Hello wits's end, I'm looking at you: what in the everloving hell am I going to do with my 3.75 son? We are on Day 12 of him being out of school due to Christmas holidays and I have about had it. I have been riding the trantrum train for several days now and I am out of ideas for how to proceed. [more inside]
Can children detect on some level when love is not genuine? An example would be when a parent is affectionate to spite their own parents as if to say "This is what you were supposed to do with me," rather than doing so out of a genuine feeling towards the child. Acting the part without the emotion and connection to back it. Can this be perceived by the child and perhaps effect their emotional development? If so, to what degree could this hinder them in the long term?
A friend's dog has an unusual behavior. It he sees someone with shoes on, in other words walking or sometimes just standing, he goes nuts. I goes into a play bow and starts biting the shoes. Sometimes he succeeds in biting through a tennis shoe, for example, which is painful. If you move your feet, he thinks you are playing and becomes more aggressive. He will stare at the shoes looking for the slightest hint of movement. If someone tries to correct him, usually by saying no loudly, he pulls back and barks and maybe takes a swipe at a hand and becomes aggressive. I can sometimes get him to stop by holding on to his collar until he snaps out of it. But that is difficult to do sometimes. Otherwise this dog could care less about shoes. If there is a shoe on the floor he leaves it alone. But put on shoes and watch out. Any ideas how to correct this behavior? He is about a 2 year old lab mix, if that matters.
Although I am quite introverted, I have a tendency to overshare. I don't think my behavior is beyond the realm of normal-- nobody has ever indicated to me that I made them uncomfortable. Still, I would like to be more able to keep my struggles, emotions, thoughts, and frustrations more contained. Sometimes when I am really frustrated or confused about something, I will find a moderately close friend to vent to, but then later on have some mild feelings of "maybe they didn't really need to know that about me..." [more inside]
My cat seems to have developed a sudden fear of... moving dark things? Taking my black jacket off or putting it on sends her running for the bed for hours. And I just reached for my purse on the couch, and the motion of the big black purse sent her scurrying too. No idea what could have triggered this. How do I get her relax again? [more inside]
Can I explain to someone how their negative behaviors are putting me off, but maintain an amicable relationship with them? I get too emotional to find fair words. [more inside]
Gray wolves mate for life, honeybees know the world is round and ducks have corkscrew penises. Tell me more! I'm looking for thoughtful and fascinating introductions to the features, behaviors and "character" of particular species of animal. [more inside]
Is it normal for a squirrel to eat a rat? [more inside]
I am not a cat person, but my wife likes cats, so we have one. Our cat consistently uses the litter box (which is much more than I can say for the last cat we had). However, she almost never buries it, and the odor is, of course, offensive. [more inside]
I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately I've been feeling like all of the adults I know are more mature and adult-like in the way they hold themselves and behave than I am. I don't know how to get that or be more like that. What am I doing wrong? What to do? [more inside]
Help me help my neighbor's dog (and mine) learn to share. [more inside]
I have an adult (5ish years old) foster cat who is very friendly and mostly trusts us (we've had her for over 2 years now). She's very loving but is very much her own cat, and would prefer her space be respected at times. I'd like for her to express her moods in non-biting ways. [more inside]
Someone in a position of authority, whose professional endorsement I'm seeking, put me in an awkward position. [more inside]
Please help me to help my cat and new dog get along. [more inside]
Three cats all have allergies and overgrooming issues. What might be causing this? [more inside]
I have never had many close friends or intimate relationships, and i know that other people find my behaviour off-putting. But due to politeness, nobody will tell me! What profession's job is to just plain tell me what's not ok with my basic behaviour (eg voice volume, personal space) so i can stop pushing everyone away without meaning to? Thanks! [more inside]
So, we recently moved from a small apartment to a big apartment, about 3x size of the old one. Tiny dog has adjusted well, except for one thing: he runs around the house, to get from Point A to Point B. Walking no longer occurs. We'd really like him to walk like a civilized beast again, if possible. [more inside]
How can a person be more aware of their personality flaws? [more inside]
I've recently been told that I act boyish by several people and I do not entirely understand what this means nor can anyone who has said this actually explain it well (versus being "a man"). I'm an adult male, and understand that this kind of behavior may be an obstacle to dating women and finding a girlfriend. I tend to joke around a lot (especially with women), but a lot of people joke around, so it's difficult for me to equate joking around with boyishness. I also laugh a lot. One female friend said that I'm like "a little boy" and that she felt comfortable talking to me(otherwise she has almost no other male friends). I have a job, my own place to live, no roommates, a car. All adult, responsible things so I can't see these comments about being boyish related to lacking responsibility. Does anyone have any specific examples of behaviors, ways of interacting, or conversations that they consider to be boyish? Thanks for your help
I received some feedback recently that I come across as arrogant, condescending, and pretentious. How can I stop coming across this way, externally? How can I get at the root of underlying attitudes, internally? [more inside]
Was I being creepy / out of line when I offered this girl a ride? [more inside]
I have a 3-year-old pomeranian that has suddenly decided he wants to get under and behind all the furniture. [more inside]
So here is the traditional routine: I get up in the morning or I come home from work. I get dressed or change out of work clothes. Here is what happens... [more inside]
What is this particular behavior called? [more inside]
OK, weird question this week, but I have wondered about this for a while. I've noticed in public bathrooms there are a lot of men who either 1) spit in the urinal continuously while peeing or 2) keep pulling the flush handle while standing there pissing or 3) do both of these at the same time. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for why to do this, but I am curious as to your speculations about why they are doing it. Is the spitting some way of being macho? Is the constant flushing some way of disposing that which is "dirty"? the "normative" behavior is to piss and then flush, so why this variant (which also wastes a lot of water BTW)? Why the combination of both spitting and flushing? I think we may reveal something about male psychology or social ideology here.
I am looking for books or movies where someone is unknowingly drugged in such a way that it changes their behavior/personality but there are no obvious side effects like blackouts or hallucinations. [more inside]
I've been racking my brain trying to figure out if there is a specific word or term that defines the following behavior: when someone says "I know you don't/said (x) but ..." For example: "I know you said you don't drink coffee, but this one is really good and you should drink it" or "I know you said you're really busy with your job and new baby but I would really like you to take the time to email me and tell me what's new with you." I'm not looking for words or phrases that ambiguously describe how this behavior makes an individual feel (e.g. "annoying") but rather something that would be used as a clinical definition to refer to this particular behavior (e.g. "passive-aggressive," "gaslighting," etc.)
My wife and I have a corgi/heeler mix who will be two years old in May. She's an absolute sweetheart most of the time but gets into foul moods occasionally where she will snarl and bite. Once she's in a bad mood she tends to stay that way for a few hours. How can we correct that behavior? [more inside]
I’m interested in learning more about the phenomenon where people who experience a particular scenario become especially focused on that scenario, to the exclusion of other scenarios that may be statistically more likely, and possibly even leading to irrational or risky behavior. [more inside]
I have a problem with my little sister's baby daddy. He's racist, bigoted, irresponsible, and I can see that he's a bad person for my sister and their child. It's driving me crazy, and being around him is breaking my heart. What can/should I do? Warning: some derogatory language within. [more inside]
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics?
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
How to help child struggling in kindergarten? [more inside]
Stress eating well on the way into binge eating. How do I stop it?! [more inside]
What is up with my boyfriend's cat? Do cats "sense" certain things? [more inside]
How can we prevent our cat from ambushing the other cat when he uses the litter? [more inside]
My child hates/refuses to wear outdoor clothing? HELP! [more inside]
Milgram Experiment: Give me examples of other psychological experiments which involved false pretenses. [more inside]
I'm looking for any data that supports that conversion rates for trial offers are higher when there is a nominal cost for the product or service versus a FREE offer.
What are some cognitive hacks to interrupt yourself when you can tell you're falling into a borderline obsessive behavior?
What are some cognitive hacks to interrupt yourself when you can tell you're falling into a borderline obsessive behavior? [more inside]
What did I do that was inappropriate in my consultation with this gardener/ landscape designer? [more inside]
With a new neighborhood comes new neighborhood cats, and one of our indoor cats is freaking out. What do we do about this? [more inside]
I'm reckless, it's expensive. How do I change? [more inside]
My dog "chews" bed sheets. She leaves no holes, which is why I use quotation marks. She sits on the floor close to the bed and nibbles with her front teeth on the edge of the bed. She's done this for years; she's an eight year old pit bull. Does anyone know why she does this?
How to have eyes on the back of your head and stop a teenager in their tracks when bullshitting and breaking the rules? [more inside]
Among narratives about visitations by the "Grey" aliens, are there any that talk about what cats do during the alien encounter? Do they just chill all cool-style? Do they FREAK OUT. Do they meow a lot or do they hiss or do they go hide someplace? Do they even try to bite the aliens (would be v. brave, imo). For the purposes of this question, let's allow both ostensibly fictional narratives and ostensibly real ones.
Why is our dog suddenly being an asshole? [more inside]
Help me understand my ex girlfriend's recent behavior. VERY LONG [more inside]
What's the best approach when my puppy growls and snap at people and other animals? [more inside]
I started a new job in a completely new place and I want to be the best colleague I can be. What are some tips or commonsense things for me to remember and internalize about appropriate workplace behavior? [more inside]
I watch a 10-year-old girl whose behavior is very strange and I'd like to get to the bottom of it. She's a family member, and no one seems to take me very seriously when I mention her oddities. I spend ~20 hours with her weekly, and the more time I spend with her, the more concerned I am. Many details inside. [more inside]