Inspired by the EL thread and the askme on it after following this moving thread about male socialization, what can I do as a parent (specifically a mother) do to help my sons grow up to be happier and healthier feminist men in a toxic patriarchy? What resources and strategies can I add to my parenting toolbox?
Is this normal? I often have anxiety about my kids. I need perspective. [more inside]
I'm making up my spring and summer reading list for a new project and I need books that look at the concepts of masculinity, dating and sex (for boys/men) written from a feminist perspective. Specifically, books that tackles the following subjects: Gender and sexuality spectrums, dating and relationships (anti Game stuff), teenage boy/young men psychology, parenting feminist boys, sex education, whatever, the whole deal. Ideally, I'd like more academic texts- but give me anything you like. Even things that you think are tangentially related or reading list links that you think might fall in line. Thanks!
My 15-year-old nephew has become interested in social movements, and as teenagers do, he's positioned himself against a few. I want him to have some facts that he can understand. Is there a book about feminism written specifically for boys? One that includes history plus arguments, both pro and con?
Are there versions of this book teaching kids to run a play/gallery/poetry slam/etc that are (a) non-gendered (b) geared towards adults? [more inside]
My 15 year old nephew has been saying some negative comments about women that make me a little concerned. How should I respond to him? Do I mention it to his parents? [more inside]
I'm slowly building up a library of amazing books for my three sons. What books do I need to make sure to include? Are there boy equivalents to Anne Shirley, Sara Crewe, Meg Murry, Matilada, et al? [more inside]
My son will be having a birthday sleepover in a couple weeks so we will be hosting about six twelve year-old boys. In addition to feeding them and the Minecraft LAN party, we'd like to watch a movie with them. Suggestions? [more inside]
I’m looking some age-appropriate media that will show my bright, sensitive 3 year old son (who seems to be more interested in all things femme every day) that his interests are okay. He has lots of female family members and friends who demonstrate to him that there are a million different ways of being a woman or a girl. But neither his dad nor I is feminine in the slightest, and most of the men in his life are uniformly masculine. I’d love it if he could see positive representations of boys and men in books and TV who have a wider variety of gender expressions. [more inside]
My kiddo, like his dad, has a pants problem. Specifically, while his legs are only slightly longer than normal, he is built in such a way that regular pants don't make it far enough up his butt. Basically, he needs pants that are longer in the crotch-to-waistline area and can pull up higher. Most boy pants don't have a lot of room for that. We end up with either plumber crack or uncomfortably hitched pants. [more inside]
While at a small family gathering in our friends' home, my coworker's 7-year-old son suddenly grabbed a 4-year-old girl, raised her up into the air over his head, and body-slammed her onto the living room floor -- in full and complete view of 8 parents, including both of his own. His parents never did or said anything to him about it that night, and we're all horrified. How do we get to a place of acceptance when folks make vastly different parenting choices than our own, and our kids see it? Details ... [more inside]
I need help planning a scavenger hunt for five 13 year old boys. I'd say they are all aspiring Metafilter members - they fit the profile! [more inside]
What should I do with a large collection of Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys mysteries? [more inside]
Looking for a vendor to make me a metal case for a pack of floss as a gag gift. Importantly, it is for a new beau. Thanks in advance! [more inside]
Kinetic 3 is turning 15 this month and all his little heart wants is a BB gun, because he and his friends like to make war movies (or something). Every single inner instinct I have automatically says, "No. Not gonna happen, pal," because of all the obvious reasons (no guns in my house, what the hell do you need a gun for, someone's gonna lose an eye, etc.). My question is: is there any reason my kid should be allowed to get a BB gun? Am I missing something?
A boy, age 8-ish, is immigrating to Canada from another highly industrialized country. He speaks no English and has had very little exposure to North American culture. Other than candy, books (we have plenty) and hockey-related items, what could I put in a "Welcome to Canada" gift basket that would serve as a crash course in pop culture here, so that he might have an easier time when school starts in September?
My precocious but angry 2.75-year-old and I just got fired from our home daycare situation. I feel like I need Super Nanny. What now? How do I get him to stop being so rude? [more inside]
I will be giving a newly minted 9-year-old gentleman of my acquaintance a wallet for his birthday. I was thinking of printing and laminating a card full of important reference information for a young man of his age. Sort of an ultra condensed Schott's Original Miscellany. What should I put on it?
My four year old boy was upset yesterday when his sisters (he has 3) were listening to "Girls Just Want to Have Fun." He kept saying that boys can have fun too and he wants boy songs. [more inside]
My wonderful 4-year old son wants lots of girly things. I want nothing more than to support him and help him grow into the person he wants to be. My only question is, is there anything that a loving, responsible, progressive parent should do to protect him from hurt, possible bullying etc. [more inside]
Help me communicate better with my sons' barber. It's time for haircuts and I don't want to regret the results. [more inside]
I like a guy but I don't think of myself as attractive. Obviously, he is attractive to me, but I also think he is considered attractive by most people. People tell me that you should always aim for your own attractiveness-level, so I'm wary about this already. Plus I really don't know how to talk to him because I've placed him on this pedestal and I am completely in awe. How do I approach him? [more inside]
Please hope me! I am trying find a suitable gift for my pre-teen and early teenage relatives. [more inside]
He's just not that into you, yadda yadda yadda... or is he? [more inside]
Why are there so many whiny supporting male characters in anime? [more inside]
In a couple of weeks, I'm going to be babysitting my 6-year-old nephew for several days. What are some fun ways I can keep him entertained at home? [more inside]
Should I go to a party even though I've been downgraded to "friend zone"? [more inside]
What were the roots of the classic Beach Boys sound? [more inside]
The Beastie Boys, "Johnny Ryall ." Wikipedia is useless here. Was this a real person they knew?? [more inside]
What fun things can I do with my nephews for a day this weekend? [more inside]
Does THIS book with THIS cover art exist? [more inside]
Tips for babysitting two 5 year old boys? [more inside]
Early in his career, Conan O'Brien had Don Ho as his guest. Don Ho did a cover version of the Beastie Boys' single "Sabotage". This was the greatest piece of television history I have ever experienced. Is it available anywhere?
Looking for some background I swear I read related the song "Sloop John B" to tales of ghost ships, zombies and other nautical/Caribbean folklore. [more inside]
Looking for boy's clothing/fashion blogs, preferably for babies and toddlers, but teenagers will do too. It must be happy, cute, fun, and crafty. [more inside]
We're having a boy But we can't think of a name! As we're both atheists, we'd like a name that is not at all religious. There's extra points if you can come up with a science connection and triple bonus points if it's more difficult for other kids to make fun of. [more inside]
What is the best way to keep a merry band of seven- and eight-year old girls cool at soccer games? [more inside]
Why is the guy who appears to have a crush on me suddenly acting so nervous? Why isn't he contacting me more now that I have expressed interest? [more inside]
I am looking for new books in the same category as Le Petit Nicolas, Gian Burrasca, and, kind of, Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn. [more inside]
What kind of gifts can we make that our nephews will enjoy? [more inside]
What is the awesomest possible present for a boy turning 9? [more inside]
What books and movies have helped you define what it means to be a man? [more inside]
Cool software for a 2.5 year old boy. [more inside]
difficult gift shopping filter: Help me find books, toys, comics, music, etc that provide a broad, varying, and largely non-traditional view of masculinity for my little brother, who is absolutely nothing like me or anyone else in our family. More details than necessary inside! [more inside]
What does a guy mean after he tries to have sex but it doesn't happen? [more inside]
Parenting techniques, insight, and maturity needed before I completely ruin my kid's life. [more inside]
We're going to have a second boy. Help us get rational about it. [more inside]
Would my three kids (17, 15, 10) be happier if we left the same town their dad lives in? I can't figure out if I'm allowing prolonged damage to my kids by letting them stay here because their dad is down the road but NEVER wants to see them. And where he lives bothers them (more later). [more inside]
Is it possible to find sheet music for background vocals of a 40 yo cover of a classic tune? [more inside]
Why do little boys love trucks? [more inside]
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