My brother and his wife had their first child recently. In principle, I'd love to meet their newborn. Problem is, we live on opposite coasts of the US and I don't make much money. I could swing it if I had to, but a trip out there just to stand around the little bundle of biology and watch it eat, sleep, and poop doesn't feel like a good value to me. Am I obligated to go? [more inside]
This is such a little thing but it's bugging me! I read a novel with a scene in which two women are talking. One has a baby and they put the baby down (on a rug? on the lawn?) so he can 'kick his heels'. I am pretty sure it is a British novel and probably not recent, say written before 1980. Does anyone know what novel I am thinking of? Asking because I realise I never really understood what 'kicking his heels' meant until my own baby started to do it!
Our 7.5 month old daughter has pretty regular diaper blow outs. She's healthy and neither we nor her pediatrician are concerned about her health--but I'm wondering whether she's got the best fit in her diapers. Any recommendations? She's in daycare do no cloth diapers. Details inside. [more inside]
My birth father (I'm adopted) recently married for the first time and had a son a couple of weeks ago. So I have a baby brother for the first time in my 36 years. I would love to buy him and his wife a present for his marriage and to celebrate their new arrival. I would love this to be thoughtful, and practical and because of this have been frozen. More complications inside. [more inside]
Is it weird that I want to have another kid (but don’t want to get pregnant again). Like adopting one, or hire a surrogate (my egg and donor sperm). I am single parent (mother) already. I think I can pull this off financially (We wont be rich, but we wont be poor either). But is it a very radical idea? I am no Angelina Jolie – just your normal average Jane. The world is still a man’s world as much I hate admitting it or observing it. Will I completely blow my changes of ever finding a life partner if I do this. I feel very strongly about adopting and have been thinking about it for a very long time now. Suggestions, anyone? How should I think about this? My therapist strongly advised against it because in her opinion I haven’t accessed the risks of bringing another kid into my life and my daughter’s life.
Our 9-month-old daughter sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night, sits up, and seems unable to get herself back down to sleep. We've been working on sleep training--she does (and has almost always done) well at bedtime, and night wakings where she doesn't seem stuck in a sitting position have mostly disappeared--but I don't know how we should be handling these incidents. [more inside]
We have a five-month-old daughter. How do we deal with chronic sleep deprivation and get through our days? [more inside]
My brother's wife is due to have a baby boy sometime this month. I will be an uncle for the first time. The baby shower is taking place this upcoming Sunday. My girlfriend since May of last year is not a big fan of my brother. She hasn't even met him to begin with. She felt that he flaked out on me during my college graduation and birthday last year. [more inside]
We discovered this week that our four-month-old needs a much earlier bedtime. We now start the routine after 6 PM, with him in bed by 7 PM (and it's working great). But we've been on vacation for these new bedtimes and I'm having trouble visualizing how this routine will go on a weekday. How do you do it? [more inside]
I'm in the unexpected (as they situations generally are I imagine) situation of having a rocky relationship with a woman who is now pregnant with our child and need some encouragement or advice on how to handle family, the mother, and work. We dated and are still technically dating for about 10 months now. [more inside]
I have a dining room/kitchen glass table, with a round tabletop that sits on top of a metal base without any attachment point. It's sort of similar to this item. My daughter is 1 year old and just starting to become mobile. I'm concerned she might push or pull on the tabletop and cause it to fall, injuring her. I've been stumped on how to find a way to secure it. The best I've found are some round discs to attach somewhere, but I'm suspicious that they will really work. Has anyone successfully babyproofed such a table?
We want to take our 3 month old to Japan. Should we go ASAP or wait for better weather? [more inside]
I have a dear friend whose son has been in the NICU since June 25th. He's responded incredibly well to classical music, Aphex Twin and loves other types of "light" stimulation, especially anything with repetitive patterns/sounds (he cries when bath time ends, for example, and loves watching a little light/music toy that we hold outside his crib). They're exhausted from coming up with ideas for things to play/do with him within his very limited environment, and he is immune-compromised so most "typical" baby toys are out. Downloadable via Audible.com a plus! [more inside]
I'm looking for the appropriate translation of a couple of key but relatively obscure phrases for our visit to Indonesia with a baby in tow in a month's time. We'll be in Bali. [more inside]
Blended baby meat - from the store or blended myself - tastes bitter and unpleasant. What are some good ways to make it taste better without using a sugar-heavy sauce?
Mrs. Awesome is having a baby very soon! Yay! At this point it's likely to be a C-section - not our first choice, but we'll roll with it if we have to. I understand the recovery can be a bit rough; I'll be around for a month or so after the birth, but will we need more help than just me? [more inside]
We've been concentrating so much on the actual physical labor part of the birth that we are now (3 weeks out!) realizing that we want to give some consideration to the emotional part, and come up with ideas to make our families feel loved and included. [more inside]
I'm looking for ideas for things to do with my in-laws and my six week old baby that require basically zero walking. [more inside]
Would you take your 4 month old baby on an overseas flight? We want to fly to Europe next the fall, probably an 8 hour flight from where we are. We're also having our first baby in the spring. We feel like it would be an adventure (!) that could maybe be a bad idea. Has anyone flown overseas and had it gone very well or very terribly? Anything we should know? We are trying to imagine our lives post-baby and we very much want travel to be a part of it, but is 4 months too young? [more inside]
11 month old "Grabby" touches 3,5 year old "Argh"'s toys, Argh reacts by pushing or dragging Grabby away. Inevitably, Grabby ends up hurt. Mom yells, banishes Argh to room. Everyone feels bad. Cycle repeats. Oviously, Mom is Doing It Wrong. What now? [more inside]
My very best bestie in the whole wide world just had a baby girl. Hooray! The first week of her little life was Very, Very Scary, but the stubborn little nugget fought her way through and is now home and safe and ready to get on with Life and Growing and Becoming a Someone. I've already made a donation in her name to the amazing children's hospital that saved her life, but I'd like to send a physical gift for the little monkey, too. What should I get? [more inside]
We're looking for some proven, effective relief for our 4-month-old's gums as her teeth come in. It seems like it's impossible to find something that is both medically legitimate and doesn't contain benzocaine. We're open to herbal remedies if they're supported by more than anecdote, but we are not interested in homeopathy for our child. Any recommendations? [more inside]
We're having a baby next week and need help picking between two names. Looking for advice and experience relating to full names vs. nicknames . [more inside]
This Christmastime, as a side excursion from another trip, my family is going to Bangkok and Hua Hin, for a few days each. "Family" here includes my infant son, who will be about seven months old, as well as my wife and in-laws. Huzzah! I now have two related questions. [more inside]
We are about a 10 days away from having our baby girl And I can't help but think the right name will just come to us in some sort of magical, "that's her name!" sort of way. I think I may have exhausted every name search site and we just can't agree....plus now I hate all our top choices [more inside]
I've struggled on and off with postpartum depression since Toddler Maarika was born, but things seem a bit more dire now that I'm on month 21 of sleep deprivation. Last week I had two blissful nights of 7 straight hours of sleep and felt amazing, but now we're back to the standard multiple wake ups per night. Is it worth trying medication for depression when the root cause is likely chronic sleep deprivation? [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
I want to be able to nap at any point during the day, but I can't make myself go to sleep. Any tricks for napping at will? Difficulty level: I've got a newborn. [more inside]
Where's the best place online to buy quality baby Halloween costumes? [more inside]
My wonderful almost-seven-month-old is very, very active. All the "things to do with your baby" websites/books assume the baby will just sit there quietly. What did/do you do with your little livewire to keep them amused? [more inside]
My family just moved to Tippecanoe County in Indiana, and we're baffled by the seemingly arbitrary rules that dictate when babies are and are not allowed in bars and restaurants. [more inside]
I am a new mom to a six week old baby. My husband and I are part of a close group of friends we haven't seen in a while. They're eager to meet this baby and we'd like to let that happen next weekend. However, please help me firmly yet politely tell them they can't touch her until she's a little bigger. [more inside]
12.5-month-old Supercoolbaby was a very good sleeper from early on (she slept through the night at 2 months and carried on with that until about 10 months, but never more than 2 wakeups during the night), but recently some problems have developed. Would love your thoughts/advice. Many details within. [more inside]
Dear NYC-ers, I need to have a new baby gift delivered to someone. [more inside]
We are looking into baby names, and really like the nickname Molly. I thought Molly was a nickname for Margaret, but apparently it has traditionally been a nickname for Mary. Would it be weird to name our baby Margaret, but call her Molly? Should we just name her Molly?
Hey There Brilliant People! Could you please send me any film, tv or play suggestions that are about women going through pregnancy, the affect that has on their marriage, and women who work with doulas and midwives while pregnant? Thanks so much!
Help me keep the 10 month old safe in the tub with her big brother. I went to buy a bath ring and... apparently those are now verboten. So what do people do? [more inside]
15+ year old cat is displaced from his regal throne by 7 week old baby. How to stop him from meowing as loudly as possible while the baby is sleeping? [more inside]
One year old, first long flight, looking for recommendations for headphones so baby can comfortably watch his favorites (Sesame Street, Super Why, and Adele music videos) if necessary to keep things sane. [more inside]
I need a very specific bag and I don't know where to look for it. I need a large bag that can be carried like a backpack, larger than 25L. I would like it to be in some way elegant (that's an open definition...), semi-fashionable for the PNW set, and water resistant enough to walk for 15 minutes in the rain and not be damp for days (so, probably not leather). [more inside]
My sister-in-law, who has been trying to find this poem for years, first heard it from her grandmother. It's at least 50 years old and rhymes.
I know the lullabies my mother sang to me, but I'd like to learn some more lullabies or lullaby-like songs (we can go broad, but I think "soft, sweet and slow" are our watchwords) that I can sing to our child. [more inside]
My friend just had a baby, I wanted to send her a small-something to let her know that I'm thinking of her and her newborn. What would be good for this? [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a part-time mother's helper that can get to North Cambridge? We want extra support for a week in taking care of this guy. The mom will be at home, and we want to reduce the chances that she gets overwhelmed, starting this Wednesday, after his grandma goes home, and I go back to work.
For the food challenged: How do I learn to plan for and cook deadly simple nutritious meals for 1 adult + 1 baby child? Recipes, advice, pointers all welcome. [more inside]
I'm putting together an extended mix for some friends, focusing entirely on electronic music that's unusually well-suited for infants. Anyone have thoughts on appropriate tracks? [more inside]
So....after months of prenatally following our daughter's heart issues and a year of post-birth cardiology visits it was determined that she did in fact need to have surgery to correct her issues and we are trying to keep it together while we wait for her surgery date and wondering what we can expect the day of and days following the surgery to be like and we can/should be doing for her and/or ourselves. [more inside]
I have a great four month old daughter. Due to a weird timing situation, both my husband and I have been home with her for the last four months, sharing duties. Also due to weird timing, we are moving around a lot. Our kid has no routine right now, and I'm started to think my mom is right that we're spoiling her. Help? [more inside]
My baby is about to turn 7 months old. Due to various factors, he does not get a huge amount of exposure to people that aren't me and his dad. Compared with pretty much all of the other babies we've encountered, he is very reserved when out in public and meeting other people (eg. does not smile, makes very little "happy" or "contented" noise, etc.). I'm a little worried that I'm not socialising him properly. Reality check needed. [more inside]