I have never had many close friends or intimate relationships, and i know that other people find my behaviour off-putting. But due to politeness, nobody will tell me! What profession's job is to just plain tell me what's not ok with my basic behaviour (eg voice volume, personal space) so i can stop pushing everyone away without meaning to? Thanks!
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posted by maiamaia
on Apr 15, 2013 -
30 answers
So here is the traditional routine: I get up in the morning or I come home from work. I get dressed or change out of work clothes. Here is what happens...
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posted by michellenoel
on Feb 26, 2013 -
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I am looking for books or movies where someone is unknowingly drugged in such a way that it changes their behavior/personality but there are no obvious side effects like blackouts or hallucinations.
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posted by 99percentfake
on Jan 29, 2013 -
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I've been racking my brain trying to figure out if there is a specific word or term that defines the following behavior: when someone says "
I know you don't/said (x) but ..." For example:
"I know you said you don't drink coffee, but this one is really good and you should drink it" or
"I know you said you're really busy with your job and new baby but I would really like you to take the time to email me and tell me what's new with you." I'm not looking for words or phrases that ambiguously describe how this behavior makes an individual feel (e.g. "annoying") but rather something that would be used as a clinical definition to refer to this particular behavior (e.g. "passive-aggressive," "gaslighting," etc.)
posted by matrushka
on Jan 15, 2013 -
28 answers
What did I do that was inappropriate in my consultation with this gardener/ landscape designer?
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posted by steinwald
on Sep 22, 2012 -
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I watch a 10-year-old girl whose behavior is very strange and I'd like to get to the bottom of it. She's a family member, and no one seems to take me very seriously when I mention her oddities. I spend ~20 hours with her weekly, and the more time I spend with her, the more concerned I am. Many details inside.
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posted by sarahgrace
on Jul 2, 2012 -
62 answers
My 16 month old son throws his cup or his food when he no longer wants it. Not emotional, not a tantrum, definitely willful. The boy looks us straight in the eye and throws. He doesn't seem to respond to a harsh "No!" or the more empathetic, gentle "we set our cup down nicely" approach. I am assuming this is pretty standard kid behavior, but is there anyway to curtail this behavior in a kind, constructive and effective manner? He is pretty happy, easy going little guy, right now.
posted by flesti
on Apr 20, 2012 -
30 answers
How do I cat-proof a bookshelf and desk? My cats like to climb on my bookshelf and desk and knock things off of them, sometimes for fun and sometimes to get my attention. I would like them to stop doing this.
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posted by schroedinger
on Dec 30, 2011 -
32 answers
I work at an animal shelter and someone gave us white doves. There's a mom, dad, and son. Originally the son was very young and his feathers weren't grown in, so we kept them together. Now he is a young adult and both he & his dad are doing the "bow & coo" aggressive stance at each other. Should I separate him from his parents? I know doves shouldn't be alone, but they are getting territorial at this point, so what should we do?
posted by ktoad
on Nov 22, 2011 -
4 answers
What are the interesting traits, habits or facts that
you can pick up on just by looking at someone?
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posted by Fat Elvis
on Apr 14, 2011 -
104 answers
A close friend of mine has a young dog with tendency to run off
without her when let off-leash. Any suggestions on how to curb this bad behavior?
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posted by Kikkoman
on Jan 14, 2011 -
29 answers
“We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions.” What behaviors communicate to others that we care about them and the world in general?
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posted by Deathalicious
on Jan 2, 2011 -
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Adopted cat doesn't seem to be warming up to us. We've had her for about 7 months now. She doesn't like to be petted or touched and often bites very hard if Mr. Stardust or I have to do so. Can we get her used to being touched, or should we leave her alone? Further details within.
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posted by Kitty Stardust
on Nov 13, 2010 -
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this is a typical example of what my dog does when I arrive at home. He is 5 years old and has always been this way. Help us get him under control.
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posted by morganannie
on Oct 25, 2010 -
31 answers
Are there any great books out there about whining? My toddler is well on her way to becoming a regional champ & it's a problem.
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posted by Ys
on Sep 10, 2010 -
24 answers
Any great books on urban anthropology? In addition, what could I do with a Deviant Behavior degree?
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posted by delasoull
on Aug 22, 2010 -
8 answers
I'd like to add a kitten to the family. However, I have a
toy fox terrier which makes this difficult. Every cat I've had in the past would eventually begin stalking the dog, pawing him on his hindquarters and biting his neck. The dog would cower 24/7 and I ultimately needed to keep them in separate areas of the house, at all times, to protect him.
I've tried various methods to prevent this, but since the last time I've owned a cat was over five years ago I'm open to re-trying anything.
posted by biochemist
on Jun 16, 2010 -
12 answers
Friend has changed significantly after having a baby. Is this normal? How can I continue to be supportive when she's difficult to be around?
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posted by pecanpies
on May 20, 2010 -
19 answers
How to work with a divorced parents dating situation where you love the guy one-on-one, but his relationship with his daughter is another, entirely more problematic issue?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2010 -
37 answers
My coworker is saying things that I'm not sure are inappropriate or considered harassment. Where's the line, and what do I do about it?
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posted by Lizsterr
on Jan 25, 2010 -
54 answers
A group of 11-year-old kids under my wife's supervision got out of control and were disruptive to the library they were meeting in. How can we make it up to the library/ its patrons, and ensure that something like this doesn't happen again?
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posted by Jpfed
on Nov 19, 2009 -
31 answers
Not really worried, more just curious about my cat and how she's been drinking water...she dips her paw and then licks the water from it, repeatedly.
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posted by nevercalm
on Nov 9, 2009 -
38 answers
When is it time to get rid of the dog? Fiance's poorly-trained dog has bitten me three times. I'm nervous about moving in with them and our future children. What do I do?
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posted by emkelley
on Nov 3, 2009 -
52 answers
My dog is not eating, but the situation is not the same as previous questions, as far as I can tell. Please see inside for detail
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posted by lootie777
on Sep 26, 2009 -
15 answers
How do I stop acting like a complete weirdo? It freaks people out, which freaks me out, which freaks them out more on and on in an infinite cycle.
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posted by wiretap
on Jul 15, 2009 -
44 answers
I agreed to cat-sit. Now the cat is destroying my apartment, my sanity and my 401K (no wait, the stock market did that). Please help me.
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posted by Valuev
on May 15, 2009 -
24 answers
Newly adopted male cat yowling in the nighttime. Help me assess the situation, because my landlord has expressed concern about male cats continuing to exhibit male behavior even after alteration.
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posted by dorothy humbird
on Dec 9, 2008 -
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House mate's cat keeps peeing in my bed; compounded by said house mate's neglectful attitude towards household chores in general. Ideas to keep the cat off my bed (and not just from peeing on it i.e. permanent cat repellent)? and suggestions for addressing the larger issue at hand?
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posted by weakcore
on Dec 4, 2008 -
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I recently adopted a 2 yr. old Shih Tzu from the pound. He's been to the vet and has a clean bill of health. He's settled very well into things here and I'd like to start working on training him. After reading about several different methods I find clicker training the most interesting but I've never done it before. Anyone have any suggestions or tips?
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posted by lysistrata
on Nov 26, 2008 -
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I'm looking for ways to change my behavior. It's important for various reasons that I start reinforcing some behaviors and stopping others. I'm a procrastinator for one, and tend to start projects and not finish them for another. Is there a research backed methodology for doing so?
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posted by diode
on Aug 22, 2008 -
11 answers
I have a dog with several long-lasting behavioral issues. I'm at my wit's end. HELP?
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posted by CwgrlUp
on May 2, 2008 -
16 answers
