I am a fairly high-level university secretary. My job is slowly being deskilled. I need a plan for the future. Problem - I am already 41. Other problem - difficulty in getting out of the secretarial track. What to do? [more inside]
I've noticed that all of my dogs (and most puppies in general) have had some irregular, dark splotches on their bellies and underarms (underlegs?) that fade with age. Kind of like liver spots on older humans, but larger and darker, and generally much lighter by about one year of age. What are these called, and can they be used to estimate a dog's age? Curious because I've noticed them on all of the dogs I've ever had, but nothing turns up on google, except for pathological conditions.
I'd like to know the youngest age that mefites would consider acceptable for a babysitter for your kids. I realize every babysitter's competency/maturity is different, but is there a bottom age you won't consider going below? [more inside]
I need some help brainstorming. Looking on Ancestry.com, I have found two draft cards (well, one draft card and one draft registration card) that are definitely the same person, but the birth year is off by four years. It doesn't seem to me to be an issue of skirting an age limit on either end. Ideas? [more inside]
My husband points out that as people age (40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond), they become cranky and rigid, and previously benign idiosyncrasies become more pronounced. Everyone in my family has died young, so I have little experience with this. What's the science behind this, and how can we avoid this happening?
A few weeks ago I started seeing a guy I am now completely smitten with. We met through mutual friends and it started out as a drunk hookup (hah), but the following weekend I saw him again in a sober hang out context, and we ended up both canceling our evening plans and talking well into the night. I didn’t expect to have such an intense and wonderful connection with him. I feel like he is alive in the same way that I am. We can talk about anything, and we spend a lot of time just laughing about nonsense. Like I said, we’ve only been seeing each other for a few weeks, but I already feel like he could be someone who is very very special in my life. [more inside]
According to many others, I look about a decade younger than I am, and this has had the effect of causing me very uncomfortable situations across a lot of contexts. [more inside]
I'm compiling a list of "life goals" that are framed in a specific way. Examples of what I'm looking for include:
- "Shooting your age" (in golf, shooting a score lower than your age)
- "Kicking your height" (As made "famous" by Karl Pilkington.)
- Any others? I'd really like to keep them in the format of "Blanking your blank".
Do I need to be on Instagram/Snapchat/Facebook to stay relevant? [more inside]
Going on three years of marriage after a tumultuous two years of dating and an even more tumultuous engagement. I got married because at the time I was 33 and I thought my time was running out. I wanted to get married and start a family right away. Then I realized I don't love or even like my husband very much at all. [more inside]
Hi everyone. There is a 20 year old German exchange student in my class (I'm pursuing a professional degree). I'm 26. I admire him a great deal and I miss our conversations. He's who I aspire to be as a human being: someone who radiates goodness and spends his time buried in books when he's not training for an upcoming triathlon. We were friends and then because of my stupid feelings, we slept together. [more inside]
Is dating in your 30s more difficult than in your 20s? [more inside]
Why do I feel like I'm not really an adult yet and completely embarrassed by that? What can I do to make myself feel like proper grown up? [more inside]
I've turned 40 this year. In high school I used to go around reading Nabokov because I thought that's what smart people would read. I loved the words but missed about 80% of the thematic elements because I was too young and hadn't lived enough. I just picked him up again and am boggled. What other books should I return to? What authors are only intelligible to readers in mid-life?
I'm 41, recently downsized from a legal publishing job, possibly looking for a career change into something involving news websites. Would a coding bootcamp be helpful? Am I too old? Are these programs worthwhile and reputable? More details inside. [more inside]
What’s the one thing I should be doing to stay healthy as I age, keep up my energy, stay healthy and be in good health for the neither or four decades? [more inside]
Hi there, this is something that's been on my mind a lot lately and I was wondering about the opinions of others. Has anyone out there actually tried medical treatments that are supposed to make you look younger? Specifically, laser skin resurfacing, laser skin rejuvenation, or the 'dreaded' facelift?? (I say dreaded because it has a bad reputation.) It's hard to know what the results are without actually asking someone who has undergone it- not to mention that it would be incredibly rude to inquire. I don't trust any of the online review sites, so I'd appreciate everyone's personal anecdotes about these options. [more inside]
I've been an advertising creative for almost ten years and have observed that there are very few people beyond their 40s still doing what I do. And, well, I'm in my late 30s. I've started wondering, where do all the ad creatives go? [more inside]
I am looking for three things here: Positive depictions of older men as objects of romantic interest, positive depictions of older women as objects of romantic interest and positive depictions of relationships with a significant age difference, especially in songs and movies, though other media are welcome. [more inside]
COUNT THE RINGS, I KNOW?! amirite? Except, no, I find it really difficult to count the rings as the chainsaw obliterated a lot of them, and the wood doesn't lend itself to clear rings. How else can I estimate the age of this tree? [more inside]
I am in my 30s and have been single for a while. My confidence is already low due to this. I don't need other people constantly reminding me of it. [more inside]
Yesterday an incredible guy messaged me on Match and I can't stop looking at his profile because he seems like such a great fit for me. The only catch is that he's 10-11 years older than I am (though still in his 30s) and that's making me very leery. Am I right to be or am I being silly? [more inside]
Is there an age where life (or an essential aspect of life) is "over" for most people? In a posts about immortality, 45 year olds show up to say that at their age, you won't want to live forever anymore. In threads about sex, 35 year olds show up to say that's the year it dropped off severely. In threads about friendships, there is a refrain of isolation that began at 25. Are these real phenomenons? If they are real, have you managed to beat them? Are there other ones that I'm missing? I'm looking for a roadmap of what to expect, and if possible, what to fight against.
In the past few years, my memory capacity seems to have been dramatically reduced. How can I improve my ability to remember "minor" things? [more inside]
You are 50 or older and have specific advice you'd give to your 40 year old self based on things you did that worked wonderfully or went so badly you learned a valuable lesson. What advice is this? [more inside]
I want to use the massive wikipedia database to look for people alive in a given profession that match a certain criteria such as age or their alma mater. [more inside]
I got my theater tickets at a discount, and I could join the Portland City Club at a discount (if I lived in Portland...). I'm 27 and want to find out about other discounts for the under-30 crowd. Where should I be looking? I live in Berkeley and tend to be into things like politics, theater, culture, etc., but general suggestions are welcome. Thank you!
My little lady is 16 this month. She's been my best pal since I was 21. But we're hitting a rough patch, and I'm not sure what my course of action should be. [more inside]
I am an agnostic that really likes the calming effect of prayer, but am totally not interested in the monotheism or taking organized religion very seriously in general. Do you have prayer advice for me, and what sort of agnostic or polytheistic prayers (or meditative practices) do you take part in? Resources and recommendations are welcomed! [more inside]
I'm pretty tolerant to any substances I've tried; alcohol, cannabis, and prescription medication always needed higher than average doses on me to procure any effects. I also sober up pretty fast. Just out of curiosity, what does this mean? Does my body do something well? Do I just have a healthy liver? [more inside]
Never has been a blissful marriage but is it time to throw in the towel and move on? Twenty four years in the chute, one kid in college out of the house, the other living at home in high school. Especially caustic relationship since summer. No sex in months. She works all the time, I'm out of work. Growing further and further apart. But I will want to make it work yet she doesn't seem interested in putting in the effort. Emptiness in the pit of my stomach but I will do what I have to do. Interested in anyone's experiences in situations such as this. Is it worth fighting to keep things together? What about the kids? Is it better on the other side of relationships like this? I'm at a crossroads and need to figure this out. Thanks. [more inside]
What, in your experience, is the bright side of getting older? [more inside]
I'm looking for some non-fiction, anecdote-filled book recommendations covering the first ten to fifteen years of the sound-era studio system. Particularly those which focus on the activities of the studio personnel themselves (the writers, producers, crew, moguls), rather than the stars. Anything interesting on the poverty row studios would also be great.
I'm feeling a little queasy about the sexual preferences of my new boyfriend. I'm in my early 20's, he is almost 40, and I look a little younger than I am. I'm just worried he likes really young girls, just doesn't want to admit it to me. I love him, but I wouldn't be comfortable getting older with someone whose sexuality seems focused on youth. Although, he says he is most attracted to women in their late 20's and early 30's, cares more about monogamy and love than physical beauty, etc. - so that's good. I still have concerns... Besides seeming to have a particular interest in 'teen' porn where the girls look underage, I saw a VLC media file with the title indicating underage teen porn. It was under the 'recent' files in windows, but when clicked on the file no longer exists. He says he wouldn't seek that out, isn't sure where it came from, that he just downloads zip files of porn in bulk. I understand men are going to be attracted to younger women and even teen girls, but I'd rather be with someone who didn't seek it out to that extent. Makes me wonder how much attraction they'd lose for me when I become 'old.' Thoughts?
Roughly a week ago I read an article about an elderly woman (eighties or nineties) that looked fantastic for her age. I cannot find it. [more inside]
I have been thinking about getting my pHD—for a couple of reasons. Though I am a very well-established and published non-fiction author, I have been up for a few teaching positions lately and have been told that my lack of an advanced degree (I have a BA) is holding me back. In addition, I simply am interested in going deeper with my work; the degree I am considering is in geography, though history of science also intrigues me. The question: am I crazy to be thinking of this at my age? I don't want to get a degree strictly as a "broadening my knowledge" proposition—I want to be able to use it and to teach. But we're seriously talking being the oldest guy in the class, most likely. So, my questions: is it worthwhile? will it help me find employment teaching? does my existing experience count for anything? and where do I start? Thoughts, answers, advice...all appreciated. Thanks.
My googlefu is not up to snuff. I used to have this interesting website bookmarked on my computer at a previous job, and now I can't find it. [more inside]
Specifically, I'm thinking of tips like "carry a very expensive purse," or "always wear lipstick." I try to avoid wearing flat shoes, keep my long blonde hair pulled back or blown straight, and wear a lot of dry-clean-only, tailored clothing. What else am I missing? How do the 4-year-olds on Toddlers & Tiaras manage to look fifteen years older? Any and all tips appreciated. [more inside]
Please explain Google accounts to me like I'm a child. [more inside]
... or are they? My question initially stemmed from watching Spielberg's Lincoln and thinking about the fact that of the 4 assassinated U.S. Presidents, there is a lot of interest in Lincoln and Kennedy, whereas despite their being killed in office, I'm betting few high school students can even name Garfield and McKinley. I asked my fairly bright junior high son (and my wife) and neither could name "the other two" assassinated presidents at all. [more inside]
For the first time in my life (at age 32) I'm starting to feel somewhat out of touch with young people and youth culture. How do I address this? [more inside]
I am 37 and shopping for a dress to wear to a wedding in June. My adorable 18 year old babysitter wore a dress to a party the other day that I loved. She bought it at Charlotte Russe. Except, well, I'm 37 and she's 18. It's a Maxi-type dress and doesn't look too "young" to me, but am I kidding myself? It looked both comfortable and the mix of casual-dressy I was looking for. It's this dress. Cuter in person. If not, where should I look for dresses more my age group?
I don't plan on having a baby for many years, (I'm 24 now). I have heard that it is bad for the baby's health if the mother gets pregnant at 30 or older. What risks are there? How can I mitigate these risks? What are the odds of having a baby with mental or physical disabilities? What steps can I take to increase my chances of having a healthy baby at say age 35? What other relevant things should I Know? thanks
So I have been working in an entirely different field for the last years and was never entirely sure about what I wanted to do with my life. I am certain at this point that I want to work in a field which involves, you know, nervous systems. Unsurprisingly, I am thinking of academia. [more inside]
Can you relate to most people who are your age? If not, have you always felt this way? [more inside]
How do you deal with the damaging ways that society evaluates women? [more inside]
Looking for recent, substantive, data on the demographics of video game players that does NOT source back (as so many do) to the ESA. There must be some others out there? Yes? [more inside]
I have an olive oil label printed in France by A. Oliveau & Fils graveur in Bordeaux for a grocery store or outfit in Mexico City, Cia. Abarrotera. The label looks like it is from the very early 1900s. I would like to know when Cia. Abbarrotera and/or A. Oliveau & Fils graveur was in operation.
I have to go to Peoria, IL for a week starting February 6 to tend to the affairs of my mother, whose dementia is getting worse. I grew up there but I haven't been back for years, and when I did go back I stayed at Mom's. Now there is no room at Mom's because she's in assisted care. Where should I stay? [more inside]
Psych test advice ? After pretty extensive interview.90 mins + Now through to the next round. Any advice for a 54 y/o who really is struggling since being made redundant.I need to be a team player presumably.Honesty may not be the best policy for a cranky old bastard.