So, back in February or so, we were invited to a friend's September wedding in Cape Cod (both us and the friend are in LA). It sounded great; my fiancée and I RSVPed. Now, due to a passel of unforeseen circumstances, we can't really do it. Can you help us get out of it without being giant assholes? [more inside]
A question from a friend of mine: I was relaxing at home, and was more than a tad under the influence of Mary Jane when my brother - who lives with me - got a call from my aunt. My aunt asked to speak to me, and my brother - not realizing I was messed up - said "oh, she's right here" and immediately brought me the phone. I get VERY paranoid when I am under the influence, and refused to talk to my aunt. She is now upset with me, and I feel awful. How do I rectify this situation and save my relationship with my aunt? [more inside]
I was a bonehead and ruined my SO's morning; help me think of how to make it up to him! [more inside]
I'd already stopped caring a few months ago and it's hard to go back to caring again. [more inside]
Would it be upsetting to have someone who wronged you--really, really, really wronged you--to contact you out of the blue to apologize? Over a decade ago I was a stupid, histrionic, selfish, needy and endless pit of WANT and ME-ME-ME kind of a person. I alienated everyone I knew and ended up moving away from my hometown. It took me a long time but I grew up and I realize how terrible I was then. Now I want to apologize to some people I wronged. Is it out of line for me to send a letter when I was asked to make no further contact over a decade ago? I don't deserve or desire a reconciliation but I do want to apologize and thank them for putting up with me--instead of just being a destructive person, I'm sure I would have ended up a dead person had it not been for them. [more inside]
How do you graciously respond to a non-apology without accepting it as if it were an actual apology? [more inside]
I screwed up at work - which was compounded by a string of just plain bad luck. It got really ugly. Maybe could even lose my job. I'm thinking of having a heart-to-heart call with my leadership to apologize for the bits that were my responsibility...Not to grovel and save my ass, but to communicate that I know I impacted them and the team. Bad idea? Does an apology ever help in a workplace, or does it just help affix blame and make everyone uncomfortable?
Yesterday my husband spent a lot of time assembling a slow-cooker stew for us to eat for dinner a few nights this week. He was about to put it in the fridge last night when I stopped him and said that it was still pretty hot, so I'll put it in the fridge before I went to bed. When I woke up this morning.....counter....crockpot.....oooooooh no. Help me apologize with some terrible puns? [more inside]
What is the difference between apology and regret? Can you meaningfully, honestly apologize for something you don't regret? [more inside]
I was an angry kid at one point in my life. My best friend had moved away and I was unpopular. I became a bit of a bully. There are three people in particular that I treated particularly bad. I want to apologize to them, but does it just serve to only make myself feel better? Has anyone here been bullied and received an apology later in life? And how did it make you feel? I was also bullied. My bully tried to add me as a friend on Facebook multiple times, and I always declined it. I wonder sometimes if maybe he was trying to apologize.
Looking for songs that reflect the following sentiment: I'm sorry I hurt you, you were right to end things, I hope we can build a better friendship but I don't expect anything, thank you for trying anyway. [more inside]
I hired a friend to provide services at an event. The event was cancelled due to circumstances that were completely beyond my control -- it was a decision made several proverbial ladder rungs above my head, and there was absolutely nothing I could do to change or reverse it. I was given under a week's notice.
In an attempt to rectify the situation as best as I could manage, I sincerely apologized to my friend and paid them in full for the services they would have provided if the event had not been cancelled, with a bit extra on top to make up for the short notice and inconvenience. They very pointedly did not accept any part of the apology, implied that I was simply trying to weasel out of the original agreement, and mailed me back half the money. What now? [more inside]
I wanted to start this post with an apology to everyone. I have been going through a rough period of time and am realizing that I am not the person that I thought I was.
I've been told that everyone goes through rough periods in life, and I wanted to ask what others have done when they realize that they have some serious issues that they need to sort out.
Should I wait for an apology from my mother-in-law, let it go, or none of the above? My IRL counsel is giving me mixed answers. [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out next steps in this truly stupid interpersonal relations drama I'm having. "Sarah" did something I specifically asked her not to do. When I asked her to reverse her action, she complied, but is now overly remorseful. I need to respond, and I want to do it in some way that gets her to stop apologizing while keeping her at arm's length. Details after the jump. [more inside]
How to go about sending an apology after two years of no contact with a former friend? Snowflake! [more inside]
I sort of lost it at a semi-work function. Should I apologize to my colleagues who were present? We work in the web industry and were having a sort of day where we all get together in one room and fix bugs, discuss new features, etc. Present were people from our company as well as other users of the software. [more inside]
I owe a person money and want to pay her back. How should I go about it? [more inside]
I'm a compulsive overapologizer. Help me stop. [more inside]
The murderer who killed my friend and attempted to kill me wants to apologize. [more inside]
Ugh. I can't believe I'm writing this. I had a bad reaction to BC two nights ago and in my addled state I became really histrionic and had two huge fights with my boyfriend. I am now very afraid that I've irreparably damaged my relationship with him. [more inside]
A friend referred me for a dream job and I screwed it up really badly. Please help me fix things. [more inside]
Can I be sued for defamation if, in an anonymous comment, I specify that "...maybe I'm making this up," and post a reply underneath explicitly stating that the comments were not to be taken literally? [more inside]
Looking for a funny public apology video. [more inside]
Help me stop apologizing for my own assertiveness. [more inside]
How should I apologize to a guy I used to bully as a kid? Or should I do it at all? [more inside]
I made a stupid mistake and sent an email to my lecturer in which I told her to "chill the %^%$% out." Yes, I didn't even write "fuck". Should an instant and sincere apology be accepted, and should I be concerned about my final mark from this person? [more inside]
Ruined things with a couple people in high school. Older and wiser now. I feel I need to make contact and apologize, but is that a bad idea? [more inside]
I sent my lawyer an email about my case that was kind of emotionally unbalanced. I said at the bottom that if he had a comment, okay, but that I really just needed to say it. He did not reply directly but then in a later email, said that to hang in there, I was "doing fine". I definitely err on the side of hysterical in general but I think I have a good rep for being a thoughtful and passionate and honest person. However, I am having a big problem with the way my case is going, and I need to send him another email, and I am wondering if I need to apologize to him for wasting his time with the emotional crap that really was inappropriate to send to him, or should I just ignore it and don't mention it at all? I'm really embarrassed, and what I have to write to him now is really sensitive and I don't want the previous email's rant to cloud what I have to say right now. [more inside]
Should I apologize (or otherwise acknowledge our "oops") for cooking my Jewish co-worker's family a decidedly non-kosher dish following the birth of their first child? [more inside]
A group of 11-year-old kids under my wife's supervision got out of control and were disruptive to the library they were meeting in. How can we make it up to the library/ its patrons, and ensure that something like this doesn't happen again? [more inside]
Is there anyway to make up for a major mistake made almost a year ago to people I'll never see again? How to get over it and move forward positively? [more inside]
I've hurt my older sister's feelings by being thoughtless and neglecting to include her in the mother's day plan my younger sister and I made for our mom. I am currently crafting an apology letter, but I really want to make it up to her and I'm not sure best how. I would love some ideas. [more inside]
I left Easter dinner early due to anxiety. My family is angry. How can I make everyone happy? [more inside]
Can someone else have the right to keep you from apologizing to someone you need to apologize to? [more inside]
How to say "thanks" for taking care of me when I was drunk? [more inside]
I was working on someone's laptop and all of their data has been overwritten. How do I break it to them gently? [more inside]
What do you say to someone who apologizes for something they've done that you're not okay with at all? This would be in a non-personal type relationship... more of a setting where you're the customer. [more inside]
Should I apologize to my step-mother for a sarcastic response to a wacked out email she sent me. I don't feel like I should...
Can anyone offer ideas on how to write an apology letter that's not really an apology?
Based on yesterday's discussion about celebrities who give offense
by their wardrobe choices and malfunctions, I am left wondering about the "apologies" that are issued. Since when is it an apology to say "Sorry if
I offended anyone..." instead of "I apologize for
causing offense..."? What would ettiquette demand? How should they issue their apologies? Does the "if" even mean they believe they did something wrong or is it a trick to make people drop the topic?