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Should I break up with the man I want to marry?

There is a deal breaker and mismatched wishes about marriage to work through, but neither of us really want to break up. Can we, or should we try to work it out and stay together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2012 - 35 answers

Thrown away

My ex-lover and "best friend" blocked me on Facebook and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by girlmightlive on Oct 8, 2012 - 37 answers

Is this a new friendship or a ticking timebomb?

My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 17 answers

How to discharge anger at an ex two years after the breakup?

When everything on the surface seems healed and healthy after a breakup, how do you quash obsessive thoughts and anger about an abusive ex- two years on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 20 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

Seeking healthier perspectives during a rough time

I will soon be breaking up with my very dear partner. Typically, this is the point at which my life goes off-track for the next few years and I lose all perspective and any mental health I've achieved. I want to approach this period in a very different way this time. My question is how to avoid both zoning out/creating a protective fog/rewriting the past to be less dramatic than it is, and avoiding the other extreme of drowning in guilt for my partner's pain and their wasted energy and my destruction of our planned future. [more inside]
posted by teslateslatesla on Aug 23, 2012 - 19 answers

My first heartbreak and confusion is keeping me from moving on

My ex-boyfriend and I (27 and 28, respectively) were together for 9 months. The last 3 months were a little rough because he has serious insecurity issues and they manifested in our relationship in multiple ways. As soon as I thought we were hitting our stride around the 9 month mark, he went away for the weekend for a "boys' trip" to the beach and sent me a Facebook message to break up, to not speak or see each other ever again, and refused to give me a reason. Since then he calls me, crying, begging for guidance...what is happening? [more inside]
posted by orumi on Aug 14, 2012 - 90 answers

Let Her Know Just How Much Thought I've Put Into Breaking Up?

When breaking up with a live-in girlfriend, should I let show just how much forethought I've put into it? [more inside]
posted by Theophilus on Jul 19, 2012 - 17 answers

Midlife relationship question

I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed? [more inside]
posted by waving on Jul 17, 2012 - 15 answers

Should we break up? The middle aged version...

Should we break up? The middle aged version... I see these sorts of questions all the time from people in their 20s, but I'm a little older... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2012 - 57 answers

how do you break the cycle of poor relationship decision-making?

How have you stopped the cycle of poor decision-making in relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2012 - 9 answers

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce?

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 40 answers

Breaking up is hard to do

I'm ending my marriage. How do I do it with kindness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 25 answers

Save this relationship?

BreakupFilter: Should I, and if so, when should I? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 5, 2012 - 39 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

How to love when love can be taken away from you at any time?

After a recent and unexpected breakup, I'm starting to feel like relationships can end at any time, and finding it hard to imagine letting myself love again. Help me figure out a healthier way to think about dating in general. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 22 answers

How much time should I give my relationship?

How much longer should I give my 3.5 month relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2012 - 75 answers

Am I right to feel slighted?

My ex-boyfriend informed me recently that he got engaged. He and I were together for almost four years (the last of which was spent long-distance), and broke up early in the fall. We both agreed that we would do our best to maintain a friendship, as we had been good friends before we entered into a relationship. Aside from the fact that this announcement of engagement comes less than six months after our relationship ended, I am most upset that he emailed this information to me. My question is this: do I have any right to be upset by his choice of communication in this matter? [more inside]
posted by singinginmychains on Feb 24, 2012 - 52 answers

Needing some hope

There's always someone else, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2012 - 38 answers

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Should I break up with my boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2012 - 101 answers

Breakup a <1 yr relationship that's been rocky?

My girlfriend and I had a rocky start to our relationship. Broke up, got back together. Our day to day is fine but we've had huge, rude fights in the past. I'm at a crossroads now. [more inside]
posted by blizkreeg on Feb 6, 2012 - 19 answers

Uncertainty about wanting kids - dealbreaker?

Fears about the future interfering with the now? Or: how hard I should try to convince him to give us another shot. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 17 answers

Was this (ex)relationship problem properly handled?

Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious. [more inside]
posted by marriedtotacos on Dec 18, 2011 - 33 answers

How do I break up with someone if I have no real conflict with her?

I've been dating a woman for almost a year now and I've decided it would be best for us to stop. But there are no notable "problems" in our relationship, so I don't know how to go about doing it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 22 answers

Should I stay or should I go? **Warning: Wall Of Text**

Long-term love under siege because he can't seem to get his life started, and I think I am turning into his mom. Please help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 54 answers

I recently broke off a 7-year relationship with my fiancee, who was already in a bad way at the time. How do I cope with the guilt?

I recently broke off a 7-year relationship with my fiancee, who was already in a bad way at the time. How do I cope with the guilt? [more inside]
posted by ambassadeur on Oct 10, 2011 - 20 answers

Love Lost

How do I get over an ex girlfriend? No joke, I cannot get over this girl. we met last summer, and shared great times and it lasted for months. It was intense. Then, it just died. She lives in another state and I cannot just go see her, not without her wanting me to do so. We have talked some but that is all. I can accept that it's over, but I just cannot stop thinking about her. Help! I don't want to forget her, but I don't want to have her on my mind always! [more inside]
posted by cvoixjames on Oct 4, 2011 - 11 answers

How do I accept my divorce for what it is?

Now my divorce is really happening, how do I learn to accept this is the way its going to be now? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Sep 26, 2011 - 12 answers

Staying friends with an ex who may be in denial about his sexuality?

A guy I was seeing abruptly decided he was not gay and cut off contact with me. How can I help him through what he's going through and preserve our friendship, or at least make sense of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2011 - 20 answers

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me.

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me. Should I put up with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2011 - 47 answers

How do I learn as much as I can from this breakup?

Breakupfilter: When you are feeling regret for things you did that pushed the other person away or made them unhappy, how do you cope? How do you learn from your mistakes or even know if they were mistakes? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on Jun 8, 2011 - 10 answers

though it might break my heart to walk away

How can I maintain my resolve to follow through with this difficult breakup? [more inside]
posted by spinto on May 4, 2011 - 9 answers

Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?

Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by newlyminted on Apr 28, 2011 - 24 answers

Help me decide if there's any life left in my LDR.

My girlfriend of 3.5 years (I'm 25 and a he, she's 24) just dumped me after I moved out to another city for a job. Help me decide if there's any life left here. [more inside]
posted by speedgraphic on Apr 7, 2011 - 46 answers

I'm ready to be over my ex. What's taking so long?!

The ex and I broke up a year ago. I've been seeing someone else and am extremely happy, but it still bothers me that the ex's new relationship is going well. I don't understand why he's treating this other person so well when he treated me so poorly. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium on Mar 30, 2011 - 45 answers

We love each other, how do we stop so we can get on with our lives?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than a year and we are really good together but don't share the same "life goals." We have to break up, right? How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2011 - 32 answers

Subverting My Attraction to Negative Passive People

I find myself in a pattern of getting into long-term relationships with people who end up displaying massive passive-aggressive tendancies and negativity. I always think I've found someone who is going to be a great, equal partner and I just end up in the same relationship again and again. [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Mar 1, 2011 - 34 answers

Feeling Guilty Post-Breakup

How do I stop feeling guilty about the break-up? Sorry, for asking so many questions as of late...this was my first relationship. [more inside]
posted by nikayla_luv on Jan 14, 2011 - 20 answers

Bitter, Confused Ex-girlfriend

How do you get over a major breakup with your first love?...long story! [more inside]
posted by nikayla_luv on Jan 5, 2011 - 10 answers

What's the epilogue to my non-Hollywood ending?

I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop on Jan 3, 2011 - 25 answers

How to deal with confusion related to important things?

An ex, mixed signals, and dangerous times. How do I proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2010 - 14 answers

standard the clash line goes here

How to deal with ambivalence in a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by lover on Dec 8, 2010 - 15 answers

Stay or go or what?

My relationship isn't going well, I think. I get boilerplate text messages from him, and I haven't seen him in over a month. I'm all for giving others their space, but I want to know what's going on. However, should I even bother, since I'm getting the feeling that he's not interested? [more inside]
posted by Xere on Nov 2, 2010 - 36 answers

A heart that hurts is a heart that works.

Turning a corner in the breakup process. How do I stay grounded while my heart catches up with my head? [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Oct 15, 2010 - 6 answers

How to heal when the hits keep on coming?

My friend is dating my ex. How does this not end in murder-murder-suicide? [more inside]
posted by karminai on Oct 6, 2010 - 29 answers

How to best use a period of solitude to heal

I'm hurting after a breakup, and am lucky enough to be leaving tomorrow for just over two weeks on Salt Spring Island. For about half that time, I will be alone and mostly isolated. How can I best use this period of solitude to reflect, refresh and heal myself? [more inside]
posted by yellowbinder on Oct 4, 2010 - 20 answers

How do I move on when I broke all the break up 'rules'?

Another break up: maybe it is a special snow flake. You know how almost everyone tells you the no contact rule after a break up? Well, I didn't follow that. I need your help [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2010 - 26 answers

Help me understand.

My ex-boyfriend is depressed; I'm not. He ended our relationship abruptly, leaving me with unanswered questions. I'd like some perspective on how depression can affect and end otherwise healthy relationships. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2010 - 15 answers

How adults handle getting dumped?

Are there adult rules for getting dumped? It's never happened to me till now, my late 20s, and I'm pretty inconsolable. (anon because she knows my handle and lurks). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2010 - 36 answers

Relationship ambivalence

Is this a normal stage in long-term relationships or is it time to part? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2010 - 20 answers

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