Ex-boyfriend and I are trying to be friends and don't have good boundaries between us, at least from his end. He's been reluctant to set them in the past. How do I encourage him to set boundaries? (long, snowflake-y)
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posted by anonymous
on May 30, 2011 -
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I started a small beer club at work with some of my coworkers. One of them invited a coworker who makes me incredibly uncomfortable. How do I get out of this?
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posted by punchtothehead
on May 10, 2011 -
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I want my mother to stop trying to discuss with me a specific relationship problem she's having. Is this unreasonable? How do I defend my request to her and not feel like a jerk?
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posted by kitcat
on May 4, 2011 -
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Almost 30, filled with hang ups and doubt, on collision course with self-prescribed therapeutic imperative.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 21, 2011 -
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I’m looking for mapping software that will let me import addresses from a spreadsheet, plot them on a map, and then allow me to draw arbitrary boundaries on the map and give me the count of addresses that fall within the bounded area. Also, is there a name for this functionality?
posted by Jasper Friendly Bear
on Feb 12, 2011 -
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I am seeking information (website/blog/journal article/etc) that will help me talk about the need for professional boundaries & role definition for staff working in an adult learning environment. Bonus points for info that talks about both the teacher-student relationship, and relationships within the staff team/whole organisation.
posted by MT
on Feb 1, 2011 -
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The crazy lady killed my cat, hates my boyfriend, and is acting vindictively again...I am fully prepared to cut her out of my life forever. Should I?
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posted by thebeagle
on Jan 18, 2011 -
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Help me figure out how to convey to the new head of my knitting group that I am really too busy until January to help with events.
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posted by miss-lapin
on Nov 21, 2010 -
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How do I talk to my mother about her depression, especially when I'm trying to create better boundaries but simultaneously plan for my family's future?
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posted by Madamina
on Oct 25, 2010 -
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I've always been a "fixer/problem solver/peacemaker". How do I
really focus on myself instead of thinking about others?
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posted by MultiFaceted
on Sep 18, 2010 -
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I'm trying to set healthy boundaries with my mom for the first time, but it's difficult because when I set a limit she gets upset, and then I feel awful and capitulate. She's not going to change, so what can I do or say to myself so that I don't give in quite so often?
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posted by colfax
on Jul 17, 2010 -
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It has recently come to my attention that I have serious issues enforcing healthy boundaries with others. Because I do not effectively enforce boundaries, I end up caught in totally ridiculous situations that I am very resentful about. When I do enforce boundaries, the response is typically that I am being hypersensitive/petty/overreacting or being a "B****";
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posted by neanderloid
on Jul 7, 2010 -
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A good friend intentionally hurt me. I cut off all contact in an attempt to move on, which so far seems to be working. The only problem? He's also my roommate and business partner. He'll be home from an extended absence soon and I need help drawing and maintaining boundaries for two people who should realistically have no contact with each other, but are instead stuck sharing a bathroom and a checking account.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2010 -
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How do I set up boundaries between myself and my friend after our friendship had a nuclear breakdown and we are bound to work together again?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 10, 2010 -
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How do I deal with enormous pressure from my parents? I apologize for the length, and thanks in advance for your advice.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2009 -
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How do I find a family therapist/counselor in Waco, TX that can help, rather than judge, my polyamorous relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2009 -
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Lots of details below the cut, but basically it boils down to a plea for "this is how I handled it" stories about confronting parents about religion and different lifestyles--particularly when my "different" lifestyle is not so different at all.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 7, 2009 -
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My teenage cousin is staying up too late on the internet and my aunt has asked me to help her limit how much time she is spending on it. It is very similar to
this question which has come before. But I'm looking for a software solution.
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posted by roshy
on Nov 3, 2008 -
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I am NOT good at setting boundaries with people. For example I have a male neighbor who is as nice as he can be but is VERY talkative and boring to me. He drops by our house unannounced and has hours to spend talking with me. I have to cut him off and I am not good at it.
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posted by seekingsimplicity
on Mar 5, 2008 -
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Should I go back to my old therapist? My overall experience was good, but I have some questions about boundaries.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2008 -
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Some people seem to have a 'way' about them of gaining the willing cooperation of those around them. I seem to have none of that 'way' at all and I'd like to see if I could gain a little of it. All too often I feel overrun by others and cannot seem to get a balanced amount of cooperation and respect. I guess this is about social status and how to rise a bit above my low rung on the ladder.
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posted by DarkForest
on Oct 4, 2007 -
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Do people ask for advice IRL? If they talk about a problem but don't specifically ask for advice, does that mean they don't want any?
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posted by meijusa
on Oct 22, 2006 -
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How appropriate is it to consider someone your mentor, when you're hoping he'll grant you with something major in the future? Is this taking advantage of him and the mentorship? Or am I just being paranoid?
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posted by divabat
on Apr 15, 2006 -
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Copyright vs. Satire: How far can one extend the 'fair use' or satire legalities when it comes to using similar imagery in advertisement? (more inside)
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on Nov 9, 2004 -
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