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hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

How to talk to new boyfriend about his relationship with alcohol?

I have been dating a lovely man for two months. We met online. I'm concerned he may drink too much and would like to talk to him about it. [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Aug 26, 2013 - 27 answers

I Need Help Saving My Relationship

I might have pushed my boyfriend past his limits. After an ensuing huge fight, he now wants some time to himself and rethink the relationship over. Possible breakup. I love and care for him, and want things back to normal. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by milque on Aug 26, 2013 - 53 answers

Relationship expectations I have are to high?

I need to figure out whether I have high expectations in a relationship, or the guy I saw for three months is just a jerk, or emotionally unavailable. [more inside]
posted by barexamfreak on Aug 23, 2013 - 34 answers

That didn't go how I planned

A rough first impression . . . [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom on Aug 18, 2013 - 25 answers

Is my boyfriend gay?

My boyfriend was raped as a kid, and recently told me that he used to believe he was gay before he met me. I don't know how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2013 - 25 answers

Can attraction grow? Great guy, but not too terribly attracted?

Casually dating a great guy. He's smart, funny, we're comfortable with each other. We've been seeing each other for 2 months now. The issue is... I don't find him incredibly physically appealing. Can I overcome it? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Aug 11, 2013 - 65 answers

Can you convert a (literate) non-reader?

I would like my boyfriend to read more for leisure. Partly because I think he'd enjoy it, but also because I think it would be a good activity to share together. He's never been "into" reading; I think he sees it as a significant commitment. Were you a non-reader previously and now love to read? What made you change? If you are an avid reader yourself, have you ever inspired someone to start? How did you go about it? [more inside]
posted by goblue_est1817 on Aug 7, 2013 - 44 answers

If I don't miss my ex, then why do I care that he has a new girlfriend?

Hi. I dated my ex for three years and we broke up a little over a year ago. At first I was very hurt and depressed, missed him terribly, was counting on getting back together, and couldn't imagine ever being attracted to or dating anyone again. Now I don't miss him at all and have no desire to be with him, and no longer compare every guy I meet to him. I thought I was over everything, but then last week I found out he's finally dating someone else and I can't help but feel hurt, like I've been replaced. I keep thinking about what she's like and why he likes her even though I do not want to be with him at all. To make matters worse my ex and I work together, so it's possible we might all run into each other, and that makes me want to vomit. I feel like I'm moving ten steps backward in my healing process. How do I proceed?
posted by thank you silence on Jul 28, 2013 - 10 answers

Party Animal Boyfriend - When is it too much?

My long term-ish boyfriend has developed over time a fixation with a particular crowd of young, party-going types and it's become more and more of a roadblock for me. He gains a significant degree of his self-esteem from going to parties/events that feature music, drug use, and what appears to me no more than lots of idle talk and some vaguely creative pursuits. Meanwhile, my boyfriend is in fact on the older side - approaching 40 - with no sense of financial planning or pursuing a truly meaningful career. It would seem that he has found a community of supportive, yet drug-using and less than gainfully employed young people to supply him with an ego boost. I, however, am entering a period of life in which I feel it's time to finally pursue commitment and plans for financial and familial security, yet I constantly feel abandoned as my boyfriend is out staying up all night at these parties. [more inside]
posted by afabulousbeing on Jul 10, 2013 - 40 answers

Girlfriend met a guy on dating site. This isn't settling well with me.

My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2013 - 81 answers

Sex is Natural, Sex is... Fun (Right?)

My very sweet, kind, funny, smart, caring, new, younger boyfriend is... how to put this... terrible in bed. Over several months, we've had about a half dozen "encounters" (we live in different cities), and they have left me feeling bewildered, drained, confused, and overwhelmed. It's not that there's one thing that isn't working, and it's not "technique"-- it's like the entire foundation is out of alignment. Either we're just super incompatible, or one of us is doing something wrong. I'd really like to figure out how to approach this, and I don't know how to even begin this conversation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2013 - 40 answers

Boyfriend's progressively disabling (terminal?) illness

My boyfriend has a progressively disabling illness -- a form of muscular dystrophy. He will lose the ability to walk and easily get out of bed, etc., in about 10-15 years. We've been together for five very happy years, but that said, we are young (early 20s) and don't have many responsibilities other than school. My friends really like him, and so does my family. We've been very open with one another and have great communication. However, my parents are adamant that I find somebody else due to his illness. They won't force me to break up with my boyfriend, because they know he's a fantastic person, but will continuously express discontent when I hang out with him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2013 - 55 answers

Unsure of whether or not I should move on from my relationship

My boyfriend and I want to get married but I'm not sure. Is my intuition is telling me something important or is it just fear? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2013 - 14 answers

Should I feel hurt that my boyfriend may be going on a trip without me?

I want to ask him if he's going but don't want to seem pushy about it. [more inside]
posted by femmefatale123 on May 12, 2013 - 55 answers

How to bring up attitude and exes without causing another argument?

The boyfriend will take things I say in totally the wrong way, how do I explain this to him without starting another argument? And he compares me to his ex when doing this stuff...long-winded details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2013 - 36 answers

Reasonable or unreasonable not to want my roommate to move in her SO?

I recently had three all new roommates move into a four bedroom apartment as subletters in February. Knowing one would be moving out near the end of May, I started looking for a new roommate when one of the other roommates suggested moving her boyfriend into the fourth room. I'm a little wary of this arrangement, but I want to consider, though, before giving my answer whether or not others would consider it unreasonable to not want to live with a couple. [more inside]
posted by Stauf on Apr 7, 2013 - 9 answers

Break up with a man I'm not very attracted to? Feeling crappy.

I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men. [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Apr 1, 2013 - 35 answers

What was this strange thing that happened to my boyfriend?

Two weekends ago, something REALLY weird happened to my boyfriend and I'm still struggling to try and figure out what it was. A hallucination? A psychotic episode? [more inside]
posted by alysonagain on Mar 30, 2013 - 45 answers

Help me figure out what to do about my depressed boyfriend please

My once caring, kind, thoughtful bf of six months has fallen into a deep depressive state a month ago and has ceased most contacts with me three weeks ago- the exception being a phone call for my birthday- without outwardly breaking up with me; should I stay, should I go, should I wait and give him space, or wait and try and contact him myself? Do we have a future together according to you? Any thoughts/input is welcome, thank you very much! [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Mar 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Dirty talk... not so much

My new partner's dirty talk seems ripped from porn. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2013 - 32 answers

LDR or not?

5yr relationship relationship about to embark on potential 2 years or longer LDR [more inside]
posted by Trinergy on Mar 13, 2013 - 22 answers

Is my boyfriend ashamed of me? Why won't he post any pics of me on fb?

Today I deleted all the pictures (20 or so) that I had of my boyfriend on my facebook. Please tell me whether or not I am justified or if you would've done the same. My boyfriend of a couple of months has never posted any pictures of me on his fb. At first, I thought - well, maybe he's just the kind of guy who doesn't post a lot of pictures or goes on fb much. Except, he just posted 42 pictures of him and (mostly his cousin) who has come to recently visit him in our city. Many of them were taken at an event that I was at - apparently he took some pics of him while I was in the bathroom. Also, it's not like he lacks pictures of me - he takes many of them and has all of them on his phone. Sometimes he will text me a pic of us. I once asked why he was even bothering to take a pic of me and he was like, don't worry I'll photobomb you soon. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2013 - 50 answers

Hip to be square. Except not.

How do I deal with my boyfriend's love of marijuana? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2013 - 53 answers

My boyfriend drinks a lot, should I be worried?

My new boyfriend of about a month and a half drinks a freaking lot! We have dated for 8 months and while I was aware he drank, I was never as alarmed as I am now. I don't know if I just didn't notice it before or if it's because we spend so much time in social situations with his other friends now or what. He doesn't get sloppy drunk or get a temper or anything - though he does become a bit thoughtless, but it makes me uncomfortable how he will just throw back the alcohol. His friends encourage him by buying a round and then he'll buy them a round and so the cycle continues all night or they invite him out to specifically get drunk/drink. I do not drink but the occasional sip/glass of red wine probably like twice a year - only at special events. (more inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 39 answers

Am I wrong for getting a bad feeling about my boyfriend's dating coach?

Started dating a great guy, he became my boyfriend probably a month and a half ago. A few weeks into the relationship we were talking and it turns out that he has a "dating coach" and he still meets with her in weekly phone calls because he enjoys her advice. This rubbed the wrong way and googling her, I found she's also totally hot. It just creeps me out that this totally hot woman has so much impact on my boyfriend's life. [more inside]
posted by ponytime on Feb 2, 2013 - 51 answers

My boyfriend's kid is here for a month. Should I be a presence?

My boyfriend has a kid from his previous marriage, who is now long distance. He'll be coming to stay for a month in a few months, and I'm not sure what to do! (so many snowflake details!) [more inside]
posted by euphoria066 on Jan 22, 2013 - 22 answers

Texts after midnight in a relationship?

My boyfriend and I live together. I am wondering, if it is reasonable to request, that he texts when he is out past 3am (More inside) [more inside]
posted by cascando on Jan 19, 2013 - 71 answers

Boyfriend? What's a boyfriend?

How to introduce boyfriend to son after a divorce. Personal experiences as the girlfriend, boyfriend, or the child? Advice? [more inside]
posted by youdontmakefriendswithsalad on Jan 15, 2013 - 19 answers

Awesome photographer books for a photographer

Photographers and photography buffs! Please help me find a really cool photography book (or photography-related gift) for my photographer boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by ad4pt on Jan 5, 2013 - 15 answers

Is my boyfriend gay?

Am I being paranoid for worrying that my new boyfriend is gay? Also, is there a delicate way of broaching the topic or should I avoid it altogether? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2013 - 64 answers

Is my RL a dead horse or does he deserve this chance?

Another question about my LTR: how much should I try to give another chance to my potentially EUM partner? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Dec 29, 2012 - 35 answers

We are at different ends of the emotional spectrum, are we doomed?

We are at totally different ends of the emotional spectrum, are we doomed? [more inside]
posted by JIMSMITH2000 on Dec 10, 2012 - 36 answers

help me motivate myself and my SO

how to deal with differing levels of ambition and motivation in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Dec 5, 2012 - 14 answers

Get lost.

My sister's boyfriend is older than our father. He is more than twice her age. It (he) makes me uncomfortable and it is driving a wedge between us. I'm not sure how to communicate my feelings about this to her or if I even should. [more inside]
posted by Evstar on Nov 29, 2012 - 52 answers

Boyfriend gained weight and I don't like it

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. All things considered, I'm quite happy with him. Problem is, he's gained a ton of weight, more than 50lbs since we've been together. He doesn't look like the person I started dating, and it really upsets me. In his current state I don't find him attractive and I'm really at a loss for what to do. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by mariisoul on Nov 13, 2012 - 40 answers

how do i integrate myself into a brand new friend group?

how do i integrate myself into a brand new friend group? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Nov 5, 2012 - 17 answers

I feel trapped from being too different?

Pretty sure I don't want to get married or have kids. Problem is, almost all my friends are doing so and it's just getting to the point where I am the only one who isn't doing either of those (not a bad thing).Help me not go crazy if I hear one more person say the words 'I'm engaged" or "I'm pregnant". [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Oct 30, 2012 - 55 answers

How to get over insecurity about boyfriend's divorce?

What can I do to stop insecurity from boyfriend's from seeing into our relationship? The divorce isn't final, and it's placing a strain on our relationship. I'm afraid that my anger/confusion/fear may sabotage the relationship. [more inside]
posted by lastcall17 on Oct 28, 2012 - 14 answers

Why is my family being so cold to my SO?

Deeply in love with someone who I'm pretty sure is a keeper. His family is warm & welcoming to me. My family hasn't lifted a finger to make him feel welcome. I'm humiliated. Help. [more inside]
posted by deliciae on Oct 24, 2012 - 27 answers

How to tell your SO about a big life change you'd like to make

How to tell your SO about big, possibly life-changing plans (i.e., applying to medical school in a couple of years)? [more inside]
posted by carolinaherrera on Oct 14, 2012 - 31 answers

I feel like he's making a fool out of me.

I think my boyfriend is hitting on his best friend's (adult) daughter. I am hurt and angry and upset and I don't know what I should do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2012 - 66 answers

Should I Stay Or Should I Go (Here We Go Again)

Going round and round in circles in a relationship that has me asking 'what's the point?' and thinking 'why bother, he doesn't care'. Add to this my freelance work pattern, cohabitation but sleeping in separate rooms, his eating disorder, my issues with child abuse, his distance geographically from his family... and it's all just a big mess. I don't know what to do. Perhaps you can help me untangle things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2012 - 26 answers

when does sexual attraction become objectification?

when does sexual attraction become objectification? [more inside]
posted by happyjuice on Oct 6, 2012 - 17 answers

Unforeseen obstacles to intercultural marriage?

What do you wish you had known before you embarked on an intercultural relationship/marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2012 - 37 answers

In sickness and in health

What are your expectations for your boyfriend/girlfriend caring for you when you get sick with a cold? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on Oct 2, 2012 - 49 answers

Moving, or moving on?

My boyfriend of one year just learned that he'll be laid off in the next few months. He's now applying for jobs in our hometown, as well as dream jobs that are halfway across the country. We need to discuss what we'll do if he moves out of state -- Do I go or stay? LDR or break up? -- but I'm trying to sort out my thoughts and feelings about what I want first. What questions should I be asking myself? [more inside]
posted by commander biscuit on Oct 2, 2012 - 17 answers

Sex in the Country

DramaFilter: I moved to a new city for boyfriend, then we broke up. Should I stay or leave? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2012 - 31 answers

My boyfriend recently lost his job, and today he found out he's ineligible for unemployment. His life is in shambles. What can I do to help?

My boyfriend recently lost his job, and today he found out he's ineligible for unemployment. His life is in shambles. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount on Sep 20, 2012 - 20 answers

do you think my new boyfriend is bisexual or gay? or maybe just a little metro?

do you think my new boyfriend is bisexual or gay? or maybe just a little metro? [more inside]
posted by happyjuice on Sep 16, 2012 - 72 answers

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