I am an agnostic that really likes the calming effect of prayer, but am totally not interested in the monotheism or taking organized religion very seriously in general. Do you have prayer advice for me, and what sort of agnostic or polytheistic prayers (or meditative practices) do you take part in? Resources and recommendations are welcomed! [more inside]
posted by Hawk V
on Feb 19, 2014 -
I'm pretty tolerant to any substances I've tried; alcohol, cannabis, and prescription medication always needed higher than average doses on me to procure any effects. I also sober up pretty fast. Just out of curiosity, what does this mean? Does my body do something well? Do I just have a healthy liver? [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93
on Feb 9, 2014 -
Never has been a blissful marriage but is it time to throw in the towel and move on? Twenty four years in the chute, one kid in college out of the house, the other living at home in high school. Especially caustic relationship since summer. No sex in months. She works all the time, I'm out of work. Growing further and further apart. But I will want to make it work yet she doesn't seem interested in putting in the effort. Emptiness in the pit of my stomach but I will do what I have to do.
Interested in anyone's experiences in situations such as this. Is it worth fighting to keep things together? What about the kids? Is it better on the other side of relationships like this? I'm at a crossroads and need to figure this out. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Feb 5, 2014 -
I'm looking for some non-fiction, anecdote-filled book recommendations covering the first ten to fifteen years of the sound-era studio system. Particularly those which focus on the activities of the studio personnel themselves (the writers, producers, crew, moguls), rather than the stars. Anything interesting on the poverty row studios would also be great.
posted by smithsmith
on Dec 4, 2013 -
I'm feeling a little queasy about the sexual preferences of my new boyfriend. I'm in my early 20's, he is almost 40, and I look a little younger than I am. I'm just worried he likes really young girls, just doesn't want to admit it to me. I love him, but I wouldn't be comfortable getting older with someone whose sexuality seems focused on youth.
Although, he says he is most attracted to women in their late 20's and early 30's, cares more about monogamy and love than physical beauty, etc. - so that's good. I still have concerns...
Besides seeming to have a particular interest in 'teen' porn where the girls look
underage, I saw a VLC media file with the title indicating underage teen porn. It was under the 'recent' files in windows, but when clicked on the file no longer exists. He says he wouldn't seek that out, isn't sure where it came from, that he just downloads zip files of porn in bulk.
I understand men are going to be attracted to younger women and even teen girls, but I'd rather be with someone who didn't seek it out to that extent. Makes me wonder how much attraction they'd lose for me when I become 'old.' Thoughts?
posted by bluelights
on Dec 4, 2013 -
Roughly a week ago I read an article about an elderly woman (eighties or nineties) that looked fantastic for her age. I cannot find it. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild
on Nov 23, 2013 -
I have been thinking about getting my pHD—for a couple of reasons. Though I am a very well-established and published non-fiction author, I have been up for a few teaching positions lately and have been told that my lack of an advanced degree (I have a BA) is holding me back. In addition, I simply am interested in going deeper with my work; the degree I am considering is in geography, though history of science also intrigues me. The question: am I crazy to be thinking of this at my age? I don't want to get a degree strictly as a "broadening my knowledge" proposition—I want to be able to use it and to teach. But we're seriously talking being the oldest guy in the class, most likely. So, my questions: is it worthwhile? will it help me find employment teaching? does my existing experience count for anything? and where do I start? Thoughts, answers, advice...all appreciated. Thanks.
posted by soulbarn
on Nov 11, 2013 -
My googlefu is not up to snuff. I used to have this interesting website bookmarked on my computer at a previous job, and now I can't find it. [more inside]
posted by terrierhead
on Oct 30, 2013 -
Specifically, I'm thinking of tips like "carry a very expensive purse," or "always wear lipstick." I try to avoid wearing flat shoes, keep my long blonde hair pulled back or blown straight, and wear a lot of dry-clean-only, tailored clothing. What else am I missing? How do the 4-year-olds on Toddlers & Tiaras manage to look fifteen years older? Any and all tips appreciated. [more inside]
posted by aspen1984
on Sep 5, 2013 -
I just finished watching Fat Girl
(2001) [French: À ma soeur!], I'm currently reading A Certain Age
by Rebecca Ray and I previously read and watched An Education
. In every one of those films and/or books, an early teen (e.g. In A Certain Age
the girl is 14.) has a boyfriend that is at least in his late twenties. In each case, the mother doesn't seem to mind, the father is only a bit annoyed and the man is even allowed to come to the house for dinner.
Are these open age-gap relationships anomalies or are they common in Europe?
posted by lrnarabic
on Aug 10, 2013 -
... or are they?
My question initially stemmed from watching Spielberg's Lincoln and thinking about the fact that of the 4 assassinated U.S. Presidents, there is a lot of interest in Lincoln and Kennedy, whereas despite their being killed in office, I'm betting few high school students can even name Garfield and McKinley. I asked my fairly bright junior high son (and my wife) and neither could name "the other two" assassinated presidents at all. [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike
on Aug 5, 2013 -
For the first time in my life (at age 32) I'm starting to feel somewhat out of touch with young people and youth culture. How do I address this? [more inside]
posted by jtajta
on Jul 10, 2013 -
I am 37 and shopping for a dress to wear to a wedding in June. My adorable 18 year old babysitter wore a dress to a party the other day that I loved. She bought it at Charlotte Russe.
Except, well, I'm 37 and she's 18.
It's a Maxi-type dress and doesn't look too "young" to me, but am I kidding myself? It looked both comfortable and the mix of casual-dressy I was looking for.
It's this dress. Cuter in person
If not, where should I look for dresses more my age group?
posted by mazienh
on Jun 6, 2013 -
I don't plan on having a baby for many years, (I'm 24 now). I have heard that it is bad for the baby's health if the mother gets pregnant at 30 or older. What risks are there? How can I mitigate these risks? What are the odds of having a baby with mental or physical disabilities? What steps can I take to increase my chances of having a healthy baby at say age 35? What other relevant things should I Know? thanks
posted by denimchair
on May 29, 2013 -
So I have been working in an entirely different field for the last years and was never entirely sure about what I wanted to do with my life. I am certain at this point that I want to work in a field which involves, you know, nervous systems. Unsurprisingly, I am thinking of academia. [more inside]
posted by epibatidine
on May 26, 2013 -
Looking for recent, substantive, data on the demographics of video game players that does NOT
source back (as so many do) to the ESA. There must be some others out there? Yes? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore
on Feb 27, 2013 -
I have an olive oil label printed in France by A. Oliveau & Fils graveur in Bordeaux for a grocery store or outfit in Mexico City, Cia. Abarrotera. The label looks like it is from the very early 1900s. I would like to know when Cia. Abbarrotera and/or A. Oliveau & Fils graveur was in operation.
posted by kirsti
on Feb 17, 2013 -
I have to go to Peoria, IL for a week starting February 6 to tend to the affairs of my mother, whose dementia is getting worse. I grew up there but I haven't been back for years, and when I did go back I stayed at Mom's. Now there is no room at Mom's because she's in assisted care. Where should I stay? [more inside]
posted by caryatid
on Jan 22, 2013 -
Psych test advice ?
After pretty extensive interview.90 mins + Now through to the next round.
Any advice for a 54 y/o who really is struggling since being made redundant.I need to be a team player presumably.Honesty may not be
the best policy for a cranky old bastard.
posted by johnny7
on Jan 5, 2013 -
Horny Old Man Filter: Tips for ensuring that my straight dude's libido ages gracefully. [more inside]
posted by sureshot
on Dec 23, 2012 -
A soon-to-be nine year old has asked for Call of Duty for his birthday. What else could I get him? [more inside]
posted by msali
on Nov 27, 2012 -
I look way older than my age. How can I fix this? It's really starting to take a toll on me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 26, 2012 -
Over the past year, I've notice that I've been approached almost exclusively by noticeably younger guys. What's up with that? [more inside]
posted by gohabsgo
on Sep 30, 2012 -
I recently realized I look, dress, and act like my mother. No, my grandmother. I'm 26 and I need help knowing how to look my age. Help? [more inside]
posted by Syllables
on Aug 31, 2012 -
My friend has heard that people marry those who are similar to themselves (in looks, age, social class, education etc). He worries this will rule out all the "good" women.
Help me advise him how marriages really work. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat
on Aug 15, 2012 -
What commonly available products require age verification to purchase?
posted by dkleinst
on Jun 11, 2012 -
How important is age vs life-stage when looking for a partner? I'm 30 but might as well be 25, and I don't know where I should be looking for my next partner. [more inside]
posted by farce majeure
on May 22, 2012 -
Help me decide whether, and how, to man up with a shy friend I like-like with a significant age gap. Cue the snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo
on May 4, 2012 -
I'm 26 with a young looking face. I also tend to dress casually and don't really want to spend a long time getting ready in the morning. I used to wear some lipstick and eyeliner to make me appear older, but I want to project a more natural look.
What can I do to make myself look more my age? Glasses? Darker hair? Certain hair styles? I do have short hair up to my shoulder.
posted by eq21
on Apr 6, 2012 -
My four-year-old woke crying in the middle of the night from a bad dream last week. This has never happened before. All he will say is that it was "very scary." Since then, he insists on all the lights being on in his room all night. [more inside]
posted by 41swans
on Apr 5, 2012 -
I've noticed that my threshold for spinning and swinging and just generally moving quickly can make me extremely dizzy. Is it middle age creeping up, or am I just out of shape? Or both? [more inside]
posted by zardoz
on Apr 2, 2012 -
I’ve had trouble getting shoes to fit for a long time, but it seems to be getting worse as I get older. Today, I outgrew my shoes in the middle of a two-hour hike. [more inside]
posted by maurreen
on Nov 20, 2011 -
How to deal with the practical
aspects of ageing - book/website recommendations. [more inside]
posted by TheRaven
on Nov 16, 2011 -
I'm currently designing a grade 12 English unit and I'm looking for short stories, poems, or films that deal with issues of race, gender, and/or age. [more inside]
posted by trigger
on Oct 30, 2011 -
Please help me to find graphic novel/illustrated novel/comic strip novel/picture novella/comic book (whatever they're called) suggestions for my seven year old daughter? Preferences inside. [more inside]
posted by peagood
on Oct 11, 2011 -
I'm in my early twenties and I look like a teenager but I'm top-level management in the company I work for and I'm also serving on the executive board. [more inside]
posted by drea
on Sep 25, 2011 -
Am I being ridiculous in my relationship expectations?
How do I figure out what it is I want? [more inside]
posted by thegmann
on Aug 4, 2011 -
Younger brother asked my opinion on his prospective tattoo. Maybe I should keep my mouth shut, but I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by Buffaload
on Jul 9, 2011 -
Unorthodox Resume Filter: I'm applying for a project management job. I'm creating a new resume. I have all the right experience, but my professional history is project-based and episodic. To balance out my skill set I have to go back in time. How far back should I go? [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue
on Jun 6, 2011 -