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How to prevent attachment to a casual fling?

For my first outside-of-my-first-relationship relationship (or whatever you would call it, there's no titles for anything anymore), I am very confused how to do this successfully and without getting hurt. Please help me understand how to navigate a casual relationship without hurting myself. Slight snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms on Jul 25, 2016 - 25 answers

Reactive Attachment Disorder in Adults

Need to find documentaries on RAD, watched Child of Rage and there seem to be others but cannot find them. This for an adult with the disorder who is seeking desperately to heal from inner rage and relational difficulties. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier on Jul 11, 2016 - 2 answers

Change your attachment style

I have an avoidance attachment style. I want to be secure. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya on May 27, 2016 - 7 answers

Best relationship hacks for an anxious-preoccupied attachment style?

I am in a relationship that I very much enjoy, with a partner who is supportive and giving but also has external limits on how much attention he can give to the relationship. What are some ideas that have worked for people who have an anxious/preoccupied attachment style, to avoid triggering insecurity? [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear on Mar 27, 2016 - 18 answers

No sense of belonging

For as long as I can remember, I have not had a sense of belonging. I don't mean that I can't make friends or establish social networks; I don't have a problem with that, though I'm shy. But I never really feel like part of a group. Why do I feel this way, and how do I change this? [more inside]
posted by thetortoise on Jan 15, 2016 - 23 answers

Help me frame this difficult question re: what helps

I just learned yesterday that a good acquaintance has stage IV cancer. His wife has started a gofundme to raise enough money for them to pay the travel costs of entering a trial program. I want to support him/them but I'm conflicted and would love to hear from the community some words that I can say to myself to help let go of the conflict. [more inside]
posted by janey47 on Sep 10, 2015 - 31 answers

What's a normal way to navigate friendships?

I feel as though I have a lot of trouble navigating friendships with same way other people do. More specifically, I feel as though my normal is not anyone else's normal vis-a-vis level of contact, time commitments, etc. How do I address this? Lots of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by O Sock My Sock on Jul 29, 2015 - 25 answers

Attachment Parenting = Securely Attached Child?

Have attachment parenting concepts been scientifically validated? do they really increase the chances of raising a securely attached child? [more inside]
posted by serenity soonish on Apr 30, 2015 - 30 answers

I Can't Picture This

All of sudden I can't attach pictures to my tweets, and I can't find out why. [more inside]
posted by lpsguy on Apr 17, 2015 - 3 answers

How to love a fearful-avoidant partner

I've seen these questions about how to change a fearful-avoidant attachment style, but I can't find any information on how to help a partner who is fearful-avoidant feel loved and secure. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2015 - 11 answers

Help for the fearful-avoidant adult.

I seem to be Fearful-avoidant according to attachment theory in adults. Please help me learn more about this way of dealing with people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2015 - 8 answers

Insecure Attachment in Relationships - resources please.

My marriage can be very good, but it can also be very challenging, and has been particularly so in the past few months. Based on our interactions, I've been reading up on attachment and suspect that we both struggle with different types of insecure attachment. I'm looking for resources (online or print) that can help me better understand how our different issues are playing out in our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2014 - 3 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

How to manage emotions when teaching

How do you keep yourself from getting too emotionally invested in your students and your teaching? My day can be made or destroyed by my students and the extent to which this happens makes me uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by sarae on Dec 31, 2013 - 17 answers

Daughter can't leave her mother's side.

My 4-year-old daughter has suddenly become incredibly over-attached to her mother - Why? [more inside]
posted by Tenacious.Me.Tokyo on Dec 19, 2013 - 11 answers

SSRIs and the end of romantic love

Four months after my husband went on Lexapro, I could see it in his face that he didn't love me anymore. At seven months, he asked to separate after four years of marriage. After finding this article online, I'm curious as to whether others have had similar experiences. Have you or your spouse experienced a decline in attachment/romantic love after starting an SSRI? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2013 - 71 answers

Writing a letter of recommendation via email: in body or as attachment?

A question about writing letters of recommendation. Specifically, when the letters are not hand-written and snail mailed, but are emailed instead. [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints on Nov 14, 2013 - 12 answers

Email current page as attachment?

I need a bookmarklet, preferably, that will send an email with the current page as an attachment -- not just the link, the actual file. Bonus if you can pre-specify the email address (or otherwise make it 1-click). [more inside]
posted by tintexas on Oct 19, 2013 - 9 answers

How can I be less emotionally invested in my technical ideas?

Why do I get so emotionally invested in "eureka" ideas that them having done before leads to a crash-and-burn for me? How do I avoid this? [more inside]
posted by gadha on Aug 19, 2013 - 9 answers

Can you get a virus just by opening an email?

Using Gmail, I opened a strange message and now I'm worried it may have done something to my computer. Does this make sense? [more inside]
posted by Kevin Street on Mar 19, 2013 - 9 answers

A well-balanced relationship is making me feel insecure

I have a ten year history of extremely intense borderline co-dependent relationships that consume my life. Two years ago I finally ended the cycle and started working on myself, now I'm trying to have healthy relationships, but it's not working as well as I anticipated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2013 - 11 answers

I'm making a huge tiny mistake.

Is waiting for someone to contact you first giving them too much power? Is contacting them first desperate? Am I overthinking what is already a trainwreck (most likely)? Help me out, romantically-experienced MeFites! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2012 - 17 answers

How do I make myself a good mother?

I'm a crappy parent and my daughter doesn't like me--now what do I do? [more inside]
posted by andariel on Oct 29, 2012 - 49 answers

How can I deal with lingering feelings of blame and attachment following the end of a long-term relationship?

I was with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we lived together for much of that time. We had built a home and a family (albeit a two-person family), but two months ago he left me. On paper, I'm doing really well. But I still struggle with blame and attachment. Can you offer advice that will help me let go? (Lot's more detail inside. Hope it's not too much). [more inside]
posted by pantheON on Oct 20, 2012 - 22 answers

Attachment and daycare

Attachment and daycare: how do people do it? [more inside]
posted by mooselini on May 16, 2012 - 31 answers

How to deal with dog attachment issues?

My dog is about 7 years old, she is a Australian mini. Whenever I go away after work for more then a few hours she cries, mopes and whines. She has this annoying habit of whistling through her nose. I live with my family and commute to work with my Dad & to school, so most days we're leaving at 8am and back 6pm--she does fine then but then if I'm gone & my Dad is home is when she is really fussy. I typically spend the weekend with my Fiancé, which really bugs her (I can't take her with us as my Fiancé lives in a Resident Hall). If I go out of town, or away for the night she is still really needy and fussy. How can I get her to be less annoying for my family, to be less fussy about me being gone? I take her for walks and love on her when I am home but that's not enough. Any suggestions or ideas would be most helpful.
posted by snow_mac on Apr 15, 2012 - 6 answers

Sooo...trust and attachment issues, anyone?

It seems I'm incapable of becoming attached to individuals or trusting them. Help? [more inside]
posted by jumelle on Apr 1, 2012 - 41 answers

Calming strategies/advice for impending older-child adoption?

Best way to calm new adoptive parent fears and prepare for attachment issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2011 - 13 answers

Stuck like glue: a tale of over-attachment.

I get attached to guys really quickly; why do I do this and how can I stop? [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune on Sep 6, 2011 - 8 answers

How can I change my relationship style while not in a relationship?

In working with my therapist, we've concluded that I have a fearful-avoidant attachment style. I'd like to know how to get out of that mode. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2011 - 6 answers

How to overcome fear of rejection in relationships

I’m a 28 y/o woman who has finally found someone that I admire, who loves me dearly, and isn't a huge pain in my ass --and I'm hoping to make this last! Please help me to not ruin this wonderful thing! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2011 - 16 answers

What can I attach to my hose to send water 40-50 feet away?

What can I attach to my hose to send water 40-50 feet away? [more inside]
posted by AllieTessKipp on Apr 6, 2011 - 11 answers

Books for Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style

What books will help me fix my anxious-preoccupied attachment style? [more inside]
posted by cheesecake on Feb 24, 2011 - 6 answers

What do you do when someone with an attachment disorder attaches to you?

I met someone online who became obsessed with me and I need to know how safe I am and what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2011 - 27 answers

Can babies have insomnia?

My 12-month-old baby refuses to go to sleep unless he's holding my hand. Does anyone have any tips or tricks for getting him over this or transferring his attachment to something a little less attached to me? [more inside]
posted by logic vs love on Nov 2, 2010 - 40 answers

Which tv couples are securely attached?

Examples of secure/insecure attachment relationships in movies/tv? [more inside]
posted by supramarginal on Sep 20, 2010 - 7 answers

simple gmail fix?

gmail filters: I have a utilitarian phone that doesn't MMS. I have gmail set to forward incoming mail to my phone number as SMS. When I am mailed attachments, they usually bounce a Mail Delivery Sub. error. [more inside]
posted by roygbv on Jul 21, 2010 - 4 answers

Big File - How to Email?

I need to email a file that is too big for Gmail. Can you recommend a way to send it? [more inside]
posted by meerkatty on Jun 9, 2010 - 21 answers

Can Outlook attachments change themselves?

Is it possible for an email attachment in Outlook to 'update' itself from a network drive? My attachment is not the same now as it was when I first received and viewed it. [more inside]
posted by youngergirl44 on Jul 7, 2009 - 14 answers

How Can I Help My Troubled Cousin?

How can I support my troubled cousin who suffers from attachment disorder? [more inside]
posted by harnharn on May 22, 2009 - 5 answers

Attachment Issues

I am looking for ideas on how to make progress on my attachment issues. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse on Apr 22, 2009 - 39 answers

end the attachment cycle

I want to stop being a relationship-machine and start having something more casual. Why do I get attached so quickly? And how do I prevent myself from getting attached so I can have more fun? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 23, 2008 - 24 answers

Is there such a thing as a good massage chair?

Looking for an affordable and decent massage chair (or attachment). [more inside]
posted by mcarthey on Oct 23, 2008 - 3 answers

Evo Devo Child-Rearing Book?

Help me pick a book for my Evo Devo class! [more inside]
posted by messylissa on Oct 14, 2008 - 1 answer

VB: Putting filenames in a message body.

VB Script Help: I would like to put the filenames of my attachments into the message body of my emails. How do I do that? [more inside]
posted by bigmusic on Oct 13, 2008 - 5 answers

Fastest way to get a screenshot attached to a new gmail message?

Is there a one-click way I can 1. press a key combo shortcut 2. select a rectangular area of my screen 3. snap a screenshot of that 4. immediately get that screenshot attached to a new gmail message ? [more inside]
posted by scarabic on Sep 9, 2008 - 14 answers

Evil UPS email...

Is our computer infected by that UPS email attachement that has been flying around lately? [more inside]
posted by doowop on Jul 22, 2008 - 3 answers

Embedded email images what?

What is going on when I sent an attached image from Mail (on my Mac) to an aol email address? [more inside]
posted by hapticactionnetwork on Jun 3, 2008 - 4 answers

Wiki, email...tomaytoe, tomahtoh...

What else has wiki/email integration features like JotSpot's? [more inside]
posted by nakedcodemonkey on Apr 21, 2008 - 2 answers

Help me turn this MIME attachment into something decipherable

Content-Transfer-Encoding: base64? Content-Type: application/applefile? Help me turn this MIME attachment into something decipherable. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone on Apr 6, 2008 - 3 answers

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