I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men.
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posted by AlmondEyes
on Apr 1, 2013 -
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DramaFilter: I moved to a new city for boyfriend, then we broke up. Should I stay or leave?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2012 -
31 answers
Getting jealous of my roommate's relationship in the aftermath of my own breakup. How do I cope with this more constructively?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2012 -
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Should I work harder for my relationship or is it beyond saving at this point? I don't know if I'm sacrificing too much for something that will never work.
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posted by lleguana
on Apr 22, 2012 -
49 answers
My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me. I've cried my guts out, now I just feel numb. Got any advice or resources to get me through the next few days?
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posted by lovedbymarylane
on Apr 1, 2012 -
37 answers
physical health & mental health, 'secret' boyfriend, and my family... what do i do?
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posted by zazie
on Aug 25, 2011 -
41 answers
I tried to break up with my boyfriend over the weekend, and it didn't go well. I've agreed to give things another shot but I don't think I can get over what happened during the breakup.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2011 -
198 answers
How do I stop feeling guilty about the break-up? Sorry, for asking so many questions as of late...this was my first relationship.
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posted by nikayla_luv
on Jan 14, 2011 -
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My first boyfriend/first love and I recently broke up after nearly four years together. I know this was the right decision, but I feel like I'll never feel this way about anyone else ever again. I realize that sounds dramatic, silly, and naive, but I'd really like to hear from the perspective of someone who's been through it that, yes, life does go on (and maybe get better, in a different way) after a first love.
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posted by gypsyhymns
on Jan 4, 2011 -
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Every breakup is its own special snowflake. Should I try to put the pieces back together or is it time to cut losses and go our seperate ways? (Sorry, this is going to get long)
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posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet
on Aug 11, 2010 -
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Can you help me restore myself to myself?
I've recently moved from NYC to Buffalo, my long-term relationship ended and I've started a new job.
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posted by turtlewithoutashell
on Jul 17, 2010 -
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Looking for a way to deal with the bad feelings, both within me and coming from the ex, after a relationship ended. Problem: I am a massive tool and it was all my fault for cheating on her. How do I say sorry?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2010 -
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My partner of almost two years and I are "taking a break." Is it possible that this could be a period of growth and not just the death rattle of our (up until recently) happy relationship? Have you ever taken a break successfully?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2010 -
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RelationshipFilter: After about a year of dating weirdos and loons, I met someone really neat. The problem: He's unemployed. Has been for a while. We've been dating for several months, and it's getting to the point at which I'm realizing that I really dig him. He seems to be pretty irresponsible, which makes me anxious. Is this relationship doomed?
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posted by kittenplease
on May 7, 2010 -
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I love my significant other, but I don't know if I can continue being with him. We've been together (long distance at first) for six years, and lived together for almost two. He's a wonderful man in many ways - caring, a good listener, smart, and funny, but there are some major issues between us that I'm starting to feel I can't live with anymore, and I'm not sure if I should keep working on them, or leave now so that we can both move on.
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posted by secretsquirrel
on Apr 20, 2010 -
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After some soul-searching, I've decided I need to break up with my live-in boyfriend. Our lease is up in August, and I'm worried about how to deal with living together when we're no longer "together" while we're looking for new apartments. I'm sure many of you have gone through this, so any anecdotes or advice would be helpful.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2010 -
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What road to take during a devastating breakup? Be the supportive, hopeful, girl that will stay until the storm calms down OR move on with my life and leave the love of my life?
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posted by penguingrl
on Feb 10, 2010 -
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My S.O.'s life is falling apart and has decided to break up with me, however, S.O. has requested that nothing change. (LOOONG, so sorry)
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posted by penguingrl
on Feb 2, 2010 -
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Okay, it's me, back again with yet more break-up/move out questions. If you guys get tired of me asking these just let me know, I'll quit.
Details inside... ugh...
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posted by big open mouth
on Mar 21, 2009 -
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Coming-of-age Filter: My world is coming crashing down. Is this a sign? Should I just soldier on? How? Trying to be a rock-em sock-em robot and get back on the horse. Details inside.
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posted by big open mouth
on Mar 11, 2009 -
37 answers
When it comes to love . . . where's the line between deserving to have certain expectations fulfilled, and having standards that are too high? In particular I'm curious to know if you ever ended a relationship with someone you were in love with, and then went on to fall in love with someone else in a deeper and more enriching way.
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posted by lblair
on Jan 11, 2009 -
21 answers
Can any of you men out there help me translate this situation and maybe give me some guidance as to how to go forward?
I was dumped by my boyfriend of a year-and-a-half without warning
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posted by theobromine_ady
on Aug 5, 2008 -
60 answers
My friend's ex-boyfriend is a manipulative, lying scumbag. Should I warn his new girlfriend what she's getting into?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2008 -
66 answers
Well, it seems like the relationship is over, it's over, it's oooohver. What, if anything, can I do to distract, deflect, defer, deal with the pain? How do you say good-bye?
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posted by barnone
on Sep 26, 2005 -
21 answers
How do you know your relationship is worth fighting for? Or, how do you know when to call it quits?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2005 -
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