10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
I'm a middle manager in a branch of an international organization, and its head, my boss, is nuts. Really. She seems gripped by wild ambition and self-importance one minute, and extreme, childlike helplessness the next. She refuses to manage anything, at all, and can't stay on topic during a three-minute conversation, let alone set any kind of priorities for the organization. She never refuses a request from higher management and is constantly pushing us all to work longer and more unpaid hours. Sometimes I think she is addicted to stress, since she always chooses the most difficult, time-consuming, complicated path. Every. Single. Time. [more inside]
You've started a small business, things have been tough, you've been staring down the barrel of failure, but you've turned it around, you made it work. How did you do it? What changes in practice and attitude really made a difference to your success? What resources did you draw upon? I'd really like to hear how you made it through the tough times. If your business is arts/craft related, even better. [more inside]
Is there a book or a research article (or high quality speculation) to be found, which would ponder how frequent bombarding with "surveillance is a good thing" comments (appearing in media and made by some kind of authority) and "yet another security flaw appeared in a mobile application, in a web service or in a department of a company" news (which would happen to some high profile and well known company) affects kids and youngsters? I mean their mind is still shaping, so it would be interesting to know in advance, what kind of adults will they become? Naturally the mind of an individual is shaping throughout the whole lifetime, but it could be said that there are lots of people, who aren't or will not be very good at getting rid of their "old programming".
I remember reading a few years back about a piece of research or a theory in social psychology. The research found that a speaker should emphasise common ground when trying to persuade their listeners to change their opinion. By contrast, if they stressed how much their opinions diverged, the listeners would actually move further away from speaker's ideas than they were before. In other words, a conciliatory tone might be better than a strident attack if we want to persuade people. Does this ring a bell with anyone?
How can a person be more aware of their personality flaws? [more inside]
I am just coming off a very long period of hardcore work crunch. Before I can get myself physically back on track, I am going to spend a short period of time meeting a lot of people and rocking the connections I've made. I know that attitude is 90% of people's impressions of you, but I just don't feel confident these days from the short-term toll the stress has taken on my looks. I need some tips! [more inside]
How do I change my SO's behavior on matters of good manners and attitude? Should I? [more inside]
What novels or movies have a vivacious, charming person drop in and change everybody's perspective or shake the place up?
Staying positive when it seems like everything has gone wrong - snowflakes within [more inside]
The Emotional Bondage of Stuff, or, Why am I having so much trouble getting rid of things I don't really like, never wanted in the first place, and actively want to discard?
Need to drastically downsize. Am actively eager to drastically downsize. Totally aware of the emotional and psychological implications and pitfalls of downsizing. So why is it still so hard? Scratch that. How do I make it less hard? [more inside]
Any non-obvious tips for conducting a successful interview? I'm looking for perspectives both in general and also considering my situation. [more inside]
I feel I'm less interesting when I like someone... is this normal? [more inside]
Caffeine helps me to be optimistic, positive, and productive at work. Unfortunately, it's also fantastically addictive, and disrupts basically every important bodily process that I have. Should I talk to a psychiatrist about trying some kind of prescription stimulant? [more inside]
Should all responsibilities feel like a heavy weight, on a day to day basis? In class and at work I am constantly checking the clock, waiting for when it will be finally over. When I get back to my room, I want to lay in bed for the rest of the day. What's with that? [more inside]
How do you unlearn a learned behavior/attitude from childhood? [more inside]
Help me find a speech on secrecy introducing the experience of having high clearance. It was an excerpt from a book, and was a speech given from someone who already had clearance to a state official who was about to gain such clearance. Involved how one's attitude changes over time. I think I saw it on boingboing or kottke but my google-fu is failing so far. [more inside]
I am having a little trouble at work...with all the unspoken rules and expectations. I don't have anyone to teach me these things nor do I have enough/any work experience to learn..and I'd like to learn these things fast! [more inside]
I have a bad attitude. Help me change. (this might get long) [more inside]
Is there a word for a condition in which a person is so afraid of success or failure that she does things like 1) Not check phone messages, 2) doesn't open mail, e-mail, etc.? [more inside]
"My SmartyPants are made from the fiber of a indigenous tree-plant in the south of Durkadurkastan where the Tree of Life was rumored to have been planted in 846BC by sabertooth tiger shepherds..."
My fiance has male answer syndrome. Lately, I have found myself getting irritated almost after every sentence. How do I change my perception/attitude so I can handle this with grace and humor instead of anger and stabbing?
What do I say to my friend about her bad attitude? [more inside]
What can I do to thrive and forward my career in a job I am overqualified for? [more inside]
So, I've been promoted at work and everything is going swimmingly except for some difficult interpersonal stuff with a few coworkers. I need help to decide how to handle these situations... [more inside]
Can someone who seems embittered by their experiences with the world in general, and with people, institutions, religion and relationships in particular, improve their view with a change in circumstances? Or, is how they handle the feelings from those experiences more about character, with a change in location or fortunes not having much long-term emotional effect? [more inside]
My girlfriend is a negative person. Either she changes her attitude or I'm going to leave her. [more inside]
How to deal with a bad aesthetic environment whilst bringing up a child. [more inside]
How can I be less cynical? [more inside]
Can one be grateful without any recipient ? [more inside]
Why do surgeons have "attitude?" [more inside]
How did you turn your life around? I'm looking for inspiring stories and general patterns. Be as philosophical or as specific as you like. [more inside]
How to be impervious to the suck of people. Suggestions? [more inside]
Keep your eyes on the prize. Never give up. Fight until the end. This is the kind of positive message I'm looking for in music and in movies, and I'm asking for recommendations from the hivemind [more inside]
I need help with attitude adjustment. I have trouble making compromises, it is usually all or nothing for me, especially when it is something important. As a result I often hurt the ones I love the most because of this flaw in me. I have tried to find ways to focus on what is more important, the love of the other person over having things my way. I know I cherish the love more, yet I can not seem to make compromises. How do I change this?