Hi! I'm pregnant with my first child, due in early spring. I just found out that I can teach a short (college) summer school course that starts about 10 weeks after I'm due. (Who knows, if I'm late, it could be just 8 weeks.) The pay is very good, and we kind of need it, but I don't want to sign up for something I'll regret. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe
on Nov 20, 2013 -
This is a two part question: 1. Some very nice people threw several baby showers for me. In searching past AskMe questions on baby etiquette I was horrified to learn that I should have given them hostess gifts! Help me figure that out. 2. Our baby has been showered with a mountain of gifts, some of these gifts have been multiple gifts from the same person/people. Do I send a separate thank you note for each time an individual has given me a gift? [more inside]
posted by rainydayfilms
on Nov 16, 2013 -
I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant, and this afternoon I'm heading into a "meet and greet" with a new pediatrician at a practice affiliated with the big multi-specialty doctor group in my town. At this point, we're thinking it's pretty likely that we'll either go with the pediatrics group or with the family practice group where my PCP practices, and I had set up this meet and greet to help try to make that decision. However, it's now 5 hours until we head over and I have no clue what to ask this doctor to help us make a decision. I am sure others have probably gone through this before--so help me figure out what to ask! [more inside]
posted by iminurmefi
on Nov 12, 2013 -
So I just read that the American Academy of Pediatricians recommends zero TV exposure for kids under two
. I read that after we had worked our way through Ripper Street and Sons of Anarchy with 2 month old baby Merocet feeding and occasionally watching the screen. I have also let her see a couple of episodes of Waybuloo. I am scum. [more inside]
posted by merocet
on Nov 9, 2013 -
Our first child is due in the next few weeks! This isn't a question about getting ready - we've done a lot of preparation (see inside). I want to know how you enjoyed
those first crazy weeks. Were you able to relax into the sleep deprivation and rhythm-less newborn life? Do you look back on those days fondly? We expect to be tired and frazzled, but we want to intentionally savor this special time. We will have ~8 weeks at home together with our baby. Tell me how you did it. [more inside]
posted by Cygnet
on Nov 6, 2013 -
I'm looking for resources (books, websites, etc.) to help me gain a balanced perspective on whether or not motherhood is right for me, given my anxieties and health issues. [more inside]
posted by Maya Cecile
on Nov 2, 2013 -
Friends of mine will be new parents! I want to get them a sweet-ass gift. They have a wish list but say they welcome any other gifts not on it if especially good. Veteran parents, what did you wish you had when your baby came along? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger
on Nov 1, 2013 -
Should I work on getting a new, hopefully long-term job before getting pregnant, or should I stay in my not ideal but okay current job? Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by coupdefoudre
on Oct 29, 2013 -
So we have started giving our baby some formula feeds (after advice from medical professionals. We are well aware of the benefits of breast feeding, and still do it as much as possible). [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder
on Oct 22, 2013 -
My four month old cries when we are putting her to sleep, she doesn't like going to sleep. How do we get to her to go down to sleep quietly (we're not ready for cry it out)? [more inside]
posted by echo0720
on Oct 21, 2013 -
Baby Mr. Fuga will be appearing in March. We'd like to name her some form of a name that can be shortened to Charlie. Charlotte is out, for various reasons, as is Charlene. Any ideas?
posted by mrfuga0
on Oct 21, 2013 -
Baby Taffeta is 11 months old now and has a great appetite. The problem is she also has a great gag reflex, enlarged adenoids and difficulty with textured foods. We're finding it harder and harder to find foods for her that help her transition to solids that she won't gag on but that will help her get full enough so that she can hopefully sleep through the night. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling!
on Oct 18, 2013 -
I am back at work 2 days a week, and my 3 month old will not take a bottle. Have been googling non-stop, and feel like we have tried everything. What worked for your baby?? [more inside]
posted by dil.emma
on Oct 14, 2013 -
My daughter's first birthday is coming up in two weeks, and we're having a party. The invitations emphasized "one", so that's the theme. What "one"-themed things can I do, for food or decorations? [more inside]
posted by Liesl
on Oct 12, 2013 -
Hi all. Mrs Professorpotato will be giving birth to our first child in late November. We need to upgrade from a 2012 Chevrolet Sonic to something suitable for a baby + all its stuff (seat, pram, accessories), a small dog, and two loving parents. We're looking at a 2013 Jetta in the 17K range as we don't drive much but need reliable transportation. The Sonic has about a 12-14K trade in value and about 22K owing (debt consolidation + depreciation). We can comfortably afford payments of $400-500 per month.
Anyone been in a similar situation? Tips? Thanks. PP.
posted by professorpotato
on Oct 3, 2013 -
There's a conference I'd like to go to in Austin at the beginning of November, but Minipenny is still breast feeding which complicates things. Misterpenny and I talked about making it a short family trip. A couple of days (well, day and a half) on our own and then a day and a half (and at least one evening) of him being on full childcare duties and me at the conference.
I used to have the conference travel down, and enjoyed getting to see a bit of a new city, but it's a whole new ballgame now...we've never traveled with the baby, and have never been to Austin, so I'm having trouble knowing how to go about the planning, or if this is even a good idea. [more inside]
posted by pennypiper
on Oct 2, 2013 -
I want to eliminate some of my son's nighttime feedings and start sleep training him. Am I going about this right? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust
on Oct 1, 2013 -
I would like to give my friends baby things that they may not be able to get in Germany. [more inside]
posted by birdseye
on Sep 29, 2013 -
Our 20 week old daughter (who was 7 weeks premature) was screaming as loud as she can, I had never heard her scream as loud.I found our nanny pouring water over her in the baby bath, she was shivering uncontrollably and her teeth were chattering. I insisted the nanny take her out and warm her up immediately. The nanny insisted that it was a 'normal' bath. I checked the water and it was barely warm. The nanny insists that she knows best and that I shouldn't interfere. I don't think it is acceptable for a small baby to take 15-20 minutes to stop shivering after a bath.
What should we do about this?
posted by daveg
on Sep 25, 2013 -
My 14 month old baby has crying thrashing wakeful periods during the night on a semi-regular basis (roughly speaking, perhaps once every fortnight). He wakes up crying and can’t be consoled – arches his body and pushes away from me while in my arms (but cries harder if put down in his cot). [more inside]
posted by fever-trees
on Sep 23, 2013 -
My husband's boss just told him that he won't be able to take time off for the delivery of our baby. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 22, 2013 -
We have a foscam webcam with night vision and the works. We can access it via wifi on our phones and computers, but want a dedicated screen to use as a baby monitor. Portable and/or plug-in... what are our options?
posted by Chris4d
on Sep 22, 2013 -
It's almost baby-time (our first) and we're still in the process of getting stuff we need (or just think
need.) There's a very obvious and willing source in my sister-in-law, who has very generously offered SO MANY THINGS to us, all of which we would love to have, espcially for free. The problem is that she smokes and everything that comes out of her house smells like cigarettes. This is a two-parter. [more inside]
posted by smirkyfodder
on Sep 20, 2013 -
My sister and brother-in-law are visiting me in NYC this week with their 3 month old. What are some things you and yours have found to be essential for operating in the city with a baby? Bonus question: tips for navigating the two-seciton R-train? [more inside]
posted by SirNovember
on Sep 11, 2013 -
I have a clingy little infant and have been using a ring sling with mediocre results. The problem is that it seems my infant's too floppy in the ring sling and I'm lusting after an Ergo. Is this a worthwhile investment or do I just need to figure out how to use the ring sling better/position my baby better? I'd like to be able to carry my baby while having complete use of my hands and--this is especially important--being able to bend over for cleaning, laundry, errands, etc. without having to use my hands or worry about slippage. And if your answer to the above is that I should get a non-ring sling carrier, is Ergo what you would recommend?
posted by juliagulia
on Sep 4, 2013 -
I am a 32 year old female and have a full-time job. I've been working from home for 6 years now. My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage and having a baby. We're trying to figure out if it's going to be possible for me to still work full-time from home while also raising a baby. I found a lot of articles about it being possible to cut back on hours or work part-time only, but I don't want to do that (insurance and financial reasons). He works full-time as well and not from home and we want to try to avoid day care (or at least use it minimally).
Has anyone ever successfully done this? If so, I'd love to know how. What was good/bad about it?
posted by mlk915
on Aug 24, 2013 -
Considering starting a family but what happens when baby comes? Do I stay home and he works? Does he stay home and I work? Snowflake details inside, basically help me evaluate my options. [more inside]
posted by quietta
on Aug 18, 2013 -
I'm considering paying for a sleep consultation (examples here
) because we are getting pretty worn out with Baby Tafetta and her sleeping issues. Has anyone tried these? Is there someone else to recommend? Should I continue just reading random experts and waiting for things to get better? Is all of this really just because of the recent events of the past month and now we're just trying to get back to where we were? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling!
on Aug 13, 2013 -
We are trying to think of names for our impending baby girl. I am American and my husband is Japanese. We plan to give her an English first name, Japanese middle and last name.
We have settled on a middle name, Miyuki (美幸). So her name thus far is _______ Miyuki xxxxshi.
Criteria for English name:
 must be easily writable in katakana (For example, Wi- isn't great, or Gl-, or x. All of these sounds can be written, but they come out complicated.)
 must not sound silly in Japanese (this is subjective and related to .)
 must not end in a long e sound, since middle and last names already do.
 Prefer a classical name (i.e. something my Grandma would recognize as a name) but no need for it to be especially popular right now. We'll probably avoid the top five or ten most popular names.
We are NOT looking for names that do double duty (which is what most of the threads I've found are about). So, not Naomi (always the first name that gets trotted out in these situations). We want a name from each culture that the grandparents on the opposite side can pronounce and that the kid can write when she gets to kindergarten.
I'd especially appreciate input from fluent Japanese speakers here, and/or members of mixed families. Thanks!
posted by telepanda
on Aug 8, 2013 -
I’m currently expecting my first child, who is due around Halloween. I have some minor and probably totally inconsequential—yet nagging—worries about her expected birthdate, and would love if those of you who are late fall babies OR a parent of a late fall baby would come in and assuage my concerns. [more inside]
posted by anderjen
on Aug 7, 2013 -
A couple in our circle of friends had a child two year ago. Please help me navigate the line between new parent absentmindedness and bad friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 5, 2013 -
Does anyone have experience with any of these baby equipment rental companies, particularly in the Bay Area? Any other advice on renting baby stuff would be appreciated as well! [more inside]
posted by fussbudget
on Aug 1, 2013 -
I am looking for an album of classic lullabies. Any recommendations for a good one? Prefer one with vocals. (Will also take recommendations for non-classic lullaby songs that are good for rocking a baby to sleep!) Thanks!
posted by dpx.mfx
on Jul 28, 2013 -
My 9-month-old, always a good sleeper, has been waking up in the morning earlier and earlier for the past two months. He now consistently wakes up between 5 and 5:30am, and sometimes before. This is hard on his poor parents. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by forza
on Jul 25, 2013 -
Good friends of mine are about to have their first child, a girl. What present can I get for the little one that will be both sentimental and personal, and which she can keep for her whole life? I'm currently thinking along the lines of a really nice children's book, ideally one with an Anglo-Japanese theme because dad is Japanese and mum is British - it would be nice to give something which will represent both of her inherited cultures. Any suggestions for presents with an Anglo-Japanese theme very welcome.
My budget is about £30 / $50 and I'm in the UK.
posted by matthew.alexander
on Jul 24, 2013 -
I'm a novice to sewing and I'm also a novice to being an aunt. Suggestions for online fabric stores with durable/washable/adorable fabric? [more inside]
posted by lydhre
on Jul 24, 2013 -
Can I fire my obstetrician for delivery, but keep her as a gynecologist thereafter? Do I want to? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph
on Jul 23, 2013 -
Help me find my biological father: artificial insemination in the 1980s edition! [more inside]
posted by kthxbi
on Jul 19, 2013 -
So I'm dating this single mom with a 6 month old. It's been going well but all our dates end with her rushing to take care of her baby - as a mom should. But she clearly needs a rest and I'm trying to figure out if I can take her on a vacation anywhere. Is there somewhere in the Northern California/Nevada area that is some kind of resort with stuff to do AND offers babysitting for a six month old as part of the package? Is there a name for resorts or vacations or recreation options like this? As a single guy with no kids I have no idea what the options are here. So please...educate me.
posted by rileyray3000
on Jul 16, 2013 -
My 6 month old baby has become increasingly difficult to put to sleep, and I feel like a failure every night. He was easy to put to sleep as long as he was swaddled, but now he fights going to sleep at most naps and especially at night. I feel like we need to do some kind of sleep training, but he's got horrible reflux and "crying it out" only results in him flipping onto his stomach, getting upset, not being able to turn back over, and then puking all over the crib. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by Maarika
on Jul 9, 2013 -
How did you decide when to 'start trying' (for babies)? What made you say February = birth control, March = none ? How did you make the leap from the abstract "let's start trying next year" to "next time we have sex, we're 'trying'"? I always kind of thought I'd have a happy accident, but it's clear we going to have to *try* for this baby... but when? [more inside]
posted by jrobin276
on Jul 3, 2013 -
We're using all the advice from the Happiest Baby on the Block to get Little Stardust to fall asleep. It works the majority of the time and I can successfully get him to fall asleep by swaddling, rocking, white noise, etcetera. The problem is that he'll only stay asleep as long as I'm holding him. [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust
on Jun 15, 2013 -
In the next two weeks, there will be a new addition to our household -- a baby. (Not mine.) And since it's not mine, I would prefer not to hear it. There are lots of AskMes about earplugs, but many (like the ETY ones) use as a selling point that they don't muffle speech. I want to muffle everything
. Best ear protection for the job, <$30?
posted by fiercecupcake
on Jun 14, 2013 -
We just took in an 11 month old foster baby. People want to give us things but we have no idea what we really need. What do you (and your one year old) love to use and consider essential? [more inside]
posted by Saminal
on Jun 13, 2013 -
...but this time there is a newborn baby!
This fall I will begin my 5th year in an English PhD program. I have been ambivalent about staying in my program pretty much since the first year, but have always come down on the side of staying in, even though I long ago decided I don't want to even try to become an English professor. Three weeks ago my husband and I had a baby, and that is making me less confident I want to continue. I need some help sorting this out. [more inside]
posted by apricot
on Jun 9, 2013 -
We have a 4+ month old, and I recently remembered that the Ringling Bros. will give you a free ticket voucher for your up-to-1 year old child. Aside from retailers flooding your mailbox/inbox with baby goods samples/coupons, what other neat deals are there like this that are a bit "out of the box"?
posted by Seboshin
on Jun 9, 2013 -
My 14 month old son cries and screams every waking moment he's with me. This has gone on for months, and it's killing me. Please help me understand what's going on and how I can make it stop. [more inside]
posted by arcticwoman
on Jun 7, 2013 -
Academic sabbatical +/- having a baby: how does that work? What is the most "logical" time frame for either of these to occur? Is this a bad idea altogether? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 4, 2013 -