So I got engaged and bought a house with my fiancee. We lived together for a couple of years but it did not go well and she moved out. So I'd like to keep the house but do that I'll need to get her off the mortgage and off the deed.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2013 -
21 answers
Long story short. Girlfriend of 2+ years cheated on me. We broke up, but this is right before I'm going to be spending a few months moving back home and doing a whole lot of nothing.
I'm looking for recommendations for books to help keep me from dwelling on this, specific tastes below.
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posted by aleatorictelevision
on May 20, 2013 -
23 answers
I quite conclusively ended the friendship. Now I'm seeing her at social events all over town, and she doesn't seem willing to play my 'you don't exist and I can't see you' game. What do I do next?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2013 -
32 answers
My friend has done a lot for me. That doesn't change the fact that she is a miserable person. How do I breakup with a friend when I feel beholden to her?
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posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2013 -
20 answers
I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2013 -
17 answers
I've been seeing someone semi-casually for about five months -- not quite a proper relationship, but definitely not just casually dating either. Recently I met someone else whom I now want to date exclusively. What's the script for this?
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posted by modernserf
on Apr 23, 2013 -
12 answers
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and am very much in love. She is bipolar and it is affecting my emotional and mental health. I cannot shake these feelings of leaving her but I know love is hard to come by. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2013 -
25 answers
I just broke up with someone and I'm feeling like a mess. Unfortunately I have to write five papers in the next month and a half that I have hardly done any research for. And give a giant presentation. I am freaking out.
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posted by thesnowyslaps
on Apr 14, 2013 -
19 answers
BreakupFilter: I think it's time for me to end my LDR. I know it's going to hurt my partner, I know I can't prevent that, but I'd like to do this with as much compassion as possible.
What does that look like, hive mind?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 11, 2013 -
24 answers
I'm having a hard time with my breakup and with life in general, and I am trying to figure out if I am a barking up the wrong tree / being a crazy person / within the realm of normal, for some value thereof. Wall of text ahoy.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2013 -
27 answers
I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend because of her refusal to seek treatment for alcohol abuse, and, in my opinion, the maladaptive behavior that causes it. She (now) says that she wants to work on these issues for herself and her future, but I have my reservations (read: she didn't work on any of these issues in our relationship, so I doubt she's going to work on them now). Is it appropriate to send her links that describe these disorders, symptoms and treatment options? I realize that this may result in resentment, utter hatred, and most likely her resorting to the same old tendencies (maybe even worse???), but I do still care for her and want her to be the best person she can be.
posted by mrrisotto
on Apr 1, 2013 -
22 answers
I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men.
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posted by AlmondEyes
on Apr 1, 2013 -
35 answers
Just out of a short-ish relationship, the standard advice is "do things you like", "hang out with your friends". All the things I like are pretty solitary/not conducive to meeting people and I just don't have any friends, but I do want some, but I feel too crappy to figure out how to find some - see the circularity?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2013 -
10 answers
Should I try to repair this friendship or let it fizzle and move on? I met my friend T about 9 years ago in college and we were close friends for about the last 6 years. Ahe was always more outgoing compared to me (I am a bit of a loner). Long details inside, thanks for taking the time to read...
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posted by WeekendJen
on Mar 22, 2013 -
19 answers
BreakupFilter: I've been dating a woman for about five months now, and whilst she's lovely I'm starting to think that maybe I've been hit by a limerence bomb... As it starts to fade, is it time for me to walk away?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2013 -
17 answers
He distracted me so much while we were together, and now I'm *still* being distracted by him and we've been apart for months. Any ideas? Blizzard conditions ahead.
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posted by deliciae
on Mar 16, 2013 -
19 answers
Perhaps I’m too blinded by my own sadness to recognize a needed intervention and a friend who is also hurting. Any advice on how to stop wallowing and suck it up for the sake of the friendship?
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posted by cleanslate
on Mar 13, 2013 -
13 answers
On 3 different occasions, during a year and a half, I found in my boyfriend's stuff other women's panties. I was so in shock. I is like surreal to me. I am wondering if this is a sufficient reason to leave someone?
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posted by daile
on Mar 3, 2013 -
53 answers
Death of a parent and a breakup- how to disentangle the two, get a virtual lobotomy regarding the breakup, and for heavens sake just fucking move on regarding the breakup.
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posted by xm
on Feb 27, 2013 -
20 answers
Is it better to just break up with my SO, or tell them how anxious I am about moving in together?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 25, 2013 -
25 answers
I decided to end my "relationship" with someone I saw for nine months. We both have the same hobby, and seeing him there has been stirring both negative and positive emotions. I don't want to give up the hobby. I could handle the negative emotions - because that's what you're supposed to feel - it's the positive ones that are doing me in. How can I get past them?
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posted by hungry hippo
on Feb 24, 2013 -
20 answers
I think my relationship is bad for me but I'm so deeply in love that the notion of ending it seems unbearable. I can't figure out how to decide which way to take it.
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posted by hungry hippo
on Feb 7, 2013 -
47 answers
How do you deal with intense ambivalent feelings in a relationship, especially when they may be colored by a mood disorder?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2013 -
8 answers
Not-insignificant age gap [5 years +] in our long-term relationship: she's the older one. Can it be salvaged?
I'm 28, SO is 33. We've had a great, loving, 4-year relationship. The past few months have put a heavy strain on us - work, holidays, a death in the family - this spurred her into thinking more about the future.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2013 -
63 answers
Halfway through my last year of law school and my partner of ~5 years has walked out. After months of trying to deal with an emotionally abusive relationship going seriously wrong, my life is decimated and my work for law review is behind and I'm getting angry emails all over the place. I'm having trouble just getting out of bed. Counselor through the university has let me vent a lot but I'm not feeling any better. Something needs to give, but how?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2013 -
29 answers
Hi. So I am a 30 year old woman dating a 37 year old guy. We started dating back when I was 22 and he was 29. I was pretty young then really now I think about it. Early days were great. However we've now been in a rut for the past 8 months or so and I'm starting to question whether I should make the effort to help fix things,... or whether it might be better to breakup. What is it like to be a newly single woman in her early thirties after the breakdown of a long relationship? I had always thought we would end up married, with kids and a house together. :(
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posted by ohayo_lion
on Jan 11, 2013 -
32 answers
I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
I'm looking for breakup advice. Male breaking with a female, long-distance in a poly relationship. Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2012 -
13 answers
I posted a question about a breakup at the begining of the month. It's been almost a month now and I'm getting better. I still get sadness, anxiety. Having troubling sleeping still. I'm still trying to the to do the no contact thing but she did call me the other day thinking it was a emergency but it wasn't. I think it set me back. My question is, I try to be busy but it still sneaks up on me should I be worried? Also, I do talk to her mom once in a while, should I stop doing that?
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posted by kser333
on Dec 21, 2012 -
9 answers
Relationship fall-out: How do you deal with knowing that the person's friends hate you for how you've hurt them?
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posted by Autumn
on Dec 19, 2012 -
56 answers
My FWB is Jekyll and Hyde, acting like a jealous boyfriend, then rationalizing it. When I try to talk to him about it he goes into denial. Help?
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posted by sucky_poppet
on Dec 14, 2012 -
31 answers
Help me make peace with the way a relationship ended while processing a major health scare, family issues, a new job and new city.
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posted by rockpaperdynamite
on Dec 12, 2012 -
9 answers
How do I deal with not knowing if my relationship is over or not? If it is, how do I heal from losing the love of my life?
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posted by Pericardium
on Dec 11, 2012 -
14 answers
Why did you break up? More specifically, you thought you found someone you're compatible with, you guys mutually made a commitment, but yet you ended up breaking up a year or two later, or later in life. What was the reason for the breakup?
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posted by never.was.and.never.will.be.
on Dec 5, 2012 -
46 answers
My ex and I are still involved musically, and his current girlfriend is convinced that I hate her. She recently sent me an
extremely creepy email. My ex is passive to the extreme and won't take responsibility. What can I do to keep the peace and minimize my involvement, while still enjoying my band?
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posted by lilypad
on Dec 5, 2012 -
55 answers
I broke off my our engagement last night and I literally feel like my world is ending. Please give me some guidance if you can.
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posted by pintapicasso
on Dec 4, 2012 -
26 answers
Why do I feel like I'm in a relationship with my friend? Not in the way that's fun, but more the trainwreck variety: "
How come I didn't know about...?" "
Why aren't you letting me in?" "
No one knows you like I do." "
How dare you betray me. You're just like all the others." Some of my other friends have also noticed possessiveness on her part, and more than one person has asked me or wondered if we were dating.
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posted by smock smock smock
on Nov 29, 2012 -
31 answers
