How do I deal with people pushing blind dates, when love is not (for the moment) blind?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2010 -
15 answers
I'm currently questioning my sexuality.
However I'm not sure who I'm sexually and romantically attracted to.
All of the attraction that I've seemed to have has been to guys, but I'm not sure if it was sexual btw. I'm 19 years old if that helps.
What is the most accurate indicator of sexual orientation / attraction?
I'm not sure if I'm attracted to girls or not, thanks...
posted by antgly
on Jun 9, 2010 -
20 answers
[KissingFilter]: I met a guy who is interesting, funny, warm, etc. I like him. Problem? He really just does not know how to kiss. What do I do?
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posted by hapax_legomenon
on Jun 7, 2010 -
17 answers
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers
Right now, I am attracted to some fairly specific looks in women. I worry that if their looks change, my feelings will change and I won't know what to do. Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner's looks changed? Can you give me advice on how to get beyond my initial reasons for being attracted to someone?
(thanks to d.g. for helping me by writing the question)
posted by abbat
on May 19, 2010 -
41 answers
I feel like I will never have the type of a guy I desire because who wants a divorced woman with two kids?
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posted by lona_here
on Mar 2, 2010 -
47 answers
I'm really fascinated by teeth and their various shapes, arrangements, etc. I remember reading something a few years back that discussed several basic dental patterns, but I can't find it, or any info remotely like it. It was a fluff piece in a fashion mag I think, but I'm more interested in reading something slightly more substantial or scientific. Does there exist a taxonomy, or a conventionalized way for describing common dental patterns? Google searching yields little, and frankly, I feel like a bit of a freak for having such a weird attraction to these cute little things and all their delightful quirks. Bonus question, am I alone on this?
posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2010 -
13 answers
I seem to find myself in the same situation all the time - I'm friendly with a girl, and there seems to be a pretty clear sense of mutual attraction. But for whatever reason, I'm not really interested in dating them. Sometimes it's a shared interests thing - maybe there's one thing we have in common but share pretty much nothing else. Or maybe they're just really immature about some things. Or maybe they're someone I work tangentially with that it would be sorta inappropriate for me to date. Anyway, for me it seems like the attracted-to scale and the want-to-date scale are kind of independent. It's great when they line up, but often they don't. So how do I go about telling them that I'm attracted to them but don't really want to date? Or is that just totally unwanted?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2010 -
10 answers
Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive.
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posted by velvet winter
on Jan 5, 2010 -
24 answers
i'm absolutely smitten by this girl. i find myself constantly thinking about her. but what are the signs of that she may an interest back?
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posted by sniperantics
on Nov 23, 2009 -
25 answers
Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2009 -
8 answers
I met the most beautiful geeky girl I have ever seen or imagined. Help me get her out of my head, please.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 16, 2009 -
66 answers
Whenever I am close to someone I am sexually attracted to, I feel this spark go through my whole body. Is there a name for it? Why does this happen and what's going on in my body?
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posted by KateHasQuestions
on Nov 9, 2009 -
16 answers
What contributes more to the attractive force between a magnet and a thin piece of metal - the magnet's surface area, or its thickness?
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posted by howling fantods
on Nov 5, 2009 -
5 answers
Can you tell me something great to do this Saturday afternoon (Nov. 7th) in central/downtown Toronto?
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posted by dnesan
on Nov 2, 2009 -
3 answers
Heterosexual male in his early 30s after a long-term relationship finds himself not really interested in the opposite sex. Is this normal?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2009 -
15 answers
Attraction detection: what makes you think someone is attracted to you? (not what makes you attracted to them) and how accurate are people's beliefs that someone is attracted to them?
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posted by gwenlister
on Jun 5, 2009 -
18 answers
Please help a fella out with the next stage of his Courtship Reeducation Program: How to stay cool when you can't stay ambivalent?
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posted by EatTheWeak
on May 25, 2009 -
13 answers
Seeking advice and shared experiences from other people who are not attracted to people from their same racial/ethnic/national identity.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2009 -
23 answers
What makes more sense when trying to deal with feelings of irritation and jealousy towards someone who just so happens to be your roommate - coldness and avoidance, or cultivating a veneer of warmth?
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posted by afabulousbeing
on Feb 18, 2009 -
23 answers
Relationship Filter: I am dating someone that I love as a person, love as a friend, and I am extremely sexually attracted to her....however for some reason or another I cant seem to develop "romantic" feelings for her...Should I let this thing go?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2009 -
29 answers
He likes me.. says I'm cute, smart and does want to be intimate.. but doesn't want a relationship. What is wrong?
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posted by freshsprout
on Sep 27, 2008 -
38 answers
Is this guy is shy, not interested, passive, or any combination of thereof? (Long explanation provided, naturally.)
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2008 -
40 answers
I'm interested in reading feminist commentary on female sexual preferences, especially on the near-universal (?) preference of women for taller and older men. What does the range of opinions within feminism look like, and what books or articles or essays ought I search for? Suggestions for materials that respond to feminist perspectives on this topic are also welcome.
posted by Cucurbit
on May 21, 2008 -
4 answers
Should I end things with a girl I've started dating who I like a lot, but whose body doesn't turn me on?
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2008 -
64 answers
In relationships, I'm very, very afraid of the possibility having to break up and hurting the other person. DTMFA threads
like this make me want to hide under my bed. I often don't get into relationships or pre-emptively end relationships quickly -- even if things are going great -- if I can imagine a time in the future when things won't work out. The fear makes it hard for me to know myself how I really feel.
So my question to you all: can you give me advice -- maybe links to psychological studies or just from your own life experiences-- on how someone can know if a relationship is worth pursuing. Not looking for guarantees of eternal happiness and marriage, just the knowledge that even if things don't work out, I'm pursing the relationship in good faith... and not being an asshole.
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posted by specialfriend
on Mar 18, 2008 -
27 answers
I am a 26-year old straight male, and I do not seem to inspire attraction by women. While I am generally liked and appreciated as a friend, I am consistently told by women that they are not interested in me romantically. What can I do to change this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2008 -
54 answers
I am looking for a magazine that would be interested in a story I've written about being in love without sexual attraction. Nerve is the only magazine that I can think of, but from the looks of things, I doubt they accept anything from writers outside of sunny California.
My story isn't sexual explicit, but I don't think a mainstream/family-friendly publication would be interested in this.
Does anyone have any suggestions for a Nerve-esque magazine (or zine) that accepts non-fiction that isn't supposed to make you horny?
posted by haasim
on Jan 10, 2008 -
13 answers
For the first time in the 3 years I've been with my fiancé, I'm irresistably attracted to someone else. Of course, I have to work with the object of my lust.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2007 -
39 answers
Friends, there is no dignified way of saying this: I'd like advice on how/where to meet girls (in the DC area?), and/or how to signal attraction effectively. (LONG POST)
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posted by Vic Morrow's Personal Vietnam
on Oct 16, 2007 -
18 answers
If you're an obese man who's been successful in the dating scene, please give me some tips and advice. As always, there's
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2007 -
12 answers
I'm looking for things to do, where to stay, and places to go in Minneapolis, with a 2 year old, in December.
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posted by WinnipegDragon
on Aug 30, 2007 -
18 answers
I have a question to ask of heterosexual women on Metafilter: are you as shallow as I am?
Do you find overweight men attractive?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2007 -
34 answers
I (male) have a friend (female) who I'm really attracted to. After being vague I've cleared the air about it all and she's not looking for more. We really value the friendship so I'm not going anywhere and neither is she. Any suggestions for when I have the overwhelming urge to just kiss her?
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posted by swiffa
on Jul 9, 2007 -
27 answers
are super fit guys into girls with normal bodies? are guys who literally look abercombie + fitch models attracted to girls who don't spend a couple hours a day, every day, at the gym?
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posted by violetk
on Jul 3, 2007 -
50 answers
Is the type of person you're attracted to or consider attractive hard-wired in you during childhood?
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posted by whitneykitty
on Apr 4, 2007 -
42 answers
