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How do I get over deep anger at my spouse over moving for his career?

My husband finally got the tenure-track academic job at an awesome university he's been working towards his whole life. So how can I get myself to stop hating him for it? Lots of rambling inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2014 - 86 answers

What is it that people want when they give you the silent treatment?

I am currently getting the silent treatment from a friend/my roommate. I know that I offended her, and I have apologized, but she still just sort of glances at me when I come in a room and then goes back to doing whatever she was doing before. I have never encountered this kind of behavior from anyone before, and I am not sure how to respond, or if I should respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2014 - 39 answers

Looking for authoritative data on adult conflict styles and tactics

I am looking for researched or surveyed information on how adults in a relationship fight. Specifically, books or articles on how common it is for adults to make deliberately hurtful comments in anger, and references from sociology, psychology or counseling about the effects of that style of fighting.
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2013 - 4 answers

Strong-willed Child Will Not Go To School

At out wits' end - we have a very smart, very angry, very sad, strong-willed 6 year old who has decided that he is going to sleep until Christmas and that he is not going to school ever. Flurries of special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2013 - 94 answers

I desperately want to be who she needs: emotion control advice

I'm caring for my sick and declining wife, but my own anger issues have made me a terrible caregiver at times, let alone partner. We both love each other deeply, and want to spend our final years together, but if I can't stop making her miserable I have to go. I'm already pursuing therapy, have a psychiatrist, etc. I am not ashamed to seek help; the stakes are so high. I will be devastated if I have to walk away because I am a toxic presence, and so I'm determined to address my problems and be the husband she needs. I'm seeking ideas and advice on how to eliminate the bad so we can enjoy the good. More below... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2013 - 55 answers

How can I best interact with this guy?

I have a teammate at work and I need to know how to make our working relationship more effective. He has trouble with social interaction and exhibits behaviors that I've often heard in discussions about Asperger/autism spectrum disorders, but more to the point, he has trouble with anger and I'm not sure how to respond to it. I understand that I can't be sure about my armchair diagnosis, but I don't need to know the cause of his behavior so long as I can find ways to work with him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2013 - 16 answers

Trying not to be a hater.

How do I not get mad (or how do I get mad in a more productive way) when people who do what I do only not as well receive more attention? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 13, 2013 - 36 answers

Is there a pill for this?

I seem to have the patience, judgment and self-control of a two-year-old. Nothing against two-year-olds, I'm sure many of them are lovely people, but little is expected of them beyond not biting people. I've mastered the not-biting part, it's the rest I have a problem with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2013 - 10 answers

What's "normal" anger?

You are a person who has a normal, healthy, societally-standard relationship with anger. What does that look like? How do you express it? How frequently? How do people around you respond to it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2013 - 28 answers

How do I stop monitoring people's emotions constantly?

I am constantly monitoring other people's tone, actions, facial expressions, etc. for signs of anger, frustration, irritation, etc. I am not conscious of it until something happens, and then I tense up, feel some adrenaline hit, and generally become really conscious of it until the situation is resolved. How do I reduce this impulse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2013 - 17 answers

Girlfriend met a guy on dating site. This isn't settling well with me.

My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2013 - 81 answers

Please help me help my friend deal with his anger

My best friend in the world has serious anger issues. He throws tantrums, bellows and sometimes just insults me as a way to blow off steam. He's been seriously depressed for some years now, and therapy hasn't helped dramatically so far. I've tried to set some boundaries in terms of how he acts towards me, and his girlfriend is doing the same, but he says he doesn't know of any other ways to deal with how he's feeling. What resources can I refer him to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2013 - 36 answers

Am I overreacting or is my partner?

Partner frequently gets angry when we go out. This upsets me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 26 answers

Help breaking a cycle of destructive thinking and behavior?

I have some very poor ingrained behaviors that center around low self-esteem. Has anyone been successful in interrupting the chain from emotional reaction->saying stupid things->causing upset and hurt? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Seattle Therapist that specializes in health anxiety and anger?

I've been dealing with terrible health anxiety for several years, coupled with being incredibly short and angry with my wife when in the midst of a panic attack or uncomfortable symptoms. My wife is fed up and I need to make this better. NOW. I need recommendations for therapists that take Premera and any other ideas people have for dealing with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2013 - 4 answers

The idea that people don't change: what does it mean for me?

People don't change. If accepting that reality is the way to peace, how do I reconcile it with being married to someone with whom I'm incompatible in fundamental ways? (I am committed to this marriage because we have a young child who means the world to me and needs me.) Do I need to stop believing there could be core change in another person's outlook on life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2012 - 27 answers

Help for the spouse of someone with mental health issues

I really need help with being married to -- and raising a young child with -- someone who's living with long-term anger issues, depression, anxiety, and OCD (obsessive fear of doing violent things). I feel alone, sad, exhausted, and in way over my head. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2012 - 9 answers

How do I manage my emotions?

I am a highly educated 27 year-old female, and I am at a loss as to what to do with my extreme emotions. How does one manage a burst of emotions so as to deal with the situation in an effective and calm manner? Specifically, I need advices on redirecting or channeling my anger and sadness in a way fast enough that I can still remain in the scenario (even more specifically, when in conflict with my mother)... but one that does not involve self-mutilation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2012 - 23 answers

Abuse, anger; how far should I go to support my girlfriend?

My girlfriend has suffered a lot, and is very angry: she wants me to confront my housemate for his passivity to the abuse she endured. Should I? Long and complicated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2012 - 52 answers

He's still mad

Didn't return an aquaintance's call back and he's still mad 2 years later. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2012 - 22 answers

What's the deal with meditation?

How and why does meditation work? How does one do it properly (that is, in the way in which one may extract the most benefits)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2012 - 29 answers

the flames...burning

Looking for constructive ways to deal with anger, post end of relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 25, 2012 - 15 answers

The biggest FU ever

This was me. That problem was resolved by him killing himself in our flat. While i was there. Sleeping. Now I have different problems, mainly what the heck do I tell people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2012 - 38 answers

Undermined or Oversensitive?

I'm thinking my best friend isn't the best of friends. How do I deal with that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2012 - 26 answers

Should I give up on friendship?

I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Please help me help my wife.

I need professional help with trying to save my marriage to a person who has had profound anger, anxiety, and depression issues since childhood. I need help with leading her toward restarting therapy (and potentially toward reconsidering her insistence on no chemical treatment). Our relationship is in serious jeopardy and we have a child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 16 answers

I'm never wrong, you're never right

is it a red flag if a person never thinks they're wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2012 - 66 answers

How to deal with extreme anger from a family member who is bipolar?

I need some information about coping with a bipolar family member whose personality/behavior has changed drastically since she began getting treatment. Specifically, she has been going into hurtful rages and tirades (all verbal). I'm her closest family member, and I don't know if she's just really really angry with me about stuff or if her medication/treatment is a factor. This is very long, I'm sorry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2012 - 14 answers

Help for seriously destructive anger.

Acute anger treatment. Have you sought it or helped a loved one seek it? What are some treatment options and/or some family help organizations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2011 - 2 answers

This anger - it's soul killing and I can't take it.

How do you handle your spouse's angry outbursts when you feel they are irrational? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2011 - 132 answers

My father is angry, my family is upset, and I feel responsible. What can I do?

My father has anger issues and my family's reactions makes me feel like everything is falling apart. Can I do anything? If I can't, what can I do to cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2011 - 23 answers

Can I help my brother?

How do I help/support my self-destructive brother? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2011 - 11 answers

Burnt Out, Pissed. Would like to change that.

How can I be less of a jerk when I feel like the universe is lobbing lemons at my head? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2011 - 22 answers

How do I deal with a DNA bombshell?

Some heavy shit went down this week and I've become the unwilling party to a new family secret. I want to tell one or two trusted family members because it affects them to a lesser degree. Can people with calmer heads and more perspective help me sort through this and figure out the best line to take? (Caution: longwinded) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2011 - 58 answers

How do I control my rage?

In one week, I've turned into a downright angry and rude and unlikeable person. How can I reverse this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2011 - 27 answers

Why can't I get over this when I was over it anyway?

How can I let go of jealousy and anger over getting dumped by someone I didn't like that much anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2011 - 19 answers

Stop touching me!

My coworker is touching me and I need to make her stop without making a scene. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2011 - 54 answers

Loving without excusing

How do I support my boyfriend at the same time as I urge him to change his behavior? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2011 - 42 answers

Will drinking kill this new relationship?

The person I’m seeing drinks frequently, and sometimes their drinking annoys me. It’s only a month into this relationship – what is the best way to either bring this up as a topic of conversation or to decide whether this is worth it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 55 answers

How do I (or do I) express anger/hurt to significant other?

How do I (or do I) express anger/hurt to significant other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2011 - 17 answers

help me move on.

How can I psychologically process being mugged, and move on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2011 - 29 answers

Does one or both of us need therapy, or is it time to DTMFA?

The way my boyfriend behaves when he's angry makes me deeply uncomfortable. Is this his issue, or mine? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2010 - 214 answers

Where can I scream?

I live in an oldish (1920s) apartment building, in a studio. A while ago I tried the time-honored "scream and rant to an empty room" method of anger management--and got a visit from a dozen cops my neighbor called, and who went through my place to check that I wasn't axe-murdering someone or anything like that. This is, of course, not sustainable, but if I can't rant at home, where can I rant? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2010 - 40 answers

Can we curse on AskMe? I want to.

I'm bitter and angry at my ex-husband. Also, shallow. Please help me change. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2010 - 30 answers

How do I get over past wrongs?

How do I get over past wrongs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2010 - 15 answers

rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

How can I stop hating these people and start not thinking about them at all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2010 - 15 answers

Networking when you just want a &%!#^*@ job

Okay, so I didn't "dig my well before getting thirsty." Now what? (Vent Warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 19, 2010 - 14 answers

Help living with a wimmen hatin' husband with Asperger's

My husband has Asperger's Syndrome and a lot of unresolved anger towards his ex-wife. These two things are horrible together, as he is frequently mean to me, punishing me for things she did to him, but then he is unable to grasp how upsetting this is for me. I've been trying to get him to go to therapy to try to work out his anger about her, but in the meantime I need strategies to cope with living like this, as it is making me lose my mind with frustration, anger, and sadness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2010 - 28 answers

is my anger justified?

I told my housemate I like him. He doesn't like me. Cool. Less than 24 hours later, he goes to a party and spends the night with another girl. Do I have just cause to be angry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2010 - 38 answers

Angry

I'm always angry; what to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2010 - 36 answers

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