I have recently connected with an old friend and I am curious to see what Mefites think of this behavior and see if you have any tips on dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by random thoughts
on Feb 18, 2014 -
Looking for specific recommendations for books on raising a gifted child. [more inside]
posted by plinth
on Feb 14, 2014 -
Putting off onerous tasks is a well-known human trait, but are any non-human animals guilty of it? I can only think of the grasshopper
in the fable by Aesop, but that is fictional, of course.
posted by dontjumplarry
on Jan 29, 2014 -
After an incident involving a trip to the emergency vet, I need MeFi's advice on how to keep our dogs well-behaved when we're not around. They are delightful when we're home. Minor chewing of shoes and bringing snails into the house, typical puppy stuff but nothing we can't handle. When we're not home... jumping onto tables and countertops, and using dining chairs as a way to reach things on high shelves which are then destroyed and eaten. How do we teach them not to jump onto tables? Obligatory photo inside, as well as more details. [more inside]
posted by harriet vane
on Jan 6, 2014 -
Hello wits's end, I'm looking at you: what in the everloving hell am I going to do with my 3.75 son? We are on Day 12 of him being out of school due to Christmas holidays and I have about had it. I have been riding the trantrum train for several days now and I am out of ideas for how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling!
on Jan 1, 2014 -
Can children detect on some level when love is not genuine? An example would be when a parent is affectionate to spite their own parents as if to say "This is what you were supposed to do with me," rather than doing so out of a genuine feeling towards the child. Acting the part without the emotion and connection to back it. Can this be perceived by the child and perhaps effect their emotional development? If so, to what degree could this hinder them in the long term?
posted by mrflibble
on Jan 1, 2014 -
A friend's dog has an unusual behavior. It he sees someone with shoes on, in other words walking or sometimes just standing, he goes nuts. I goes into a play bow and starts biting the shoes. Sometimes he succeeds in biting through a tennis shoe, for example, which is painful. If you move your feet, he thinks you are playing and becomes more aggressive. He will stare at the shoes looking for the slightest hint of movement. If someone tries to correct him, usually by saying no loudly, he pulls back and barks and maybe takes a swipe at a hand and becomes aggressive. I can sometimes get him to stop by holding on to his collar until he snaps out of it. But that is difficult to do sometimes.
Otherwise this dog could care less about shoes. If there is a shoe on the floor he leaves it alone. But put on shoes and watch out.
Any ideas how to correct this behavior?
He is about a 2 year old lab mix, if that matters.
posted by jtexman1
on Dec 27, 2013 -
Although I am quite introverted, I have a tendency to overshare. I don't think my behavior is beyond the realm of normal-- nobody has ever indicated to me that I made them uncomfortable. Still, I would like to be more able to keep my struggles, emotions, thoughts, and frustrations more contained. Sometimes when I am really frustrated or confused about something, I will find a moderately close friend to vent to, but then later on have some mild feelings of "maybe they didn't really need to know that about me..." [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit
on Dec 1, 2013 -
My cat seems to have developed a sudden fear of... moving dark things? Taking my black jacket off or putting it on sends her running for the bed for hours. And I just reached for my purse on the couch, and the motion of the big black purse sent her scurrying too. No idea what could have triggered this. How do I get her relax again? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea
on Nov 3, 2013 -
Can I explain to someone how their negative behaviors are putting me off, but maintain an amicable relationship with them? I get too emotional to find fair words. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2013 -
Gray wolves mate for life, honeybees know the world is round and ducks have corkscrew penises. Tell me more! I'm looking for thoughtful and fascinating introductions to the features, behaviors and "character" of particular species of animal. [more inside]
posted by stuck on an island
on Aug 24, 2013 -
I am not a cat person, but my wife likes cats, so we have one.
Our cat consistently uses the litter box (which is much more than I can say for the last cat we had). However, she almost never buries it, and the odor is, of course, offensive. [more inside]
posted by tckma
on Aug 9, 2013 -
I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately I've been feeling like all of the adults I know are more mature and adult-like in the way they hold themselves and behave than I am. I don't know how to get that or be more like that. What am I doing wrong? What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 29, 2013 -
I have an adult (5ish years old) foster cat who is very friendly and mostly trusts us (we've had her for over 2 years now). She's very loving but is very much her own cat, and would prefer her space be respected at times. I'd like for her to express her moods in non-biting ways. [more inside]
posted by amtho
on Jun 28, 2013 -
Someone in a position of authority, whose professional endorsement I'm seeking, put me in an awkward position. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 21, 2013 -
I have never had many close friends or intimate relationships, and i know that other people find my behaviour off-putting. But due to politeness, nobody will tell me! What profession's job is to just plain tell me what's not ok with my basic behaviour (eg voice volume, personal space) so i can stop pushing everyone away without meaning to? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by maiamaia
on Apr 15, 2013 -
So, we recently moved from a small apartment to a big apartment, about 3x size of the old one. Tiny dog has adjusted well, except for one thing: he runs around the house, to get from Point A to Point B. Walking no longer occurs. We'd really like him to walk like a civilized beast again, if possible. [more inside]
posted by juniperesque
on Apr 9, 2013 -
I've recently been told that I act boyish by several people and I do not entirely understand what this means nor can anyone who has said this actually explain it well (versus being "a man"). I'm an adult male, and understand that this kind of behavior may be an obstacle to dating women and finding a girlfriend. I tend to joke around a lot (especially with women), but a lot of people joke around, so it's difficult for me to equate joking around with boyishness. I also laugh a lot. One female friend said that I'm like "a little boy" and that she felt comfortable talking to me(otherwise she has almost no other male friends). I have a job, my own place to live, no roommates, a car. All adult, responsible things so I can't see these comments about being boyish related to lacking responsibility. Does anyone have any specific examples of behaviors, ways of interacting, or conversations that they consider to be boyish? Thanks for your help
posted by itshaytime
on Apr 5, 2013 -
I received some feedback recently that I come across as arrogant, condescending, and pretentious. How can I stop coming across this way, externally? How can I get at the root of underlying attitudes, internally? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 24, 2013 -
I have a 3-year-old pomeranian that has suddenly decided he wants to get under and behind all the furniture. [more inside]
posted by iarerach
on Mar 1, 2013 -
So here is the traditional routine: I get up in the morning or I come home from work. I get dressed or change out of work clothes. Here is what happens... [more inside]
posted by michellenoel
on Feb 26, 2013 -
OK, weird question this week, but I have wondered about this for a while. I've noticed in public bathrooms there are a lot of men who either 1) spit in the urinal continuously while peeing or 2) keep pulling the flush handle while standing there pissing or 3) do both of these at the same time. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for why to do this, but I am curious as to your speculations about why they are doing it. Is the spitting some way of being macho? Is the constant flushing some way of disposing that which is "dirty"? the "normative" behavior is to piss and then flush, so why this variant (which also wastes a lot of water BTW)? Why the combination of both spitting and flushing? I think we may reveal something about male psychology or social ideology here.
posted by cmp4Meta
on Feb 17, 2013 -
I am looking for books or movies where someone is unknowingly drugged in such a way that it changes their behavior/personality but there are no obvious side effects like blackouts or hallucinations. [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake
on Jan 29, 2013 -
I've been racking my brain trying to figure out if there is a specific word or term that defines the following behavior: when someone says "I know you don't/said (x) but ...
" For example: "I know you said you don't drink coffee, but this one is really good and you should drink it"
or "I know you said you're really busy with your job and new baby but I would really like you to take the time to email me and tell me what's new with you."
I'm not looking for words or phrases that ambiguously describe how this behavior makes an individual feel (e.g. "annoying") but rather something that would be used as a clinical definition to refer to this particular behavior (e.g. "passive-aggressive," "gaslighting," etc.)
posted by matrushka
on Jan 15, 2013 -
My wife and I have a corgi/heeler mix who will be two years old in May. She's an absolute sweetheart most
of the time but gets into foul moods occasionally where she will snarl and bite. Once she's in a bad mood she tends to stay that way for a few hours. How can we correct that behavior? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis
on Jan 10, 2013 -
I’m interested in learning more about the phenomenon where people who experience a particular scenario become especially focused on that scenario, to the exclusion of other scenarios that may be statistically more likely, and possibly even leading to irrational or risky behavior. [more inside]
posted by payoto
on Jan 5, 2013 -
I have a problem with my little sister's baby daddy. He's racist, bigoted, irresponsible, and I can see that he's a bad person for my sister and their child. It's driving me crazy, and being around him is breaking my heart. What can/should I do? Warning: some derogatory language within. [more inside]
posted by your mom's a sock puppet
on Dec 22, 2012 -
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
posted by markbao
on Dec 19, 2012 -
How can we prevent our cat from ambushing the other cat when he uses the litter? [more inside]
posted by ridogi
on Dec 5, 2012 -
I'm looking for any data that supports that conversion rates for trial offers are higher when there is a nominal cost for the product or service versus a FREE offer.
posted by pmaxwell
on Oct 26, 2012 -
What are some cognitive hacks to interrupt yourself when you can tell you're falling into a borderline obsessive behavior? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie
on Oct 9, 2012 -
What did I do that was inappropriate in my consultation with this gardener/ landscape designer? [more inside]
posted by steinwald
on Sep 22, 2012 -
With a new neighborhood comes new neighborhood cats, and one of our indoor cats is freaking out. What do we do about this? [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot
on Sep 17, 2012 -
My dog "chews" bed sheets. She leaves no holes, which is why I use quotation marks. She sits on the floor close to the bed and nibbles with her front teeth on the edge of the bed. She's done this for years; she's an eight year old pit bull. Does anyone know why she does this?
posted by Kazimirovna
on Sep 5, 2012 -
im finding it hard to balance giving my new cat attention without reinforcing negative behavior. he seems starved for attention, but also shouldn't even be rewarded with even a glance when acting up. the problems seem small enough to nip in the bud. but how? are there any cat whispering techniques? [more inside]
posted by c
on Aug 28, 2012 -
How to have eyes on the back of your head and stop a teenager in their tracks when bullshitting and breaking the rules? [more inside]
posted by misspony
on Aug 14, 2012 -
Among narratives about visitations by the "Grey" aliens
, are there any that talk about what cats do during the alien encounter? Do they just chill all cool-style? Do they FREAK OUT. Do they meow a lot or do they hiss or do they go hide someplace? Do they even try to bite the aliens (would be v. brave, imo). For the purposes of this question, let's allow both ostensibly fictional narratives and ostensibly real ones.
posted by Greg Nog
on Aug 5, 2012 -