My wife is just beginning her second trimester, so it looks as though I'll be a dad in July. I'm pretty excited about this. I'd really love to instill an appreciation for canonical literature at an early age since it was so important to me as a kid and now as an adult. [more inside]
A low-income, uneducated friend of mine is utterly, utterly terrified that her 14-month-old baby will continue the cycle of poverty and become a statistic. Specifically, she wants help ensuring that he learns to read, write, and do math on schedule. Difficulty level: the only time she has to do pre-reading and pre-math activities with him is during their twice-daily 3 hour train commute while she's exhausted. [more inside]
My baby can stay awake now! Help me fill my time with him optimally. [more inside]
Is my sleep training dream possible? Inside, I describe what I would like to achieve, and what happens now. What's the closest approximation of my dream? How do I get there? Which of the many sleep training resources (books, blogs, gurus, consultants) would be most helpful in figuring this out? [more inside]
One baby, two parents who both feel like they are doing more than their fare share of babyminding. How to equalize? [more inside]
Heading into Boston to commiserate with my BFF. Baby is six months old and actively crawling. Both me and BFF are currently unemployed, so cheap or free is better. Where could we go? [more inside]
I'm thinking of knitting hats for the babies in my life for christmas but as a non-parent I am seeking advice for average sizing and what parents would just find annoying. Help me fellow knitters and parents put some smiles on some parents faces. [more inside]
Some complications have arisen as I reach the end of my pregnancy. I think I want to ask for a c-section. Will they let me do this? Is is a smart idea under the circumstances? [more inside]
6-month-old babyminda is in daycare five days a week while I work and is sometimes fussy about eating formula. How much extra time should I be putting into addressing this problem? [more inside]
Almost done with pregnancy, so now I am looking to replace some of the pregnancy blogs I read with blogs about caring for a baby! [more inside]
Question about babies, feelings, and friendships! [more inside]
We are thinking of going to Niagara Falls (Canada) in March. What can I do with a baby while the six-year-old and husband are at the water park? [more inside]
I'm about to be teaching a baby to eat. Is there updated guidance on the best order for introducing solid foods? [more inside]
I'm trying to put together a shopping list of essentials for a baby's first week. Special snowflake details apply... [more inside]
How could I possibly leave my baby to go back to work? And yet, tons of people have done it, including many I work with. How?? ... And then on the other hand, how could I quit working? (Long -- feel free to skip ahead to the question section.) [more inside]
Someone dear to me just gave birth in Detroit. In addition to the usual gifts for parents and tiny human, is there a cool local organization I can donate to in honor of this social justice oriented family? [more inside]
We have a sippy cup that operates without the internal addition of a valve. Instead it seems to have a rubber gasket built into the sippy portion that keeps water from spilling until suction is applied. It is unbranded. Can anyone point me to sippy cups that are two pieces (cap and cup), rather than three (cap, valve and cup)?
My delightful three month old doesn't know how to drink from a bottle. I'll drip milk in his mouth, and he'll get interested enough to take the bottle nipple in his mouth for a second, but it seems like his typical tongue action just pushes the nipple back out again? Is there a better nipple to try? Is there a specific way to hold the bottle that'll help him? [more inside]
I'm about to be an uncle for the first time and I AM BEYOND EXCITED!!! I want any books, instructional videos, lullabies, songs, stories, tips, tricks, and advice that will make me the most fun, capable, safe, entertaining superhero-uncle-to-a-baby-girl in the history of the world. [more inside]
My first child was born a few days ago, and I'm worried I'm not doing enough to capture how beautiful he is and how special these days are. Should I pay a photographer? Other ideas? Reassurance and perspective? [more inside]
I don't get my period and I need to change that. [more inside]
I am 29, my husband is 38. I have a year left in my technical program. In the past few months I've felt like I NEED NEED NEED A BABY. I can't decide if we should go for it or wait a year. [more inside]
Our 10-month-old son's bedtime recently changed from 6pm to 8pm, and it has really changed our dynamic at home. Instead of hanging out and catching up (which we were able to do before), my wife and I are spending most of our evenings trading off on watching him while one of us cooks or catches up on other house chores. Any ideas or tips on ways we can spend time with him and keep him occupied and still be adults spending time together in the evenings? [more inside]
I really need some advice on how to talk with my partner and address her questions about our sex life (or lack of it) as not only do we have a two-year old but my partner is also undergoing treatment for cancer. Help, please... [more inside]
Help me think of a not-too-expensive gift (under $50) to take to a friend's baby shower. They have a registry but I'd rather get them something fun that they weren't expecting. [more inside]
Are there lots of reasons that a baby could be crying for many hours every day? [more inside]
I'm going to be throwing a party soon & many of my friends have babies or toddlers. What can I have on hand to entertain babies and toddlers? [more inside]
My husband and I are in our early 30's. He is in a big hurry to start a family, believes that our window of time is rapidly closing and feels that soon it will be too late. I am not ready for this, and do not share his sense of urgency. I've told him that if it were up to me, I would postpone trying to conceive for one more year, but if that would be a deal breaker for him, I would suck it up and start trying now. He does not want to force me, but fears that if I'm not ready now I may never be ready. How do we find our way through this quagmire of emotions and practical considerations? [more inside]
Our friends and family have kids already at one and two+ years old. We're at that age where people in our social circle have started families. And we're not pregnant... again. We're overall positive, though, and this AskMe isn't about getting pregnant. We're very confident that it'll happen, or we'll adopt, or whatever – no need to give answers about that, please. But, I agonize that by the time we have a kid, that all of the kids of our friends will be too old to play together, that our friends will have moved on from wanting to hang out with a newborn, that they'll have "passed us by", or that basically we won't be able to share experiences with them and in turn we'll lose them as friends. So, I'm looking for support or advice from folks who might have been in the same situation as us. Did you end up having kids a few years after your friends/social circle? Did it turn out alright? Any positives?
Should I buy formula in bulk for an 11-month-old baby? I want to follow his lead on weaning, but I also don't want to waste money or formula. I'm looking for advice from parents who let their babies self-wean. [more inside]
After watching this precious video, I wondered, how are babies fitted with glasses? Optometrist visits in my experience have been highly interactive: tell me what line you can read, what looks better this or this, etc. How do they do this for babies who don't have language skills yet? How do they know they have the right prescription?
Help us get a young toddler and a baby to sleep at roughly the same time in the same room. Is it possible? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Parents of AskMe, help me pick over this plate of beans: when traveling by airplane as a family of four, is it better to configure seats 2-2 or 3-1? [more inside]
I'm so confused about my relationship that I've taken to MeFi to ask for advice – any thoughts would be hugely appreciated. My boyfriend of almost one year is 29; I'm 34. He's kind, caring and all-round deeply lovely, we get on absolutely brilliantly, have loads in common and I feel incredibly comfortable and happy around him. Life is sweet. Except two not-so-tiny things: he's scared of commitment and doesn't ever want to talk about my ticking biological clock. How much time do I give this? [more inside]
Many parents I know recommend Hyland's Baby Teething Tablets, a homeopathic remedy. But how could they possibly have an effect? [more inside]
I am bedsharing with my 6-month-old. I have a plan to end this in a few months, but I'd love some guidance from those who've done it themselves. [more inside]
Hi ask.mefi! You are not my doctor but right now my doctor is 3000 miles away and won't be open for another two hours. Ditto with my husbands he office to find out if our insurance will cover a quick walk in visit with someone else. Tue-wed night Typechip (13 months old) had uncomfortable stomach cramps and lots of gas and loose stool - not watery but runny and yellow. We thought it was due to Mac and cheese made with milk since he reacts badly to milk (but not cheese or yogurt) and cleaned him up and moved on. He's had loose-ish stool since but no cramps or epic gas. This morning though another really messy diaper with lots of sticky liquidy yellow brown poo. However he's eating well, happy and playful and chattering and has no fever or anything like that. I plan to call is doctor once they open but in the meantime what can I do for the little guy?
Why do my baby's diapers breakdown at daycare but not everywhere else? [more inside]
He seems sick of finger food cut into little pieces. He wants to hold a big hunk of something an nibble it himself. Obviously a lot of those are choke hazards, but so far he's been good with bread (including pieces of PB+J), those spongy kid chicken tenders, and crackers. Any other options, preferably healthy-ish?
Three or four years ago I saw a photograph in an actual newspaper of a group of wetnurses and babies in an Italian orphanage. There were some rows of buxom young women in uniform, each one seated with a breast out feeding a baby. The young women all wore a kind of nurses cap and oddly, every single one of them had dark curly hair. There was an odd juxtaposition in the picture between the uniformity of the group - and they were pretty smart - and the intimacy of the action. The date must have been 1940's or 30's. Now I've tried googling this picture and while the searches have taken me to some unexpectedly alarming places, I've not found it. The closest I've got, in feeling and structure, is number 3 of 4 here; but this isn't it. So, consulting the diverse and extensive knowledges accumulated here, does anyone know the photograph and where I might see it again? [more inside]
We're having a baby next week and need help picking between two names. Looking for advice and experience relating to full names vs. nicknames . [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
Where's the best place online to buy quality baby Halloween costumes? [more inside]
My family just moved to Tippecanoe County in Indiana, and we're baffled by the seemingly arbitrary rules that dictate when babies are and are not allowed in bars and restaurants. [more inside]
We are looking into baby names, and really like the nickname Molly. I thought Molly was a nickname for Margaret, but apparently it has traditionally been a nickname for Mary. Would it be weird to name our baby Margaret, but call her Molly? Should we just name her Molly?
Hey There Brilliant People! Could you please send me any film, tv or play suggestions that are about women going through pregnancy, the affect that has on their marriage, and women who work with doulas and midwives while pregnant? Thanks so much!
Well now I'm firmly in the camp of "anxious parent" but here goes. How much food should my kid be eating? He's 7 months old, is about 20 pounds, on formula and some solids. Details below. [more inside]
I'm a few months out from having my first kid. I'll be staying home to care for the child for at least the first year, and the thing that scares me the most is how many parents who did the same thing report feelings of isolation and loneliness. How can I minimize this in my life? [more inside]
For the food challenged: How do I learn to plan for and cook deadly simple nutritious meals for 1 adult + 1 baby child? Recipes, advice, pointers all welcome. [more inside]
I am converting my home office into a nursery for impending child. It's not technically a bedroom as it has no windows and is about 10x12' (very high ceilings though). I've gotten a little nervous reading some home blogs where commenters freak out saying a kid will die in an airless room (these are mostly on converted closet arrangements, e.g. here). What should I worry about? How can I best prepare/alter this room? [more inside]