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My Best Frenemy's Wedding

(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Aug 21, 2014 - 45 answers

Songs that say "You suck" - cheerfully!

I'm looking for songs that sound cheerful and perky but express disdain, loathing, hatred, etc. (Not necessarily directed at a former romantic partner, although there are a couple of break-up songs that may fit the bill.) Two of the best examples I can think of are Lily Allen's "Fuck You" and the Scissor Sisters "I Can't Decide." Genre is irrelevant, although it will probably be hard to find a death metal song that is appropriately sunny-sounding. Got any recommendations?
posted by rednikki on Jun 8, 2014 - 132 answers

A sudden move by HR at my work has me furious. . .

And I need help figuring out how to process it [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Feb 5, 2014 - 46 answers

I am very unsatisfied with a doctor I recently visited. How do I say so?

I recently went to a functional medicine doctor. The administrative staff has been negligent. She misdiagnosed me and recommended unnecessary testing. Not to mention the cost! I don't think I should go back, but should I write a letter? Details behind the cut. [more inside]
posted by munyeca on Jan 24, 2014 - 13 answers

Even meditating overwhelms me with fear and rage.

I have anxiety and depression, and I'm starting to realise that underneath that is a bubbling fount of rage. I need some suggestions for coping with and dismantling the anger I'm feeling. I didn't realise it before, but I'm angry pretty much all the time, except when I'm with my boyfriend, scared, or distracting myself via escapism. And even then, it's still there. I'm looking in to going back to therapy, and I'm currently on antidepressants. I've tried meditating, but it just stresses me out or gives me panic attacks- to be honest, I hate it. What are some suggestions for coping with this?
posted by windykites on Nov 7, 2013 - 27 answers

Help Me Change My Outlook on Outlook

If my work email inbox changes, even slightly, my anger meter goes immediately to 10, and I spend entirely too much time being grumpy and fussing about it. How can I reframe these annoyances as opportunities for zen and personal growth, instead of a blood rage that leads to ultimately futile quests to have everything exactly the way I want it? [more inside]
posted by redsparkler on Sep 18, 2013 - 13 answers

Should this be a massive red flag, or just a small yellow one?

Asking for a friend: If your significant other gets massively angry but doesn't ever direct it at you, how much of a worry should it be? [more inside]
posted by yasp on Sep 16, 2013 - 77 answers

How to stop getting angry about the small stuff?

My temper has always been on the short side, and I'm really getting fed up with it. The little things (eg: getting cut off in traffic, hitting my head on a cabinet, unhelpful customer service, when the restaurant's out of what I want) especially get to me. I get totally carried away with feeling angry and end up being rude or short with people. Acting this way is not in line with my values. I want to be kind and generous with strangers and make their days better. Especially I don't want to mess up my relationship with family, friends, and (most of all) my girlfriend. Has anyone else had this problem and overcome it? I've tried (with varying success): counting to 10, harmless acts of destruction (breaking a pencil), deep breaths, just being more aware of when I start to become angry (so I don't get carried away), and viewing my anger as a separate entity to be fought and overcome. Happy to provide more info if it's useful in answering.
posted by Gravel on Apr 11, 2013 - 36 answers

Who has anger made you ?

Help me understand Anger and its relation to self-esteem, loving relationships, circmstances, and daily life. Are you or have you been and angry person ? to what extend have you been able to spot the causes and / or gotten better ? How did it feel ? [more inside]
posted by Jireel on Jul 13, 2012 - 10 answers

What do you do to calm yourself when in the heat of anger?

What methods have worked for you in terms of keeping a rational mind when you feel yourself becoming (rationally or irrationally) angry? [more inside]
posted by oink on May 31, 2012 - 16 answers

How can I stay calm despite wrong statements and irrational people?

How can I stay calm despite wrong statements and irrational people? [more inside]
posted by dr1ft on Apr 29, 2012 - 30 answers

[Anger related issue filter] Do I need a tougher outer shell, or should I be bothered by this?

Difficulty with communicating anger and/or frustration toward friends--need a few techniques to move forward. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jan 23, 2012 - 16 answers

Having difficulty expressing my emotions – help!

Is it ever okay to snap at someone? [more inside]
posted by feidr2 on Jan 15, 2012 - 27 answers

Am I making it worse by writing out all the gory details that piss me off?

Writing out your anger: does it help or hurt? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Dec 29, 2011 - 24 answers

Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm

Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
posted by DianaV on Nov 26, 2011 - 66 answers

Help me help the most awesome kid I know

I'm looking for advice on how to help my five year old with some behavioral issues. [more inside]
posted by Cuke on Nov 22, 2011 - 19 answers

Advice on adult autism, mediation and housemates

A question about adult autism anger management issues in a housemate context. [more inside]
posted by lover on Aug 14, 2011 - 30 answers

How do you deal with a hot-tempered parent?

I need advice on building a healthy relationship with my father despite his temper. [more inside]
posted by raintree on Jul 25, 2011 - 21 answers

Reason and the Passions, How do I make one control the other?

How do I apply critically reason to my own arguments when I'm emotional and engaged in discussion with others? [more inside]
posted by ollyollyoxenfree on Jul 21, 2011 - 11 answers

Hangry

Weight management therapist's exercise bringing out a lot of anger. How should I deal? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust on Jun 1, 2011 - 37 answers

Postscript to a relationship? Is it a good idea? Can it be done constructively? Or is it purely self-serving?

My relationship has ended and through this process I've realized certain things. I want to share my clarity with my ex. I'm sure there are selfish reasons I have this impulse, but I also am a bit concerned that he may truly not be conscious of, what I consider to be, serious anger issues- which I hesitate to call verbal abuse, although that is most likely accurate. I never named things this way while in our relationship- we would argue around in a maze of clever denials and emotional outbursts- which I never found my way out of. . . So, am I tricking myself by thinking that this is something he needs to be confronted with for his emotional health? Or is there potentially some positive way to convey this harsh reality to someone who, so far, has not been able to acknowledge the severity of their behavior?
posted by abirdinthehand on Mar 30, 2011 - 31 answers

Mommy!!! :D :D *smack*

How can I help my 4-year-old begin developing healthy stress coping mechanisms? [more inside]
posted by bardophile on Mar 19, 2011 - 20 answers

all of the sinning with none of the guilt!

i need some help with some convention swag that relates to the seven deadly sins. [more inside]
posted by koroshiya on Feb 25, 2011 - 14 answers

Frustration leads to anger, anger leads to shame, lather, rinse, repeat

I've lived in Japan for some time now, but I'm not very good at the language. When I encounter anything beyond the simple, and I don't understand what's going on, I feel frustrated, then angry, then ashamed, which undermines any confidence I have to speak the language, which makes it less likely that I'll do better the next time. What can I do to break this cycle? [more inside]
posted by MShades on Aug 8, 2010 - 15 answers

I'll Give You Something to Resent Me For

Me: unable to get past feeling majorly disappointed in my parents. You: someone who can tell me how to get over it. [more inside]
posted by Leezie on Jul 12, 2010 - 51 answers

You're a mean one, Mr Grinch

I am a whiner. I get easily irritated by things and complain a lot. It doesn't bother some people, but it bothers others who are close to me. I don't want to stress them out, so I'm asking for ways I can tone down that aspect of my personality so it doesn't alienate others. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 on May 4, 2010 - 25 answers

"My SmartyPants are made from the fiber of a indigenous tree-plant in the south of Durkadurkastan where the Tree of Life was rumored to have been planted in 846BC by sabertooth tiger shepherds..."

My fiance has male answer syndrome. Lately, I have found myself getting irritated almost after every sentence. How do I change my perception/attitude so I can handle this with grace and humor instead of anger and stabbing?
posted by spec80 on Feb 7, 2010 - 55 answers

My Teenage Daughter Said I'm Untrustworthy. WTF?

How do I cope with my angry teenage daughter? After an somewhat nonsensical rant about how hard her life is (I wanted to chat with her about applying to colleges and how the process was going), she dropped the bomb that she doesn't trust me and therefore doesn't have to talk to me. [more inside]
posted by dzaz on Oct 18, 2009 - 39 answers

Healthy ways to get anger and aggression out of my system?

Things have been super-stressful at work. My therapist keeps asking if I have a way to get all this anger and aggression and stress out of my system... and I don't! I usually just rant and get more angry. What are some better ways to get the frustration out? [more inside]
posted by heatherann on Jul 21, 2009 - 55 answers

What will happen in counseling?

What can my friend/former SO expect from community mental health counseling? [more inside]
posted by dilettante on Jul 5, 2009 - 10 answers

Party foul, or reason for jihad?

Party foul, or unforgivable etiquette breach? [more inside]
posted by dejah420 on Jun 8, 2009 - 173 answers

Make me kickass, Hive Mind.

How to learn to suppress my wildly emotional side. Or, how to be more like Veronica Mars? [more inside]
posted by Phire on Mar 2, 2008 - 11 answers

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