Advice wanted on how to use a carrot (instead of a stick) to reduce a bunch of very frustrating behavioral issues with our 5 year old... [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2005 -
ParentFilter: What do you do about an almost-three-year-old girl who screams excessively? [more inside]
posted by cerebus19
on Aug 16, 2005 -
I'm looking for statistics about how often the average Internet user changes his/her email address. [more inside]
posted by junkbox
on Jul 12, 2005 -
Dog behavior question: My friend recently adopted a 3-year-old dog from a shelter. It doesn't seem to "get" the whole idea of fetch and retrieve. [more inside]
posted by Brian James
on Jun 29, 2005 -
I have a four year old son who simply refuses to eat his meals in a timely fashion. This has been an ongoing problem since he was two years old and we've been trying various approaches, but have mainly been hoping that he grows out of it. But it's at the point that every single meal has become unpleasant because of his refusal to eat. [more inside]
posted by Lactoso
on Apr 13, 2005 -
Cat Filter. We just lost an elderly cat, leaving us with only one. Potato Chip is 4, spayed, playful, and large-and-in-charge. (Really, she's like 20 lbs.) She used to bully the older cat--eat her food, ambush her out of the litter box, etc.--and doesn't seem to notice that she's gone now. I like to have 2 cats around and intend to get another. My question is, how can I minimize the bullying and maximize the peace of our happy home? I'm thinking a kitten, since a kitten would naturally be submissive to an adult. Does that sound right? Should this kitten be male or female? (Neutering will be done before we bring new kitty home, if necessary.) Rambunctious or shy and retiring? It's really a crapshoot, I know, but all opinions are welcomed.
posted by scratch
on Feb 2, 2005 -
I just took a nap, and was having a really interesting dream--which I can't remember right now, except for the ending, in which someone poked me in the stomach, waking me up.
When I woke up, my cat had just jumped up on me, and was pressing her paw into my stomach. I'm amazed that this was translated into the dream so quickly, but it's happened to me before with other things, like sounds. Does anyone know how the brain can so quickly react to "reality" stimuli and so quickly convert them into dream material? [more inside]
posted by interrobang
on Jan 24, 2005 -
Do you have any experience in dealing with smart, energetic kids with impulse problems and oppositional attitudes, with or without ADHD diagnosis? We're looking for dietary, behavioral modification or even meds suggestions. [MI] [more inside]
posted by sacre_bleu
on Jan 23, 2005 -
What is the best way to tell a potentially over sensitive co-worker that clipping her fingernails is not an appropriate thing to do in the office?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 28, 2004 -
In what gentle manner have you informed a roommate that his/her chemically affected behavior is affecting you? More inside.
posted by goofyfoot
on Dec 22, 2004 -
My best friend, who lives about 300 miles away from me, and I had made plans to get together for Christmas, along with our other best friend, for whom I paid 600 bucks to fly out here so we all could be together. Now 300-mile away best friend has e-mailed me with a weak excuse and cancelled his visit here. I know he's not adjusting well to his new home, and seems to be isolating himself from everyone, including me. I'm hurt and angry. How best to address this situation?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2004 -
My apartment-mate has a rage problem. It used to be once a month or so he would have a tantrum that involved smashing dishes and lightbulbs, overturning furniture, tearing down posters, and ripping up papers. Lately it's gotten to be a weekly thing. I used to feel sympathetic and I talked with him about his problems, but I've lost my patience and I'm sick of being caught in this. Several of his friends have tried getting him to go see a college counselor but he won't go. If I could, I would just leave the apartment, but it's impossible until my contract is up in June. Does anyone have any suggestions for getting him to chill out when he's in the middle of a tantrum? Or any suggestions for convincing him to get counseling, try medication, anything?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2004 -
You know how sometimes that black sharpie and an empty desk seem like a canvas? You know how tempting it is to draw on that work desk? I do. I have bitten into my forbidden fruit and woe is me. "Porthole Multi-Purpose Glass and Surface Cleaner" got it to he point of being faded. A slow Tuesday has elevated me to the gossip of the day after my little cartoon drawings were discovered. The surface is standard office/cubicle fare. The area is perhaps 6"x8". Save me! [more inside]
posted by geoff.
on Oct 19, 2004 -
When was the last time that anyone convinced you to change your mind about something important? (e.g. politics, religion, job, boyfriend/girlfriend, lifestyle, haircut, annoying personal habits.) How did they do it? [mi]
posted by armchairsocialist
on Oct 11, 2004 -
Bad behavior with alcohol as an excuse: what's the worst thing you ever stole while inebriated (larceny only objects; some guy/girl's heart doesn't count.) [more inside]
posted by filmgeek
on Oct 1, 2004 -
Is there a way to gently steer someone away from constant Simpsons or Monty Python quoting? [MI] [more inside]
posted by milovoo
on Sep 8, 2004 -
A very bright acquaintance of mine, personable, well adjusted, loving dad, relaxes by watching the same short scenes from a favorite movie (LOTR, Matrix, etc.). He'll watch the same scene every night for months. He says that when the line is delivered, he feels complete and can go to bed. Is this common? Does this behavior have a name?
posted by kk
on Aug 30, 2004 -
So, I want to run away from home. No, I'm not a disaffected teenager, I'm a disaffected twenty-something who needs to decide My Future. (More is to be found on the inside for your convenience.) [more inside]
posted by lychee
on Jun 10, 2004 -
When I open the doors and windows sometimes these little gnats/flies come in and proceed to fly in small circles in the center of the room. I am sure many of you are familiar with this. What are they? Why are they doing this? (more inside) [more inside]
posted by vacapinta
on May 24, 2004 -
CatPeeFilter: Why does our cat pee on our clothes, and how can I stop her? (more inside) [more inside]
posted by jennyb
on May 12, 2004 -
In the gray, Mathowie wrote, "it's my hope that all Americans take part in the democratic process ... I'm kinda pissed that American Idol logs half as many votes as the entire last presidential election every wednesday night. Get out there and vote, people!" I admit that I haven't voted in ten years. Why should I? [More inside.] [more inside]
posted by grumblebee
on Apr 23, 2004 -
Can anyone recommend some good online resources that might help someone going through the breakup of a long term relationship? More along the lines of emotional support rather than legal.
posted by btwillig
on Apr 20, 2004 -
I haven't been on a plane since 2000 (before a certain terrorist attack) and I have a trip next week so is there anything i really need to know? Can I bring food, pencils, fingernail files, etc. onboard with me? Should i be careful what i say out loud? Are people gonna stop me wherever I go?
posted by Slimemonster
on Apr 13, 2004 -
Why do dogs behave differently towards different people, and how can an owner adjust that behavior? (More inside) [more inside]
posted by ferociouskitty
on Apr 4, 2004 -
AskCatFilter: I've had cats almost all my life; currently my girlfriend and I have three of them. One of them has an odd behavior that I've never noticed before, and I can't seem to figure out. [More Inside] [more inside]
posted by jammer
on Mar 18, 2004 -
Why are sexually promiscuous men "studs" and sexually promiscuous women "sluts"? And on that note, is it studly or slutty to hook up with one person on a Monday and go out with a different person on a Tuesday? Just asking.
posted by adrober
on Dec 16, 2003 -
When I perform some everyday tasks, or walk past certain locations, I think the exact
same things every time. It isn't just me, is it? Is there a term for these unbidden little standard thoughts, and can I train myself to stop thinking them? [examples inside] [more inside]
posted by jack_mo
on Dec 15, 2003 -