My wife is having a home birth with a water tub and midwife. The 2nd floor in our home makes the most sense for the tub in order to have access to a bedroom and other comforts. I am concerned about the weight. I have calculated the volume of water and the weight is around 3000 lbs. Is that too much weight for the floor? Have you had a birthing tub upstairs in your home? Any engineers want to chime in?
Should my husband and I get a doula to assist at my labor, which will be a medically-required induction at 39 weeks? [more inside]
My first child was born a few days ago, and I'm worried I'm not doing enough to capture how beautiful he is and how special these days are. Should I pay a photographer? Other ideas? Reassurance and perspective? [more inside]
I had a child back in 2003 but obviously the Web/tech/etc has changed a lot since then. My second child is due in August and I'd love to get pointers to the best current useful/entertaining tech/web resources for fathers. Basically, help me get back in the game!
I'm currently 5.5 months pregnant with my first, and I will need to decide soon whether to take any childbirth classes. Did you find classes worth it, and if so, are there any particular classes you recommend? [more inside]
I'm looking for podcasts that have in-depth, first person accounts of pregnancy and childbirth. [more inside]
(also known as cervical ripening balloon) Curious about other's experience with the balloon procedure? How painful or how much discomfort did you feel? [more inside]
Hey There Brilliant People! Could you please send me any film, tv or play suggestions that are about women going through pregnancy, the affect that has on their marriage, and women who work with doulas and midwives while pregnant? Thanks so much!
What can I do to minimize my risk of postpartum mental illness? If I can't completely prevent it, I'd at least like to catch and treat it as early as possible. [more inside]
My best friend just lost her third pregnancy. She and her husband have been trying to have a baby for 3 years. Her first and second losses were both in the first trimester, causes unknown. This most recent loss was especially horrible - they terminated after profound birth defects (as in: the baby could not survive outside the uterus) were detected on the 20-wk ultrasound. She's 36, and wonders if she'll ever be able to carry a healthy pregnancy to term. Should she give up trying to get pregnant and give birth? Anyone been down this road before and have good advice for her?
I would like to know your opinions about ejaculation inside the vagina and the risks of pregnancy, while using birth control. [more inside]
Can I fire my obstetrician for delivery, but keep her as a gynecologist thereafter? Do I want to? [more inside]
Wrapping up a pregnancy and a dissertation at the same time. Given the inherent badness of this idea, when is the least ill-advised time to schedule my defense? [more inside]
24 weeks pregnant, facing bedrest and woefully underprepared for the birth of this surprise baby. FMLA, bedrest and c-section questions inside. [more inside]
Please suggest, preferably with specific links, images that are metaphors for birth to be used for focusing on and creating visualizations during labor. [more inside]
My wife is due to give birth in the next three weeks or so. I'm interested to hear the experiences of other men about the day their wife or parter gave birth and also what the first few days and weeks thereafter were like. [more inside]
Anyone have any prenatal class recommendations in Vancouver, BC? [more inside]
I'm giving birth in a few weeks. What can I do for myself now that my husband and I will appreciate later? I'd love to have recipes, things I can order and whatever else you can think of. [more inside]
What should I be doing now to prepare for a c-section in approx. 10 weeks' time? And please share your experiences of having a baby with gastroschisis and/ or who is very small. [more inside]
Whoa, boy! Or...girl? Newly pregnant. Very, very unexpected. Second kid. What do I differently with this pregnancy? [more inside]
Tell me about your recovery after a cesarean section. [more inside]
How to negotiate difference of opinion between mum and dad on who should be present at baby's birth? [more inside]
What should I know / do / bring to help me make it through the pain and exhaustion of giving birth? [more inside]
After ~37wks of baking, our Little Spark is soon to emerge. Sonogram last week shows breech, size estimates via same sonogram say ~8# so far. Doc is now advising/arranging scheduled C-section. I'm not sure it's the right thing. Can you help me determine if I should push back & how hard? [more inside]
Can you recommend a midwife in Brooklyn? Or anything else about being pregnant and planning care in NYC? [more inside]
What's most important in choosing a doula - experience, warmth, or views on birth? [more inside]
Should I stay with my midwife practice, given a trustworthy account of a mismanaged case? This gets long, sorry. [more inside]
Is it worth it to switch practices just to have a better shot at getting a private room? [more inside]
My friend was expecting in early March, but still didn't call to announce the birth. Should I call or should I wait? [more inside]
I've been asked to babysit a woman who is 9 months pregnant tonight. What do I do if she goes into labour? [more inside]
Should we use a doula for our hospital birth? [more inside]
What's a good plan for post-partum family visits? [more inside]
How long after giving birth before sex becomes enjoyable again? [more inside]
ParanoidFilter: Is there *any* chance I could get pregnant? [more inside]
Three women I know, two of whom are pregnant and one of whom who had a baby three months ago, SWEAR that they were on the pill and taking it as instructed (same time every day, no missed pills) when they got pregnant. [more inside]
Is there any medical reason to disclose a past abortion (uncomplicated, several years ago, at 8 weeks) to my new OB-Gyn, who will (hopefully) be ushering me through a successful pregnancy and birth? There is no existing medical record that I know of, since the procedure was done at a clinic in another state, and wasn't claimed on insurance, because I didn't have any at the time.
My pregnant wife and I are traveling to Sausalito, California for a long weekend. She isn't due until late October, but just in case, where should we go if something starts to happen?. [more inside]
I wanted an unmedicated birth, but at 41 weeks and counting I've agreed to schedule an induction. How can I make the best of a less-than-ideal situation? [more inside]
Looking for a good midwife in NYC for a first time mother. [more inside]
One of my dearest friends is having a little girl later this month, and as her massage therapist, I get the honor of being present for the birth. If any other MTs, doulas, midwives or experienced moms and dads have suggestions for things to have on hand, techniqes for soothing the mom-to-be or general wisdom about the blessed event, I’d sure be grateful.
Was your toddler present at the birth of his or her sibling(s)? [more inside]