Is this guy is shy, not interested, passive, or any combination of thereof? (Long explanation provided, naturally.) [more inside]
posted on May 31, 2008 - 40 answers

I'm interested in reading feminist commentary on female sexual preferences, especially on the near-universal (?) preference of women for taller and older men. What does the range of opinions within feminism look like, and what books or articles or essays ought I search for? Suggestions for materials that respond to feminist perspectives on this topic are also welcome.
posted on May 21, 2008 - 4 answers

Should I end things with a girl I've started dating who I like a lot, but whose body doesn't turn me on? [more inside]
posted on May 4, 2008 - 63 answers

In relationships, I'm very, very afraid of the possibility having to break up and hurting the other person. DTMFA threads like this make me want to hide under my bed. I often don't get into relationships or pre-emptively end relationships quickly -- even if things are going great -- if I can imagine a time in the future when things won't work out. The fear makes it hard for me to know myself how I really feel. So my question to you all: can you give me advice -- maybe links to psychological studies or just from your own life experiences-- on how someone can know if a relationship is worth pursuing. Not looking for guarantees of eternal happiness and marriage, just the knowledge that even if things don't work out, I'm pursing the relationship in good faith... and not being an asshole. [more inside]
posted on Mar 18, 2008 - 27 answers

I am a 26-year old straight male, and I do not seem to inspire attraction by women. While I am generally liked and appreciated as a friend, I am consistently told by women that they are not interested in me romantically. What can I do to change this? [more inside]
posted on Mar 3, 2008 - 51 answers

I am looking for a magazine that would be interested in a story I've written about being in love without sexual attraction. Nerve is the only magazine that I can think of, but from the looks of things, I doubt they accept anything from writers outside of sunny California. My story isn't sexual explicit, but I don't think a mainstream/family-friendly publication would be interested in this. Does anyone have any suggestions for a Nerve-esque magazine (or zine) that accepts non-fiction that isn't supposed to make you horny?
posted on Jan 10, 2008 - 13 answers

For the first time in the 3 years I've been with my fiancé, I'm irresistably attracted to someone else. Of course, I have to work with the object of my lust. [more inside]
posted on Nov 21, 2007 - 39 answers

Do the shoes make the man? [more inside]
posted on Oct 17, 2007 - 32 answers

Friends, there is no dignified way of saying this: I'd like advice on how/where to meet girls (in the DC area?), and/or how to signal attraction effectively. (LONG POST) [more inside]
posted on Oct 16, 2007 - 18 answers

If you're an obese man who's been successful in the dating scene, please give me some tips and advice. As always, there's [more inside]
posted on Sep 13, 2007 - 12 answers

I'm looking for things to do, where to stay, and places to go in Minneapolis, with a 2 year old, in December. [more inside]
posted on Aug 30, 2007 - 18 answers

I have a question to ask of heterosexual women on Metafilter: are you as shallow as I am? Do you find overweight men attractive? [more inside]
posted on Jul 21, 2007 - 34 answers

I (male) have a friend (female) who I'm really attracted to. After being vague I've cleared the air about it all and she's not looking for more. We really value the friendship so I'm not going anywhere and neither is she. Any suggestions for when I have the overwhelming urge to just kiss her? [more inside]
posted on Jul 9, 2007 - 27 answers

are super fit guys into girls with normal bodies? are guys who literally look abercombie + fitch models attracted to girls who don't spend a couple hours a day, every day, at the gym? [more inside]
posted on Jul 3, 2007 - 50 answers

How do you tell a guy he is... hot? [more inside]
posted on Apr 14, 2007 - 49 answers

Is the type of person you're attracted to or consider attractive hard-wired in you during childhood? [more inside]
posted on Apr 4, 2007 - 42 answers

There's a guy at work who fascinates me and I would love to get to know him as a friend, but I'm afraid to pursue it for fear he'll think I'm coming on to him. (I'm happily married and not looking for an affair). Should I just relax, not overthink it and let things develop, or should I run? [more inside]
posted on Mar 23, 2007 - 26 answers

Do people ever exist who lack any attraction toward any other human being? [more inside]
posted on Jan 13, 2007 - 27 answers

Why is it embarrassing not to have romantic interest reciprocated? [more inside]
posted on Sep 4, 2006 - 20 answers

For most people, physical attraction is visual. So how do Blind people become attracted to someone in the absence of visual stimuli? [more inside]
posted on Aug 30, 2006 - 13 answers

What can I do If I'm not physically attracted to my spouse? [more inside]
posted on May 25, 2006 - 41 answers

Cats are mysteriously drawn to me. [more inside]
posted on May 11, 2006 - 22 answers

Do my boyfriend and I have a chance at long-term happiness if we lack a hot "spark" when it comes to our sexual attraction for each other? [more inside]
posted on Apr 20, 2006 - 63 answers

This post (Catnip for the Ladies) was very interesting, but what if we're talking Catnip in the forty to fifty year old range? What qualities and partialities make the middle aged male attractive?
posted on Mar 7, 2006 - 28 answers

Catnip to the ladies: Four female friends of mine recently had a conversation about what makes an attractive man. Opinions varied, but in the end, three traits were deemed "universally very hot": riding a motorcycle, building things out of wood, and having been in more than a few fistfights growing up. This baffled me to no end. Help me compile a longer list. [more inside]
posted on Mar 2, 2006 - 121 answers

After reading Aceys question today in which she was asking for advice for an 18 year old, Skylar answered: "I wish that I had better understood the nature of attraction and seduction, things I am only getting to know now as I get older. When I was younger I waited for people to approach me because I didn't have the courage to do it for myself. Now I realise how a few simple rules of psychology apply in many potential romantic encounters and I have gained a lot more confidence in those situations." [more inside]
posted on Sep 8, 2005 - 15 answers

I have just started to be attracted to a friend I never had feelings for before, in an insidious and subconscious way. But my girlfriend and I are living together, and she's pushing hard for marriage. [more inside]
posted on Jul 13, 2005 - 23 answers

Are you attracted to people of races different from your own? [more inside]
posted on Jun 3, 2005 - 85 answers

I am a hetero male. Why am I attracted to lesbians? I know it's a fairly common thing for guys, but I just don't understand where it comes from, and this disturbs me -and hurts my hetero relationship.
posted on Feb 6, 2005 - 28 answers

How does one best handle attraction to friends of the appropriate sex, in rather complex situations? (vastly more inside)
posted on Dec 12, 2004 - 13 answers