Can a software company in California insist that employees participate in a system that limits drinking after hours? [more inside]
I am in my early thirties, and I am finally facing the fact that I have a substantial drinking problem. Like a lot of people, I drink to mute my feelings--I have been through an awful lot of trauma, so even as I work on things there is still more hurt to feel. I am trying to formulate a recovery plan that works within my own idiosyncrasies and values, but I am not sure what is out there. [more inside]
I'd like to give someone a bottle of strange/rare/gross booze (it will be appreciated, I promise!). Do you have any suggestions? I'm NOT looking for unusual versions of standard spirits, like rare vintages of bourbon or gross-flavored vodkas, but rather liquors or liqueurs that are themselves weird or unusual. The recipient is very well-versed in booze, so things like genever and Fernet are not quite weird enough. I'm in a major US city and willing to go through some effort for this, so don't hold back!
Am I overreacting to my partner's occasional drinking when trying to get sober? It makes me angry and I don't quite know exactly why. Should I ask him to stop drinking around me altogether, or is that unfair and unrealistic? [more inside]
A film professor friend is compiling a list of movies about drug and alcohol abuse in connection to the creative process. Got any suggestions? [more inside]
Can you find/recommend a brand or type of gin that is definitely made without any orris root? Browsing online thus far has indicated that gin is "often" made with orris, which makes me think there must be some without, but I haven't found any yet. I need it to help test a friend's incipient gin allergy, to try and figure out which botanical is the culprit. [more inside]
My partner lied to me about alcohol. Now what? [more inside]
My partner has been wrestling with alcohol and sexual shame for a long time. This week, he confided in me that he wants to seek help based upon a boundary I set for myself, that he does not want to live like this anymore. I don't want to "over-help" or engage in any co-dependent behavior and I want to be a loving partner in this. But I also need to protect myself and our kids. What can I do or what should I avoid? Specifics inside. [more inside]
Is it possible for me in Australia to order a bottle of vodka online to be delivered to someone in Vancouver? [more inside]
I went to a gastroenterologist recently who tentatively diagnosed me with Acetaldehyde Dehydrogenase Deficiency (which causes the so-called "asian" flush). I am caucasian with some Russian descent, and I do not get flushed when I drink. Are there any precedents for non-asian, non-flushing sufferers of this enzyme deficiency? Should I get a second opinion? [more inside]
We made some tie dye tshirts using Sharpie markers and rubbing alcohol. The instructions say to set the ink, put the tshirts in the dryer for 15 minutes--but won't I set the dryer on fire? [more inside]
BostonFilter: I'm looking for neutral grain spirits to make tinctures with. I haven't found anything in the liquor store higher than 40% ABV vodkas. Apparently Everclear isn't available in Mass (?), but is there anything else I can get ahold of? Huge bonus points for Cambridge/Somerville, and I can't go to weird exurban car-needing places.
Basically, I've been drinking up to two thirds a bottle of liquor (or equivalent) a night for the past two years. Decided to stop, didn't sleep for five days save nodding off where I had terrific nightmares and just thrashed a lot before waking up again. Now I'm not sure what to do. Looking for advice/anecdotes. I'm in kind of a unique place. [Warning] gory details if you open the can. [more inside]
How do I approach this delicate situation of a recent breakup, addiction issues, and levels of responsibility and boundaries in a new ex’s life? [more inside]
I'm 27, male. I have struggled as long as I can remember with depression. I naturally turned to drugs and alcohol, and after a few years of abuse.. most recently with lots of cocaine and occasionally speed.. I'm ready to quit everything. Cigarettes included. I have realized that everything I touch turns to shit... and I want to be a better man. My relationships have failed, I'm hurting myself and everyone I love, and I feel like worthless garbage. But I have hope. I want to clean up my act. I am terrified of going to AA, and I like therapy. Groups are much harder for me. I recently began to exercise. I want to keep going but I have very little in the way of controlling my impulses. How do I keep my momentum?
Is it fine to clean my silicone eartips with alcohol-based wipes? I've been doing it for a few years, and even the same tips for quite a while, without noticing any problem. Yet some scant audiophile advice on the Net says don't use alcohol. I'm wondering "Why not?" But I'm concerned if I am doing damage... Sometimes I do soak them in soapy water, but it's so time-saving to wipe them down with these pads from the first-aid aisle; plus, they -- and my ears -- stay pretty clean anyway. (I have standard silicone tips that came with Brainwavz and other brands of in-ear monitors.) Thank you.
I occasionally have to work-related social events where there is huge pressure to drink alcohol. I am trying to understand where this pressure comes from. [more inside]
I've gone low-carb but I am coming across some conflicting advice in regards to a few items [more inside]
Last Friday, it became clear that a member of a group that I'm in has drinking behaviours that may be becoming incompatible with being in the group. I can see several ways to proceed, but any advice is welcome - especially if you experienced something similar and tried something that worked. [more inside]
After doing something at the weekend that I'm totally ashamed of I think I need to not drink again. I'm not sure how to manage that. I'd like advice from people who have been in the same situation. Apologies for length. [more inside]
What are the best simple cocktails that don't include sugar or syrups or carbs? [more inside]
What's the bare minimum amount of alcohol that will show up on a person's breath and/or body scent? One drink? Enough that they'd be drunk? If someone shows up somewhere with a faint booze scent, is it possible that they had the "one glass of wine" as claimed, or is it a safe bet that it was much more? [more inside]
My moderate-drinker husband has twice in the last month drank to the point of repeatedly vomiting. These binges are out of character and deeply concerning. Should he see his doctor? What can I do? [more inside]
I want to write about obscure and little known gin cocktails, ideally ones with fun stories attached or a vintage pedigree . What are your favorite obscure gin cocktails? The more outlandish and exotic the better.
Tapioca balls in drinks. Also known as boba. I recently saw a bar advertising alcoholic drinks WITH boba in them. And I said "Well that's dumb. Anyone can do that. Why not put the booze IN the boba?" To which a friend said "well that's impossible." And I said, "Oh yeah? Well I'm going to do it." And then I realized I know nothing about this. So to you. Can booze be injected into a tapioca ball? Can they be soaked in booze? Would that work? Would they soak it up? What would be the best way to make booze filled bobas?
I got drunk a couple days ago. Besides my hangover being horrendous (per usual), for maybe half the day my hands were slightly trembling and I couldn't get them to stop. They're doing better now, but my hands have never shaken before, and I'm worried that my drinking is starting to catch up with me. Would this be a reason to call the doctor, and if so are there any tests/checks I should ask to have done? Details inside. [more inside]
I'm the kind of person who gets worried enough they'll do their work not well, or make a mistake, that they end up either not starting or working too slowly and filled with dread. Last week, I had to work late on a project. I had two beers in the process, found I cared less about the anxiety and dread and perfectionism, and just did a better, less stressful job. I want to do this without drinking. [more inside]
I took one 5 mg of valium, once, to help me fall asleep. After a full 24 hours, I drank excessively the next night. How bad is this? [more inside]
I have a sealed bottle straight corn whiskey from McCormick distilling company. The bottle says it was aged 8 years and it has the mark of 1977 on on the bottom. It was kept in a cold basement all this time. Is this still drinkable? What will it taste like?
I thought that, by law, all wine bottles in the US must show their % alcohol content. But recently in California I've bought wine which doesn't display the alcohol content on either the front or back label. Am I just not looking close enough?
I'm looking to establish a therapeutical relationship for standard-ish reasons (ideally, a cognitive behavioral approach to some interpersonal issues) and need to find someone with a nuanced-to-permissive view of substance use. I'm not talking about narcotics, but occasionally I enjoy cannabis and often drink alcohol--neither, I believe, is excessive and certainly never cause health or legal* problems in my life. [more inside]
What surprises me is that I didn't drink too much, I only drank 2 glasses. It was my first time drinking Vodka, so my question is : Is it normal that I threw up and had the spins? Does that mean that I have a very low tolerance for it? I mixed the second glass with some orange juice. Not sure if that's relevant.
I'm pretty tolerant to any substances I've tried; alcohol, cannabis, and prescription medication always needed higher than average doses on me to procure any effects. I also sober up pretty fast. Just out of curiosity, what does this mean? Does my body do something well? Do I just have a healthy liver? [more inside]
Will having a beer (or maybe two) affect the efficacy of a course of methylprednisolone? There were no alcohol warnings on the pharmacy packaging, but of course the Internet says not to combine them, as it says for everything. Thanks! If it matters, this is day 4 of the course.
I have a friend who is a bartender and who has a birthday coming up. I'd like to get her a *really* nice cocktail shaker for home. Something that would make a bartender say "ooooo fancy". Do you have any ideas/thoughts on brands I could look at?
I can idly finish a bottle of wine. How do I not? [more inside]
My parents have found an unopened bottle of Fernet that belonged to my grandfather. This makes it at least 25 years old. Do herb liquors like this get any better or worse with such age? Is it still safe to drink? [more inside]
My partner and I are about spend the next two weeks camping in a fairly remote national park in Tasmania. We are bringing a bottle of gin because we like it and being compact it can come in by boat with our other supplies. We can buy limited other supplies before we leave to mix with it. Other than that we will have access to (possibly rather mediocre) tank water and a decent camp kitchen. So please give us all your creative gin cocktail recipes that can be prepared with limited ingredients in the middle of nowhere. We will toast you as we drink them!
Where is the line between drinking-is-my-hobby and alcoholism? [more inside]
My husband gets a clean bill of health from his doctor every time he goes for a checkup, which makes no sense to me if she knew his habits. He seems to like and respect his doctor, and is inclined to listen to her. I've been considering calling her up and informing her of what she's been missing. Have you ever done this? Have you ever been the doctor on the receiving end of this information? I welcome your thoughts and experience. [more inside]
I don't drink at all and I'm happy that way. What I don't like is the strong aversion I have to other people drinking. Help me understand why people drink and why it needn't be all that evil! :) [more inside]
I recently discovered that the morning after drinking vodka (I'm not getting drunk and this wasn't on an empty stomach), I get mild chest pains. I'm not looking for what to do: obviously I've stopped drinking vodka and will see a doctor ASAP. What I'd like to know is: have you experienced this and did you ever figure out the cause?
I'm looking for a merchant in NYC who sells a good selection of French sparkling hard dry ciders (from Normandy and Brittany). Also great if said merchant has more diverse hard cider options (UK or Scandinavian etc.) [more inside]
I'd like to get a nice bottle of whiskey (whisky?) for my son to open in about eighteen years when he turns twenty-one. [more inside]
What would be the most interesting, attractive, and tasty liqueur I could buy or make my father as a Christmas present? [more inside]
Asking for my son, who has confided in me. I am unsure of the best way to proceed, so I am turning to the hivemind. My son needs help in assertively turning down social events that he would not like to attend. Details inside. [more inside]
My wife is very early into her first pregnancy (4/5 weeks). We are very excited and nervous and overjoyed and terrified. We also know it's extremely early, and as such at the moment we aren't telling anyone anything (not even family or close friends), other than her doctor. The issue is that my wife is going on a business trip soon for 4 days, during which time her small group of coworkers (including her boss) will be going out every night for dinner and drinks. My wife is typically a social drinker (glass of wine or a cocktail), and with no typical excuses available like, say, being the designated driver, it will be noticeable with her small group when she's the only one to decline a drink every night. [more inside]
This holiday season I want to make a non-alcoholic eggnog and have some liquor on the side that people can just add to it. The question then is: bourbon, whiskey, rum, brandy...what's the best alcohol for eggnog? [more inside]
I just turned 21, and believe it or not, I have done very little drinking of alcohol until now. However there is now a plethora of choice I am newly privvy to, and I am interested in trying some things out. But I would like some advice. [more inside]
I prefer not to drink alcohol and can't figure out how to tell this to people without them wanting to discuss my reasons. [more inside]