I need help in learning how to firmly say no and in changing patterns that have been years in the making. I’m an empathetic and intuitive person and I’m very generous. It’s second nature to me to offer to help out or to support my friends. I come from a very ‘what’s mine is yours’ approach. I’ve given people places to stay, financial support, intensive emotional support and career assistance. I like being this way; it’s true to me and I’m not resenting or adding it up…but I feel I am training some people to exploit me or to assume they are always entitled to my help. I’m happy with these parts of myself, but recently I’ve started feeling that my kindness and sensitivity to others needs and boundaries is encouraging some people to treat me as if I have no boundaries or needs myself. [more inside]
I'm looking for a word or phrase to sum up the following sentiment: [more inside]
I want to ask him if he's going but don't want to seem pushy about it. [more inside]
Introduction to Markets/Auctions: I need a short book or paper that covers bids / asks [more inside]
Question for the "guess culture" people: If a friend wants to leave a gift I gave her behind at my house for a year, is that likely to be her way of saying she doesn't really want it? Does that mean I can treat the gift as mine? [more inside]
Ask Metafilter in Spanish? [more inside]
Seeking long term advice for dealing with "asker" in-laws as a life-long "guesser." [more inside]
How can I change from being a Guesser to an Asker? [more inside]
That answer that included a link to a website where you did some stuff that made you smarter... I forgot where I saw it. [more inside]
How exactly does the Bid/Ask work on Intrade.com? [more inside]
Are there other sites on the web like ask.metafilter, where you can ask/answer questions on pretty much any topic? [more inside]
Question-Asking-Filter: What would be the best way to ASK a question on AskMeFi that I want to ask? Pre-question question-answers within. [more inside]
I'm in my early 20's and asked a guy in my cooking class to hang out via email. The guy said we could but added, "I want to be clear that if we do hang out it will only be as friends." Does this mean I am on the "would not hit it" list? An internet profile say's he's into girls, single and looking for "friendship."
Is there an open course codebase similar to ... Ask Metafilter? I have a fun idea for a specialized group Q and A blog, but I'm not much of a coder.
What is the most intellectually challenging question you have ever been asked that is not knowledge specific? [more inside]