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Should I say what I need to say?

Stuck on someone, but things got weird and awkward. Would it be a good idea to open up and just let this person know how I feel about them? Wall o' text commences... [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Jun 25, 2014 - 16 answers

Non-student Non-professor Attraction

As a late 20s non-student, how do I proceed with my attraction to my late 20s non-professor? Please share your perspective and experiences. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2014 - 23 answers

Getting out of friend zone

There's this one girl friend that I have. We started out as friends and I thought she was cute and I had a slight interest in her. However since we were in different majors and I studied abroad, I haven't seen her in over a year with no contacts. Today, I just met her after not seeing her for a long time and we had lunch. However, I felt attracted to her and I was wondering whether I should give it a go and ask her out. I still think she sees me as a friend judging by the text conversation before we went out for lunch. What do you guys think I should do? Is it worth it?
posted by soul24rage on Feb 1, 2014 - 22 answers

Dating with PTSD - And Tell Me Cutting Off This "Friend" Was Right

I've got PTSD and am socially isolated in graduate school. I met a hot guy, and had to friend-dump him because he's in a long distance relationship. Tell me I did this right! [more inside]
posted by cheberet on Jan 28, 2014 - 21 answers

Completely clueless (Sigh.)

What does the process of finding a life partner look like? [more inside]
posted by strelitzia on Apr 30, 2013 - 45 answers

Break up with a man I'm not very attracted to? Feeling crappy.

I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men. [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Apr 1, 2013 - 35 answers

Long-distance relationship or debaucherous partying?

As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally. [more inside]
posted by jouir on Feb 12, 2013 - 33 answers

I adore him, but find his health problems a turn off. Is there a fix?

I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2013 - 41 answers

How can I turn him down without crushing him?

How can I avoid leading a guy on when he won't come out and state his attraction? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Dec 14, 2012 - 28 answers

I'm not cut out for modern dating. Please help!

I'm not cut out for modern dating. Please help! [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Oct 7, 2012 - 33 answers

Not that I'm complaining, mind you...

Over the past year, I've notice that I've been approached almost exclusively by noticeably younger guys. What's up with that? [more inside]
posted by gohabsgo on Sep 30, 2012 - 22 answers

How to make a move on someone I've been waiting to approach?

How do I approach a castmate I've developed feelings for? We've been working on a show together for about a month, and I've developed an attraction to him. I immediately determined I should wait until the show closed to make any obvious moves, but I'm not sure how to do it. [more inside]
posted by lemoncakeisalie on Jul 21, 2012 - 35 answers

I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do?

I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by curious-mind on Jun 24, 2012 - 65 answers

Why am I not in love with my girlfriend?

Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated. [more inside]
posted by yeahyeahyeah on Jun 8, 2012 - 61 answers

Remedial Macking

I'd like to hear your thoughts on how one "makes a move" on someone else. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 50 answers

What can I do to get myself to feel attracted to a different type of man?

What can I do to get myself to feel attracted to a different type of man? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2012 - 33 answers

love without limerence?

How important are the butterflies? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2011 - 25 answers

In or out?

What to do when you really want to make a go of it with someone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2011 - 22 answers

I theoretically want to reach out and touch someone.

I’m a 31-year-old straight woman living in the US and not at all religious. I've never been a big fan of physical contact unless it's with someone that I love. I never remember a time, where I looked at random guy or celebrity and thought, "Wow. I'd really like to kiss him." As I get to know a guy, I might or might not become physically attracted to him. It typically takes several dates though. This weekend, I'm going out for the 4th time with a guy who I am still not sure about. I like spending time with him, but I am almost dreading going out again because I feel like after four dates, I should at least kiss him. I don't think I'm ready to kiss him though. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2011 - 35 answers

Help me feel attracted to a wider range of men

What are your tricks and tips for becoming attracted to someone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2011 - 25 answers

Why don't I want friends?

It seems I don't have a lot of sustained interest in meeting new people or hanging out with people in general other than people I'm attracted to romantically/want to date. [more inside]
posted by clever anonymous username on Dec 19, 2010 - 11 answers

Hot girls are...

What are some specific, widely held, possibly irrational turn-ons... for those attracted to females. [more inside]
posted by alternateuniverse on Dec 15, 2010 - 82 answers

Too fat to f@#&?

Is it my weight, or my being self conscious about my weight, that is making me unsuccessful picking up women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2010 - 38 answers

Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?

Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating? I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2010 - 32 answers

So, um... what's up with your teeth?

I really like this guy and he's interested in me, but he has bad teeth. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 11, 2010 - 45 answers

How do I at least get a date with a shy guy when I am shy and full of self-doubt?

I like shy boys and grumpy boys. I am shy. How to approach? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2010 - 24 answers

But I don't want to be an alpha male!

Questions about male-female attraction and my validity as a man. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2010 - 60 answers

How to get from attraction to sleeping together without dating?

I seem to find myself in the same situation all the time - I'm friendly with a girl, and there seems to be a pretty clear sense of mutual attraction. But for whatever reason, I'm not really interested in dating them. Sometimes it's a shared interests thing - maybe there's one thing we have in common but share pretty much nothing else. Or maybe they're just really immature about some things. Or maybe they're someone I work tangentially with that it would be sorta inappropriate for me to date. Anyway, for me it seems like the attracted-to scale and the want-to-date scale are kind of independent. It's great when they line up, but often they don't. So how do I go about telling them that I'm attracted to them but don't really want to date? Or is that just totally unwanted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2010 - 10 answers

How do I keep my raging lust in check while getting to know someone?

Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive. [more inside]
posted by velvet winter on Jan 5, 2010 - 24 answers

She likes me, but does she *like* me like me?

Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2009 - 8 answers

How can I stop this ridiculous crush?

I met the most beautiful geeky girl I have ever seen or imagined. Help me get her out of my head, please. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2009 - 66 answers

How to Keep Steady?

Please help a fella out with the next stage of his Courtship Reeducation Program: How to stay cool when you can't stay ambivalent? [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeak on May 25, 2009 - 13 answers

He wants to be "friends" but still likes me? Did I kill the attraction?

He likes me.. says I'm cute, smart and does want to be intimate.. but doesn't want a relationship. What is wrong? [more inside]
posted by freshsprout on Sep 27, 2008 - 38 answers

Generating attraction

I am a 26-year old straight male, and I do not seem to inspire attraction by women. While I am generally liked and appreciated as a friend, I am consistently told by women that they are not interested in me romantically. What can I do to change this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2008 - 54 answers

No Flip-Flops?

Do the shoes make the man? [more inside]
posted by keep it tight on Oct 17, 2007 - 32 answers

If you're an obese man successful on the dating scene, what are your tips and advice?

If you're an obese man who's been successful in the dating scene, please give me some tips and advice. As always, there's [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2007 - 12 answers

Getting Used to Dating and Sex with a Changed Physique

I have a question to ask of heterosexual women on Metafilter: are you as shallow as I am? Do you find overweight men attractive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2007 - 34 answers

Why is it embarrassing not to have romantic interest reciprocated?

Why is it embarrassing not to have romantic interest reciprocated? [more inside]
posted by socrates on Sep 4, 2006 - 20 answers

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