I've been racking my brain trying to figure out if there is a specific word or term that defines the following behavior: when someone says "I know you don't/said (x) but ..." For example: "I know you said you don't drink coffee, but this one is really good and you should drink it" or "I know you said you're really busy with your job and new baby but I would really like you to take the time to email me and tell me what's new with you." I'm not looking for words or phrases that ambiguously describe how this behavior makes an individual feel (e.g. "annoying") but rather something that would be used as a clinical definition to refer to this particular behavior (e.g. "passive-aggressive," "gaslighting," etc.)
My wife and I have a corgi/heeler mix who will be two years old in May. She's an absolute sweetheart most of the time but gets into foul moods occasionally where she will snarl and bite. Once she's in a bad mood she tends to stay that way for a few hours. How can we correct that behavior? [more inside]
I’m interested in learning more about the phenomenon where people who experience a particular scenario become especially focused on that scenario, to the exclusion of other scenarios that may be statistically more likely, and possibly even leading to irrational or risky behavior. [more inside]
I have a problem with my little sister's baby daddy. He's racist, bigoted, irresponsible, and I can see that he's a bad person for my sister and their child. It's driving me crazy, and being around him is breaking my heart. What can/should I do? Warning: some derogatory language within. [more inside]
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics?
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
How to help child struggling in kindergarten? [more inside]
Stress eating well on the way into binge eating. How do I stop it?! [more inside]
What is up with my boyfriend's cat? Do cats "sense" certain things? [more inside]
How can we prevent our cat from ambushing the other cat when he uses the litter? [more inside]
My child hates/refuses to wear outdoor clothing? HELP! [more inside]
Milgram Experiment: Give me examples of other psychological experiments which involved false pretenses. [more inside]
I'm looking for any data that supports that conversion rates for trial offers are higher when there is a nominal cost for the product or service versus a FREE offer.
What are some cognitive hacks to interrupt yourself when you can tell you're falling into a borderline obsessive behavior?
What are some cognitive hacks to interrupt yourself when you can tell you're falling into a borderline obsessive behavior? [more inside]
What did I do that was inappropriate in my consultation with this gardener/ landscape designer? [more inside]
With a new neighborhood comes new neighborhood cats, and one of our indoor cats is freaking out. What do we do about this? [more inside]
I'm reckless, it's expensive. How do I change? [more inside]
My dog "chews" bed sheets. She leaves no holes, which is why I use quotation marks. She sits on the floor close to the bed and nibbles with her front teeth on the edge of the bed. She's done this for years; she's an eight year old pit bull. Does anyone know why she does this?
How to have eyes on the back of your head and stop a teenager in their tracks when bullshitting and breaking the rules? [more inside]
Among narratives about visitations by the "Grey" aliens, are there any that talk about what cats do during the alien encounter? Do they just chill all cool-style? Do they FREAK OUT. Do they meow a lot or do they hiss or do they go hide someplace? Do they even try to bite the aliens (would be v. brave, imo). For the purposes of this question, let's allow both ostensibly fictional narratives and ostensibly real ones.
Why is our dog suddenly being an asshole? [more inside]
Help me understand my ex girlfriend's recent behavior. VERY LONG [more inside]
What's the best approach when my puppy growls and snap at people and other animals? [more inside]
I started a new job in a completely new place and I want to be the best colleague I can be. What are some tips or commonsense things for me to remember and internalize about appropriate workplace behavior? [more inside]
I watch a 10-year-old girl whose behavior is very strange and I'd like to get to the bottom of it. She's a family member, and no one seems to take me very seriously when I mention her oddities. I spend ~20 hours with her weekly, and the more time I spend with her, the more concerned I am. Many details inside. [more inside]
How normal is it for my neutered male cat to act very un-neutered? [more inside]
Help me understand dogs. [more inside]
I just had a really upsetting/scary interaction with someone I've been dating/sleeping with and I'm not sure where to go from here. [more inside]
I would like to use a single smartphone app to track a customizable set of personal attributes and/or behaviors. For instance, I would like to track my daily weight, peak flows, alcoholic beverages consumed, run distances, and hours slept. I would like to do this with a single app, and not an app for each attribute/behavior being tracked. [more inside]
Cat Problems. We have a 7 year old cat who has always been mean to others, but loving and affectionate with us. Recently this has changed. What other options can I explore, as I don't want to give the little jerk up. Details (lots) Inside. [more inside]
How have you convinced your cat to let you sleep? (The cat who howls in the night). [more inside]
Cat bit the crap out of wife. Is locking in garage for punishment productive? [more inside]
My 16 month old son throws his cup or his food when he no longer wants it. Not emotional, not a tantrum, definitely willful. The boy looks us straight in the eye and throws. He doesn't seem to respond to a harsh "No!" or the more empathetic, gentle "we set our cup down nicely" approach. I am assuming this is pretty standard kid behavior, but is there anyway to curtail this behavior in a kind, constructive and effective manner? He is pretty happy, easy going little guy, right now.
In our two cat, one dog household, we are considering purchasing one of the many available Ultrasonic bark control systems (not the Collar versions!) Would the emitted sounds be audible to / affect the cats in the same way its intended to do for the dog? [more inside]
Stubborn 12-year-old with primary retentive encopresis. Refuses help. What to do? [more inside]
How can you tell if a child really needs help with something, or if they're just seeking attention? [more inside]
I'm casually critical much of the time. I'd like to change that. I'd especially like to stop casually criticizing and reflexively disagreeing with loved ones. [more inside]
I love my new kitty, Agent Cooper, beyond all reason. He's 1 year old and was a stray, and he's been living with me for a month now. The problem is, he's a biter. I'm pretty sure it's an OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, CHOMP! kind of bite, but I want to be sure I am reading, and handling, his behavior correctly. [more inside]
Can you recommend a great cognitive behavior therapist in the Loop, Chicago? Extra brownie points for one in North Loop. PS. On second thought, any tips on how to choose a therapist in the first place? What should I be looking for in a therapist? I want to minimize therapist hopping.
What is the word (not necessarily in English) for feeling acute embarrassment for another person? And in a particular kind of situation... [more inside]
Does being passionate about something means you can let go of things you wouldn't in other situations? [more inside]
How can I keep my cats calm during very, VERY noisy construction outside our apartment. [more inside]
How do I cat-proof a bookshelf and desk? My cats like to climb on my bookshelf and desk and knock things off of them, sometimes for fun and sometimes to get my attention. I would like them to stop doing this. [more inside]
I work at an animal shelter and someone gave us white doves. There's a mom, dad, and son. Originally the son was very young and his feathers weren't grown in, so we kept them together. Now he is a young adult and both he & his dad are doing the "bow & coo" aggressive stance at each other. Should I separate him from his parents? I know doves shouldn't be alone, but they are getting territorial at this point, so what should we do?
OK, I know this is the perennial AskMe "My cat does this crazy thing" question, and that the answer will be the eternal "because cats are weird", but I want to find out if anyone else's cat does this. When my spouse is laughing loudly, for instance (but not exclusively) in response to being tickled, my cat will launch himself at him and attempt to bite him (fortunately, it's always been through clothes). This has happened three times. It was not a playful bite, but rather a full-on chomp. The cat is very sweet at all other times, if occasionally a bit jumpy. Has anyone else seen this behavior, or have any idea what's going on, or how to make the cat less reactive to loud laughter?
Please help me find examples of animals or creatures of different types that work together toward a shared goal. I'm trying to use it to illustrate the principle that a group working together can succeed more quickly or get farther than individuals working alone. [more inside]
I feel like I just have moment-to-moment mindsets; that I have no underlying unitary will. Help? [more inside]
My boyfriend thinks about being with other women. I don't mean sexually. Is this normal? [more inside]
1-2-3 Magic filter: How do you count in the car? [more inside]
How do I set boundaries with people while staying true to my accepting, easy going nature? [more inside]
Katzenfilter: How can I make the second cat selection process easier on first cat? [more inside]