I have two cats, 8 and 5 years old (neutered males). They're very sweet, but they are destructive terrors. What can I do? Have you had this problem and fixed it? [more inside]
I am going to a classical music concert tonight at a fancy venue. It's a 2 hour concert indoors with assigned seating and I would absolutely love to bring my knitting with me. I am not sitting anywhere near the front, I will be sitting in the main orchestra level. I would be using bamboo needles, which don't make any sounds and aren't reflective. Is it rude to fellow concertgoers to be knitting openly during the concert?
So, I have friends who run fitness programs and help many people. I introduced a "friend" who I met through work but distanced myself from her because she's racist. She says pretty shitty things about black people but once she knows what you're into, she panders. I don't trust her and don't feel emotionally safe. [more inside]
I'm looking for things that have been proven to be correlated directly but which aren't expected. So something I wouldn't want: people who have sex more are happier overall. What I would want: people who have sex more are more likely to choose grape soda over orange when offered both ( I wish I didn't have to say I made that up :)) anything you think applies to this, bring it on.
My parents' dog is not allowed inside the house. I let her inside for two nights because it was very hot -- 105F -- outside. But now any time I go inside and leave her alone, she's frantic and begs to be let in. She already has separation anxiety. [more inside]
My case is very similar to this woman's story. Otherwise I feel I'm at my wits end regarding this issue. Would appreciate thoughtful answers, as I've asked this in other forums and have gotten some of the jealous lot who say I must be a flirt, I must dress sexy, I'm a hoe, etc. -- which all are not true and are really the opposite. I have strict rules of having male friends to only past work colleagues, classmates and social circles. [more inside]
Our older female cat just got annoyed with the baby and tried to bite the baby. What should we do? [more inside]
How can I help a young child who has recently lost a parent? [more inside]
My cat and I are in a bedroom-door war. It has been a protracted and emotional conflict. Please help. [more inside]
My ex and I share custody of our three children. She is very lenient and doting; I encourage self-reliance and responsibility within a structured framework. She is a helicopter, I am a safety net. [more inside]
My nearly-7-year old is having a very difficult time losing. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
It seems that we have a dog coming to live with us tonight. She's a rescue and apparently doesn't know how to be a dog. How do we teach her this? [more inside]
My cats don't get along. What are good, proven ways to calm them down? [more inside]
My cat Omar is a huge orange-and-white 7 year old domestic short-haired male, and he's pretty well-behaved most of the time (if a bit suspicious and stand-offish). His late night yowling is SUPER loud though! Help! [more inside]
How to check in with myself so I speak/act/behave from my confident self rather than my insecure self? Any good rules of thumb? I want to avoid behaving in ways that badly affect my friends and family and also, myself rather than acting from anxiety and insecurity and drama and then regretting it. [more inside]
My cat acts like a dog. Is it possible that he was raised by dogs? [more inside]
Ever since spring weather arrived in Brooklyn, there's been a single large bee patrolling my 3rd floor balcony. (1) What's the deal with this bee - where can I read more about its lifestyle? And (2) can I gently discourage it and its kind from hanging out and buzzing around my head when I want to sit out in the sun? It mostly ignores me when I'm out there, but I feel watched the whole time. [more inside]
Ok, so there's a lot I like about the "positive discipline" approach I really like. Basically it feels better for us, and I think my little guy. But I can't figure out what that looks like when he is aggressive (hitting/biting/pushing), especially with his sister. [more inside]
My first grader hates his current nanny. I agree she isn't terrific, but she keeps him safe and is completely trustworthy, so there is no immediate need to replace her other than his and our general unhappiness with her. But it is impacting on his behavior, and we're not sure how to proceed. Wall of text inside, sorry. [more inside]
Tell me about what cultures, cultural practices, arts, religions, languages, lifestyles, hobbies, habits, fashion, unconventional individuals/families, or any other aspects of human life in the U.S. still remain severely underdocumented; or are at risk of fading away before they can be properly or meaningfully documented. [more inside]
I have an elderly beagle who has always been abnormal. Now she seems to really be going crazy for real and it's driving us a little crazy. What's the best way to handle this? [more inside]
Nutshell question: "did YOUR kid act this way? What helped them? What was wrong with them?" Nutshell synopsis: WeeThumbscrew is a bright, sweet, cute nine year-old. He has also exhibited SEVERE social issues in school this year (think "has been kicked off of the school bus", think "at least one phone call from the principal every week"). He is already in therapy (with an excellent pediatric Psy.D). Miserable, gray, hopeless snowflakes inside... [more inside]
My cats scratch the floor sometimes. It seems to have something to do with food. What does this behavior signify?
So, our dog has been a bit... weird lately, not quite like her usual self, and I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this sort of thing or has any theories about why? [more inside]
Anxiety runs in my family. I'm watching how much it affects my mom and I want to keep on challenging myself to take risks so that I never get so afraid that it limits me from doing stuff and enjoying life. How do I do this? [more inside]
I'm having problems controlling my temper, every so often, with my child, who is increasingly pressing my buttons. I would like advice on how to not forget myself and spank this child when my temper is piqued (usually by hitting, kicking, or spitting). [more inside]
Our child recently is having a very hard time relating to other kids, which comes out in inappropriate and sometimes aggressive ways. [more inside]
My 1.5 yr old cat will escalate grooming/playing with other cats into aggressive biting. What should I do? [more inside]
I think my pets have sibling rivalry. [more inside]
My indoor cat of 7 years has, in just the last couple of months, stopped using his litter-box to poe, walks around the house for hours howling, and tries to get outside every chance he gets. This is completely new behavior in that for 7 years he's been a great, well mannered cat. But now he's driving me insane. [more inside]
What are currently the most relevant blogs / websites / articles / experts on the future of automotive retail? [more inside]
Is there a formal term for situations where a person chooses not to buy something (or adopt some behavior) because the people who have bought it are "not like me"? [more inside]
I got a gym membership and was referred to a personal trainer/CrossFit coach. While a nice guy, and helpful, he has displayed some weird and annoying behavior. [more inside]
15+ year old cat is displaced from his regal throne by 7 week old baby. How to stop him from meowing as loudly as possible while the baby is sleeping? [more inside]
We recently adopted an incredibly sweet dog from a local shelter-- Frances is a three year old dachshund/chihuahua mix. She's super mellow and calm when we're with her-- never barks or chews, perfectly housetrained, doesn't react to other dogs or people when on walks... basically perfect and incredibly lovable... EXCEPT... when left alone, she becomes a nightmare destructo-dog. [more inside]
I have an 8-10 year old, very strange, beagle. Last night I found her with eyes open, but unresponsive, clawing and biting at the wall. Is this seizure activity, night terrors, or something else? [more inside]
10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
How can I teach an adult on the Asperger's/Autism Spectrum social skills specifically tailored to the office environment? [more inside]
How do I tell my responsible boyfriend that his behavior is more similar to a fifteen-year old and could be professional disastrous for him? [more inside]
Help me train my dog not to bark at other dogs while we’re walking. [more inside]
A number of mammals (including us!) instinctually move away from their own feces, or try not to soil their living spaces. Does anybody know of an example of an invertebrate, insect or otherwise, which displays the behavior of avoiding their own waste? [more inside]
I have recently connected with an old friend and I am curious to see what Mefites think of this behavior and see if you have any tips on dealing with it. [more inside]
Looking for specific recommendations for books on raising a gifted child. [more inside]
Putting off onerous tasks is a well-known human trait, but are any non-human animals guilty of it? I can only think of the grasshopper in the fable by Aesop, but that is fictional, of course.
After an incident involving a trip to the emergency vet, I need MeFi's advice on how to keep our dogs well-behaved when we're not around. They are delightful when we're home. Minor chewing of shoes and bringing snails into the house, typical puppy stuff but nothing we can't handle. When we're not home... jumping onto tables and countertops, and using dining chairs as a way to reach things on high shelves which are then destroyed and eaten. How do we teach them not to jump onto tables? Obligatory photo inside, as well as more details. [more inside]
Hello wits's end, I'm looking at you: what in the everloving hell am I going to do with my 3.75 son? We are on Day 12 of him being out of school due to Christmas holidays and I have about had it. I have been riding the trantrum train for several days now and I am out of ideas for how to proceed. [more inside]
Can children detect on some level when love is not genuine? An example would be when a parent is affectionate to spite their own parents as if to say "This is what you were supposed to do with me," rather than doing so out of a genuine feeling towards the child. Acting the part without the emotion and connection to back it. Can this be perceived by the child and perhaps effect their emotional development? If so, to what degree could this hinder them in the long term?
A friend's dog has an unusual behavior. It he sees someone with shoes on, in other words walking or sometimes just standing, he goes nuts. I goes into a play bow and starts biting the shoes. Sometimes he succeeds in biting through a tennis shoe, for example, which is painful. If you move your feet, he thinks you are playing and becomes more aggressive. He will stare at the shoes looking for the slightest hint of movement. If someone tries to correct him, usually by saying no loudly, he pulls back and barks and maybe takes a swipe at a hand and becomes aggressive. I can sometimes get him to stop by holding on to his collar until he snaps out of it. But that is difficult to do sometimes. Otherwise this dog could care less about shoes. If there is a shoe on the floor he leaves it alone. But put on shoes and watch out. Any ideas how to correct this behavior? He is about a 2 year old lab mix, if that matters.
Although I am quite introverted, I have a tendency to overshare. I don't think my behavior is beyond the realm of normal-- nobody has ever indicated to me that I made them uncomfortable. Still, I would like to be more able to keep my struggles, emotions, thoughts, and frustrations more contained. Sometimes when I am really frustrated or confused about something, I will find a moderately close friend to vent to, but then later on have some mild feelings of "maybe they didn't really need to know that about me..." [more inside]