I have a very destructive pattern in most of my relationships and friendships. The closer the relationship is, the worse it gets. I can usually always maintain composure at work but personal life is another story. After I lash out, I say so many nasty and hurtful things that the friendship/relationship is irrecoverably damaged or ends all together. How to change this? [more inside]
My mom found adderall tablets in my brother's pencil case and under the couch. My brother flat out denies he takes drugs and is violent when anyone confronts him about it. What can I do? [more inside]
In the final minutes of my last session, my therapist encouraged me to explore anger following the abrupt end of a short term relationship. I don't feel angry. How might I approach this? [more inside]
I've noticed in the past few years that I've been having a lot of unpleasant memories resurfacing in my head, whether randomly or triggered by something I see. I feel overwhelmed by these sometimes and want to be able to move past them and focus more on the present. [more inside]
I'm really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. [more inside]
I find myself spiraling down in negative emotions occasionally and want to learn about actual skills to pull myself out before the fight gets meta and out of hand. [more inside]
My partner gets angry when I cry sometimes and I don't understand why. [more inside]
My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do? [more inside]
From Jerk to Justice League: How to be a leader, not a whiner? [more inside]
is it a red flag if a person never thinks they're wrong? [more inside]
Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
How do you handle your spouse's angry outbursts when you feel they are irrational? [more inside]
Postscript to a relationship? Is it a good idea? Can it be done constructively? Or is it purely self-serving?
My relationship has ended and through this process I've realized certain things. I want to share my clarity with my ex. I'm sure there are selfish reasons I have this impulse, but I also am a bit concerned that he may truly not be conscious of, what I consider to be, serious anger issues- which I hesitate to call verbal abuse, although that is most likely accurate. I never named things this way while in our relationship- we would argue around in a maze of clever denials and emotional outbursts- which I never found my way out of. . . So, am I tricking myself by thinking that this is something he needs to be confronted with for his emotional health? Or is there potentially some positive way to convey this harsh reality to someone who, so far, has not been able to acknowledge the severity of their behavior?
My boyfriend is depressed, again, and I'm starting to get concerned that I don't have the patience to get through it with him this time. I want to help him, but I'm not sure how many times I can keep doing this. [more inside]
I'm troubled by unresolved ex issues. How can I move on from these feelings of resentment? [more inside]
How do I let go of the past? [more inside]
Brokenrelationshipfilter? Two weeks ago I found out that my girlfriend of a year had been seeing an acquaintance of my best friend for the past two months. They're over, and she told me, asking that we stay together. I'm not sure now if we're going to or not, but we agreed to six months more to see if we can make it work. I'm pissed, frankly, and she's suffering from horrible post-breakup depression; crying, insomnia, apathy, the works. I do, I believe, love her, but I'm having trouble seeing how we'll get through all the smoke in the air. I'm well aware that I'm the only one who can make this decision, but rationality isn't my strong point right now, and I could use some outside perspective. [more inside]
Is my husband's behavior normal, or is this indicative of depression or some sort of anger-issue? And is there anything I can do to help? [more inside]
So how do you get over a bad relationship, anyway? [more inside]
A co-worker and friend of mine is a single mother of three (girls of 6 and 11, son of 14). The boy is becoming more and more hostile and defiant by the day, and even ran away for several hours this past weekend. He's bright and creative, but seems to reserve his anger for the home. I'm fairly certain drugs/alcohol are not involved. Mom is at wit's end. I don't have kids myself so I feel unqualified giving advice. Anyone here who's been in the same situation? Any recommendations on how to go about beginning to try working this out? Counseling?