I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
I'm having problems controlling my temper, every so often, with my child, who is increasingly pressing my buttons. I would like advice on how to not forget myself and spank this child when my temper is piqued (usually by hitting, kicking, or spitting). [more inside]
How do I tell my responsible boyfriend that his behavior is more similar to a fifteen-year old and could be professional disastrous for him? [more inside]
Can I explain to someone how their negative behaviors are putting me off, but maintain an amicable relationship with them? I get too emotional to find fair words. [more inside]
I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately I've been feeling like all of the adults I know are more mature and adult-like in the way they hold themselves and behave than I am. I don't know how to get that or be more like that. What am I doing wrong? What to do? [more inside]
Someone in a position of authority, whose professional endorsement I'm seeking, put me in an awkward position. [more inside]
I received some feedback recently that I come across as arrogant, condescending, and pretentious. How can I stop coming across this way, externally? How can I get at the root of underlying attitudes, internally? [more inside]
How to help child struggling in kindergarten? [more inside]
I started a new job in a completely new place and I want to be the best colleague I can be. What are some tips or commonsense things for me to remember and internalize about appropriate workplace behavior? [more inside]
I'm casually critical much of the time. I'd like to change that. I'd especially like to stop casually criticizing and reflexively disagreeing with loved ones. [more inside]
I feel like I just have moment-to-moment mindsets; that I have no underlying unitary will. Help? [more inside]
How to get inappropriate fellow volunteer banned from our historical archives? [more inside]
Why is my normally well behaved dog suddenly aggressive toward preteen and teenage boys? I have a 2 1/2 year old male german shepherd who is very well trained and usually extremely happy and well behaved. He is from a breeder that has 30 years of experience breeding working german shepherds and his easy going temperment is one of the things we love about him. Until a week ago I would not have hesitated to let any toddler or child pet him or interact with him. Suddenly he has exhibited an extreme dislike for preteen and teenage boys. [more inside]
I am required to interact with an individual who is rude, unpleasant, and socially retarded. I can't take it anymore and don't know what to do. [more inside]
How to work with a divorced parents dating situation where you love the guy one-on-one, but his relationship with his daughter is another, entirely more problematic issue? [more inside]
I'm a female in my late twenties, and, well... I'd like to be more elegant. Classier. There isn't anyone I'm trying to impress except myself, I guess. I just realized that most of the women I look up to in my life all seem so graceful in their manners, speech, and the way they treat others. I would love to be like that! So, how can I learn to be? Would you recommend any books or tips? [more inside]
My dog is interfering in bedroom activities. I need help figuring out how to handle this. [NSFW/potential TMI details] [more inside]
Are my nieces and nephews being abused and if so, how do I go about getting them to open up? [more inside]
How can I get over my continual annoyance with a family member? [more inside]
My fiance has two cats. I've never been a cat person, and am worried about what's going to happen in a few weeks when we move in and the cats become our cats. [more inside]
I want to stop being seen as odd or eccentric. What can I do? [more inside]
I don't know how to resolve the problem between my boyfriend and I over the question of whether I spend too much time on the computer "typing". [more inside]
I need to stop swearing, speak more softly, and in general become a more "ladylike" (I hate that word) person. Please please help me. [more inside]
Is this cat beyond help? [more inside]
Need advice on child psychologist or family therapist in Northern Virginia/DC area. [more inside]
How best to confront a friend about inappropriate drunken/buzzed behavior when they don't have many other friends?
How best to confront a friend about inappropriate drunken/buzzed behavior when they don't have many other friends? (Apologies for lengthy explanation below). [more inside]
Why was my boyfriend so extravagantly romantic with his ex but not with me? [more inside]
How do I get terrible images and memories out of my head? [more inside]
Advice wanted on how to use a carrot (instead of a stick) to reduce a bunch of very frustrating behavioral issues with our 5 year old... [more inside]
What is the best way to tell a potentially over sensitive co-worker that clipping her fingernails is not an appropriate thing to do in the office?
My best friend, who lives about 300 miles away from me, and I had made plans to get together for Christmas, along with our other best friend, for whom I paid 600 bucks to fly out here so we all could be together. Now 300-mile away best friend has e-mailed me with a weak excuse and cancelled his visit here. I know he's not adjusting well to his new home, and seems to be isolating himself from everyone, including me. I'm hurt and angry. How best to address this situation?
My apartment-mate has a rage problem. It used to be once a month or so he would have a tantrum that involved smashing dishes and lightbulbs, overturning furniture, tearing down posters, and ripping up papers. Lately it's gotten to be a weekly thing. I used to feel sympathetic and I talked with him about his problems, but I've lost my patience and I'm sick of being caught in this. Several of his friends have tried getting him to go see a college counselor but he won't go. If I could, I would just leave the apartment, but it's impossible until my contract is up in June. Does anyone have any suggestions for getting him to chill out when he's in the middle of a tantrum? Or any suggestions for convincing him to get counseling, try medication, anything?