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Self- sabotage: A beast with two heads

For the past few years, I've had to deal with what seems like procrastination's more stubborn cousin. It's not just a tendency to put things off- it feels like a visceral, physically-manifested resistance to doing things that should involve no forethought in terms of effort whatsoever, or that do, but that would only serve to help me better myself if I managed to get them done. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Sep 18, 2014 - 19 answers

How do I respond to an apparent offer of friendship?

As someone who is socially anxious and has difficulty interpreting social interactions, what is an appropriate follow-up response to someone who appears to be being friendly but may actually just be following social niceties? [more inside]
posted by teselecta on Jul 21, 2014 - 17 answers

How to smile on command?

How do I make a genuine smile when I encounter people so that they know that I'm open to interactions? [more inside]
posted by PlasticSupernova on Jun 21, 2014 - 25 answers

PotFilter: The cure for what ails me?

Tokers of Mefi! I'm hoping you can help me make the most educated and effective choice when I go to restock my herb tomorrow. I'm looking to replicate what for me, as someone dealing with cerebral palsy, (and because of it, a pronounced and profoundly isolating stutter), was a life-changing experience with MJ, one that came about a year after my first encounter with the herb. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Apr 11, 2014 - 10 answers

What makes a woman "creepy?"

There's plenty of literature out there about creepy men, "nice guys" and other types of that sort. Where are all the resources for this regarding *women?* Google is only giving me examples like she put [something gross] in my food or she made inappropriate references to getting pregnant. I'm looking for something more subtle. Bonus points if it's aimed toward socially-awkward nerdy types. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Apr 9, 2014 - 23 answers

Help me overcome my lifelong social anxiety

I've struggled with pretty severe social anxiety most of my life, and I've now finally started to get a grip on it. Over the past year, I've gone from laying in bed thinking of reasons not to kill myself to getting a job, having a very small social life with some coworkers, and gaining some optimism finally. But I just don't know where to meet people to practice interacting with, particualarly girls. I'm a 24 year old guy and live in Nassau County, NY. I need some recommendations of places to go or groups to join. And by that I mean I really need you to hold my hand and be specific. Like not "join a yoga class" but "here's xyz yoga, join this class." If it helps, I'm interested in reading, writing, music, nature, history, art, religion, new foods. Thanks for any help or advice.
posted by theshire on Mar 26, 2014 - 10 answers

Paranoid about people being disingenious

How do I overcome this fear/paranoia? [more inside]
posted by morning_television on Jan 27, 2014 - 16 answers

Can you change yourself with difficult experiences

I am a mid 20's male and have been suffering from social anxiety for 8 years. I have recently come out of a deep depression due to the residual effects of SA (intense isolation, no job, minimal contact with friends) and I can't endure this anymore I need to go through an intense change and to start a fresh. [more inside]
posted by frenchfryfrenzy on Jan 20, 2014 - 24 answers

Finally meeting in real life; the disappointment will be palpable

There are several people I've been chatting to online for various periods of time, who I'm likely to meet on my next journey around the USA. In the case of a few, they are asking to meet up. Nothing romantic and more than friendship with any, though the level of friendship differs; in some cases it's quite strong or complex. Problem is, the prospect of finally meeting IRL repeatedly terrifies me to the point of making me feel ill. Is this kind of feeling normal or common, or not? How can I subdue it and not make myself hide, literally? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore on Dec 11, 2013 - 23 answers

Congratulations! (as applicable!)

What phrases are reflexively on the tip of your tongue? [more inside]
posted by Chorus on Sep 5, 2013 - 33 answers

how can an introvert infiltrate a tight-knit group of super-socializers?

my SO of about a year has a very large family that is heavily into socializing, and i'm an introvert. can we peacefully coexist? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Aug 28, 2013 - 20 answers

Can't live like this...

If social media and crowdsourcing is good for anything, I figure it's to find some sort of answer to questions like these. Here goes nothing... I'm a 23 year old with cerebral palsy and while I'm very much a special snowflake in that I've been gifted with normal function as far as most of my life is concerned-most importantly in terms of intellect- there's one part of my CP that's made my life smaller and more miserable than any wheelchair could. It's affected my relationships with and opportunities for friends, dates and jobs, and for a richer life in general. Help me find a way out. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Aug 21, 2013 - 24 answers

Help me not be perpetually awkward

I have a thing about eating with people. Specifically, one-on-one meals where we're sitting across from each other the whole time. I already find eating in public kind of weird, but then having to make eye contact and talk while doing it compounds the problem and makes me squirmingly awkward, even with close friends. Is there anything I can do to shake this weird anxiety? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch on Aug 7, 2013 - 17 answers

Dating while socially awkward

I'm no good at conversation. Should I bother with dating? [more inside]
posted by enigmatologist on Jul 10, 2013 - 26 answers

Social Anxiety & Roommate Living

How do I live with roommates (mega-extroverts at that) when I'm introverted and kinda crazy? [more inside]
posted by lollipopgomez on May 27, 2013 - 22 answers

Please don't let middle school go on forever in my head.

People don’t like me. Somehow, I’m one of those individuals who rub most of the population the wrong way. All right, then. With that knowledge, how do I move ahead and have a decent life? [more inside]
posted by silly me on May 19, 2013 - 24 answers

Can you two just please introduce yourselves because I have no idea!

I've had this silly and embarrassing little problem for years and I'm noticing that it's getting worse. Sometimes, when I run into somebody I know or if I'm introducing somebody I know to somebody they don't know, I truly blank out on the name of the person I know. [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam on May 18, 2013 - 25 answers

Can't Live Like This Forever

It's been four + years now, but I continue to experience a lot of social anxiety & PTSD related symptoms. How do I come to terms with the idea that I can't escape my past and the people from my past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2013 - 11 answers

Aloof filter: how to re-engage yourself when you feel distant

How do you keep open, light-hearted and accessible when you feel yourself closing off? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Mar 12, 2013 - 5 answers

How Do I Change People's First Impressions Of Me and TALK LESS?

I've asked similar questions on here, but I'm now focusing on one of my behaviours--Talking way too much, way too soon. I'm in France on exchange, and while I've made friends and calmed down a lot since my last question, I'm still in the habit of monopolizing conversations (ughhhh) and generally being an intense weirdo due to my social anxiety. I'm generally confident and extroverted and was improving on my intense-crazy communication style quite a bit, but this trip is bringing out the worst of my social anxiety bad habits. Please help! [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Jan 21, 2013 - 15 answers

Where therapy and parties collide, aka what happened to my social tact?

I ran into someone at a party that I'd previously met briefly in a clinical setting (in a position of authority), but I lacked the social tact to refrain from mentioning this. Is there anything I could have done to right the situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2013 - 23 answers

Cardio for the poor and socially anxious with bad knees?

Looking for advice on best way to get more cardio exercise, for both physical and emotional health. Limitations: poor, bad knees and socially anxious. [more inside]
posted by Sarah_Lena on Jan 6, 2013 - 22 answers

How to get over being insulted (if I was?)

I'm wondering if I'm being too sensitive regarding a perceived slight from one of my friends at a party? I have a mild case of social anxiety which may be exacerbating this. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2012 - 23 answers

Social anxiety and addiction

Is it common when trying cognitive behavioral therapy for you to become more anxious when challenging your thoughts? Does cognitive behavioral therapy work for drug addicts? I have been a drug addict, and I have been trying CBT and sometimes I feel like I will always feel like this because I dont have something in my system. I have bad Social anxiety when i try to talk to people. It happens almost everyday. I hope CBT will eventually help, but I do not know if this is just the way I am because of a lack of dopamine in my system?
posted by Truts83 on Oct 8, 2012 - 5 answers

Is my life FUBAR?

I've done absolutely nothing since graduating college in May 2011 due to social anxiety and other issues. The months seem to go by quicker and quicker. What should I do? I apologize in advance that my question is not that well organized. [more inside]
posted by theshire on Sep 4, 2012 - 18 answers

Social Anxiety - Best prescription for you?

For those of you with true social anxiety or generalized anxiety, what prescription drug worked the best for you with the fewest side effects? How much better did you feel on a daily basis, and were the side effects worth it?
posted by denverco on Aug 20, 2012 - 31 answers

Why am I always uncomfortable around people?

Why am I always uncomfortable around people? What the hell is wrong with me, mentally? *Warning* LONG LONG LONG READ, but probably interesting?* [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2012 - 25 answers

How do I fix my social reputation at work?

What would you suggest for improved social skills, fitting in, decreased awkwardness, and undoing a reputation for being annoying at work? I'd especially love help for nerds with social anxiety who need to fit in with mainstreamy socialite sorts of people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2012 - 20 answers

This won't end well and it's really not helping anyone

I believe that my parents are about to make a terrible financial mistake by purchasing a house for my sister. When I bring up my objections, they assume it is because I am jealous and they get defensive. How can I express my concerns in a way in which they will listen, and not just brush my concerns off? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2012 - 33 answers

Cinderella goes to the ball...

Ritzy-ditzy gala, need a dress [more inside]
posted by cartoonella on Apr 11, 2012 - 24 answers

How to bail on plans made with a new acquaintance who has my real number?

So I got picked up while visiting a friend in a different city, and I made myself seem available but I have a boyfriend and have a lot of other things on my plate. How do I get out of following up? [more inside]
posted by maykasahara on Mar 2, 2012 - 15 answers

Not quite a blind date, but close enough

High School-esque Drama Filter! My friend recently told me that a friend of hers is interested in me. With my consent, she's arranged a group dinner on Friday and invited both of us along. There's no reason that this thing should faze me, but the amount of freaking out I'm doing right now is ridiculous. Help me calm down before I cancel out of sheer panic! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 29, 2012 - 11 answers

My mental health is failing

Mental Health: I don't feel very good, mentally. And after taking some online mental health "tests" I wonder if I should do anything about it. Am I really as bad as the tests say that I am? [more inside]
posted by Sassyfras on Feb 1, 2012 - 21 answers

How do I stop sipping?

When I get nervous in social situations, I feel the need to have something to sip on. If it's an alcoholic beverage, I can get over-inebriated. If it's non-alcoholic, I have to make constant trips to the bathroom. I need to break this habit or make it manageable. [more inside]
posted by lekvar on Jan 18, 2012 - 28 answers

How to become a mechanic? With SA?

How does a person become a mechanic, ideally, and is this line of work compatible with social anxiety? [more inside]
posted by MrFish on Jan 16, 2012 - 27 answers

Asking out a socially awkward friend

You're a smart, awesome guy with serious social anxiety. What's the least awful way a friend could let you know they have feelings for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2011 - 35 answers

200mg of caffeine and me.

Help me understand the role caffeine might play in moderate to severe anxiety, intrusive thoughts (that I'm in danger) and occasional panic attacks. I'm perplexed by elimination of what I consider to be relatively low caffeine intake. Interested in others' experiences. [more inside]
posted by punkfloyd on Oct 23, 2011 - 16 answers

Cabin Fever + Nightowl - Social Anxiety = Frustration

Ways to get out and relieve cabin fever late at night, and maybe even be somewhat social? [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Sep 27, 2011 - 13 answers

Maybe I can just wear a mask?

Some bothersome social anxiety issues...should I seek medication/treatment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2011 - 8 answers

Can a reserved, somewhat shy person be a good therapist?

For much of my life I dealt with rather severe depression and anxiety, which I've recently overcome with nearly 3 years of therapy. I'm 24 years old, trying to find a meaningful career that's more than just a paycheck. At this point, all I want to do is be a therapist. I want to help others the way that I've been helped. However, another issue I've been working to overcome is crippling social anxiety. It's gotten much better; I hardly consider myself shy anymore. Still, though, I'm not sure if I have the warm, trust-inspiring personality a therapist should have. Could I be a successful therapist if I'm far quieter and more reserved than the norm? I do love people and want to help, but sometimes I might not come across that way. Can a shy person be a good therapist?
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2011 - 16 answers

How do I become less literal?

I'm often told that I take things too literally or serious. What can I do to lighten up a bit and help my brain out? [more inside]
posted by CZMR on Jun 12, 2011 - 8 answers

Fat pills for the fatty

I suspect I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder. My current psychiatrist is only treating me for Social Anxiety/selective mutism. During our first session he did not focus on what I consider to be the disorders causing me to remain homebound and avoidant of people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2011 - 13 answers

Should I keep my mouth shut?

Is there anything I can say to discourage my socially-anxious friend from giving pedantic lectures? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2011 - 26 answers

To Online Date, or Not to Online Date, that is the question

Should I try online dating or stick to hoping to meet someone in the outside world? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Polgara on Feb 5, 2011 - 29 answers

You don't know me?

I have a fear that people will perceive my intentions as the exact opposite of what they really are. I'm scared the people who I feel friendly towards will perceive me as hostile, rude, or uncaring. I worry that those I love the most will think I don't care. What the heck is my problem? And what can I do to straighten myself out? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Aug 19, 2010 - 8 answers

Homebound and friendless

I was "homeschooled" from age 11 to 18 by emotionally/verbally abusive and neglectful parents. During this time I was deprived of contact with the outside world, an education, medical care, and much needed therapy and medication for what is obvious to most people in the world except my parents. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2010 - 30 answers

Help the new fat girl make some friends

I'm moving into a new neighborhood where a lot of nice people live. I'd love to meet them and make some new friends. But I'm dealing with some weight issues and therefore have low self-confidence, not to mention being a natural introvert. How do I get through this in a positive way? [more inside]
posted by georgiabloom on Jun 30, 2010 - 26 answers

More social awkwardness!

How do you grieve a friendship breakup when you work with the person? And how do you then get over the chronic hopelessness with being lonely? [more inside]
posted by bookwibble on May 19, 2010 - 13 answers

So how do I do this...?

I need advice finding something to do this weekend in Philadelphia. [more inside]
posted by Merzbau on Mar 31, 2010 - 15 answers

How should I seek therapy?

I've got a lot of quirks, and my friends are fairly tolerant of them, but I'm beginning to think they might be indicative of a deeper social anxiety that's beginning to spiral into depression. How should I seek therapy? I live in the US, and I've heard that it can be quite expensive. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 12, 2010 - 9 answers

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