I've got a 12-year-old girl on the spectrum with a raft of other mental health issues. It's difficult for her to maintain self-control and my wife and I have recently decided to progressively increase the risk of her melting down by not removing what we identify as obvious irritants, or by diffusing potentially upsetting situations. Have you tried this with someone you love with a disability? Can you offer potential avoidable pitfalls or strategies? [more inside]
Please cram my skull full of your experiences, info, and/or guidance about relocating from the suburbs to Philadelphia proper with my ASD/gifted/special-snowflake child. More inside. [more inside]
Can long-term depression cause numbness? Is there a word for this? [more inside]
I have a pile of treatment-resistant psychiatric symptoms, a long list of possible diagnoses given to me by different doctors over the years (including various mood disorders, ADHD, autism, and borderline personality disorder), and nearly a decade's worth of history with different psychiatrists trying different med combos with limited success. I want a knowledgeable professional who is a good diagnostician and listens well to help me dig through this shit and work out a treatment plan that makes sense. Can you recommend someone like that in the Boston area? [more inside]
Help me find the best screen time manager for kids ever! Difficulty: autism. [more inside]
At the school I work at (in a mostly non-educational role) there are several children with severe autism (or what I would consider severe, but maybe not). They have their own aides, do modified programs, etc. I've never really worked with or been around children with autism before and because I don't come from an educational background, I am really struggling with understanding what autism *is* exactly and understanding what reasonable behavior/educational expectations look like. Are there any resources I should be looking at to get a better idea of what autism is and how to best interact with the children at the school who have it? [more inside]
How do I get a best friend? I'm well-liked in a few circles, and I have lots of friendly acquaintances and a good number of friends. But I don't have that one friend you hang out with several times a week, share clothes with, constantly text with, closer than a romantic partner bff. How do I turn a good friend into a bff? [more inside]
I have worked part time since my son was born six years ago. He is now in 1st grade and gets home around 3 p.m. on the bus. I am thinking that it's time for me to go back to work full time for several reasons, but I am agonizing over my decision and it's driving me crazy. [more inside]
Need suggestions on stimulating, having fun and helping a boy with Asperger's Syndrome have a fulfilling life. More inside. [more inside]
A career services counselor at my college called me to ask how my job search is going – I told him it's not. A bit of advice he gave me was to send out my cover letter and resume to companies that don't have any open positions. Coming from a man that once encouraged me to bribe employers by buying them gifts I'm hesitant to take seriously his advice. [more inside]
My son was diagnosed with "rule out autism spectrum disorder, mild." Help me understand this. [more inside]
I have a family member who is autistic and having a difficult time coping with school and with life in general. He has consented to attending a workshop or classes that might help him deal with things a little better. We are located in the San Jose area and wondering if anyone knows of any such programs. Thank you.
My elementary school student is on the autism spectrum, high functioning. He has just "noticed" different skin colors (and his school has just done Black History Month), so it's on top of his mind. We are a different race from the vast majority of his schoolmates, so it's particularly interesting to him. He does not pick up on social cues. We're having a problem with how he talks about race (this is in the USA). We need some resources for parents of autistic children in addressing this issue. [more inside]
I'm so spent. I have a brilliant 10-y-o kiddo who was diagnosed as being on the spectrum late last school year. Between handling various behavioral blips at school, social challenges, and various doctor/therapy appointments, I have nothing left for me. [more inside]
Looking for personal, tried-and-true recommendations for a therapist in the DC area who works with adult women with autism spectrum disorders and accepts United insurance. Must be transit-accessible. [more inside]
How to incentivize myself to talk about myself less? It turns out I love talking about myself (monologuing), but I want to love listening. Tell me your tips and tricks! [more inside]
Part of my job is to bring speakers/trainers on ASD to Montana. I am looking for new presenters. Our primary audience is special education teachers, paraeducators and speech-language pathologists. So who would you suggest as a good presenter/trainer? [more inside]
After reading endless books and blogs, I'm fairly certain I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum--specifically, that I have what used to be called Asperger's syndrome. I have some questions about whether it's worth it to seek a formal diagnosis, as well as well as whether there's any worthwhile type of therapy (or anything else) that might lead to improved work prospects and social interaction. [more inside]
He's in his mid-20s. Lives with his parents. Just started his first part-time job. He likes video games, board games, sports, circuses. He's a bit of foodie. He prides himself on being up for any (small) challenge. His favorite things to read are Wikipedia, IMDB, Ripley's Believe It or Not. [more inside]
Almost 10 year old daughter has no sense of appropriate viewing, and I'd like to get a software solution to help her stay clear of the skeevier parts of Youtube. [more inside]
He loves fiddling with switches, buttons, knobs, etc. and taking things apart. He also loves throwing his toys across the room, so whatever I give him should not be so hard/heavy that it breaks windows or injures people upon impact. I've already tried Legos and Lego-like building toys with no luck. Ideas?
My three year old son has been diagnosed with autism. His psychologist has said on the old scale he would have been classed as "high functioning." I'd love to read a blog or something similar that details how a child with 'high functioning' autism has developed or will develop. Something which is basically a long-term personal story where the kid starts at a similar age to my son and where the kid is now, say, 7 years or older would be perfect. Thanks in advance!
Having recently accepted that my ASD will not go away, and looking to engage a little bit more with it, can you recommend any regular fixtures (regular articles, blogs, tumblrs, books possibly) that are written from an autistic perspective? [more inside]
I have a former co-worker who I am convinced is on the autism spectrum. He is middle-aged, and I believe he is completely unaware of the cause of his unusual attitudes and behaviors. He has moved on to another employer but I remain in contact with him. I believe I could potentially do him a life-altering favor by expressing my opinion and suggesting he seek some help. Is it reasonable to do this and expect him to understand what I'm saying? Additional complication: I used to be his manager. Since I am no longer, I don't think there would be any legal or other potential issues, but please speak up if you disagree. Thanks!
In the aftermath of a pretty fulfilling relationship that lasted almost a year, I've come to realize that I have never learned how to ask people for what I need in relationships without making people feel guilty for saying no. This might be a long one. Does anyone know of good books on how to do this or any suggestions/advice? [more inside]
How do you score the Dabrowski Overexcitability Test? Here are two examples of tests/checklists, but I can't find a version of the test with a scoring scale to provide meaning and context.
What resources are useful for adults with an autism spectrum disorder (Asperger Syndrome)? Looking for books and resources oriented toward self-help, with a particular focus on cognitive/linguistic and sensory issues, though resources on social issues are welcome too. [more inside]
Should I seek an autism diagnosis? I was assessed for aspergers ten years ago, which was negative for a stated reason that I believe was incorrect, based on my own research into how autism presents in females. Is it worth trying again? [more inside]
I'm an adult in my 30s and have just been positively screened for Autism. I'm actually really happy, because a lot of things in my life now make a lot more sense. I'd like to read on the internets stuff that autistic adults have written about their own lives. I'm interested in personal blogs and stuff that has been more formally published. Can you help? [more inside]
I am a female over 40 and will be getting a clinical psych evaluation from my state rehab agency because I've told them I suspect I am on the spectrum. I'm looking for accommodation and support via the diagnosis. I'm concerned about getting misdiagnosed. [more inside]
If autism is diagnosed in 1 of 68 children, and there are 381 million people in the country, can I use these two facts to find out how many people in the US are autistic?
For the purposes of fiction, I am trying to learn about what it was like for an American child to be diagnosed with autism or Asperger's syndrome in the mid-1980s. [more inside]
How reliable are tests for Asperger Syndrome in adults? [more inside]
I just started a new job working as a teacher assistant in a public school. I am working primarily in a separate classroom with a group of kids with varying disabilities, e.g. autism and down's syndrome. This is my first time working with kids who have disabilities, and I can tell that I have a lot to learn! How can I become a better, more effective, more confident and relaxed teacher assistant? [more inside]
What do I need to do and where do I need to go to have my adult brother receive a professional assessment stating he has autism and will need lifelong health insurance through my father? [more inside]
Metafilter has named cats and dogs, and roller derby babes. This should be easy. On the book of faces I talk a lot about my life with Agent K, my 11 yo with autism. I'd like to move it over to it's own blog and talk about our life, link to interesting articles and products, post pictures, etc. He's always been Agent K and he calls me Muh-ver, Mommy, or Heyshea. I keep a Pintrest board titled Agent K's Awesome board. Any thoughts?
My son has social delays that make making friends hard. He was finally on his way to making a real friend, and I (his mother) ruined it by inadvertently alienating the other child's mother. I can't fix it. How do I live with it? [more inside]
I'm looking, roughly speaking, for a game, but it needs to be as un-game-like as possible. I'd like something interactive I can play with when feeling overwhelmed which is visually appealing, responsive, fairly simple, and has few or no objectives. Levels and world-building are too addictive for this purpose. I'd like to be able to start and stop playing quite easily, and to be able to play when my mind is out for the count (so no puzzles). Can you help? [more inside]
My 12-year old son (previously and previouslier) is having trouble in middle school, to the extent that he is frequently absent because of what appears to be anxiety-related nausea. He was also recently diagnosed as what would have previously be Aspergers. I would love to hear some suggestions about alternatives to traditional schooling that might work, given some complications explained inside. [more inside]
My daughter just turned 10 and she has traits that may well indicate that she is somewhere at the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum. Should I get a formal diagnosis? [more inside]
I need a new job but I'm not sure where to even start looking. I don't feel like I'm qualified to do much of anything but what I'm doing now but I am BURNT OUT! So what's a 20 something with a sorta-liberal arts degree who hasn't done much but hang out with kids all day supposed to do? [more inside]
I have an 8 year old boy and a new prescription for Concerta (for him, not for me). After more than a year of testing and discussion, I've accepted the 'script because - as our doctor was very clear - we can always decide not to fill it. I'm asking you to help us decide if we should try this. [more inside]
My two and half old son got diagnosed with autism yesterday. I am obviously freaking out. Where do I start? [more inside]
My nephew is a musical genius- perfect pitch, memorized discography of most prominent classical composers, and he plays clarinet and piano (also almost any instrument he picks up.) He has autism and has been preoccupied with the Baby Einstein (and language and Beethoven) series since he was very, very young (a baby). I think one of the reasons he still holds onto it and will watch it over and over is because it's visually and musically interesting with out having a plot that his attention cannot hold onto or is too difficult to grasp emotionally. Anyone have recommendations for music/band films that would be appropriate for a 12 year old that is visually interesting with out a plot? He has watched almost every Disney and classic musical out there, but I wonder if there is something like the BE series, but more mature. Thanks!
At the grand old age of 26, I am moving into my first place, away from home (living by myself). I need tips for keeping my place clean. [more inside]
How can I teach an adult on the Asperger's/Autism Spectrum social skills specifically tailored to the office environment? [more inside]
Our young (<6) child has sensory processing issues, and is lashing out physically when she is overwhelmed. We don't want to pull her from a generally beneficial school, and she's already in occupational therapy, what else can we do to stop the aggressive behavior? [more inside]
I had a poor experience in dorm life previously. Now that I'm going to graduate school I'm facing a difficult decision, about whether to live on or off campus. [more inside]
If you have failed at forming relationships (of any kind), is there a point where you should just accept you don't have the skills and are incapable of developing them? [more inside]
I'm looking for research or studies that examine the pros and cons of having a child with special needs (especially Autism Spectrum Disorder) repeat a grade versus social promotion. I'd also like to hear from teachers or educators who've held kids back and any students (especially those that were receiving special education services) that were held back in the 3rd, 4th or 5th grade and how it impacted you. [more inside]