Some heavy shit went down this week and I've become the unwilling party to a new family secret. I want to tell one or two trusted family members because it affects them to a lesser degree. Can people with calmer heads and more perspective help me sort through this and figure out the best line to take?
(Caution: longwinded) [more inside]
Looking for a song or poem or short story or stand-alone chapter in a novel that has an emotional release or a suggestion on how to deal with anger/negative emotions, especially around family issues. Should be (fairly) appropriate for high school students. [more inside]
In one week, I've turned into a downright angry and rude and unlikeable person. How can I reverse this? [more inside]
How can I let go of jealousy and anger over getting dumped by someone I didn't like that much anyway? [more inside]
How do I silence the vengeful voice inside myself? [more inside]
I want to learn how to (temporarily) show no reaction when someone is angry with me or says mean things to me. [more inside]
My professor makes me uncomfortable and angry. How do I get through this class without letting my emotions get to me? [more inside]
How do you get over someone that dumped you out of the blue and says they will never speak to you again? [more inside]
My relationship has ended and through this process I've realized certain things. I want to share my clarity with my ex.
I'm sure there are selfish reasons I have this impulse, but I also am a bit concerned that he may truly not be conscious of, what I consider to be, serious anger issues- which I hesitate to call verbal abuse, although that is most likely accurate.
I never named things this way while in our relationship- we would argue around in a maze of clever denials and emotional outbursts- which I never found my way out of. . .
So, am I tricking myself by thinking that this is something he needs to be confronted with for his emotional health? Or is there potentially some positive way to convey this harsh reality to someone who, so far, has not been able to acknowledge the severity of their behavior?
My coworker is touching me and I need to make her stop without making a scene. [more inside]
How can I help my 4-year-old begin developing healthy stress coping mechanisms? [more inside]
How do I support my boyfriend at the same time as I urge him to change his behavior? [more inside]
Does anyone know where can I find a better copy of the woodcut image of a satyr copulating with a goat at 2:56 of this segment
of Kenneth Anger's Lucifier Rising?
Often, when I disagree with, or I'm arguing with someone, they'll ask me "Why are you so angry?" I don't FEEL all that angry, but when I look back at it I certainly act like an ass, saying things I don't mean. I'm not sure what exactly to call this, so I'm falling short on searching for advice. Thanks!
i need some help with some convention swag that relates to the seven deadly sins. [more inside]
I have witnessed road rage and I want to complain about it. How should I go about this? Or should I just leave it?
I live in Vaughan, Ontatio (a suburb of Toronto). I witnessed a man get out of his car (I didn't get the plate number but it was a company van with the company address and logo on it) and yell at the other driver, hit his window repeatedly and then opened his door to yank the driver out of his car. Luckily the other driver managed to let go of him and shut his door. Then the aggressor went on to kick his driver side door.
It was a traumatic to witness this incident for me. I wonder what the poor driver of the other car must have gone through.
All he did was block a lane to get into a lane from the gas station that would make a left turn. The other driver obviously angry that his man blocked the lane (mind you the light ahead was red).
So how should I go about this? I have never reported such an incident. Should I call 911?
The person I’m seeing drinks frequently, and sometimes their drinking annoys me. It’s only a month into this relationship – what is the best way to either bring this up as a topic of conversation or to decide whether this is worth it? [more inside]
How do I (or do I) express anger/hurt to significant other? [more inside]
How do I not stew over negative interactions with other people? [more inside]
How can I psychologically process being mugged, and move on? [more inside]
Why am I so angry and what can I do about it? [more inside]
Can I learn to hold a grudge? [more inside]
I'm living in an angry breakup song. How do I press stop? [more inside]
I'm looking for some really angry music. No, not like that. Angrier. Much angrier. [more inside]
My only sister embezzled money from me. She stole the money I was sending monthly to support our mother, I am deeply hurt and I am having problems dealing with my feelings of anger, frustration and desire for revenge. Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
The way my boyfriend behaves when he's angry makes me deeply uncomfortable. Is this his issue, or mine? [more inside]
My friend is dating my ex. How does this not end in murder-murder-suicide? [more inside]
I live in an oldish (1920s) apartment building, in a studio. A while ago I tried the time-honored "scream and rant to an empty room" method of anger management--and got a visit from a dozen
cops my neighbor called, and who went through my place to check that I wasn't axe-murdering someone or anything like that. This is, of course, not sustainable, but if I can't rant at home, where can I rant? [more inside]
Blind rage- what can I do? [more inside]
Everyone has it harder than me. So I should be taking advantage of that, right? [more inside]
I'm bitter and angry at my ex-husband. Also, shallow. Please help me change. [more inside]
I've lived in Japan for some time now, but I'm not very good at the language. When I encounter anything beyond the simple, and I don't understand what's going on, I feel frustrated, then angry, then ashamed, which undermines any confidence I have to speak the language, which makes it less likely that I'll do better the next time. What can I do to break this cycle? [more inside]
[Jaded_Filter] Am I overreacting to street solicitors? Is this the sign of an anger issue? Or do I just need to learn how to ignore everyone who bothers me? [more inside]
How do I get over past wrongs? [more inside]
Me: unable to get past feeling majorly disappointed in my parents. You: someone who can tell me how to get over it. [more inside]
How can I stop hating these people and start not thinking about them at all? [more inside]
Updating Mr. Rodgers for the grownups:
"What do you do with the mad that you feel?" [more inside]
Okay, so I didn't "dig my well before getting thirsty." Now what? (Vent Warning) [more inside]
My husband has Asperger's Syndrome and a lot of unresolved anger towards his ex-wife. These two things are horrible together, as he is frequently mean to me, punishing me for things she did to him, but then he is unable to grasp how upsetting this is for me. I've been trying to get him to go to therapy to try to work out his anger about her, but in the meantime I need strategies to cope with living like this, as it is making me lose my mind with frustration, anger, and sadness. [more inside]
I'm hypersensitive to societal politeness. I return phone calls and emails promptly, arrive early to all appointments and go out of my way to help friends. How do I deal with the disappointment when it is not reciprocated? [more inside]
I am a whiner. I get easily irritated by things and complain a lot. It doesn't bother some people, but it bothers others who are close to me. I don't want to stress them out, so I'm asking for ways I can tone down that aspect of my personality so it doesn't alienate others. [more inside]
I told my housemate I like him. He doesn't like me. Cool. Less than 24 hours later, he goes to a party and spends the night with another girl. Do I have just cause to be angry? [more inside]
I'm always angry; what to do? [more inside]
How do I respond to my husband's silent treatment? He has got incredibly angry over some perceived error on my part and is now icing me out whenever we are alone. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
How Am I Supposed To Feel About My Mom Cheating On My Dad? And Draining Family Money? (desperate for any help or advice) [more inside]
My fiance has male answer syndrome. Lately, I have found myself getting irritated almost after every sentence. How do I change my perception/attitude so I can handle this with grace and humor instead of anger and stabbing?
I grew up with a pretty mean guy for a father. Thanks to my therapist, I have come to realize that "abusive" does not necessarily mean "illegal," and while his conduct was never the second, it was definitely the first. I'm certain many people grew up in far worse situations, but he still screwed me up, and I still get the bill.
The bill comes in many forms, but one is that I'm very prone to anger, and really nasty anger at that. I'm wondering how I can either express or repress this. [more inside]
What are some good ways to combat mood swings? [more inside]
When I was growing up, people (including other adults) took adults a lot more seriously than people take me now. I'm an adult now, and turned 30 recently, but people don't take me seriously. How can I make this happen?
My boyfriend has a tendency to lose shit. His wallet, his license, cell phones, keys, ipod, money. This mostly happens when he’s drunk but it also happens when he is stone cold sober. At first, I thought it was weird. Then it became annoying. Now it absolutely infuriates me. Despite his tendency to lose things, he still likes to borrow stuff from other people. And becomes offended when he gets refused. [more inside]