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help me not get screwed over by my roommate

My troublesome roommate is doing a last minute sublet of her room in our 2 BR apartment for the summer. The sublet seems a little shady to me, as she is not telling management and is just planning to have the renter pay her directly. Am I naive to think she should tell the apartment complex? She is also very behind in all of the bills (cable/electric/gas), so I'm worried about getting her to pay her share in full before the subletter moves in. Help me sort through the legality of all this to avoid finding myself in a bad situation. Also, talk to me about breaking an apartment lease. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on May 4, 2014 - 26 answers

How best to handle moving out technically TONIGHT?

I procrastinated horribly and relied upon uncertain things, and I technically need to move out of my apartment tonight or I assume suffer consequences. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by destructive cactus on Feb 24, 2014 - 39 answers

Advice for a complicated roommate situation

Synopsis is that my roommate has severe PTSD and blames my own recent mental health problems for triggering a relapse in her. She has not acknowledged that this has been hard on me, only how it affected her. She wants me to move out, tried to get me evicted by the landlords (who favor her because she is younger), sent 5 hours of harassing texts to me on Monday. Because this is Wisconsin in February, there aren't a lot of apartments available, and I have to be extra picky because of a very fixed income and not having a car/relying on living near things and buslines. This is seriously impacting my own mental health now, worsening my depression/anxiety. I don't want to go through the stress of moving, especially since she didn't offer anything (like paying moving expenses). She feels as though she has done everything for me and I am an ungrateful traitor--there are a couple things I'd like to apologize/take responsibility for, but I don't want to do so if that will be construed as me taking responsibility for her relapse, something I will not do. We are both on the lease, which goes through August. I will answer any questions about details.
posted by mermaidcafe on Feb 20, 2014 - 20 answers

because "wow, you're a terrible person" won't make me many friends

Getting to know your new roommates when a problematic roommate dominates it all [more inside]
posted by dekathelon on Feb 8, 2014 - 22 answers

When should guests pay rent?

I'd like opinions about whether I'm being unreasonable in wanting an extended guest of my roommate (their spouse actually) to pay a small portion of the rent while they're here. [more inside]
posted by captain cosine on Feb 4, 2014 - 38 answers

Why does this potentially awesome move make me uncomfortable?

Looking for an apartment, found a possibility with an interesting guy I met a couple of months ago. The neighbourhood is great, the apartment is gorgeous. I get along well with him and I will expand my social circle living with him, so that's a nice plus as well. However... my guts say no. And I can't pinpoint a reason. [more inside]
posted by StoneSpace on Jan 29, 2014 - 48 answers

dealing with a roommate/ assertiveness 2.0

I like my roommate, but I don't like some of the things she does. I suck at being assertive. We've only been living together for a short while so I'd like to set some boundaries while it's still early. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Dec 4, 2013 - 10 answers

My roommate is driving me nuts and I'm wondering what my options are

Basically I paid $400 (really cheap rent) for a small room sublet in Bensonhurst and one of my friends with benefits (who I knew for about a month), heard about my situation incidentally and kept on asking me to split rent with him in the Bronx. It's not a particularly bad area and it was financially feasible (he lives alone and his dad pays half his rent just as a nice gesture, so we'd split the remaining amount - $250 a month on me and the rest on him - about the same). So primarily for financial reasons, as I could save money on rent, I started moving my things and called my landlord to tell him I'm leaving this month within a couple weeks. [more inside]
posted by antgly on May 9, 2013 - 16 answers

How to ask my roommate if I can break the lease before it ends?

I live in Cambridge, MA and share a two-bedroom apt with one roommate. We are women in our early 30's. I've been in the home for 2.5 years, with a different roommate each year. I loved my first two roommates. I invited my current roommate to move in this past Sept (met her through Craig's List) and we're a good fit. I have a sudden, burning urge to move into my own (1 bedroom) apt. Do I ask her permission, or just tell her I'm moving? [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Feb 12, 2013 - 14 answers

Should I maintain renter's insurance even though I've moved out?

I moved out of my apartment, but am still on the lease, which extends for several months. I have "transferred" my renter's insurance policy to cover property and occurrences at my new apartment. This leaves me uncovered at the old place. Does this matter? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit on Jan 29, 2013 - 6 answers

I'm leaving, but what do we do about the lease?

BadRoommateFilter: Last night, I came home to my roommate ranting about a dirty kitchen. The rant culminated with him throwing a jar candle at the window, at which point I left. There's broken glass on the kitchen floor still, this morning. I'm seeking new housing, but what to do about the rent for the remainder of the lease term? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit on Dec 12, 2012 - 15 answers

Should I stay or should I go?

My roommate situation is becoming untenable. Should I ride out the storm or leave? What is the best way to bail? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by munyeca on Nov 12, 2012 - 12 answers

Movin' On In

Moving in with two roommates - one friend, and one other guy the two of us just met. What haven't I thought of, and what should I be prepared to deal with? Long list of stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter on Sep 18, 2012 - 27 answers

Stalking The Elusive Apartment

So, I came out as transgendered about a year ago, and I'm finally financially secure enough to move out of my urban rednecky neighborhood. This, of course, leaves me with a few questions. [more inside]
posted by Toby Dammit X on Mar 4, 2012 - 16 answers

Help me find a new roommate!

Looking for ways to broaden my roommate search. [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg on Aug 31, 2011 - 2 answers

Financial ruin thanks to (possibly dangerous) ex-roommate

Renter's nightmare in LA: My friend went on vacation to Europe. Her roommate cashed the rent check and skipped town, friend is now getting evicted. Btw, deadbeat roommate still has the keys, collects guns, and has accused friend of being "out to get him." Advice? [more inside]
posted by ®@ on Jul 16, 2011 - 16 answers

Recipe for prospective roommate emotional state demi-glace

Looking for a new flat mate and now any tips or advice that help make the call on a person's character in a short space of time just that little bit better? [more inside]
posted by camerasforeyes on May 20, 2011 - 20 answers

Two friends enter, one friend leaves. Roommate or boyfriend?

I need a roommate for my awesome apartment. I have a friend who’d make a good roommate, but she really dislikes my boyfriend—and doesn’t know I’m dating him. And my boyfriend likes her, potentially more than he likes me. How to resolve? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2011 - 33 answers

Bimonthly San Francisco apartment question: Student Edition

Please help a new grad move to San Francisco. I will probably arrive on June 1 and start working June 10, and I have $1500 for the whole move in process. Where do I stay while I'm apartment hunting? A hotel is very expensive and a hostel is pretty cramped. I could probably stay on a friend's couch but are there any other reasonable options for 1 month stays? [more inside]
posted by yaymukund on Apr 18, 2011 - 17 answers

...she left something behind

My subletter left behind her vibrator when she moved to a nearby city, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by the thing about it on Jan 7, 2011 - 64 answers

Many hands make light work, hurt feelings.

Sort out a disagreement between roommates! [more inside]
posted by Nomyte on Oct 21, 2010 - 44 answers

Sorry guys, I have to be up in the morning!

How do I go apartment shopping in a small town? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin on Oct 9, 2010 - 10 answers

How would you split the rent?

Asking for a friend: I am considering moving into a two bedroom apartment with a couple. I would have one room (the smaller one), and they would occupy the master bedroom. Their room is very large -- close to twice the size of mine. What would be an equitable split of the rent? All utilities are included in the rent.
posted by bluefly on Sep 21, 2010 - 21 answers

Either he spontaneously combusted or has become allergic to money.

I have my former roommate's security deposit. I don't know his new address. How do I get him the money slash how long do I have to keep trying to contact him before I'm allowed to give up and keep it for myself? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee on Sep 20, 2010 - 35 answers

What to do with ex-roommate's stuff?

My roommate moved out and left a ton of stuff behind. What do i do with it? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue on Apr 26, 2010 - 16 answers

Renting Sight Unseen in California

Help me avoid getting screwed when finding a place to live in California, when I can’t see the place or meet the landlord in advance. [more inside]
posted by Diplodocus on Mar 4, 2010 - 7 answers

How to negotiate problems with my new living situation? -- Or should I just move out?

How to negotiate unforeseen problems with new living situation -- Dog peeing. Roaches. Roommate smoking -- Or should I just throw my hands up and move out in a few months? [more inside]
posted by cotesdurhone on Feb 9, 2010 - 28 answers

How to get out of a co-signed month-to-month lease?

Looking for advice on moving out/ending the lease on a month-to-month with someone whom I met on Craigslist (in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania)... [more inside]
posted by Lizsterr on Jan 9, 2010 - 11 answers

Housemate doesn't clean up after himself. Help.

My housemate doesn't clean up, like ever. How can I do to make things work, or at least more bearable? [more inside]
posted by dunkadunc on Nov 16, 2009 - 41 answers

Metafilter:Guidelines :: Apartment:???

What are some things you wish you knew (or were glad you knew) before you moved into your first apartment with roommates? I'm looking for methods of splitting up chores, cooking, finances, resolving disputes, and dealing with common problems.
posted by yaymukund on Aug 5, 2009 - 40 answers

Should I confront my roommate about overcharging me for rent?

I found out my roommate is overcharging me for rent - do I do anything? [more inside]
posted by lxs on Mar 30, 2009 - 36 answers

How do you split stuff up when one person's not around?

Should I ask my roommate to pay her share of the utilities when she was gone all month? [more inside]
posted by bluefly on Jan 16, 2009 - 26 answers

Submitting 30-Day-Notice on Apartment

I am trying to end my tenancy in a month-to-month lease in Los Angeles, but the landlord says that submitting a 30-day-notice won't absolve me of any future responsibility if my roommate stays in the apartment. Please hope me! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2008 - 12 answers

My roommate is giving me a concern

What should I do to protect myself from my roommate's mess? [more inside]
posted by ictow on Nov 7, 2008 - 14 answers

Roommate he-said she-said results in us being short a quarter of the rent. Help!

My roommate wants me to find someone to take her part of the rent, arguing that the people who took over my part of the rent really took over her part. She is threatening to simply not pay. We have one month (Nov) left on the lease. Her name, as well as mine and two other roommates' are on the lease. If she went ahead and didn't pay, how badly would this affect my credit? [more inside]
posted by malapropist on Nov 4, 2008 - 29 answers

Utility bills to my roommate and my credit score.

How do Utility Bills addressed to my roommate affect my credit score? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2008 - 11 answers

Potential roommate issues. Am I out of line here?

I'm planning on moving to DC with a guy I've been friends with since junior year of college (3 years ago). I graduated and immediately accepted a position and have worked in said position for one year and am now moving on to another one. For that same year, he sat around at home and was too lazy to find an engineering job and worked a few $10 an hour construction jobs. I'm having mixed feelings about getting a place with this guy. [more inside]
posted by decrescendo on Aug 18, 2008 - 52 answers

Roommate dating

I'm dating a roommate, but we need an excuse to go into her bedroom after a date. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2008 - 14 answers

Am I responsible for my roommate's bills if I move?

I am moving out before our lease expires. Am I liable for the rest of our future bills? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2008 - 17 answers

Advise a SF renter?

Advise a San Francisco renter? I've about 6 weeks left on my current lease, and just had a new roommate move in. Rather than tack him on to the remaining time, my landlord would like to scrap the previous lease and have us sign on for a year. I've a feeling my roommate would prefer that as well. I, however, don't wish to be committed that long. [more inside]
posted by aladfar on Apr 1, 2008 - 9 answers

Roommate filter: help me find a roommate

What are some good roommate matching services? [more inside]
posted by Cogito on Feb 23, 2008 - 4 answers

Am I obligated to help my now-distant roommate find a sublessee?

My roommate moved hundreds of miles away. Am I obligated to help find someone to sublease from him? [more inside]
posted by John Singer Sandwich on Oct 31, 2007 - 27 answers

I want my old rental rate back

Can I get my old rental rate back if my roommate moves? [more inside]
posted by missmle on Sep 13, 2007 - 7 answers

Splitting the rent

Splitting the rent evenly even though the situation isn't even? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2007 - 25 answers

My office needs new meaning in life!

What should I do with my office/second bedroom? I don't use it and would love for it either generate revenue or be useful to me. [more inside]
posted by palegirl on Jul 29, 2007 - 20 answers

But I WANT to sign the lease!

Can my new landlord leave me off the lease? [more inside]
posted by purplefiber on Jun 11, 2007 - 7 answers

Can my female roommate sublet to a guy without my approval?

My roommate wants to move out, and has found some random guy to sublease. I'm not comfortable living with Random Guy. What can I do to keep this from happening? [more inside]
posted by almostmanda on Apr 6, 2007 - 35 answers

How do I not lose my apartment?

Last Thursday, my roommate told me he is moving out at the end of the month. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by The Great Big Mulp on Oct 24, 2006 - 10 answers

How do I convince my roommate that we need a maid?

Jimmy (my friend/roommate/landlord) and I both like to have a sparkling clean apartment. He thinks it's lazy and morally objectionable to hire a maid. I think my free time is valuable so I don't want to spend it cleaning bathrooms. Since cost isn't a concern, how do I convince my roommate that we should just leave the cleaning to the professionals and hire a maid? [more inside]
posted by santry on Aug 5, 2006 - 50 answers

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