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Separated guy ends it what now?

My divorcing bf of 5mo ended it, saying he wants to fall in love with me and give himself wholeheartedly to me but can't let himself and needs time to heal from his marriage. He messaged next day saying he has set up counselling and will sort everything out, I responded to say he should take the time he needs to heal. He messaged again to say he enjoyed every minute with me and is sorry he's not himself at the moment. Every time he messages it's hard as I miss him but I don't want to cut contact as I hope he'll come back. What should I do?
posted by Anastasia100 on Jun 29, 2016 - 20 answers

How can I rectify a needy relationship? I was the needy one.

Hello everyone, Gonna try to be as honest as possible so that I get better advice. I'd like insight, and not sympathy. (I mean, sympathy is nice, but truth first.) So, for the past few years, my life has not been ideal, I've moved a lot, had a lot of abusive jobs, and been super isolated. I've been trying to scrape my way out of it, but it's been difficult, and I recently reached a bad, dangerous point with my anxiety. I think I'm only now starting to get out of it. Through all of this, I had a very kind friend who was supportive and tried to help me through it. I didn't view her aid, or her sympathetic ear as out of the norm. I thought she was just being a friend...but I realize how, and this is in her own words, that she was feeling like a counselor, especially since I was not making fast improvement. [more inside]
posted by Rosengeist on Jun 28, 2016 - 24 answers

How to help friend deal with break up

My close friend was broken up with recently and I am wondering how best to comfort her. She has had a few guys hurt her one after another, and I think she probably feels quite sad about this now. I want to be a good friend, and would like some advice on the best kinds of things to say to someone in this situation. [more inside]
posted by poilkj on Jun 9, 2016 - 11 answers

I want to contact my ex -- is my reasoning sound?

I broke up with him 2 weeks ago [more inside]
posted by winterportage on May 21, 2016 - 27 answers

When Judas repents: Forgive or tell her to f*** off?

Is forgiving someone who has hurt you before and believing them when they say they won't again just naive wishful thinking? Or is it a virtue of the brave and the only path to maturity? The rest of the drama inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2016 - 34 answers

Crazy, creative ideas for bedrest AKA solitary confinement

Week two of horrendous bronchitis during which I decided to go NC (until yesterday) with long-time (ex?)boyfriend/co-dependent partner in dysfunction. Broke NC yesterday after five days straight of MD-ordered bedrest - and after texting and calling everyone I knew, including my grandma - twice. Any practical tangible ideas for how to maintain NC and my sanity, oh and I don't know, my health? Any and all welcome. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by asmith30 on Feb 25, 2016 - 11 answers

Friendship right after a break-up?

Hi everyone, I recently broke up with a guy (met online) I dated for 4 months. We were never officially bf/gf and we never slept together. Our dates felt platonic because we never went past 2nd base. It was a mutual breakup because we both wanted different things. I wanted a committed relationship and he wasn't ready for that. When we broke up about a week ago, he said he'd like to be friends and I told him I didn't want that. I feel like I'm in a clear mindset now and I realize things ended for the right reasons but I still enjoy his company and we got along great. Is it too soon for me to suggest that we be friends and continue to hang out platonically?
posted by missybitsy on Feb 18, 2016 - 8 answers

Preserving the stability I've worked so hard to achieve

After being diagnosed with bipolar II, my partner and I accidentally built my coping strategies around my total emotional reliance on him. Now that I have my career on track and have moved into what was to be "our home," I feel my stability at risk as it truly sinks in that he is exiting the relationship, but wants to remain as friends and a support system. How can I process this grief without compromising my stability? [more inside]
posted by asmith30 on Feb 17, 2016 - 19 answers

Should I fight for my relationship for our daughter's sake?

How do you decide what is more important, to fight for your family, or to fight for what you believe in, which may never happen? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 on Feb 17, 2016 - 41 answers

Still struggling with the break up and don't know what to do?

I'm still recovering from a break up from October. It wasn't long but I fell hard for her, hard enough that I saw myself settling down with her and having a family. I didn't date anyone since my last ex, so about 3.5 years since my last real relationship. I know I probably shouldn't have started anything with my ex because I know she was going to move to New Orleans for her medical residency (I'm still in San Francisco.) [more inside]
posted by kser333 on Dec 31, 2015 - 13 answers

No fool like an old fool

How do you walk away from someone you love? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Dec 7, 2015 - 54 answers

Nexus 6 cracked screen

I dropped my Nexus 6 phone today, and the screen, which was slightly cracked in places, got worse at the corner I dropped it on. The cracks don't bother me cosmetically, but as I examined it a small square (like a mm or 2) fell out of the screen, allowing me to actually see into the phone. It's on a part of the phone I rarely touch, and off the actual LCD. How can I remedy this? [more inside]
posted by DynamiteToast on Dec 4, 2015 - 8 answers

It's not you, it's me.. or wait, it was depression!?

In the midst of a bad life patch, I tried to spare my girlfriend dealing with my shit and... that was a bad idea. Please help me do the best thing for her. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by OnTheLastCastle on Sep 11, 2015 - 19 answers

What if there were no spoon, Neo?

I sometimes make iced coffee by placing a glass mason jar filled with ice into my single serve coffee maker and letting it brew / fill with hot coffee. I include a metal spoon inside the jar to act as a kind of heat sink and prevent the glass from breaking due to thermal stress. But should I bother? Does that spoon actually do anything?
posted by zarq on Aug 19, 2015 - 8 answers

Flip Flop Flashback

When I was visiting New York twenty years ago as a teenager I stepped on a well-dressed man's flip flop and broke it. He started screaming at me and demanding hundreds of dollars. Thankfully there was a pushy adult around who told him to get lost, that I was a kid and didn't even have hundreds of dollars to give him (which was true). Was this a scam? [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty on Aug 18, 2015 - 14 answers

Ankle support for swimming?

My partner who is hemi-plegic would like to go swimming but when he walks out of the water (with assistance) he feels like his ankle is going to snap and break. I guess we need some kind of ankle support specifically for his situation. Help! [more inside]
posted by cda on Jul 15, 2015 - 3 answers

How to deal with the slow fade/ silent treatment

I think my partner may be giving me the silent treatment/ slow fade to end relationship. She has form for this kind of thing. I'm wondering whether I should pre-empt it or just stay cool? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Jul 1, 2015 - 39 answers

Toxic ex broke up with me and wants to get back together

I'm conflicted with this sensitive, hard situation. My ex of 2.5 years broke up with me roughly 4 months ago due to him recently becoming aware of his issues (anger, depression, possible bipolar disorder, childhood issues, binge eating). He seems to be increasingly struggling with his issues day by day He mentioned that he still loves/cares for me, and wants to become a better person for me, build a life together but can't do these things until he gets better. We've talked on and off after the break up. He saw me out with a new guy and is now worried about potentially losing me and wants to get back together. [more inside]
posted by ruebeignet on Jun 23, 2015 - 37 answers

Is my partner a narcissist? Or are we not compatible?

I'm very confused about my partner. Let's call him Robert. I'm not sure if my partner is illustrating narcissistic traits or if it is something else? Robert rarely asks about my interests, hobbies, opinions. I think he may lack listening skills and empathy skills to some degree. I think he shows care and love through action instead. He may suspect he might have Aspergers as well. I feel like Robert is always nitpicking my flaws, my goal motives, my personality, and my beliefs. Robert always seems to monopolize the conversation, making it difficult to elaborate and share my points and thoughts on the matter. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on May 28, 2015 - 37 answers

is it time to give up on him?

I started writing this anon question in December. I don't think I actually posted it, but I kept the text file. basically, I think I need to break up with my long-term boyfriend, but I don't know how to go about it. Please confirm/deny, and help me to do this [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2015 - 30 answers

Help me find a wellness retreat without any woo

My wonderful wife needs to get away from everything and enjoy a week of high quality, woo-free me time this summer — but where? [more inside]
posted by ZipRibbons on May 10, 2015 - 9 answers

What is sexual compatibility if libido is not a problem?

Trying to get over a recent Ex who I thought was perfect except for sexual compatibility. I'm trying to unpack this concept and get advice on whether different sexual styles (libido is not a problem) is a dealbreaker. There's no chance of getting him back, but it might help me move on. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on May 5, 2015 - 15 answers

Where to Grieve Safely Online?

My mother passed away in December. Still hurting. Want to grieve. It's hard. Need a safe place online to that. Where? [more inside]
posted by watercarrier on Apr 19, 2015 - 9 answers

Pets for people with little time but big hearts

What are some breeds/animals that fill that newly single lonely-feeling, but are compatible with a busy workday? A few details and I get emotional inside. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle on Apr 10, 2015 - 40 answers

Is my partner of 6 months checking out of the relationship? Or lazy?

We're both in our mid-thirties. He still wants to hang out at least 3 nights a week. I always sleep over since his place has privacy and he pays for more things to balance out the driving. He used to be more enthusiastic about planning dates. We'd try new places to eat at and on our last date, we went dancing. The rest of the week, we still grabbed a quick meal and talked. For weeks now, he has only wanted to order takeout and watch movies. We only started the movies/takeout during a time that he had a cold for 2 weeks and the weather was subzero. It was supposed to be temporary. Now it's all the time, whether it's out of laziness or habit, or whatever. He'll go out if I ask, but it seems like he's only doing it for me. [more inside]
posted by lohachata on Mar 28, 2015 - 36 answers

Taking a year off of gardening

What is the best thing that I can do for my vegetable garden plots if I don't want to do any gardening this year? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion on Mar 16, 2015 - 8 answers

How do I get out of this lease?

I need to know my options for getting out of a lease in California. We have lived in a rental home for 5+ years and just signed a one-year lease renewal in January that can be renewed every year, expecting to stay for several more years. Our landlord just announced that he is selling our place. We are trying to start a family and moving at the end of the year while I'm very pregnant or with a newborn is not an option. How can we get out of the lease? [more inside]
posted by emily37 on Feb 4, 2015 - 15 answers

Should I stay or should I go.......again?

My on and off love affair is off again.....I think. We had a row.....made up.....next day she cancelled forthcoming date....not heard from her since. Why do I care what happens next? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Nov 25, 2014 - 36 answers

Breaking a lease in NYC?

You are not my lawyer. About 5 months ago I broke my lease on an apartment in Queens (NYC). I was worried that the landlord wouldn't find a new tenant in time for the next month but luckily he did. I asked about the security deposit and he said it was on its way. Now he's claiming that I'm not owed the money back. [more inside]
posted by aloiv2 on Sep 30, 2014 - 9 answers

How to get over someone who left you for someone else?

How I get over my ex who left me for someone else? [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 on Aug 12, 2014 - 17 answers

Time off for depression - what to do with myself?

How would you use two weeks off work to hack your depression/relax/chill out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2014 - 34 answers

Need some relationship advice in regards to giving space

Have been dating this women for a year and we recently started having arguments due to her work and other related issues. She keeps wanting space from me. [more inside]
posted by json12 on May 1, 2014 - 22 answers

Our friendship never recovered - what can I learn?

I told my friend I'd developed feelings for her. She didn't reciprocate - but we said we'd still be friends. Within three weeks we're at each other's throats and now it's all over. What the heck happened? [more inside]
posted by Henners91 on Apr 2, 2014 - 103 answers

I feel like I'm stuck in a moment.

I’m currently broken up with a woman I’ve been in an on and off relationship with for the last 4 years and I want to finally close the door, let go and move on. [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Mar 11, 2014 - 16 answers

Suggestions for games that can be interspersed with getting things done?

I'm looking for suggestions for games that fit well for short breaks in between getting stuff done. See inside for more info on the kind of properties that I think would be good. [more inside]
posted by philipy on Nov 28, 2013 - 27 answers

Is our relationship over and time for us to move on?

So me and my girlfriend of 6 months got into an argument over going to her house for Thanksgiving and she ended up break up with me. [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 on Nov 28, 2013 - 53 answers

Break or Break Up?

My boyfriend of two years has given me the silent treatment for a week now. [more inside]
posted by showmetheway on Nov 16, 2013 - 79 answers

I'm not interested in dating or being your friend. Thanks and goodbye.

How do I tell somebody I recently met that I'm not interested romantically or even as a friend? The problem is that I'm not exactly sure whether she is looking for just a friend or something more? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Oct 22, 2013 - 24 answers

Ideas for a 2week inspirational break excluding sitting on a mountaintop

I'd like to take two weeks off of work and come back with a new sense of direction in life. I have been in the same job for almost four years and find little fulfillment there, yet also haven't found the motivation or made the time to move on. Maybe some semi-structured time off work to think, mark next steps, and break patterns will help? How and where should I spend my time? [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Oct 3, 2013 - 9 answers

Narcissist, emotionally unavailable....whatever it is someone slap me!

Prince charming to "we met at the right times in each others lives, I hope I showed you what kind of man deserves your spoils and you showed me that there are good woman out there and that I don't need to waste any more time wondering if there are." Seems condiscending to me given that I don't feel he is the type of man who deserves my spoils, and clearly I'm not that great of a woman in his eyes for him to walk out on. Help me find my closure...if you have the time...negative/positive feedback welcomed, sometimes people need to hear the hurtful truth. [more inside]
posted by love2much on Sep 17, 2013 - 26 answers

Wondering if I should go back to college

I had a talk with my gf who recently dumped me. She told me that she needed to be with someone with similar life experiences as hers. School is a big part of her life, and she is working toward a degree in medicine as well as an MBA (she already has another master's in biology). I'm 28, and at one point in my life I was very bent on finishing college, but till now I haven't been able to because of circumstances in my life. What she said made me think about my decision to postpone college for now. I have a writing business that is just now getting off the ground. I haven't even earned a two-year degree, but it hasn't stopped me from utilizing my writing talents to make a living. On the other hand though, going back to school would help me a lot in the long run to gain expertise and credibility in the fields i write in. [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Aug 4, 2013 - 18 answers

I'm not so great at the unknown.

How do I do this "taking a breather" thing? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on May 7, 2013 - 5 answers

Unable to get over girlfriend, everything seems hopeless now

It has been a week and a couple of days since we broke up, well more like she broke up with me after about a year and a half relationship.. I contacted her during the first few days and spoke to her as I normally would, until about the middle of last week I decided I didn't want to be used anymore as her sidelined friend so I stopped contacting her altogether. We are both young adults. [more inside]
posted by YoungConfusedMan on Apr 29, 2013 - 16 answers

My girlfriend is very upset with me and might break up with me.

I need a little bit of advice, I'm back again, this time in a different situation, as my girlfriend has become very upset with me and might break up with me. I don't know how to handle it, and I'm scared I'm going to lose her. [more inside]
posted by stonecutters88 on Apr 14, 2013 - 24 answers

Break up with a man I'm not very attracted to? Feeling crappy.

I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men. [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Apr 1, 2013 - 35 answers

How do I find myself after a 9 year relationship?

My fiance and I have recently parted ways after a near 9 year relationship and it seems as though I've forgotten how to function. [more inside]
posted by KnittingBer on Mar 26, 2013 - 7 answers

He loves me, he loves me not.

Ok MeFites, help me. My best friend and her boyfriend just broke up, mostly his idea. But he says he wants to communicate still and "will always love her". She asked me what the hell this meant. I have no idea. So I'm posing the question to you relationship experts. What the hell does he want? [more inside]
posted by fresh-rn on Mar 6, 2013 - 43 answers

Taking time off from a relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 21 answers

Weekend break near Austin, TX?

I will be visiting Austin, Texas for work in April. I'm thinking of taking a weekend break before I return to Europe. I'm looking for suggestions for somewhere relaxing to spend a few days near the city, preferably Texan in flavour.
posted by Grinder on Feb 14, 2013 - 16 answers

Getting hired as an adjunct after a break?

I have written a ton of cover letters applying to tenure track jobs, but every adjunct class I ever taught I obtained through referrals and word of mouth. I now find myself wanting to ONLY adjunct after an extended break, and have no idea how to write an inquiry letter. And I know just the folks to ask. . . [more inside]
posted by dirtmonster on Jan 7, 2013 - 4 answers

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