Are my relationship expectations too unreasonable? [more inside]
posted on May 18, 2008 - 32 answers

What activities, in or around Boston, would create an amazing birthday evening for my delightfully nerdy, almost-27-year-old boyfriend? [more inside]
posted on Mar 18, 2008 - 26 answers

As a present for my boyfriend's birthday, I'm planning to empty out a drawer at my house and fill it with stuff he can use when spending the night at my place. What should I buy to put in the drawer? [more inside]
posted on Mar 10, 2008 - 33 answers

Ex-Filter: How do I rebuff an old flame's friendship with being rude? (Longish) Backstory within... [more inside]
posted on Feb 4, 2008 - 20 answers

I'm meeting my boyfriend's friends for the first time this Saturday - at a birthday dinner (at a restaurant) for one of them. I would like to bring some sort of token of thoughtfulness or something to the birthday girl... nothing expensive as I don't want to seem like I'm showing off or anything (and I'm a poor college student anyway)... thoughts? [more inside]
posted on Jan 31, 2008 - 39 answers

My friend's ex-boyfriend is a manipulative, lying scumbag. Should I warn his new girlfriend what she's getting into? [more inside]
posted on Jan 2, 2008 - 66 answers

Is this a good Christmas gift idea or a disaster in the making? [more inside]
posted on Dec 23, 2007 - 29 answers

I'm gay, and I'm afraid that I only like straight guys. [more inside]
posted on Dec 8, 2007 - 24 answers

Why was my boyfriend so extravagantly romantic with his ex but not with me? [more inside]
posted on Nov 25, 2007 - 35 answers

My roommate's boyfriend spends the night... every single night. [more inside]
posted on Nov 1, 2007 - 49 answers

Is it moral to have a backup girlfriend or boyfriend and telling that backup of your plan? [more inside]
posted on Oct 27, 2007 - 44 answers

My boyfriend dropped a bomb about his past. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted on Aug 20, 2007 - 34 answers

Help me help my boyfriend. My boyfriend is caring, supportive and great in all the ways that matter, but I think he's depressed, and it's gotten past the point where he's willing to talk about it. He's said several times that he feels there's no way out, and while he's had brief spells of depression in the past and has been able to pull himself out of them, I'm worried that this time it's too deep for him to do it alone. [more inside]
posted on Aug 4, 2007 - 15 answers

What's the best way to find a boyfriend (gay) / Cuddle buddy in New York?
posted on Jul 28, 2007 - 9 answers

I'm being given a second chance by my ex-boyfriend. Please help me not screw it up. [more inside]
posted on Jul 26, 2007 - 25 answers

Very touchy situation with my ex almost but not quite boyfriend. Any and all insight appreciated. [more inside]
posted on Jun 29, 2007 - 23 answers

How can I explain to my boyfriend that his request to tell "the other woman" is insane? [more inside]
posted on Jun 19, 2007 - 74 answers

I'm never 'in the mood' at the same time as my boyfriend and it's taken a serious toll on our intimate relationship. What can I/we do to get me in the mood? To help our sex life? [more inside]
posted on Jun 5, 2007 - 19 answers

Knowing that my girlfriend is taking Effexor (which has strong side effects), should I help her get off, and what should my role be? [more inside]
posted on May 25, 2007 - 42 answers

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [more inside]
posted on May 9, 2007 - 16 answers

My boyfriend adores me. My boyfriend's friends adore me. I adore my boyfriend's friends. I do not adore my boyfriend. Is it possible to remain friends with your boyfriend's friends post-break up? [more inside]
posted on Apr 30, 2007 - 31 answers

Relationship Filter: How do I stop myself from tallying stuff up then try to make myself dismiss it because I don't want to make our relationship into a scorecard but not being sucessful and end up feeling confused and emotional? And how do I talk about it with my boyfriend? [more inside]
posted on Apr 11, 2007 - 25 answers

I feel like I am fading away into nothingness. [more inside]
posted on Feb 25, 2007 - 55 answers

How do I wish my programming-geek boyfriend "Happy Birthday" and tell him "I love you" using computing code? [more inside]
posted on Jan 23, 2007 - 25 answers

How to maintain a relationship where we've had lots of time together when I start as an associate at a law firm in NYC, and will have very little time? [more inside]
posted on Jan 21, 2007 - 3 answers

My depressed boyfriend is withdrawing affection; I'm miserable. [more inside]
posted on Dec 28, 2006 - 66 answers

How can I be a good boyfriend? [more inside]
posted on Dec 27, 2006 - 39 answers

I keep my friends "separate" from each other. [more inside]
posted on Dec 3, 2006 - 10 answers

Something special to do for boyfriend who is a stressed out single parent? [more inside]
posted on Nov 25, 2006 - 9 answers

In February, my boyfriend of a few months will be leaving to do a two year stint with the peace corps. We're emphatically in love with each other, and the thought of him leaving my life is absolutely dreadful and deeply saddening. How can I best prepare myself for what is to come? [more inside]
posted on Oct 11, 2006 - 24 answers

My significant other revealed to me that he was sexually abused as a little boy by a friend of his, who was also a boy. The incident, without describing it in detail, was one of sexual humiliation. The shame and suffering he now feels is immense and has carried over into other areas of his life, including his relationships. He told me what had happenned because I knew something was wrong and pressed him. We are now college-age (and in college too) and he had never told anyone before me. I have said to him that many other people have been sexually abused and have learned to accept their past, but I have said this without knowing if it's really true. Because of the problems caused by the event and other events that followed, I have broken up with him but am serious about being with him after he takes care of himself in therapy. Does anyone have insight on the possibility of moving forward after such a traumatizing event?
posted on Sep 22, 2006 - 21 answers

RelationshipFilter (sorry!): I've become entangled in a complex 'relationship', and I'm not sure what to do... [more inside]
posted on Aug 29, 2006 - 57 answers

My grandmother's ring, a long-distance relationship that's about to become a co-habitation, and a boyfriend who just graduated college and doesn't have any money yet.... Help! [more inside]
posted on Aug 19, 2006 - 19 answers

I am head over heels in love with someone who is draining my life from me. [more inside]
posted on Aug 12, 2006 - 33 answers

Do my boyfriend and I have a chance at long-term happiness if we lack a hot "spark" when it comes to our sexual attraction for each other? [more inside]
posted on Apr 20, 2006 - 63 answers

Which neighborhood/apartment complex to choose in North Miami? [more inside]
posted on Mar 27, 2006 - 7 answers

Homofilter: What does a man get his boyfriend for Valentine's Day? [more inside]
posted on Feb 6, 2006 - 16 answers

How do I reign in my unfounded jealousy? Am I crazy? How can I just calm down and let it go? [more inside]
posted on Dec 30, 2005 - 32 answers

What is the best way to tell someone that you want to have a child with him? [more inside]
posted on Dec 21, 2005 - 14 answers

I'm an attorney from D.C. moving to San Fran to join my boyfriend. In every interview, the first question is "why did you move?" For several reasons, I don't like referring to "my boyfriend" in interviews. What can I do? [more inside] [more inside]
posted on Dec 18, 2005 - 52 answers

How did you make the transition from "just dating" to boyfriend/girlfriend? [more inside]
posted on Dec 7, 2005 - 33 answers

SexualFrustrationFilter: Please help me deal with my boyfriend's sexual frustration. [more inside]
posted on Oct 26, 2005 - 79 answers

How do I deal with my boyfriend's obnoxious and embarrassing friends? [more inside]
posted on Oct 19, 2005 - 43 answers

Got myself a brand new boyfriend! [more inside]
posted on Oct 4, 2005 - 18 answers

Well, it seems like the relationship is over, it's over, it's oooohver. What, if anything, can I do to distract, deflect, defer, deal with the pain? How do you say good-bye? [more inside]
posted on Sep 26, 2005 - 21 answers

How do you know your relationship is worth fighting for? Or, how do you know when to call it quits? [more inside]
posted on May 11, 2005 - 25 answers

My boyfriend and I met when I was very young and inexperienced, and we've been together for almost 10 years now. I've always enjoyed our sex life, especially my ability to have multiple orgasms. But wait. Now that I'm older and a bit more in touch with myself, so to speak, I've realized I hadn't really been having orgasms at all. Because I'm just starting to now. My boyfriend thinks he's losing his skills because I'm having one orgasm with him, if at all, and I've skirted around talking about it by saying that it's just different now. We're really open with each other and we talk about everything honestly, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to gently broach this topic since I didn't when I first became aware of it. How can I share the truth and preserve his ego?
posted on Oct 13, 2004 - 18 answers