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How do I politely deflect unwelcome comments about my weight?

I have always had issues with my weight, but I have recently lost a lot and am on target to get to my own personal "ideal" within a few months. I'm happy with this, except I'm currently finding it hard to deal with the constant comments. Advice on how to deflect would be welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2016 - 25 answers

How should I convince my daughter to eat?

My daughter is 12. She has been quite anxious about her weight and appearance for some time now: expressing worry that she will look overweight, that she will gain weight too fast, not wanting to go through puberty. She has been self-restricting her diet for over a year now, minimizing portions and skipping meals, usually claiming fullness or "not feeling good." Her counselor is focused on the underlying causes, especially trying to show her how to deal with anxiety (generalized or social anxiety from middle school). Her doctor however is upset about her weight loss: she is under her recommended BMI and over the last month or so she lost four pounds. The doctor is threatening a hospital stay if she doesn't catch up on her growth chart, and wants us (her parents) to treat food like necessary medicine. So we've been giving basic consequences (loss of priveleges, especially favorite shows or hobbies) and she has been eating better for a few days, but she is also getting angrier and angrier, resorting to shouted accusations of cruelty. [more inside]
posted by TreeRooster on Feb 17, 2016 - 69 answers

How can I stop body image issues getting in the way with a new partner?

Please help me to get over my body image issues when it comes to sex with someone new. [more inside]
posted by NatalieWood on Nov 30, 2015 - 15 answers

Getting body image issues out of my head: Dating while fat

So I am an intelligent, funny, kind, 30-year-old fat woman who generally has a healthy and pragmatic attitude about being fat. I felt constantly shitty about not being thin when I was younger, but whatever the wider world thinks, I know being fat doesn't mean I'm not pretty, or that I'm lazy, or whatever. But the negative self-talk, fueled by cultural narratives and negative experiences, rears it ugly head while dating sometimes. I want to get that voice out of my head. [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria on Oct 26, 2015 - 18 answers

How do I dress myself after gaining weight?

Thanks to a much-needed medication, I've just gone from super skinny to not-so-skinny in a very short amount of time. I am having trouble dressing my "new self." Also would like any advice on coping with body image difficulty. TW: weight gain and body image issues and detail. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha on Oct 2, 2015 - 18 answers

A very mons-y pubis

How do I come to peace with the appearance of my mons? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2014 - 17 answers

How do I feel better about my looks?

Being the adult human being that I am, I'm not as thin as I was in my early 20s. Intellectually, I am fine with this. Emotionally, not so much? How can I be more confident about the way I look? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Sep 6, 2014 - 33 answers

Help! A friend in trouble.

I’m asking on behalf of a friend, who for the purposes of this question I'll call ‘Ted’. A good friend of his ‘Pete’ has taken a turn for the worse. Ted saw Pete for the first time in several months, and he’s a mess. Ted is seriously worried for Pete’s well being, he’s falling into a cycle of partying and drug use, and seems to be falling apart. Drugs, Physical and Mental Health issues abound, Ted wants to know how to help Pete before things get really bad. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] on Jun 13, 2014 - 8 answers

Is lipedema a thing? How can I learn more about it?

I saw this ask comment on lipedema/lipoedema going underdiagnosed while I was searching through the cellulite tag, and I'm interested in more resources, but a lot of what I find seems pretty woo-woo. Get me pointed in the right direction? [more inside]
posted by revi on Feb 10, 2014 - 4 answers

I never want to cry about my body again.

I'm 21, got both legs and arms, a working brain, am decently attractive and completely healthy. I have periodic crashes where I whole-heartedly despise certain parts of my body and fall into deep despair. What can I do to help avoid these crashes? I am seeing a counselor and she's been helpful in that regard. I ask: other than therapy, when did YOU stop giving a crap about your bodily imperfections? And what's helpful to you when you do start needlessly worrying? [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Nov 30, 2013 - 50 answers

How to stop the weight gain?

Stressed out and at my heaviest, how can I gradually start to lose weight? [more inside]
posted by elisse on Nov 12, 2013 - 28 answers

How to support a spouse through weight-watchers?

My spouse has made a conscious decision to try weight watchers. She is terrified of failure. How can I help? What are some goals that I can set? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2013 - 27 answers

"My knees are too fat."

Does anyone remember this really obviously manipulative ad that ran in teen girl magazines in the US in the late 80s or early 90s? I'm looking for an image of it. [more inside]
posted by Mila on Jul 24, 2013 - 4 answers

Confidence: Better than Makeup and High Heels?

Does confidence really make a difference when it comes to attraction? If so, I'd like to generate enough in time for New Year's. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Dec 18, 2012 - 26 answers

Is it normal to have a fluctuating body image?

Do most people have stable perception of their own attractiveness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2012 - 35 answers

Help me not hate my tummy!

Practical advice for accepting a part of my body I hate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2012 - 34 answers

Third grade dropout?

Should I take my eight (almost nine) year old out of school midyear to alleviate her anxiety? [more inside]
posted by TreeRooster on Nov 26, 2012 - 47 answers

You're Too Sexy for This Party. GTFO.

Ladies: have you ever been targeted/harassed/insulted by others, particularly women, for being too sexy or attractive? Have you witnessed such a thing? Naive as I feel for asking this... does that sort of thing actually happen in the real world and not just on TV? More inside, forgive me if I'm being horribly inarticulate... [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath on Sep 6, 2012 - 75 answers

Unwilling threesome

My boyfriend has been sneaking porn into bed to secretly look at while having sex with me (pictures on cell phone while behind me). He has been doing this for a year. How do I deal with my resulting body issues and how do we repair intimacy? [more inside]
posted by cakebatter on Aug 31, 2012 - 94 answers

Should I reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to?

Should I (and if so, how should I) reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to? [more inside]
posted by mauvest on Aug 21, 2012 - 44 answers

Stop the Snark

A friend of mine recently started working at a gym. This gym offers "coaching" where employees/volunteers advise you on what to eat and your exercise habits. The issue with my friend is that she is constantly gossiping to me about clients and their weight/eating issues/laziness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2012 - 24 answers

How to be at peace with being a wallflower

Help me get in a good frame of mind for a night out this weekend. [more inside]
posted by shiu mai baby on Apr 24, 2012 - 35 answers

Just get used to it, already!

Why am I struggling to feel comfortable in my body, which has changed quite a bit over recent years? It's like my brain is stuck in "thin" mode but my body is constantly announcing that there have been new changes, like little alarms all day long-- even though the weight gain happened over the course of a few years. I don't even really mind the way my body looks, but I can't seem to get used to the physical feeling of being in it. [more inside]
posted by mireille on Apr 13, 2012 - 22 answers

Help me get my sexy back.

Help me deal with depression/stress-related weight loss and the resulting loss of body image. And how can I healthfully gain it back? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2012 - 16 answers

No more tears at H&M

Help me avoid a fitting room meltdown. [more inside]
posted by serialcomma on Mar 20, 2012 - 45 answers

The pins on her ...

Are very thin legs something that has occurred as a genetic change in the last 100-200 years? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 on Mar 12, 2012 - 28 answers

Can I accurately figure out how attractive I am?

Can I accurately figure out how attractive I am? [more inside]
posted by meta x zen on Feb 2, 2012 - 48 answers

My breasts are large for my frame, how can I downplay them and avoid back pain?

My breasts are disproportionately large for my frame (34E/F, 5'2", upper-normal BMI). Because of this, my posture is terrible and my style has been decidedly cramped. Short of getting a breast reduction, how can I dress better, improve my posture, and keep my back from hurting all the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2011 - 26 answers

Why can't I like my body?

Body dysmorphic disorder with no insurance, self diagnose before investing in a shrink? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Boob issues.

How can I train myself to stop being so insecure about my breasts? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2011 - 42 answers

I'd like to get my lean lower back back

Are beer and a 20 something's body mutually exclusive? [more inside]
posted by bellastarr on Sep 15, 2011 - 23 answers

How can I stop being jealous of my sick friend?

My friend is sick. Really, truly ill. How can I support her while constantly dealing with my broken-brained issues regarding body image? [more inside]
posted by kataclysm on Aug 23, 2011 - 21 answers

She likes me fat, I like me fit.

How to cope with having an ideal body weight that is different from my SO's ideal of my body weight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 26, 2011 - 21 answers

How to deal with envious friends?

How do I gracefully deal with envious female friends? [more inside]
posted by Dilemma on Jun 19, 2011 - 52 answers

Unhappy in our own way.

Being around most of my mother's family makes me uncomfortable and angry. How to let go of my past with them and come out of family gatherings feeling more positive? [more inside]
posted by houndsoflove on Apr 24, 2011 - 12 answers

thicker than a snickers

I suspect that my boyfriend likes women who are 'thicker' than me. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 27 answers

How can I really change my lifestyle and overcome my weight and body image issues?

How can I really change my lifestyle and overcome my weight and body image issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2010 - 40 answers

Help my girlfriend love her body

What is the best way to help my girlfriend cope with or overcome body image issues that make physical intimacy a bit of a challenge? NSFW details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2010 - 24 answers

Help me pare down my shape!

What can I do to become less pear-shaped? Pear shape = Tiny breasts, huge thighs. Resources for work-outs, success stories or even ways to help me accept myself the way I am are greatly appreciated! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2010 - 29 answers

Size and Identity

I'm interested in characters that are confident, despite the fact that they are overweight. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild on Jun 28, 2010 - 57 answers

How can I best parent a "developing" teenage girl?

How does a (divorced, remarried, half-custodial) Dad deal with his preteen daughters' impending, um, physical maturation? Not to put too fine a point on it, but if body shape is at all inherited, they're going to be very curvy soon. How can I help prepare them emotionally for how this will change things, and help them adjust when it does? How do *I* prepare and adjust? (No shotgun jokes please).
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2010 - 43 answers

Looking past the pizza face

I skipped out on most of the woes of growing up; I've never had issues with my figure (naturally wicked metabolism), never cared too much about social circle pressures, no issues with clothes and dressing up. But...I've always had issues with my skin. [more inside]
posted by Hakaisha on Jan 23, 2010 - 38 answers

"Do they have diets for kids?"

My 6 year old thinks she's fat. It's freaking me out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2010 - 45 answers

Films about the female image?

Do you know of any recent films - documentary or fiction, short or long - that have to do with the topic of idealized women's images, photo retouching, body/appearance enhancement, or related topics? Thanks.
posted by Miko on Jun 18, 2009 - 22 answers

Eating and Body Image

Help me put my eating and body image issues into perspective. [more inside]
posted by GComes on Apr 8, 2009 - 38 answers

Belly Photographs

BellyFilter: Trying to find the name of a photography exhibit that featured women's bellies. [more inside]
posted by megancita on Dec 20, 2008 - 3 answers

Body Image... Ugh.

Tips for improving persistently miserable body image? Warning: emo. [more inside]
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur on Dec 8, 2008 - 56 answers

How do I support my girlfriend's body image?

How do I support my girlfriend's body image? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2008 - 16 answers

Show me people who feel good about the way they look.

I'm looking for pictures that could serve as an antidote to "thinspiration". [more inside]
posted by arianell on Jul 18, 2008 - 20 answers

How to repair a shattered body image?

How to repair a shattered body image? [more inside]
posted by grippycat on Jul 10, 2008 - 51 answers

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