I have some very poor ingrained behaviors that center around low self-esteem. Has anyone been successful in interrupting the chain from emotional reaction->saying stupid things->causing upset and hurt? If so, how?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2013 -
8 answers
I've been dealing with terrible health anxiety for several years, coupled with being incredibly short and angry with my wife when in the midst of a panic attack or uncomfortable symptoms. My wife is fed up and I need to make this better. NOW. I need recommendations for therapists that take Premera and any other ideas people have for dealing with this.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 8, 2013 -
4 answers
People don't change. If accepting that reality is the way to peace, how do I reconcile it with being married to someone with whom I'm incompatible in fundamental ways? (I am committed to this marriage because we have a young child who means the world to me and needs me.) Do I need to stop believing there could be core change in another person's outlook on life?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2012 -
27 answers
I really need help with being married to -- and raising a young child with -- someone who's living with long-term anger issues, depression, anxiety, and OCD (obsessive fear of doing violent things). I feel alone, sad, exhausted, and in way over my head.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
9 answers
I am a highly educated 27 year-old female, and I am at a loss as to what to do with my extreme emotions.
How does one manage a burst of emotions so as to deal with the situation in an effective and calm manner? Specifically, I need advices on redirecting or channeling my anger and sadness in a way fast enough that I can still remain in the scenario (even more specifically, when in conflict with my mother)... but one that does not involve self-mutilation.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2012 -
23 answers
My girlfriend has suffered a lot, and is very angry: she wants me to confront my housemate for his passivity to the abuse she endured. Should I? Long and complicated.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2012 -
52 answers
How and why does meditation work? How does one do it properly (that is, in the way in which one may extract the most benefits)?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2012 -
29 answers
This was me. That problem was resolved by him killing himself in our flat. While i was there. Sleeping. Now I have different problems, mainly what the heck do I tell people?
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posted by anonymous
on May 29, 2012 -
38 answers
I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2012 -
19 answers
I need professional help with trying to save my marriage to a person who has had profound anger, anxiety, and depression issues since childhood. I need help with leading her toward restarting therapy (and potentially toward reconsidering her insistence on no chemical treatment). Our relationship is in serious jeopardy and we have a child.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
16 answers
I need some information about coping with a bipolar family member whose personality/behavior has changed drastically since she began getting treatment. Specifically, she has been going into hurtful rages and tirades (all verbal). I'm her closest family member, and I don't know if she's just really really angry with me about stuff or if her medication/treatment is a factor. This is very long, I'm sorry.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 4, 2012 -
14 answers
Acute anger treatment. Have you sought it or helped a loved one seek it? What are some treatment options and/or some family help organizations?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 6, 2011 -
2 answers
My father has anger issues and my family's reactions makes me feel like everything is falling apart. Can I do anything? If I can't, what can I do to cope?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 14, 2011 -
23 answers
How can I be less of a jerk when I feel like the universe is lobbing lemons at my head?
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2011 -
22 answers
Some heavy shit went down this week and I've become the unwilling party to a new family secret. I want to tell one or two trusted family members because it affects them to a lesser degree. Can people with calmer heads and more perspective help me sort through this and figure out the best line to take?
(Caution: longwinded)
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2011 -
58 answers
In one week, I've turned into a downright angry and rude and unlikeable person. How can I reverse this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 15, 2011 -
27 answers
How can I let go of jealousy and anger over getting dumped by someone I didn't like that much anyway?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2011 -
19 answers
The person I’m seeing drinks frequently, and sometimes their drinking annoys me. It’s only a month into this relationship – what is the best way to either bring this up as a topic of conversation or to decide whether this is worth it?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2011 -
55 answers
The way my boyfriend behaves when he's angry makes me deeply uncomfortable. Is this his issue, or mine?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 7, 2010 -
214 answers
I live in an oldish (1920s) apartment building, in a studio. A while ago I tried the time-honored "scream and rant to an empty room" method of anger management--and got a visit from a
dozen cops my neighbor called, and who went through my place to check that I wasn't axe-murdering someone or anything like that. This is, of course, not sustainable, but if I can't rant at home, where can I rant?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2010 -
40 answers
My husband has Asperger's Syndrome and a lot of unresolved anger towards his ex-wife. These two things are horrible together, as he is frequently mean to me, punishing me for things she did to him, but then he is unable to grasp how upsetting this is for me. I've been trying to get him to go to therapy to try to work out his anger about her, but in the meantime I need strategies to cope with living like this, as it is making me lose my mind with frustration, anger, and sadness.
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posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2010 -
28 answers
I told my housemate I like him. He doesn't like me. Cool. Less than 24 hours later, he goes to a party and spends the night with another girl. Do I have just cause to be angry?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2010 -
38 answers
I grew up with a pretty mean guy for a father. Thanks to my therapist, I have come to realize that "abusive" does not necessarily mean "illegal," and while his conduct was never the second, it was definitely the first. I'm certain many people grew up in far worse situations, but he still screwed me up, and I still get the bill.
The bill comes in many forms, but one is that I'm very prone to anger, and really nasty anger at that. I'm wondering how I can either express or repress this.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 27, 2010 -
45 answers
When I was growing up, people (including other adults) took adults a lot more seriously than people take me now. I'm an adult now, and turned 30 recently, but people don't take me seriously. How can I make this happen?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 15, 2010 -
75 answers
I am a straight 29-year old male who has never been in a relationship or had any sexual experience. When I find out that other people I know are entering into relationships or getting frisky, I get slammed by a whole cluster of negative emotions, and I need help coping.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2009 -
40 answers
My boyfriend is depressed, again, and I'm starting to get concerned that I don't have the patience to get through it with him this time. I want to help him, but I'm not sure how many times I can keep doing this.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 25, 2009 -
26 answers
Why am I seething now that my ex business partner is willing to reconcile our differences?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2009 -
17 answers
I need some help managing anger, depression, and sadness. More specifically, I need to figure out some way for my boyfriend to control his urges to beat the crap out of random people and for me to control my deep depression.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 11, 2009 -
31 answers
My fiance is contemplating quitting her Ph.D. program and refuses to either address her problems with her advisor, seek counseling, seek the help of friends, or discuss the issue with me. She prefers instead to drink wine and watch crime shows. She knows that she does not take criticism or advice well, and she knows she's being immature and needs help, so what can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2009 -
33 answers
I spend much more time feeling cranky than I would like to. When something makes me angry, I don't just get mad and then get over it. I brood on it, and at random times over the next few days, that cranky feeling will pop up and I'll relive the incident that made me cranky in the first place, and all of the original bad feeling comes back. Does anyone have some practical solutions to help me break out of these persistent crabby moods? I'm generally in a pretty good mood unless I feel crabby.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2009 -
14 answers
I'm troubled by unresolved ex issues. How can I move on from these feelings of resentment?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2008 -
32 answers
