Frienship-filter: L. and I have been friends for more than 15 years. The first couple of years, we spent a lot of time together. We were both in a relationship, so it was one of those couples relationship which also became very much about the two of us. After cca 2 years, I moved away to be with the other half of the couple, and stayed away for about 10 years. We have now been in the same place for 5 years (move-away relationship went bust), and I am having trouble with our friendship.
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posted by laceysocks
on Mar 26, 2013 -
17 answers
(Asking for a friend)
I have been sober for nearly a year, and attend AA meetings regularly. Recently, an old friend has moved to my city and has confided in me that they are concerned with their own drinking habits, think they may be an alcoholic, and asked for my help. I am happy to support my friend, but some boundary issues have come up that I would like metafilter's advice on. (Sorry in advance for length.)
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posted by dysh
on Feb 10, 2013 -
18 answers
I should have gone the no-contact route a coupe of years ago when he told me that he only saw me as a friend, but I struggled through and we got back to good friend status. Recently the old feelings have resurfaced. Do I have to "use my words" again or is it okay to do a slow fade?
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posted by Neneh
on Dec 25, 2012 -
12 answers
After posting
this question, I asked out a guy that I was interested in. It's going pretty great, except that my friends won't leave me the hell alone about it, and I want to think about something else!
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posted by windykites
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
How does the etiquette concept that "The only thing ruder than rudeness is pointing out said rudeness" not imply letting oneself get walked all over? Help me understand this, if you would?
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Oct 27, 2012 -
21 answers
How can I be polite and yet shut down conversations about my weight loss at an upcoming family gathering?
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posted by purple_bird
on Aug 10, 2012 -
22 answers
Our daughter has come to an age where she wants to try more and more thrilling amusement park rides. We have come to an age where we don't.
How do parents with their own fears let their kids go and have fun on the thrill rides, when accompanying them is becoming less and less of an option? And, if the anxieties are such that even watching them from the ground is too gut-wrenching, and sitting at home while the kiddo goes with others is still quite nerve-wracking, what might work to deal with those fears?
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posted by peagood
on Aug 2, 2012 -
43 answers
[TW: Sexual Assault] One sexually assaulted me; the others hurt and abused me emotionally when close friendships imploded. I have PTSD after the whole experience. How do I get other friends to understand that I don’t want to hear about these people? [Snowflake configuration of details follows]
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Jul 3, 2012 -
38 answers
An acquaintance keeps showing up at my office. What's a reasonable boundary for me to draw here, and how do I do that?
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posted by zeptoweasel
on Apr 1, 2012 -
13 answers
I started a small beer club at work with some of my coworkers. One of them invited a coworker who makes me incredibly uncomfortable. How do I get out of this?
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posted by punchtothehead
on May 10, 2011 -
35 answers
The crazy lady killed my cat, hates my boyfriend, and is acting vindictively again...I am fully prepared to cut her out of my life forever. Should I?
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posted by thebeagle
on Jan 18, 2011 -
39 answers
Help me figure out how to convey to the new head of my knitting group that I am really too busy until January to help with events.
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posted by miss-lapin
on Nov 21, 2010 -
17 answers
