since we aren't together, I really don't care, but I think he does. Am I wrong not to be jealous?
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posted by xyla2000
on May 7, 2009 -
26 answers
Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2009 -
16 answers
For once I'm the dumper, not the dumpee, and I am utterly, horribly miserable. I can't figure out if what I'm going through is normal, and if I've made the right decision...
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posted by doompuppy
on Mar 4, 2009 -
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How should I deal with my on-again, off-again relationship? Should I try to fix it, or should I just break up with her? (Ridiculously long and detail-heavy question.)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 16, 2009 -
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He broke up with me eight months ago. We are still living together. Although he initiated the breakup, he isn't initiating anything else... like, say, moving out and moving on with his life.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2009 -
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In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 12, 2008 -
18 answers
If I know I wont be happy with him in the long term, why is it so hard to break up with him now?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 9, 2008 -
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I'm young and new at relationships...but already noticing some bad tendencies. How can I stop them before I get blacklisted as a psycho girlfriend?
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posted by idle
on Jan 13, 2008 -
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Complete communication shut down as a means of ending a relationship: How often is this employed? And why can't people have some courtesy?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2007 -
21 answers
What is your test for knowing when you're over your last relationship and ready for the next one?
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posted by smallstatic
on Oct 15, 2007 -
30 answers
I've been seeing a great guy. He's sweet, smart, funny, and he likes me! So what could possibly be the problem?
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posted by different
on Jan 17, 2007 -
26 answers
