I am going to a classical music concert tonight at a fancy venue. It's a 2 hour concert indoors with assigned seating and I would absolutely love to bring my knitting with me. I am not sitting anywhere near the front, I will be sitting in the main orchestra level. I would be using bamboo needles, which don't make any sounds and aren't reflective. Is it rude to fellow concertgoers to be knitting openly during the concert?
So, I have friends who run fitness programs and help many people. I introduced a "friend" who I met through work but distanced myself from her because she's racist. She says pretty shitty things about black people but once she knows what you're into, she panders. I don't trust her and don't feel emotionally safe. [more inside]
A close friend of mine is going through some difficult financial times. I want to help as much as I can--and I have for a while now. But I'm worried that he's beginning to see me as an ATM and I'm beginning to feel guilty about saying no or putting limits on how much I will give. I need suggestions on how to draw an appropriate boundary between being helpful yet also not feeling used. [more inside]
Was my roommate appropriate in inviting this Guest? Hello, I currently live in an expensive city, and am subletting from a roommate. I'm a straight male in my mid20s, and he's a bit older than me. This roommate has quickly proven himself to be a truly wonderful individual, both in private and professional life. I would even go so far as to say I deeply admire him. He is starting at a new top notch hospital along with other residents. He offered a place on his couch to any of these new residents, for a day or two, as they get settled into the city. He told me this well in advance. A younger women took him up on his offer. A day before she was set to arrive, he told me he was extending his vacation and asked me to do the hosting. The truth is with her professional background and career, I don't doubt she is a very trustworthy person. And I also don't mind helping my roommate out, as he has really been very kind with me. With that said, I am uncertain if what he did is fair to his guest. She had never met my roommate before, and they only came in contact over a facebook page for new residents. And then a day before she was set to arrive, she found out he wouldn't even be here, and she would be sharing an apartment with me. [more inside]
Currently, I'm in grad school in DC. I feel like I'm putting my foot in it at every turn, especially toward people in positions of authority, like professors and bosses. At this point, I think there are probably lots of things I'm doing wrong that I don't even know about! Please tell me what the unwritten rules are for being a nice, friendly, pleasant person in this milieu, because I can't figure them out. [more inside]
We have a close family friend who seems to have a problem keeping his hands to himself around my 8-year-old. We've spoken to him about it generally, but he doesn't seem to understand what we consider to be inappropriate. [more inside]
Someone in a position of authority, whose professional endorsement I'm seeking, put me in an awkward position. [more inside]
My wife and I disagree strongly over how much touch is appropriate between myself and my almost-7 year old daughter. [more inside]
Asking for a dear Australian friend, "Ariane" who feels she has nowhere else to turn. Any and all advice gratefully received. "My son Henry is 19 years old and has Aspergers. He has a little brother George who is 12 and a sister Lily who is 2 1/2. We all live at home with my partner (who is the biological father of Lily). [more inside]
What did I do that was inappropriate in my consultation with this gardener/ landscape designer? [more inside]
My cousin's wife just lost her baby at 4 months along. This is her second miscarriage (one full-term pregnancy in between, daughter is now 1.5 y/o). I would like to send a card or have flowers delivered, but is it appropriate? [more inside]
Traditionally, where do people put the clothes they wore during the day that aren't dirty enough to go into the laundry hamper, but aren't clean enough to go back in the closet? Also, it's likely they want to wear them again soon. [more inside]
Please help me to find graphic novel/illustrated novel/comic strip novel/picture novella/comic book (whatever they're called) suggestions for my seven year old daughter? Preferences inside. [more inside]
How do I reconcile my interests and passions with creativity and human sexuality, in the face of death, grief, and tragedy? Are there any thoughtful heartfelt resources from those who have talked about the two? [more inside]
I moved into a new apartment where my back windows now face other neighbors, not too close, but not very far either. This exchange of views is a new thing to me. My question is: how dressed up do you have to be in order to avoid offending the neighborhood? Anyone with "rear window" experiences? [more inside]
Is it appropriate for me to volunteer at a Youth Suicide Prevention group if I'm still depressed? [more inside]
Please help me find an age-appropriate way to explain menstruation to my young kids. (This question is obviously not for anyone squicked out by female things.) [more inside]
What are some school appropriate websites I can use in the classroom? [more inside]
I need help choosing a gift but the circumstances are complicated. [more inside]
How do I deal with my Hulk-like anger? [more inside]
I'm looking for clean, upbeat songs that are NOT about love. I just need one business-appropriate one to edit a "Candids" video of business people at a sales meeting to. The client is super picky and wants pop music with exactly the right lyrics and a "high-energy" tempo. They liked the lyrics to "Oh Yeah" by Macy Gray but didn't think it was upbeat enough. Any ideas?
I want a simple mobile phone with a monochrome screen and a fast interface that can sync contacts with my Mac or PC via a cable or IR. Something like the Nokia 1110 but with the ability to sync! [more inside]
What is the best way to tell a potentially over sensitive co-worker that clipping her fingernails is not an appropriate thing to do in the office?
Workplace racism and etiquette advice. MI. [more inside]