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How do I delete a (very) attractive male friend off Facebook?

An unusually good-looking male MA graduate classmate and I friended each other in RL + FB b/c we're in the same graduate class over the next year. We've worked on projects together, and have quite a bit in common. In the beginning - there was definitely attraction going on (esp for him). I felt he was very attracted to me b/c of my life experience, or that I don't pander to him like his younger female friends. He's also 22, I'm 38. In recent weeks, I've felt the age difference and his immaturity in certain issues show up, which I thought would be a good deterrent. The good news is I do not want to date him, nor do I see anything long-term if anything was to happen. But I'm struggling b/c I fear really hurting his feelings... yet I see him every week at school, so I don't know how to take him off? [more inside]
posted by sam3cat on Nov 24, 2016 - 10 answers

How do people overlook physical unattractiveness with romance and sex?

I do not understand how physical unattractiveness can be overlooked by people when they meet a stranger and consider them for a romantic or sexual partner. I apply this more to myself than to others. I know this is not a good viewpoint. I need help from people who see this right, as adults do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2016 - 41 answers

Please advise about this guy I am stuck on

Hello I am a lady in her late 30s and until 3 weeks ago, in a long-term relationship (12 years). We were not married and had no kids, and lived together for a decade. My ex and I shared a deep understanding, laughs and interests, and I thought this was enough until I met a younger guy a few months ago, for whom I immediately felt a crazy infatuation. [more inside]
posted by muppets on Sep 22, 2015 - 17 answers

Completely clueless (Sigh.)

What does the process of finding a life partner look like? [more inside]
posted by strelitzia on Apr 30, 2013 - 45 answers

Is mutual attraction as common in real life as it is in the media?

I've been in very few relationships in my life: 2 boyfriends of about a year each, and marriage for 8 years. I'm in my early 50s. I split with my husband at the end of 2001, and I've only had a very few first dates since then with men I met online, and no dating activity now for about 6 years. I am very overweight and have severe self-esteem issues, especially about my looks. But apart from that and the whole question of how to even meet men, I'm curious about the phenomenon of people meeting and feeling mutual attraction. I'm not talking about falling in love or the development of a relationship, but the first moments of meeting and reacting to another. In the media mutual attraction is depicted as happening commonly; it's the norm, like if one person has something in them that makes them react to another, it's kind of because that second person also has that same thing in them and reciprocates the attraction. Is this just a media construct? Is it pretty true-to-life?
posted by primate moon on Mar 8, 2013 - 23 answers

I adore him, but find his health problems a turn off. Is there a fix?

I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2013 - 41 answers

How can I stop thinking about a girl I like, who's too young for me to say anything to, at least enough for me to focus on my work?

How can I stop thinking about a girl I like, who's too young for me to say anything to, at least enough for me to focus on my work? (Snowflakey details inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2012 - 37 answers

Why am I not in love with my girlfriend?

Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated. [more inside]
posted by yeahyeahyeah on Jun 8, 2012 - 61 answers

give me a sign! women and their ways to show they like you

i'm absolutely smitten by this girl. i find myself constantly thinking about her. but what are the signs of that she may an interest back? [more inside]
posted by sniperantics on Nov 23, 2009 - 25 answers

Amazing relationship, no sex

I love my SO but I'm no longer attracted to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2008 - 31 answers

How can I get over my fear of hurting others?

In relationships, I'm very, very afraid of the possibility having to break up and hurting the other person. DTMFA threads like this make me want to hide under my bed. I often don't get into relationships or pre-emptively end relationships quickly -- even if things are going great -- if I can imagine a time in the future when things won't work out. The fear makes it hard for me to know myself how I really feel. So my question to you all: can you give me advice -- maybe links to psychological studies or just from your own life experiences-- on how someone can know if a relationship is worth pursuing. Not looking for guarantees of eternal happiness and marriage, just the knowledge that even if things don't work out, I'm pursing the relationship in good faith... and not being an asshole. [more inside]
posted by specialfriend on Mar 18, 2008 - 27 answers

Looking for an alternative to Nerve Magazine

I am looking for a magazine that would be interested in a story I've written about being in love without sexual attraction. Nerve is the only magazine that I can think of, but from the looks of things, I doubt they accept anything from writers outside of sunny California. My story isn't sexual explicit, but I don't think a mainstream/family-friendly publication would be interested in this. Does anyone have any suggestions for a Nerve-esque magazine (or zine) that accepts non-fiction that isn't supposed to make you horny?
posted by haasim on Jan 10, 2008 - 13 answers

Attraction across races

Are you attracted to people of races different from your own? [more inside]
posted by Big Fat Tycoon on Jun 3, 2005 - 85 answers

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