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Songs for the dumper?

While coping with his decision to end a long-term relationship (and being vilified by his family and friends as a result), a friend of mine recently commented that "People only write songs about the guy being dumped. Nobody sings about the other guy." Intuitively, this feels untrue to me, but I'm having a surprisingly tough time coming up with counter-examples. Metafilter: Can you recommend some songs written for/about being the person who initiates the end of a relationship? [more inside]
posted by schmod on Jun 3, 2013 - 128 answers

Did I just break up with myself?

I recently had a very confusing break-up conversation that I am having a lot of trouble decoding. [more inside]
posted by karminai on Jun 2, 2013 - 21 answers

How do I keep one (little) footbridge unburned in a breakup?

I am trying to write a short breakup email to someone I need to go "no contact" with for a while... while still leaving a relatively positive line of communication open between us, longer-term. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by argonauta on May 24, 2013 - 14 answers

Engagement didn't work out - but she's still on the mortgage

So I got engaged and bought a house with my fiancee. We lived together for a couple of years but it did not go well and she moved out. So I'd like to keep the house but do that I'll need to get her off the mortgage and off the deed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2013 - 23 answers

DTMFA!

How to deal with people who constantly complain about their relationship, but take no action? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on May 19, 2013 - 17 answers

Still miss my ex and struggling to move on.

I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2013 - 18 answers

I love my girlfriend, but cannot shake this feeling.

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and am very much in love. She is bipolar and it is affecting my emotional and mental health. I cannot shake these feelings of leaving her but I know love is hard to come by. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2013 - 25 answers

Looking for advice on how to remain friends with ex

What might I do or not do in order to help us move from relationship to friendship? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale on Apr 8, 2013 - 12 answers

Your problems ruined our relationship. Here, read this.

I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend because of her refusal to seek treatment for alcohol abuse, and, in my opinion, the maladaptive behavior that causes it. She (now) says that she wants to work on these issues for herself and her future, but I have my reservations (read: she didn't work on any of these issues in our relationship, so I doubt she's going to work on them now). Is it appropriate to send her links that describe these disorders, symptoms and treatment options? I realize that this may result in resentment, utter hatred, and most likely her resorting to the same old tendencies (maybe even worse???), but I do still care for her and want her to be the best person she can be.
posted by mrrisotto on Apr 1, 2013 - 22 answers

I'm so glad all our friends are happy; let's break up

BreakupFilter: I've been dating a woman for about five months now, and whilst she's lovely I'm starting to think that maybe I've been hit by a limerence bomb... As it starts to fade, is it time for me to walk away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2013 - 17 answers

Time to talk, or time to move on?

Is it better to just break up with my SO, or tell them how anxious I am about moving in together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2013 - 25 answers

Help me deal with a (crazy?) ex.

LTR ended without a word. We're going to have to see each other a lot. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Jan 13, 2013 - 34 answers

Have any ~30 year old women here broken off long relationships?

Hi. So I am a 30 year old woman dating a 37 year old guy. We started dating back when I was 22 and he was 29. I was pretty young then really now I think about it. Early days were great. However we've now been in a rut for the past 8 months or so and I'm starting to question whether I should make the effort to help fix things,... or whether it might be better to breakup. What is it like to be a newly single woman in her early thirties after the breakdown of a long relationship? I had always thought we would end up married, with kids and a house together. :( [more inside]
posted by ohayo_lion on Jan 11, 2013 - 32 answers

Another "One More Chance" Question

I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes? of course it's long [more inside]
posted by Ms.Stocking on Jan 4, 2013 - 47 answers

...Why am I so antisocial?

Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

Help me stop e-stalking my ex

Will you share some practical tips on how I can stop e-stalking my ex. [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine on Nov 8, 2012 - 20 answers

How can I win his heart back?

please help me gain back his trust and love - i feel like i'm dying [more inside]
posted by canadiantuxedo on Nov 1, 2012 - 65 answers

Why trust other people?

I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2012 - 15 answers

Should I break up with the man I want to marry?

There is a deal breaker and mismatched wishes about marriage to work through, but neither of us really want to break up. Can we, or should we try to work it out and stay together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2012 - 35 answers

Thrown away

My ex-lover and "best friend" blocked me on Facebook and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by girlmightlive on Oct 8, 2012 - 37 answers

Is this a new friendship or a ticking timebomb?

My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 17 answers

How to discharge anger at an ex two years after the breakup?

When everything on the surface seems healed and healthy after a breakup, how do you quash obsessive thoughts and anger about an abusive ex- two years on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 20 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

Seeking healthier perspectives during a rough time

I will soon be breaking up with my very dear partner. Typically, this is the point at which my life goes off-track for the next few years and I lose all perspective and any mental health I've achieved. I want to approach this period in a very different way this time. My question is how to avoid both zoning out/creating a protective fog/rewriting the past to be less dramatic than it is, and avoiding the other extreme of drowning in guilt for my partner's pain and their wasted energy and my destruction of our planned future. [more inside]
posted by teslateslatesla on Aug 23, 2012 - 19 answers

My first heartbreak and confusion is keeping me from moving on

My ex-boyfriend and I (27 and 28, respectively) were together for 9 months. The last 3 months were a little rough because he has serious insecurity issues and they manifested in our relationship in multiple ways. As soon as I thought we were hitting our stride around the 9 month mark, he went away for the weekend for a "boys' trip" to the beach and sent me a Facebook message to break up, to not speak or see each other ever again, and refused to give me a reason. Since then he calls me, crying, begging for guidance...what is happening? [more inside]
posted by orumi on Aug 14, 2012 - 90 answers

Let Her Know Just How Much Thought I've Put Into Breaking Up?

When breaking up with a live-in girlfriend, should I let show just how much forethought I've put into it? [more inside]
posted by Theophilus on Jul 19, 2012 - 17 answers

Midlife relationship question

I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed? [more inside]
posted by waving on Jul 17, 2012 - 15 answers

Should we break up? The middle aged version...

Should we break up? The middle aged version... I see these sorts of questions all the time from people in their 20s, but I'm a little older... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2012 - 57 answers

how do you break the cycle of poor relationship decision-making?

How have you stopped the cycle of poor decision-making in relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2012 - 9 answers

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce?

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 40 answers

Breaking up is hard to do

I'm ending my marriage. How do I do it with kindness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 25 answers

Save this relationship?

BreakupFilter: Should I, and if so, when should I? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 5, 2012 - 39 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

How to love when love can be taken away from you at any time?

After a recent and unexpected breakup, I'm starting to feel like relationships can end at any time, and finding it hard to imagine letting myself love again. Help me figure out a healthier way to think about dating in general. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 22 answers

How much time should I give my relationship?

How much longer should I give my 3.5 month relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2012 - 75 answers

Am I right to feel slighted?

My ex-boyfriend informed me recently that he got engaged. He and I were together for almost four years (the last of which was spent long-distance), and broke up early in the fall. We both agreed that we would do our best to maintain a friendship, as we had been good friends before we entered into a relationship. Aside from the fact that this announcement of engagement comes less than six months after our relationship ended, I am most upset that he emailed this information to me. My question is this: do I have any right to be upset by his choice of communication in this matter? [more inside]
posted by singinginmychains on Feb 24, 2012 - 52 answers

Needing some hope

There's always someone else, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2012 - 38 answers

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Should I break up with my boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2012 - 101 answers

Breakup a <1 yr relationship that's been rocky?

My girlfriend and I had a rocky start to our relationship. Broke up, got back together. Our day to day is fine but we've had huge, rude fights in the past. I'm at a crossroads now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 17 answers

Uncertainty about wanting kids - dealbreaker?

Fears about the future interfering with the now? Or: how hard I should try to convince him to give us another shot. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 17 answers

Was this (ex)relationship problem properly handled?

Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious. [more inside]
posted by marriedtotacos on Dec 18, 2011 - 33 answers

How do I break up with someone if I have no real conflict with her?

I've been dating a woman for almost a year now and I've decided it would be best for us to stop. But there are no notable "problems" in our relationship, so I don't know how to go about doing it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 22 answers

Should I stay or should I go? **Warning: Wall Of Text**

Long-term love under siege because he can't seem to get his life started, and I think I am turning into his mom. Please help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 54 answers

I recently broke off a 7-year relationship with my fiancee, who was already in a bad way at the time. How do I cope with the guilt?

I recently broke off a 7-year relationship with my fiancee, who was already in a bad way at the time. How do I cope with the guilt? [more inside]
posted by ambassadeur on Oct 10, 2011 - 20 answers

Love Lost

How do I get over an ex girlfriend? No joke, I cannot get over this girl. we met last summer, and shared great times and it lasted for months. It was intense. Then, it just died. She lives in another state and I cannot just go see her, not without her wanting me to do so. We have talked some but that is all. I can accept that it's over, but I just cannot stop thinking about her. Help! I don't want to forget her, but I don't want to have her on my mind always! [more inside]
posted by cvoixjames on Oct 4, 2011 - 11 answers

How do I accept my divorce for what it is?

Now my divorce is really happening, how do I learn to accept this is the way its going to be now? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Sep 26, 2011 - 12 answers

Staying friends with an ex who may be in denial about his sexuality?

A guy I was seeing abruptly decided he was not gay and cut off contact with me. How can I help him through what he's going through and preserve our friendship, or at least make sense of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2011 - 20 answers

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me.

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me. Should I put up with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2011 - 47 answers

How do I learn as much as I can from this breakup?

Breakupfilter: When you are feeling regret for things you did that pushed the other person away or made them unhappy, how do you cope? How do you learn from your mistakes or even know if they were mistakes? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on Jun 8, 2011 - 10 answers

though it might break my heart to walk away

How can I maintain my resolve to follow through with this difficult breakup? [more inside]
posted by spinto on May 4, 2011 - 9 answers

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