My days are full, though sometimes full of heart-ache. At night, once the pets and child are asleep, I am alone. Going out is not an option, and sometimes books, music and movies just aren't going to cut it.
Did anyone find something surprising or helpful to them after a breakup that might help me get more comfortable with my alone time?
posted by SarahBellum
on May 17, 2013 -
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People who need a lot of home all alone time – how did you get used to (if you did) living with a spouse or partner? What was the adjustment period like? Also, can you get enough the alone time you need if the other person is in the same house,
but not in the same room?
What advice would you give to each person in this type of relationship? Anecdotes welcomed on cohabiting with a person who needs lees or more alone time than you.
posted by Lescha
on Apr 11, 2013 -
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I work at this company for 1 year and 3 months so far. Team members are not helpful if I need help. Do you have any suggestions?
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posted by Mountain28
on Mar 8, 2013 -
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I've got my week in the Canaries booked, and I'm going with only books, music, and pen/paper for company. Have you holidayed alone, and what made it extra awesome?
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posted by greenish
on Jan 11, 2013 -
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Every once in a while, I find myself alone and bored with nothing to do. Normally I have plenty of friends and an active social life, but in times like right now, for instance, when I'm away from home visiting family, and everyone I know in this city is out of town for the holidays, and lots of things like dance classes are closed for the holidays, I don't know what to do with myself.
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posted by Dilemma
on Dec 28, 2012 -
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A short-term relationship just ended, and I'm okay With that. But how do I stop myself from going down the spiral of "I'm going to be alone forever"?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 8, 2012 -
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How do people learn to do things alone? Is it normal to be anxious about going places and doing things on your own?
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posted by Papagayo
on Nov 20, 2012 -
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I have an ex who seems to be be depressed and has sent me a few emails telling me that we are all programmed by the "Source" that free will does not exist, that nothing depends on us etc and that the "Source" has decided that he would always be unhappy in love ! And that if the "Source" has decided that he would be unhappy, unaccomplished, alone then he must be happy with that decision. (He's 55, pianist/composer, not well known, gets by with the financial help of his parents., never been able to commit or live with a woman. His father is bi-polar, been hospitalised a few times for that). This is contrary to my world view, which I told him but I'm rather worried about where his mind is going. Any thoughts, help much appreciated
posted by hopefulmidlifer
on Nov 11, 2012 -
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Is it normal to go through life feeling drained with most interactions with people and feeling like you do not fit in anywhere or that you have to suppress your mind/personality to fit in? Or is this just another fact of depression? If it is normal can teach me how to tolerate it?
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posted by kanata
on Nov 8, 2012 -
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Book recommendations please: fiction and non-fiction [including (auto)biographies] of people who lived alone, and their experiences and thoughts about it.
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posted by b33j
on Sep 27, 2012 -
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How does one know that they are feeling "lonely" vs "alone"? Have you encountered both and can you share how you overcame these feelings, if at all?
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posted by xm
on Jun 12, 2012 -
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Summer was a wonderful time of year filled with swimming, playing outdoors. Lately, though, summer has become just a big reminder of my visual impairment. Feelings of inadequacy and not being understood by my spouse-- what do I do? (Asking for a friend.)
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posted by ShawnStruck
on May 24, 2012 -
21 answers
Psychological/Romantic Filter:
I don't know what else to do anymore.
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Not asking for advice on taking rejection.
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posted by Angel of Khaos
on Jan 31, 2012 -
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I will be traveling in mid-December as a woman alone and have a 7-1/2 hour layover in Sao Paulo, Brazil. I arrive at 4:30 pm and depart after midnight. Any suggestions for something safe to do to pass the time, (a tour is probably unlikely that late in the day) or a nearby and safe hotel to spend the time? I hate the idea of just sitting all night in an airport.
posted by eepersmom
on Oct 26, 2011 -
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Would therapy fix me? If so, what kind of therapy? Or are there other recommendations for things that I can/could do? Another "I can't find love post" and I don't know what else I can do, please hope me ask metafilter.
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posted by Lord of the Sock Puppets
on Oct 19, 2011 -
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Is it a good idea to get a pet dog if I live alone and need to travel occasionally?
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posted by madman
on Jul 28, 2011 -
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What can I do to help my dogs cope with the hours left home alone while I'm at work?
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posted by knolan
on Jun 19, 2011 -
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How to fly internationally with an infant that is not your own? My nanny and infant will travel from Paris to Italy and meet us there. Does anyone have experience with this? I don't want to put her in a difficult position with customs.
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posted by Snower
on May 23, 2011 -
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Am looking to eat alone in restaurants/ upmarket cafes in London. I have a lot of friends in London, but my inner introvert is wanting some time alone. Money is not an issue. Looking for evening tea/ dinner-type places where I can read a book in peace. Preferably high ceilings, loads of light, good scenery, open till 9pm.
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posted by moiraine
on Mar 31, 2011 -
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My first boyfriend/first love and I recently broke up after nearly four years together. I know this was the right decision, but I feel like I'll never feel this way about anyone else ever again. I realize that sounds dramatic, silly, and naive, but I'd really like to hear from the perspective of someone who's been through it that, yes, life does go on (and maybe get better, in a different way) after a first love.
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posted by gypsyhymns
on Jan 4, 2011 -
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A friend, a student, is stuck in London over Christmas: no family or close friends to hang out with over the day itself etc. What could he do, by himself, to make it all warm and fuzzy. Anything from travel (if that becomes possible in the next few days) to stuff to do around London that he wouldn't otherwise get around to.
posted by HopStopDon'tShop
on Dec 20, 2010 -
18 answers
I'm hurting after a breakup, and am lucky enough to be leaving tomorrow for just over two weeks on Salt Spring Island. For about half that time, I will be alone and mostly isolated. How can I best use this period of solitude to reflect, refresh and heal myself?
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posted by yellowbinder
on Oct 4, 2010 -
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Book Recommendations for Post-Divorce pain and anxiety? Help me help my girlfriend who is recently divorced and consumed with fears about being alone. She needs something positive and empowering to give her some strength to face the future and get comfortable living alone. She's in her early 30s with one child and she initiated the divorce because she was so unhappy.
posted by nancoix
on Sep 10, 2010 -
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How should I make the most of home time on my own please?
I am at home and sick on my own. My husband is at a conference for 3 days. What fun stuff should I be doing to maximise the unusual experience of being home alone, without really wanting to go anywhere?
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posted by jojobobo
on Aug 11, 2010 -
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special needs filter: how do I help my high-functioning sibling gain independence? what have your experiences with special needs siblings been like?
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posted by elephantsvanish
on Jul 22, 2010 -
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I just bought a house and am living alone without any family or roommates for the first time ever. I hate living alone alone so far. Did you have this issue and did you eventually enjoy living alone?
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posted by KimikoPi
on Jun 5, 2010 -
32 answers
Alone in Tokyo for the next four days - what are my dining options? This is definitely a volcano related query...
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posted by aherdofturtles
on Apr 18, 2010 -
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I spend a lot of time alone at home, playing video games, reading books, wasting time on the internet, etc. If I was accused of a crime, what evidence supports the fact I'm at home not really doing anything?
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posted by meowzilla
on Nov 21, 2009 -
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My baby sister will spend a week in Paris alone and is travelling overseas for the first time. What practical arrangements can I make from a distance to help her have the best time she has ever had?
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posted by tavegyl
on Oct 14, 2009 -
15 answers
Feeling a little bleh, and like I need to get out of the house for a bit. Problem: it's the middle of the night. Suggestions?
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posted by alona
on Oct 3, 2009 -
18 answers
How do I walk the fine line between being alone and working on myself and not throwing away a potentially great relationship? Also: how do you learn to be alone?
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posted by youcancallmeal
on Jul 30, 2009 -
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