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Help me say no to what’s likely to seem like a great offer

In a few days’ time I’m going to be sitting down for lunch with my ex-boss, whom I know is going to offer me a new job. I left my old job for very good reasons that haven’t gone away, and whilst the new job sounds intriguing, I know it’d be a very bad idea for me to take it. Unfortunately I’m terrible at saying “no” to people. Help me deal with this like a grown-up! [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Sep 2, 2016 - 20 answers

How do I live this awful job?

My job is awful — and I mean really awful. I can’t get a full night’s sleep, take care of myself, or have a life any more. I’m suffering mentally and physically, but the exit door isn’t clearly marked. I could use some advice...and also, a new job. Lots of shitty snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2016 - 24 answers

Subtle self-soothing at work

I am in treatment for severe anxiety. At home, I self-soothe by wringing my hands and rocking, but that's not appropriate for the workplace. I need to be typing so worry stones and spinner rings are out. I need to elevate my legs so foot tapping is out, too. What are some subtle physical things I can do at my desk to calm myself?
posted by Ruki on Jul 27, 2016 - 37 answers

My job is killing my soul but I can't leave

I'm at the point where my job is actively causing me despair. Since I can't quit without getting a new job first, how do I cope every day while I try to find something new? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2016 - 8 answers

Procrastinated badly and screwed up - damage control?

I screwed up at work...despite all the time in the world, I dragged my feet on some important tasks and I let a lot of people down. What can I do to show that I take that mistake seriously and it won't happen again? Difficulty: remote team. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2016 - 6 answers

In need of a "settle down to work" ritual

I suck at transitions, especially transitioning into working. I am in need of suggestions for a ritual I can perform when I sit down at my desk in the morning, after lunch, after I come back from a break, to cue my brain that it's time for work now. It is important that this ritual is not connected to any rabbit holes. Desk-working-mefites: what are your tricks to flip the switch into 'work mode'? [more inside]
posted by telepanda on Feb 2, 2016 - 24 answers

Is this particular situation a good time to use my Ativan prescription?

I have an Ativan prescription that is intended to help me deal with panic attacks. I rarely use it because my panic attacks are quite rare. I have a work event coming that turns me into a ball of anxiety every time I have to do it (2-3 times a year) and I'm wondering if this might be an appropriate time to make use of my prescription. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2016 - 16 answers

How to stop obsessive thinking about getting fired?

Every job I have ever had I become convinced I am getting fired. How can I stop believing this and sabotaging myself at work. [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Oct 28, 2015 - 26 answers

Why do I get sick of every job after about 6 months?

I've worked in software QA for the past five years. I've gotten sick of the last three jobs I've had, each after about 6 months. It could be a result of significant changes to the work environment each time, but I'm starting to think it's just me. [more inside]
posted by seiryuu on Sep 23, 2015 - 13 answers

Dealing with abusive former collaborator who runs in same social circles

My close professional relationship with a man ended badly because he was abusive towards me and I finally couldn’t take it anymore. He's blown up over tiny things, yelled at me until I cried, made inappropriate sexual advances, etc. He’s done this to at least 5 different women, but nobody wants to talk about it openly. [more inside]
posted by doodletoo on Sep 20, 2015 - 7 answers

Take it easy on yourself..

Feeling anxiety/paranoid at a new job. Help. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune on Sep 14, 2015 - 9 answers

Just started new job, but does my superior team member want me gone?

Just started a new job and would like to keep it. Superior team member asked me when my contract ends. He has the power to determine whether I stay on the team or not. Is this cause for alarm? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by koolaidnovel on Sep 9, 2015 - 12 answers

Cheating ex-friend hasn't finished ruining my life

I posted this question a while ago. What I failed to mention there is that my ex-friend was also a coworker. I've since moved on to a new job that I love, but now I hear that my terrible ex-friend is thinking about applying for a job at my new company. This has sent me into a panic. [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Aug 30, 2015 - 53 answers

Bed bugs, business travel, and being reasonable

I encountered bed bugs for the first time and it majorly freaked me out. I travel regularly for work and am curious how other frequent travelers deal with this issue without succumbing to constant anxiety. [more inside]
posted by catoclock on Aug 9, 2015 - 20 answers

Coping with email anxiety

I have severe email anxiety and it is having repercussions for my work. I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by D+ on Apr 20, 2015 - 29 answers

Overwhelmed by jobbing and job searching at once. What to do?

I'm looking to jump ship from my current job, and I'm struggling with keeping my cool. I've been dealing with some pretty rough anxiety as I respond to recruiters and companies, slip out of the office for interviews, prepare presentations for said interviews, and do it over and over again with multiple businesses. How can I deal with the guilt of completely dialing it in at work so I can find a new job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2015 - 5 answers

Getting over a bad work experience

I graduated from college and looked for over a year for work. I found a job in another state and, even though I had some reservations about moving, I took it because the further from graduation the more concerned I was about getting a job. [more inside]
posted by spacecowgirl on Mar 25, 2015 - 8 answers

How to handle extended illness when your company has no leave policy?

I wrote this question at the beginning of February about how bad my mental health had gotten. Since then, I went to the ER and was voluntarily hospitalized in an inpatient psych unit for a week - I just got out on Wednesday. Since then I've been in a partial hospitalization program, which may go on for another 2-4 weeks. My office has told me that they want me to do everything I need to do to take care of myself and get better, but the official policies are not backing that up. How do I manage my time off? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara on Mar 3, 2015 - 9 answers

What, Me Worry?

I tend to obsessively brood about things -- usually frustrations or conflicts at work -- and I want to know how to leave that alone so I am not stressed out all the time thinking through situations I can do nothing to solve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2015 - 13 answers

Being disciplined vs. not forcing it?

These days all the literature on creativity/productivity emphasizes routines and unromantic workmanlike discipline. Forget inspiration and "just do it!" But more often than not, when I put my butt in the chair to get down to business… Nothing. Happens. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator on Feb 17, 2015 - 14 answers

Extended probation at work. Can I come back from this?

Started a new job that I was super excited about a few months ago. It's been overwhelming. I've worked long, long days, and tried really hard, but I dropped some (big, visible) balls because I misprioritized. Worse, I didn't ask for help figuring out what was important. Now I'm on extended probation. I'm so worried that I won't be able to change their opinions of me. [more inside]
posted by my puppet has socks on Feb 3, 2015 - 13 answers

FMLA in Massachusetts?

I am an employee in Boston, MA who is strongly considering taking a medical leave of absence. Please help me to understand my rights. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2014 - 7 answers

Is this a motivation issue or what?

I think I'm dealing with some motivational paralysis, but it's a little complicated. Any ideas MeFi? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Oct 27, 2014 - 14 answers

Help me be stronger and more resilient

Self defeating thoughts make it hard to get things done. I want to be able to enjoy my time at school, but my low self confidence causes a lot of anxiety. Is there a way I can shift my perspective? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Sep 28, 2014 - 7 answers

Self- sabotage: A beast with two heads

For the past few years, I've had to deal with what seems like procrastination's more stubborn cousin. It's not just a tendency to put things off- it feels like a visceral, physically-manifested resistance to doing things that should involve no forethought in terms of effort whatsoever, or that do, but that would only serve to help me better myself if I managed to get them done. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Sep 18, 2014 - 19 answers

Got sent home from work for being 4 minutes late one too many times.

I work in a large, highly corporate sales company where they're hardcore on discipline, time management, organization. I work hard whilst at work and I am learning and growing, but I have such a hard time coming into work on time. We start 7:45 in the morning sharp--by this time we junior salespeople need to be at our account managers' desks, prepared for the day, read emails and self-organized. I. suck. at. this. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Aug 12, 2014 - 77 answers

How should I prepare to return to work after medical leave?

After being off work for medical reasons for more than a year, I'm tentatively looking to return to work within the next 3 months. If you have been in a similar situation, what worked well for you, and what would you do differently? [more inside]
posted by spiraldown on May 26, 2014 - 5 answers

Time off for depression - what to do with myself?

How would you use two weeks off work to hack your depression/relax/chill out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2014 - 34 answers

Was/am professional activist organizer. Giving it up. Need help.

For the last 7 years or so (since graduating from college), I've been a professional political organizer, essentially, working for progressive movement organizations doing primarily new media/online media/digital work, but also spending time on fundraising, action planning, communications, and a few other things as needed. After a lot of thought and consideration, I'm starting to suspect that I can no longer work as part of the left (or at least, my corner of the US left) and still be emotionally healthy with the stress I deal with all the time. I don't know what to do next. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Apr 28, 2014 - 17 answers

If I could just care less about my work, I'd do a better job.

I'm the kind of person who gets worried enough they'll do their work not well, or make a mistake, that they end up either not starting or working too slowly and filled with dread. Last week, I had to work late on a project. I had two beers in the process, found I cared less about the anxiety and dread and perfectionism, and just did a better, less stressful job. I want to do this without drinking. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Mar 24, 2014 - 14 answers

Dealing with parties when you don't like parties.

Every year, my work holds a big party to which we invite all our clients - the idea is we get to meet them and get to know them as people rather than voices on the phone. Every year, I end up having an anxiety attack and going home early, partly because I am rubbish at going out, partly because it is in an environment that I find difficult to cope with. We are expected to attend. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2014 - 13 answers

Job application anxiety and disappointment

At the beginning of this year I finished my courses and exams to become an emergency medical technician. I finally have the certification I that allows me to work in the field, but I’m fighting against paralyzing anxiety that’s making it hard to apply for jobs. This is something that I've struggled with the past, but the stakes feel a lot higher this time and I’m looking for advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by arcolz on Jan 22, 2014 - 11 answers

Help me understand how to deal with a guy I had a crush on at work

Help me understand how to deal with a guy I had a crush on at work [more inside]
posted by iamsuper on Jan 14, 2014 - 14 answers

How to interview someone on camera? (Not for a job.)

Part of my job as a writer should be interviewing interesting people—tech types, fashion designers, musicians, etc. Except I get absolutely panicky when I do it. I have to fly overseas to interview three high-level dudes on camera this Thursday, and I'm already stage-frightey. I hate it. Google search terms, resources, tips, anecdotes, words of encouragement, hugs? [more inside]
posted by ulfberht on Jan 3, 2014 - 9 answers

Work and depression

I had a nervous breakdown at work two weeks ago. At the insistence of my doctor, I took medical leave and am now in a partial hospitalization program being treated for depression and anxiety. [more inside]
posted by prunes on Nov 21, 2013 - 7 answers

Please help me snap myself out of this

I am depressed/anxious and self-sabotaging by doing little to no work at my job. My boss has not yet said anything to me about my un-/non-productivity, but I have to think she'll cotton on sooner or later. Help me figure out a) how to start working again and b) whether I should say anything to my boss. Predictably, there is more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2013 - 9 answers

How to cope with a major life change?

As someone with Asperger's Syndrome (and a few anxiety disorders), I find change, especially sudden change, difficult to cope with, but I could have a chance at a fantastic job if I am able to move across country in the next week. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Oct 30, 2013 - 10 answers

Jobs and anxiety- my conundrum, please help!

Anxiety disorder has left me with the following work related conundrum - what would you do? [more inside]
posted by niruniru on Oct 28, 2013 - 11 answers

Am I overreacting or is this totally illegal/wrong?

The new job I applied for called a work reference I did not authorize and I got a bad review. Should I leave this entire job off my resume? Bonus general career anxiety/issues inside! [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Aug 21, 2013 - 28 answers

I'll "hit that"... with my car!

Lately (very suddenly!) I've been experiencing what I can only describe as sexual harassment in my day-to-day life. The most recent incident has left me feeling very unsettled and I'm not sure how to handle these kinds of situations in the future. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace on Aug 3, 2013 - 71 answers

Radio, radio... silence

What do you say (or email) people after you've gone "radio silent" because you were focusing on other projects or procrastinating due to anxiety? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on Jul 3, 2013 - 18 answers

Anxiety Builds up at work - I quit, find another job - Rinse, repeat

I seem to be in a pattern of working someplace for 4-5 years, slowly getting more and more dissatisfied with where I am and what I'm doing. Finally I quit the job and find another only to repeat the same process. Help me break the pattern. [snowstorm inside] [more inside]
posted by signsofrain on Jun 21, 2013 - 11 answers

Toys and objects to deal with physical stress.

So there is the stress ball. That one I know. Does anyone have any other ideas for dealing with nervous energy from stress and anxiety in the office that won't bother people around you so much (esp those moments when I can't just go for a long walk or to the gym, etc). It’s a fairly routine problem for me that even after the stressor is long gone, the nervous energy sticks around. I don't so much need the 'take a deep breath' or 'think positive' type of thing, I might not even be actively thinking or worrying about anything; and I already have a good doc for the long term aspects. Just looking for some ideas about the tactile and physical side of this thing, which tends to stick around for a while and can be pretty uncomfortable.
posted by shimmer on Apr 23, 2013 - 33 answers

Trying to "lean in." Failing miserably.

Please help with a complicated work situation. Some context: Mid-twenties, female, graduated from a top-ranked university in liberal arts (I know, I know, but it worked out in the end. Sort of.) I work in sort of a niche, new media-y entertainment field, for which I am extremely grateful. I love this industry and I love the company I work for. And yet, snowflakes abound… [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Mar 19, 2013 - 10 answers

Help me improve my first impression on people

I caught up with a good pal and sometime boss last night and I learned something new and interesting. She said on first meeting I can come off as distant, focused on the job and not in a warm way. Looking for tips on how to change this. [more inside]
posted by mooza on Mar 13, 2013 - 8 answers

Stop-gap strategies for work anxiety

I have on-going problems with work anxiety and impostor syndrome. The worst part? I’m starting a new, high-demand job in two weeks and need help now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 4 answers

Too scared to work

How can I cope with extreme professional/work anxiety? [more inside]
posted by one of these days on Dec 5, 2012 - 21 answers

The corporate ladder is sort of terrifying

Can you help me with my terrible case of imposter syndrome? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2012 - 8 answers

It's both me and the job, help me fix both.

Nearly everything I liked about my current job has evaporated, and I am left with stress and anxiety. In addition, I've always been indecisive about what my career should be. At this point should I try to build a career at my current company or leave and try something else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2012 - 11 answers

Should I disclose my mental health issues to a prospective (and former) employer?

Last year I quit my job due to depression and anxiety. I now have an interview with my former employer for the same job. Should I disclose my mental health issues during the interview as an explanation for my progressively lazy work attitude and subsequent quitting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2012 - 15 answers

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