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How to quell baseless anger and anxiety?

I've been randomly angry and anxious lately and I don't want to be. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by A god with hooves, a god with horns on May 8, 2013 - 11 answers

How to stop getting angry about the small stuff?

My temper has always been on the short side, and I'm really getting fed up with it. The little things (eg: getting cut off in traffic, hitting my head on a cabinet, unhelpful customer service, when the restaurant's out of what I want) especially get to me. I get totally carried away with feeling angry and end up being rude or short with people. Acting this way is not in line with my values. I want to be kind and generous with strangers and make their days better. Especially I don't want to mess up my relationship with family, friends, and (most of all) my girlfriend. Has anyone else had this problem and overcome it? I've tried (with varying success): counting to 10, harmless acts of destruction (breaking a pencil), deep breaths, just being more aware of when I start to become angry (so I don't get carried away), and viewing my anger as a separate entity to be fought and overcome. Happy to provide more info if it's useful in answering.
posted by Gravel on Apr 11, 2013 - 36 answers

I am angered and disgusted with myself for being so contemptuous

How can I stop feeling so much disgust and disdain for everyone? [more inside]
posted by bitteroldman on Apr 8, 2013 - 47 answers

Am I overreacting or is my partner?

Partner frequently gets angry when we go out. This upsets me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 26 answers

How did you let go and forgive after a loss and a breakup?

Death of a parent and a breakup- how to disentangle the two, get a virtual lobotomy regarding the breakup, and for heavens sake just fucking move on regarding the breakup. [more inside]
posted by xm on Feb 27, 2013 - 20 answers

Help breaking a cycle of destructive thinking and behavior?

I have some very poor ingrained behaviors that center around low self-esteem. Has anyone been successful in interrupting the chain from emotional reaction->saying stupid things->causing upset and hurt? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Why is anger the most problematic emotion?

My theory is that, of all the emotions, people find anger the hardest to deal with. I know people don't like strong emotions in general, but they seem to be worse at coping with others' anger than in the case of other strong emotions. Why is that? [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Feb 1, 2013 - 51 answers

Seattle Therapist that specializes in health anxiety and anger?

I've been dealing with terrible health anxiety for several years, coupled with being incredibly short and angry with my wife when in the midst of a panic attack or uncomfortable symptoms. My wife is fed up and I need to make this better. NOW. I need recommendations for therapists that take Premera and any other ideas people have for dealing with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2013 - 4 answers

Emotional Basket case at Period Time

Menstruating women of Metafilter: Did/do you find that the older you get the more emotional you are around your periods? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Dec 31, 2012 - 42 answers

Kindle self-help book recommendations

Looking for recommendations of effective books/workbooks/web resources on emotional intelligence, abandonment issues, anger, fear, jealousy, trust issues and self-compassion. Bonus points for including all of the above and being available on Kindle. [more inside]
posted by f3l1x on Dec 30, 2012 - 6 answers

How do I learn to stand up for myself?

How do I become more assertive without being rude and stick up for myself? [more inside]
posted by morning_television on Dec 15, 2012 - 13 answers

The idea that people don't change: what does it mean for me?

People don't change. If accepting that reality is the way to peace, how do I reconcile it with being married to someone with whom I'm incompatible in fundamental ways? (I am committed to this marriage because we have a young child who means the world to me and needs me.) Do I need to stop believing there could be core change in another person's outlook on life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2012 - 27 answers

How do you deal with strained relationship because of a in-law?

My sister-in-law is not fond of my girlfriend and it's affecting my relationship. I'm hoping to get perspectives from others that may have experience with a similar situation. [more inside]
posted by miit on Dec 4, 2012 - 57 answers

From Jerk to Justice League: How to be a leader, not a whiner? (Grad School Style)

From Jerk to Justice League: How to be a leader, not a whiner? [more inside]
posted by celare on Nov 13, 2012 - 8 answers

Help for the spouse of someone with mental health issues

I really need help with being married to -- and raising a young child with -- someone who's living with long-term anger issues, depression, anxiety, and OCD (obsessive fear of doing violent things). I feel alone, sad, exhausted, and in way over my head. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2012 - 9 answers

I sort of lost it at a semi-work function. Should I apologize to my colleagues who were present?

I sort of lost it at a semi-work function. Should I apologize to my colleagues who were present? We work in the web industry and were having a sort of day where we all get together in one room and fix bugs, discuss new features, etc. Present were people from our company as well as other users of the software. [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Aug 6, 2012 - 47 answers

How do I manage my emotions?

I am a highly educated 27 year-old female, and I am at a loss as to what to do with my extreme emotions. How does one manage a burst of emotions so as to deal with the situation in an effective and calm manner? Specifically, I need advices on redirecting or channeling my anger and sadness in a way fast enough that I can still remain in the scenario (even more specifically, when in conflict with my mother)... but one that does not involve self-mutilation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2012 - 23 answers

I wish I could call it Fight Club.

What's a good name for a blog on (interpersonal, not politica) conflict resolution and relationships? [more inside]
posted by sweetkid on Jul 19, 2012 - 30 answers

Who has anger made you ?

Help me understand Anger and its relation to self-esteem, loving relationships, circmstances, and daily life. Are you or have you been and angry person ? to what extend have you been able to spot the causes and / or gotten better ? How did it feel ? [more inside]
posted by Jireel on Jul 13, 2012 - 10 answers

Abuse, anger; how far should I go to support my girlfriend?

My girlfriend has suffered a lot, and is very angry: she wants me to confront my housemate for his passivity to the abuse she endured. Should I? Long and complicated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2012 - 52 answers

He's still mad

Didn't return an aquaintance's call back and he's still mad 2 years later. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2012 - 22 answers

What's the deal with meditation?

How and why does meditation work? How does one do it properly (that is, in the way in which one may extract the most benefits)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2012 - 29 answers

the flames...burning

Looking for constructive ways to deal with anger, post end of relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 25, 2012 - 15 answers

How to let go of anger?

How to let go of anger? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce on Jun 20, 2012 - 38 answers

What do you do to calm yourself when in the heat of anger?

What methods have worked for you in terms of keeping a rational mind when you feel yourself becoming (rationally or irrationally) angry? [more inside]
posted by oink on May 31, 2012 - 16 answers

The biggest FU ever

This was me. That problem was resolved by him killing himself in our flat. While i was there. Sleeping. Now I have different problems, mainly what the heck do I tell people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2012 - 38 answers

Undermined or Oversensitive?

I'm thinking my best friend isn't the best of friends. How do I deal with that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2012 - 26 answers

How can I stay calm despite wrong statements and irrational people?

How can I stay calm despite wrong statements and irrational people? [more inside]
posted by dr1ft on Apr 29, 2012 - 30 answers

in legal settings: how to keep my cool when dealing with a liar?

In legal settings: how to keep my cool when dealing with a liar? [more inside]
posted by ThiefOfSweets on Mar 26, 2012 - 33 answers

Should I give up on friendship?

I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Please help me help my wife.

I need professional help with trying to save my marriage to a person who has had profound anger, anxiety, and depression issues since childhood. I need help with leading her toward restarting therapy (and potentially toward reconsidering her insistence on no chemical treatment). Our relationship is in serious jeopardy and we have a child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 16 answers

I'm never wrong, you're never right

is it a red flag if a person never thinks they're wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2012 - 66 answers

I lose my temper a lot

Please help me control my temper and my anger [more inside]
posted by hollyanderbody on Mar 9, 2012 - 21 answers

Change your pushable buttons.

Change your pushable buttons. Everyone has triggers, or certain things that really bother then. How do you get over or at least temporarily move passed something that pushes your really big buttons? (when you can't tell the person to %&$@ off, or dissect the situation) [more inside]
posted by misformiche on Mar 3, 2012 - 14 answers

I think I'm losing my mind

I still have my eyesight (for now), but the diagnosis has triggered serious anger and midlife crisis issues. [more inside]
posted by bad grammar on Feb 25, 2012 - 23 answers

[Anger related issue filter] Do I need a tougher outer shell, or should I be bothered by this?

Difficulty with communicating anger and/or frustration toward friends--need a few techniques to move forward. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jan 23, 2012 - 16 answers

Having difficulty expressing my emotions – help!

Is it ever okay to snap at someone? [more inside]
posted by feidr2 on Jan 15, 2012 - 27 answers

How to deal with extreme anger from a family member who is bipolar?

I need some information about coping with a bipolar family member whose personality/behavior has changed drastically since she began getting treatment. Specifically, she has been going into hurtful rages and tirades (all verbal). I'm her closest family member, and I don't know if she's just really really angry with me about stuff or if her medication/treatment is a factor. This is very long, I'm sorry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2012 - 14 answers

Am I making it worse by writing out all the gory details that piss me off?

Writing out your anger: does it help or hurt? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Dec 29, 2011 - 24 answers

How do I deal with my SO's yelling and outbursts? Is it over the top?

How do I deal with my SO's yelling and outbursts? Is it over the top? [more inside]
posted by hollypolly on Dec 27, 2011 - 110 answers

Bitter Songs

Tell me you favorite bitter, angry songs. [more inside]
posted by catatethebird on Dec 14, 2011 - 159 answers

Help for seriously destructive anger.

Acute anger treatment. Have you sought it or helped a loved one seek it? What are some treatment options and/or some family help organizations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2011 - 2 answers

Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm

Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
posted by DianaV on Nov 26, 2011 - 66 answers

Help me help the most awesome kid I know

I'm looking for advice on how to help my five year old with some behavioral issues. [more inside]
posted by Cuke on Nov 22, 2011 - 19 answers

This anger - it's soul killing and I can't take it.

How do you handle your spouse's angry outbursts when you feel they are irrational? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2011 - 132 answers

Why am I so angry?

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and I am so angry! I have less patience, tolerance, and empathy for everyone and everything. How do I calm down and get a grip? [more inside]
posted by fiasco on Oct 15, 2011 - 29 answers

My father is angry, my family is upset, and I feel responsible. What can I do?

My father has anger issues and my family's reactions makes me feel like everything is falling apart. Can I do anything? If I can't, what can I do to cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2011 - 23 answers

Anger management techniques

What is anger management therapy like? [more inside]
posted by feathermeat on Aug 23, 2011 - 4 answers

My boyfriend is an emotionally healthy person with situationally appropriate emotional responses! How do I deal with that?

After years of not-quite-emotionally-healthy surroundings, I'm usually tense and awkward around people when they get angry because I'm expecting them to inevitably turn their anger towards me. My boyfriend totally doesn't do that! But now I realize that I don't know what normal people are supposed to do when their S.O. is frustrated. [more inside]
posted by sometimes_a_pony on Aug 18, 2011 - 13 answers

Advice on adult autism, mediation and housemates

A question about adult autism anger management issues in a housemate context. [more inside]
posted by lover on Aug 14, 2011 - 30 answers

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