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BDSMfilter: munches, play parties, and social anxiety

How can an shy, inexperienced kinkster approach potential play partners without being too pushy or creepy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 5 answers

Mismatched sex drives, complicated by obligations, guilt and energy

My wife and I have been together for more than 7 years, and we've always had a caring, affectionate, low-sex relationship. We have sex once every month or two, and we enjoy ourselves, but it's generally pretty quick, then doesn't happen again for another month or longer. My sex drive is decently high, but hers seems very low. We've talked fairly openly about this mis-match, but there seem to be a long list of issues. This is where I'd like input, insight, or ideas. [more inside]
posted by plato beans on Feb 26, 2014 - 21 answers

Great Sexpectations

I have a super high sex drive (female, 30) that I've been blessed/cursed with since puberty. My boyfriend is a fairly sexual person, but has a lower libido than I do (male, 41), and don't want to have sex as often as I do. I am having trouble not taking this personally. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Feb 26, 2014 - 23 answers

How To Talk About Sex

Occasionally, I bring up the subject of sex with my partner, and I always get nowhere. Sex has never been something that we've really talked about. We had those first few conversations when we met several years ago: disclosures of risks, general preferences, expectations for monogamy, etc. and from there we just let it develop naturally. We need to talk about it because our sex life isn't meeting my needs, and I've asked to talk about it, but I still don't know how to talk about it, and I'm afraid this is just going to become another in a string of failed attempts to talk about sex. [more inside]
posted by this *is* my happy face on Dec 19, 2013 - 28 answers

Managing fear of sex noises/PDA

How can I manage my fear of PDA and sex noises? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Dec 16, 2013 - 14 answers

Birth control options for sad ladies

New relationship, long history of depression, looking for birth control advice. [more inside]
posted by terretu on Aug 9, 2013 - 17 answers

Date or wait?

I'm a man in his mid-twenties. I've never been in a relationship. I've never even taken anyone out on a date. I want to rectify this, but I think my mental health and my living situation prevent me from doing so. Should I even try to date? If not, what should I do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2013 - 35 answers

I know they're nice, but they're not for me!

I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2013 - 10 answers

Experiencing sexual dysfunction and other symptoms, post-divorce

Went through extreme anxiety and upheaval 2 years ago and have experienced sexual dysfunction and prostatitis-like symptoms ever since. How can I approach this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2013 - 7 answers

How to not feel like shit when you can't get no satisfaction

How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2013 - 29 answers

Still scared about stupid sex

How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 27 answers

Getting excited with my girlfriend

I can't seem to get "excited" with thoughts (or bikini pics) of my long distance girlfriend. I am far too young to have issues with this in a general sense and I don't. I can still get turned on by other things, and videos and what not (you get the point). We haven't met yet but we will be meeting in the relative future and something sexual might happen, and probably will. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2012 - 9 answers

Why do I hate other people's love?

I have extreme negative reactions to witnessing public displays of affection (PDA) or overhearing sex (e.g. anger, disgust, heart racing, crying). I get that I need therapy, but what kind should I be looking for? [more inside]
posted by Manlee Forresiddy on Nov 30, 2012 - 11 answers

Need help moving on with a difficult break-up and resolving related anxieties. Snowflakey details inside.

This is a big ask: help me find out how to healthily move on, be comfortable with myself and have an inkling of ambition. I've had a little trouble moving on from this one relationship, and I think some perspective would be nice. It is also related to various anxieties I have now. Snowflakey details inside. Sound advice deeply, deeply appreciated. [more inside]
posted by lethologues on Nov 9, 2012 - 12 answers

How should I compensate for something?

How do I make the most of my smaller-than-average penis? Snowflakey details follow. [more inside]
posted by Rustic Etruscan on Sep 6, 2012 - 45 answers

Mind Blowing

Please help me stop worrying about sex (and everything else). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2012 - 21 answers

Nervous during sex

I get really nervous during (attempted) sex with new people. I feel like a nervous teenager. Help me get out of my own damn head! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2012 - 16 answers

I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?!

I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2012 - 15 answers

too inexperienced to gain experience??

I'm a sexually inexperienced lady and sex scares the hell out of me! How can I calm down and have a good time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 20, 2011 - 41 answers

Help me keep my anxiety about sex from destroying my relationship, or: Want sex now help.

How can I have a more sexual relationship with my boyfriend, and stop freaking out all the time? Or, how can I accept that this is the relationship we have and it's not going to change? Warning: this is going to be both long and stupid. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack on Nov 14, 2011 - 47 answers

operation get laid by my birthday

I'm facing down 26 years years of virginity. Help me succeed at Operation: Get Laid By My Birthday. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2011 - 29 answers

SSRIs: death knell for an already-crippled libido?

Anecdotal experiences wanted: I am considering trying SSRIs for my anxiety, but I am worried that my already-low libido will disappear altogether. Psychiatrist suggests that the low libido may be caused by anxiety, and so taking SSRIs could actually help. Has either of these things happened to you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2011 - 26 answers

Fetish... Anxiety... Asexuality... Help?!

A fetish is causing me a great deal of anxiety, could anyone help me figure out how to deal with this? [more inside]
posted by Scrimshaw on Apr 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Anxious like a mofo over new relationship. Please help prevent me from sabotaging!

Anxiety over new relationship is killing me. Help me to stop it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2011 - 23 answers

I'd make a terrible cowgirl...

Advice on reverse missionary position. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2011 - 8 answers

How does Cialis work?

Performance-anxiety filter: I'm a early-30s guy who is incredibly sexually inexperienced who has some questions about the pills that tend to help with this problem. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2011 - 5 answers

Could we maybe just kiss a little and then forget this ever happened?

Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Dec 21, 2010 - 6 answers

Anxiety following awkward first sorta-sexual encounter... where to go from here?

Anxiety following awkward first sorta-sexual encounter... where to go from here? Generally NSFW inside. [more inside]
posted by Kumbaya in E Minor on Jul 7, 2010 - 17 answers

It's Like Achieving Nirvana, Only In My Pants.

Help me stop obsessing over having an orgasm with my partner (because if I can do THAT, I might actually stand a chance of having one - d'oh! Obsessing again...) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2010 - 14 answers

Help me move through this PLEASE

Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2010 - 12 answers

How do I fix me?

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Relationship emotional hangover is getting in the way of new fun

I've been hanging out with a girl for a while, just as friends because she's had a boyfriend for as long as I've known her. I am, of course, into her. She's intelligent and beautiful and laughs at my jokes--all that good stuff. So, I was honestly quite pleased when she started having problems with her boyfriend. Every couple of days, we'd see each other and she'd tell me about some other dick thing he'd said. She'd also started sitting closer to me, touching me on the arm when we talked, and holding on a little too long when we hugged. My experience with women is somewhat limited (I've had two serious girlfriends), but I could see that she liked me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2009 - 28 answers

What do I do now?

I'm not even thirty and the sex is terrible. Am I the only person with this problem and what should I do about it? Apologies, there is... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2007 - 11 answers

Helping your partner's sexual anxieties

How do I help relieve my boyfriend's sexual performance anxieties? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2007 - 20 answers

Why does male performance anxiety continue to severely hamper my sex life?

Why does male performance anxiety continue to severely hamper my sex life? [more inside]
posted by kyle on Mar 12, 2006 - 11 answers

Trouble dealing with rejection

I have problems dealing with rejection. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2006 - 14 answers

Performance anxiety erection problem.

ErectionFilter: Anyone had performance-anxiety erection issues that they have successfully solved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2005 - 19 answers

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