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How can I let people know I'm claustrophobic?

People throw around the term claustrophobic to describe tight or otherwise uncomfortable spaces. I actually am claustrophobic, to the point where I'll have panic attacks or come close to blacking out. How can I make this clear to people like my landlord who do not understand the severity of the problem? Would a diagnosis help? [more inside]
posted by quiet earth on Dec 12, 2014 - 32 answers

Red or orange hardcover darkly funny book about mental illness

I saw a book on a "featured" table last winter in a bookstore, which enchanted me, but I don't remember any of the key features that would allow me to buy it; namely author or title. I remember that it was red or orange, hardcover, consisted (mostly) of illustrations, was darkly funny, was written by a British man (?) and contained cartoony scenarios ruminating on anxiety or depression. Any idea what the book was? I assume that it was a new publication around the end of 2013. I think the title had the word "Brain" in it. [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur on Dec 3, 2014 - 13 answers

Nerves when speaking to Important People

I get nervous when speaking to Important Businesspeople, specifically, VPs and C-levels and the higher levels of middle management. How can I avoid this? [more inside]
posted by rebooter on Nov 17, 2014 - 24 answers

How can I stop fretting about standard communications with friends?

I spend way too much time worrying about the way my friends communicate with me -- specifically, I worry that any delay in response time means that they're angry or annoyed with me, or, even more dramatically, that they don't want me around anymore. I wonder if there are any good ways to talk myself out of this. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Nov 10, 2014 - 10 answers

Any tips/methods for breaking out of negative thought spirals?

I have some pretty serious anxiety issues and depression. These have been tremendously exacerbated by some rather overwhelming recent events. I'm seeing professionals for help, but I am getting stuck, for many hours a day, on these thought loops where I imagine in vivid detail the worst case scenario for whatever is bothering me. If I don't have anything to latch onto at the moment, I just feel constant general physical anxiousness. Are there any methods that have worked for you to break out of a similar cycle/pattern? Not looking for medical advice, but for anecdotal advice. [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Oct 16, 2014 - 21 answers

Finding friends in Fresno?

My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 20, 2014 - 11 answers

Help me survive my thesis defense

Hi, AskMe. A bit more than a year after this miserable question and this happier update, I am finally defending my MA on Wednesday. While my confidence is nowhere near as shot as it was when I first asked that question, I feel like my grasp of the subject I have dedicated the last several years to is nowhere near as comprehensive as it should be. Please help me get through this without crying. [more inside]
posted by avocet on Sep 8, 2014 - 16 answers

How to get over post-lasik anxiety

I have post-lasik regret which is resulting in anxiety. How can I best frame my thoughts and emotions about my results so I can calm down? [more inside]
posted by vivzan on Aug 27, 2014 - 19 answers

Irritability emergency!

I'm feeling extremely irritable today and every person I'm in contact with is pissing me off. But I need to get in a good mood fast! I'm leading an important meeting this afternoon (3 hours from now) and I cannot be scowling or grumbling. But my chest feels tight and heavy like lead--basically, what feels like an acute and grouchy depression-ish thing. How can I quickly suppress (or deal with) this and power through an intense interpersonal time? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Aug 13, 2014 - 31 answers

Am I depressed or just pathetic

Hi. I know I've posted about my depression before. But I just don't know what to do about it. I can't get better [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Aug 11, 2014 - 15 answers

How do I stop panicking about being overtaken and finish a PhD?

I'm in the final couple of months before submitting my dissertation, writing up frantically, and have just found out that someone I know has switched topics to my topic and actually submitted their dissertation. How do I cope with this and get on with my work? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 on Jul 30, 2014 - 15 answers

Research paralysis -- moving past: "what's the point?"

I'm writing what promises to be the last parts of my dissertation but am not handling the important and most basic questions well. How do I stay sane and somewhat productive in uncertain times? (longish details within) [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jul 7, 2014 - 6 answers

Hello, darkness, my friend! (and guilt, and the bar exam)

The bar exam is in 3 weeks. I'm feeling overwhelmed with guilt. Guilt I'm not studying enough. Guilt I'm not researching and writing briefs for work fast enough. And tremendous guilt that I've been a straight-up asshole with my family and friends. I'm not good at this balancing act. [more inside]
posted by chloe.gelsomino on Jul 3, 2014 - 17 answers

How do I get better at / get over anxiety making small decisions?

I agonize over making small decisions (what should I eat for lunch, should I start a new series or re watch an old favorite). When information is available I will spend an hour or so researching before I decide (Yelp). When information is not available I will put off the decision. It's getting worse and I'm unhappy living life paralyzed. [more inside]
posted by puertosurf on Jul 1, 2014 - 15 answers

How do I get my intelligence and identity back after depression?

Hi. I am currently 21 years old, female, and I think I was depressed for a long time, sometimes I think most of my life. I think I'm just starting to get out of it though, and I'm having a lot of realizations lately. I have had a lot of good days where I feel somewhat like myself again but have had bad days too. I really want to continue having good days but I'm struggling. I need help. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Jun 30, 2014 - 10 answers

Dealing with parental pressures to find a job

I recently graduated, but I'm already feeling pressure to find a job now or else be bombarded with my mom's criticism. How should I deal with this until I get work? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Jun 18, 2014 - 22 answers

How do I control my high anxiety and sensitivity when dating?

How I can I better handle these intense feelings and hold them in while maintaining the confidence and calmness that made the woman like me in the first place? [more inside]
posted by My Famous Mistake on Jun 13, 2014 - 26 answers

Oh, just get over it!

I am a public librarian. Sometimes I have to deal with problem patrons, and on rare occasions, those interactions turn ugly, and I have to ask the person to leave the building, etc. The problem is, I get upset, and then I get all flushed and shaky and worst of all, I cry. And when that happens, I can't really go off by myself and get composed -- I'm usually at the reference desk alone, so I can't be away for more than a minute or two. I've read previous AskMe questions about avoiding the crying, and have tried a lot of those tricks -- what I'd really like is to avoid getting so emotionally upset in the first place. [more inside]
posted by sarcasticah on May 19, 2014 - 42 answers

Nooope. Not going through this again.

Actively dreading an upcoming date -- probably not a good sign, right? What's the best way to proceed? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch on Apr 22, 2014 - 28 answers

Quick to anger, implode and then shake really bad

Let me first state that I have started seeing a counselor and take anxiety meds. What I am hoping to learn from fellow mefites : What works for your *if* you are hyperquick to anger even in times when you feel calm? [more inside]
posted by snap_dragon on Apr 2, 2014 - 14 answers

What was it like going on anti-anxiety medication?

What was it like going on anti-anxiety medication? Questions about people's experiences [more inside]
posted by mermily on Mar 10, 2014 - 30 answers

How to not freak out while waiting to see a doctor?

I have had some weird blood test results lately. My doctor is not sure what it's from, but said that worst case scenario would be leukemia. She wants me to see a hematologist but the soonest available appointment is till over a week away. I have always suffered from pretty severe hypochondria/health-anxiety/whatever, and the fact that my doctor mentioned the L word, and the uncertainty and waiting, not to mention the absolute worst timing, is killing me. I can barely work or sleep. [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Mar 7, 2014 - 13 answers

I don't know what I want, but it shouldn't be this hard

Dating this new guy is crazymaking. I can't figure out if there's genuine interest, if I'm being strung along, or if it's my own anxiety tying me up in knots. Please help! [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch on Mar 3, 2014 - 25 answers

Meditation and I'm moving backwards?

I think my new mindfulness practice is causing me more anxiety - why is this and how do I handle it? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom on Feb 27, 2014 - 17 answers

Great Sexpectations

I have a super high sex drive (female, 30) that I've been blessed/cursed with since puberty. My boyfriend is a fairly sexual person, but has a lower libido than I do (male, 41), and don't want to have sex as often as I do. I am having trouble not taking this personally. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Feb 26, 2014 - 23 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

Detaching whilst staying

How does one practice detachment in a codependent, anxiety-rich relationship? How can I be the husband my wife needs me to be whilst also getting what I need? [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jan 22, 2014 - 47 answers

Afraid of being fired: how do I keep the fear from crippling me?

I have crippling, perhaps justified fear of being fired. My fear is making my performance suffer, causing me misery and probably making firing more likely. How do I stop thinking like this? [more inside]
posted by Marered on Jan 20, 2014 - 21 answers

How do I help my brother get over his unemployment slump?

My little brother graduated with a degree in marketing last spring, and has since been living at my parents' house doing...absolutely nothing. He is interested in applying to jobs, and understands the steps involved, but seems to have no motivation to start that process. How can I help him? [more inside]
posted by mellophone on Jan 12, 2014 - 19 answers

Help me rejoin society?

I have been unemployed for a long period of time and it's really worn me down. I have an interview coming up, but I feel like I'm going to let my anxiety get the better of me and let this opportunity fall through if I don't get some kind of help. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Jan 6, 2014 - 17 answers

How to interview someone on camera? (Not for a job.)

Part of my job as a writer should be interviewing interesting people—tech types, fashion designers, musicians, etc. Except I get absolutely panicky when I do it. I have to fly overseas to interview three high-level dudes on camera this Thursday, and I'm already stage-frightey. I hate it. Google search terms, resources, tips, anecdotes, words of encouragement, hugs? [more inside]
posted by ulfberht on Jan 3, 2014 - 9 answers

Blindness translation to and from dreams?

I am a quite vivid dreamer, but one of my reoccurring themed dreams is me going along, usually in a vehicle which I may or may not control, and going blind temporarily while travelling in that vehicle. I'm used to them, but does going blind during vivid or lucid dreaming at all related to blindness caused by TIAs? [more inside]
posted by tilde on Dec 26, 2013 - 16 answers

I need help with my son's iep

At the parent-teacher conference Dec 5th the teacher told me my autistic/ADHD/OCD/GAD child is so aggressive the staff fears their safety and want to use restrainsts, and they want to bring it up in the next iep. This is the first I've heard of any aggression. [more inside]
posted by FunkyHelix on Dec 26, 2013 - 14 answers

Managing fear of sex noises/PDA

How can I manage my fear of PDA and sex noises? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Dec 16, 2013 - 14 answers

OTC anti-anxiety remedies?

Are there any studies or medical evidence to support the effectiveness of homeopathic remedies for anxiety, such as Hyland's Calms, Hyland's Nerve Tonic, or Rescue Remedy? [more inside]
posted by bluecore on Nov 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Motivation to exercise when there are no goals, or they are vague?

I have read in numerous places that exercise can sometimes help with mood and concentration. My only exercise goal is to help alleviate these possible issues, but I couldn't keep any motivation and stopped after only a few weeks. Specific considerations: [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Nov 26, 2013 - 38 answers

CBT or RET/REBT Worksheets or Own Methods that Work for You

I have struggled with intense anxiety and depression for many years. My counselor who still uses RET (REBT) is helpful. I have read Feeling Good (CBT) along with other books of RET author Albert Ellis...but I have difficulty finding a way that makes sense in disputing my thoughts that I stick with. I am willing to put the time in but I am curious is anyone here is willing to share their own style of doing CBT or RET homework that works for them. I'm not asking for shortcuts but unique ways you may have tweaked either layout or jotting down things. I am open to whatever you might suggest. (For what it is worth, I find Albert Ellis' writing rather strange but understand the philosophy of REBT and CBT.)
posted by snap_dragon on Nov 8, 2013 - 12 answers

Resources for deciding to be a mother?

I'm looking for resources (books, websites, etc.) to help me gain a balanced perspective on whether or not motherhood is right for me, given my anxieties and health issues. [more inside]
posted by Maya Cecile on Nov 2, 2013 - 15 answers

seek and ye shall find

How do I ask my new doctor for tranquilizers without seeming like a crazy drug addict? [more inside]
posted by mittens on Oct 30, 2013 - 25 answers

How much cleaning should I do before the cleaning person arrives?

I'm becoming irrationally anxious about the housecleaning service that's happening at my apartment this afternoon. I don't know what's reasonable to expect, how much prep I should do beforehand or how much I should manage the person they're sending over. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule on Oct 9, 2013 - 20 answers

How to help young child with anxiety/fear of fire

Precocious 6 y.o. daughter has suddenly developed an intense fear of fire. If the stove is on, she is sobbing or screaming or fretting. Same thing with the (outside) grill and my neighbor's fire pit. Logic, reason, discussion are all fruitless; as long as there is visible fire, she's terrified. How to help her cope? [more inside]
posted by disconnect on Oct 7, 2013 - 21 answers

Networking advice please

Business Networking for a nervous nellie who wants to be a natural [more inside]
posted by Kitty Cornered on Oct 7, 2013 - 8 answers

Please help me work up the nerve to start lap swimming again

I've done lap swimming very intermittently over the last 20 or so years. I think I'm an okay swimmer - I always did well enough when I was in practice - and I always liked the activity itself (made me feel a little more graceful than IRL). I can keep myself from drowning but I am way out of shape. I am motivated to start exercising and swimming is going to be the best option for my needs but I am really anxious about going. [more inside]
posted by Beti on Sep 24, 2013 - 25 answers

Meditation + for Adult ADD

I was recently diagnosed with ADD. (I am a 35 yr old adult male if that helps.) I had a hunch before as I have had years of anxiety and impulsiveness that has morphed to anger bursts. I am on the path to seeing a counselor for behavior/organizing modification but not yet on meds for ADD. In the meantime and for lifestyle choice, I am looking for any input on meditation techniques for those who have very busy minds. I have been practicing breath counting on a 4-2-6 count for 30 days and seem to be more distracted than ever though it worked for a little while. I know persisting in meditation with one way is helpful and am not expecting nirvana but a slower pace in thinking and talk would be helpful. (For what its worth, I do exercise 3 times a week with weights, slow stretch, and eat very healthy.) If you want to share any other things such as books, blogs, or sites, I am open to whatever, too. In closing, I will state that I am on an anxiety med and to take the ADD med I would have to titrate off that for 4 months, which I am willing to do though is scary. Life is good but it has been a bit harder and harder.
posted by snap_dragon on Sep 20, 2013 - 22 answers

Perfectionist kid?

I'm looking for advice for helping my 5 year old (new kindergartener) daughter deal with what looks like nascent perfectionist tendencies. [more inside]
posted by gaspode on Sep 10, 2013 - 35 answers

Help me get my dog outside

We adopted Willa on Sunday afternoon. She is a sweet, placid 3-year-old retired racing greyhound. She seemed to settle in okay on Sunday, but since Monday morning she has been very fearful and anxious. The most problematic manifestation of this is steadfast refusal to leave the house -- she freezes up and has to be carried/dragged over the threshold to go outside to do her business. [more inside]
posted by coppermoss on Sep 10, 2013 - 14 answers

Congratulations! (as applicable!)

What phrases are reflexively on the tip of your tongue? [more inside]
posted by Chorus on Sep 5, 2013 - 33 answers

Bored and constantly worrying about my future

I have too much time on my hands and, apparently, a lot of internal pressure, so I spend all day worrying about how my life is going to turn out... Can someone help me break out of it? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Aug 10, 2013 - 14 answers

The spirit is willing. The flesh is about to puke.

I'm not nervous for my upcoming trip. So how do I get my body to calm down about it? [more inside]
posted by koucha on Aug 6, 2013 - 13 answers

What do I do with myself during a break from school + beyond?

Because of troubles at school, I have been forced to take some time off to re-evaluate. My question is, what would be beneficial things to do, what should I try and focus on, how can I improve myself within the context of my situation, etc. [more inside]
posted by hejrat on Jul 26, 2013 - 12 answers

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