We were in a wonderful relationship for 1.5 years. He went abroad. Sick with loneliness and old emotional problems (BPD) that came back when he was gone, I cheated on him.
Then I moved abroad with him, where he found out. He forgave me and wants us to stay together, I'm not sure what the fairest thing to do is.
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posted by mangoprawn
on Apr 26, 2012 -
33 answers
Help! My BPD father is unhappy that my chronically ill sister and I are recuperating back at the family home, so he acts out and does crazy stuff like taking apart our bed and packing it away while I'm at the doctor's office. He claims it's for our own good. How to deal with this crazy situation?
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posted by tachikoma_robot
on Apr 16, 2012 -
19 answers
Help me get my little brother into Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Or into anything.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 2, 2012 -
5 answers
I have a sister w/Borderline Personality. My father has completely cut her off to protect himself. My mother tries to keep the door open as she can, but has learned to set limits. I haven't talked to her on the phone in like a year, though I try to be supportive and let her know I love her via facebook now and then, just so she doesn't feel too alone/sad. She's been mostly decent about respecting my boundaries.
However, my nephew (her son), just posted "Some people in the family need to step up -- getting calls and emails about suicide from my mom every 6 hours is draining. Grandparents cut off contact with her (which is only partly true, it's that mom doesn't give as much attention as my sister who demands demands demands attention wants), and I can't keep doing this.
Tips for me to talk to him? (i.e. resources for him to learn to set boundaries, ways to think about the manipulations, etc...)
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posted by symbioid
on Feb 13, 2012 -
44 answers
Dated a girl with borderline personality disorder, and now I'm feeling like her behaviors and symptoms of the disorder are present in me. Is this a common thing for those involved with people with BPD to experience?
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posted by marriedtotacos
on Feb 9, 2012 -
48 answers
How can I approach the task of analysing my own mental health professionals without defeating myself before I even get started?
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posted by talitha_kumi
on Jan 17, 2012 -
10 answers
Friendship Help! Currently living with my boyfriend, my borderline-diagnosed best friend and her friend with whom she has a like/dislike relationship with and who I can't stand. When the lease ends, what should I do?
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posted by Saebrial
on Nov 26, 2011 -
24 answers
The girl I love, who wants to be my wife, is 3,000 miles away from me. She is/was a cutter, may have Borderline (BPD) and lives in a country that I don't trust their mental health system. What should I do until I get her to America and a qualified therapist? OR how do I let her go gently?
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posted by DaftMythic
on Nov 6, 2011 -
38 answers
My psychiatrist diagnosed me with bipolar disorder and some traits of borderline disorder. She prescribed meds that have me bouncing off the walls, even with a mood stabilizer. I feel great but I know she won't like it.
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posted by buck:fuller
on Oct 26, 2011 -
16 answers
I need to end my marriage, but don't know how to tell my husband I want out, since I fear for my property and personal safety.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2011 -
41 answers
My friend is deeply depressed and is trying to cut herself off from me and her other friends. How can I try to help her? Key questions: 1) Any suggestions on how to try to convince her that I genuinely want to stick around and be her friend and it's not just out of obligation, and/or other other ways to respond to her trying to push me away? 2) She's given up on hope of any treatment or improvement-- I think she might be borderline and that DBT could be a good fit for her regardless-- any suggestions of what I could send her about DBT and/or BPD (or anything else) that would have the best chance of getting through to her and giving her hope that things can get better?
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posted by EmilyClimbs
on Apr 8, 2011 -
15 answers
Can you suggest any great books about living with borderline personality disorder, either for partners or for people with BPD tendencies and behaviors?
also, am I ruined forever? I feel like damaged goods. I'd be happy to hear from anyone living with BPD, too.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2011 -
18 answers
My sister's boyfriend is controlling, may have BPD, and seems to be isolating her and destroying her career. I'm worried for her, and have to see the two of them tomorrow at Thanksgiving. I need advice on how to approach this situation in the short and long term.
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posted by Logic Sheep
on Nov 24, 2010 -
19 answers
My mentally ill mother hired a private investigator to track me down... among other things. Please help!
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 8, 2010 -
33 answers
My bipolar & (recently diagnosed) BPD mother, living on her own due to trial separation from husband, is trying to get a job and is planning to lie on applications/resumes...about me. Kicker: one place she is applying to is
my employer. WTF do I do. Multiple questions inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 16, 2010 -
13 answers
How should I go about handling my (very) mentally ill father who goes through (primarily) emotionally/psychologically abusive phases with anyone he holds a relationship with? Completely cutting off contact is
probably not a solution for a few reasons.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2009 -
23 answers
What are the chances of getting cold sores about two weeks after a friend of mine had an outbreak of cold sores? And how should I deal with the concerns of my housemate (who has BPD) who thinks I may spread it to her?
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posted by severin
on Oct 3, 2009 -
50 answers
Long post about my struggle with friendlessness, shyness and borderline personality disorder inside. Short form: how does a shy, sensitive, friendless guy meet kind, like-minded people and build up a social support network, and should a borderline avoid seeking a partner altogether?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 10, 2009 -
19 answers
My 60 year old mom, married 40 years to a husband with NPD, is drinking and crying in the evenings, angrily lashing out, taking sleeping pills in order to sleep at night, and anguishing over whether she can leave her marriage. How can I help her?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 3, 2008 -
9 answers
I need to find affordable or sliding-scale treatment for someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in New York City, ideally Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 17, 2008 -
2 answers
I am engaged to a wonderful woman who has some mental problems. She's willing to get help, but needs my assistance to make it happen.
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posted by wzcx
on Nov 12, 2005 -
61 answers
