My partner's mother has had a size medium case of the Alzheimer's for years now. The father passed away long ago, there are no other blood family to speak of, and my partner is feeling pretty crushed by feelings of guilt and anxiety. Short of a support group (no time) or a therapist (already got one), what're resources, techniques, and tools, from cognitive tricks to fictional books, that will help my partner deal with the serious guilt and anxiety of feeling like they're not doing enough? (Just to be clear: A) the mom is doing physically fine and has a great set up, this is not about her, but about their child, my partner, and B) my family and I are pretty great and help as much as we can, which is a lot; again, this is not about how to help the mom more, this is about helping my partner deal with feelings of guilt and anxiety that they are not doing enough.)
Game used in study covered everywhere seems way overpriced. Alternatives? [more inside]
My mother-in-law has Alzheimer's. She loves (and has always loved) music. But her old CD player just broke. I need to find a new CD player that is as simple as possible to use. Ideally, it would have just three buttons--open/close (to insert the CD), play, and stop--and it would be possible to connect it to external speakers (with or without a receiver is ok). She has excellent speakers and a huge CD collection. Can you suggest a specific player that meets these conditions? [more inside]
I'm fascinated by Phil's backstory (spoilers below the fold) on season 2 of the Netflix tv show Grace & Frankie. Are there any novels, short stories, movies, or TV episodes with a similar theme? I'm an atheist, so "religious-inspirational" might not be my cup of tea, but I'll try it anyway. I really do want to read these stories. I'm not much interested in Phil's current story (spoilers below the fold) -- just his backstory. [more inside]
This is not anything I have to decide as it is about a close friend, not a relative, but there are several of us who have been friends since high school and we are very concerned about the friend who has been diagnosed with Alzheimers last year, but her daughter has made the decision for now not to tell her what the diagnosis is. Friend and daughter live across the country, so anything we can do is long distance, and we do not really know how to deal with this. [more inside]
I'm giving a church-related dinner in a couple of weeks. Two people on the guest list happen to have neurological problems that make conversation difficult for them. I'm looking for advice on how to make sure they feel included in the conversation and enjoy themselves. [more inside]
My grandmother is in the early stages of Alzheimer's. She has been for at least a year or so. She's the only family member from that side of the family that I keep in touch with, and I live on the other side of the US. How do I bring it up? [more inside]
Please tell me everything that is known about preventing dementia. [more inside]
My friend from this question needs advice and direction caring for his mom in her home. Her dementia is getting steadily worse, and last weekend she went wandering. [more inside]
I've just been reading a review of the latest film treatment of Alzheimers ("Still Alice"), which has the character inherit her early-onset version of the disease from her alcoholic father. But at least for a while, it seemed like the medical thinking linked Alzheimer's to mitochondrial DNA, so that it would be linked to the mother's genetic profile. I realize that it's a hideously complex disease, with or without alcoholism as a factor, but is the maternal-line theory valid?
Central Indiana - I need elder care help today! Please help us! [more inside]
My friend is faced with moving her mother to a 'Senior Living Home'. (Connecticut) A lot of factors led to this; tests and professional advice, safety concerns, Mom's reluctant consent etc. Daughter understands all this, and will be relieved by her Mom's move to full-time care, but at the same time feels devastated taking this action. Abandonment, loss of memory and communication...... While other family members have visited the location and are happy with it, we will be visiting soon for the first time. 1. What should we consider? Where can a consumer look for possible violations or complaints? 2. I never had to face this. How can I support her?
My dad has been recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. For many years, our family has played games when we get together and my mom and dad played games among themselves often; they especially enjoyed cribbage. My mom tells me my dad can't play that anymore because he can't sustain the concentration over the course of the game. I'd like to get Dad a game for Christmas that he can play with my mom, or with my mom and sister, who also lives in the town my parents live. It would have to be simpler than cribbage, but ideally something you could still play over and over with enjoyment. I found an earlier question about gifts for Alzheimer's patients and also some resources online for that general question--but haven't found any suggestions for games specifically.
In mid-May, my mother, who was the primary caregiver for my father with Alzheimer's, died suddenly. We spent weeks trying to get my father into a suitable situation, which quickly ended up in his death (a long story, so please bear with me). I'm looking for ideas on how to cope with uncertainty amid tragedy. [more inside]
I'm visiting my grandfather for the weekend at his nursing home and I'm frequently at a loss for what to say and do with him. He's always been a quiet, stoic guy, but compounding that is the fact that he has Alzheimer's, major depression, and he lost his wife (my grandmother) six weeks ago. If I ask him what he'd like to do or where he'd want to go, he has no idea. [more inside]
I recently had my DNA analyzed by 23andme, and now a friend wants to write about my results as part of a story in a popular national magazine. Normally I'd be fine with this, but I have some concerns about future insurance effects, especially considering one of the results. What, if any, is the real danger in having my name being used with my real results? [more inside]
My grandfather's sister-in-law died and her funeral is this weekend. My family wants me to drive my grandfather down to the funeral. I would rather stick pins under my fingers. But I know I need to do this. Help me suck it up. [more inside]
Less Expensive GPS Tracker for Dementia Parent? [more inside]
How to handle the funeral/remberance of my father, with my mother who has late-stage Alzheimer's? [more inside]
Is there any actual, scientific, peer-reviewed truth to the supposed link between antiperspirants and cancer/Alzheimer's? [more inside]
Dementia and the iPad: I've just purchased an iPad for my parents. My mother will take to it instantly, but my father has fairly advanced dementia. I want to load the device with apps he may find engaging. Research has revealed a few lists, but I'd love some suggestions based on actual experience.
What are some long-distance things I can do to make my grandma happy? She is in a nursing home with Alzheimer's. [more inside]
Mom's Alzheimer's has us almost to the breaking point and we're not sure where to go from here. Where can we turn? [more inside]
My mother has alzheimers. I want to have the "APOE4" test done on myself to find out my likelihood of getting alzheimers. My doctor doesn't know much about this, and I am having trouble figuring out what test to ask for. [more inside]
Mission of Mercy Filter: How can I find sources of cheery personal mail for my lonely elder Alzheimer's patient? I live with my mother-in-law who has middle stage Alzheimer's. She does a lot of sitting and staring. She has no attention span for books or magazines or TV. She lights up for visitors, dessert, church... and personal mail. I am looking for a service that arranges (basically, one-directional) "pen-pals" for elder shut-ins. She has just enough means to assure her basic care, but not much for extras. This would have to be a volunteer service like a charity or ministry. [more inside]
What would be a good TV show to give to a person with Alzheimer's? [more inside]
How to talk and 'entertain' my mother (with Alzheimers) when she no longer recognizes me? [more inside]
Help me identify a song my grandmother with Alzheimers sings sometimes: "Where are you going Ronaldo? I go to Las Vegas"... [more inside]
I'm looking for a doctor (possibly within driving distance from Detroit), who might be comfortable talking about off-label treatments for Alzheimer's. Specifically, I'd like to get some qualified, knowledgeable info about Methylene blue. Thanks everybody.
What the heck is wrong with my mother? [more inside]
My grandfather has been diagnosed with a liver/pancreatic cancer that can't be operated on. How is this likely to play out? How do we deal with my grandmother afterwards? [more inside]
How can I improve my grandmother's nutritional intake with super simple-to-make foods? [more inside]
Anyone know the name of a UK television play (1980s?) about people with Alzheimers, starring real patients and actors playing the patients' younger selves. Probably with period music.