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Help us have sex again

Anonymous — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 09:40:33 -0800

My luverly wife and I had a baby a few months ago. He's a great little feller. We're now ready, physically, to have sex again but... (possibly NSFW) We haven't had sex in a long time, we pretty much stopped as soon as we found out we were pregnant. Our married sex life has always been quite unhealthy (unlike pre-marriage, which was great - WUWT?) but we love each other and all that and it's not threatening the relationship or anything.

But now we're ready to start again. Except I don't know where to start. Or how to start. My wife is beautiful and wonderful and she can certainly arouse me but the idea of going back to the awkward sex we were having for the year or two preceding the baby isn't exactly appealing.

I want us to do it right this time around and try to either get back to where we were pre-marriage or go somewhere different (if those carefree teenage-like mega-session-rompings aren't capable of being repeated).

Over-disclosure necessary as this is being posted anonymously: I'm game for anything, she's very sensitive and doesn't like much foreplay other than digital stimulation. I would love to get beyond her body issues (she won't let me do oral and any kind of general touching is, apparently, just tickling as far as she's concerned) but I don't know if that's possible. She likes sex, but something went wrong somewhere along the line (probably my fault, directly or indirectly) and I'd like to fix it. Naturally, suggesting that something is wrong and needs to be fixed would probably upset her quite a bit.

Please help. I'd really appreciate it if you could give specific advice (as opposed to "rekindle the romance" or "show her that you care and it's not all about sex".) Especially bearing in mind that we have a wee baby in the house so romantic getaways and things like that are a bit hard. Personal experience would be greatly valued and if you don't want to share here, feel free to write to me at readytohavesexafterbaby@gmail.com

Thanks, in advance.

What does this High Pitched Noise mean? Am I a Dog?

bluefly — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 13:06:22 -0800

I just bought a charger for my cellphone at Target. It's not the special manufacturer's brand, but an after market one that costs half of what the Sprint store chargers cost. When I plugged it into the wall, it started making a high pitched noise. I haven't plugged the other end of the charger into my phone for fear of ruining it. Is this normal? Is my charger bad? Thanks.

After Effects Resolution vs Adobe Premiere

bostonhill — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:22:09 -0800

After Effects Resolution vs Adobe Premiere Hey everyone,

I just bought After Effects and I am sort of a noob when it comes to this so I am hoping someone can help me when it comes to aspect ratio/resolution.

I have a file that was created in AE where the resolution is 1280x720 (16:9), however, the format I am working with in Adobe Premiere is 720x480 (I use a DVX100b camera).

What do I have to do in order for the 1280x720 resolution to fit properly in Premiere 720 by 480?

Much thanks

Help me find a good afterschool program?

RajahKing — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:11:07 -0800

How do I look for an afterschool program for my soon to be preschooler? This is a bit Brooklyn-centric, but advice from knowledgeable parents anywhere would be helpful.

My daughter will enter preschool (called pre-K in NYC) this September, on the public school calendar. Pre-K runs from morning to about 2:30, but she'll need to go to an afterschool most days M-F, some days for just an hour, some days until 5:30.

So, my questions are both concrete and general:

1. Do you know any decent, affordable after school programs that would serve a public school located near Atlantic Ave and Flatbush?

2. How much do after school programs that include pickup from school cost per week / per month, etc, in Brooklyn?

3. Is there any way that I can find these places online and give them a call? I have a couple of suggestions from the school itself, but that's just two.

Any other advice on this topic is much appreciated. Thanks from a sometimes clueless dad.

Success after failure; after 40

FazioGazebo — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 20:09:12 -0800

Has anyone made a significant financial comeback after 40? Hi.

I'm a 42 yr old man. I've been financially successful but after starting a company, a tough lawsuit and over-leveraging myself I am deeply in debt and without work for the first time in my career.

I need to create financial abundance if I am to care for my two children and live the life I believe I deserve.

If anyone found themselves broke and despondent at middle age but turned it all around, I would love to hear your story.

Thanks.

How can i get rid of my white panda eyes after a skiing holiday?

freddymetz — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 18:24:13 -0800

How can i get rid of my white panda eyes after a skiing holiday? After wearing sunglasses while skiing, that area remained white while the rest of my face tanned!
What can i do about this? Ideas that come to my mind are to continue tanning with a balaclava or to apply some kind of make up that will cover it up/even it out.
If anyone really needs a picture to answer my question, i can take one!

Help me clean up after quiting smoking

citybuddha — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 11:53:11 -0800

I have recently quit smoking and am on the road to recovery. I am looking into options into cleansing programs. I know the years of smoking has probably mucked up my system with many poisons and has reeked havoc on my lungs n such. I want to hear from Me-Fis regarding any programs or treatments they know regarding any de-toxing I could be doing.

What do I write, and give to him the last day of a friendly brake up?

zulonline — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 15:42:44 -0800

What do I write, and give to him the last day of a friendly break up? We've agreed that the best thing for both of us is that I move out of his place after a year and a half, (as I can't bear any more the situation of loving someone who does not love me).

I will move out while he is away of the country travelling for work, so when he gets back my room will be empty. For the times we've shared, and the care and support he’s showed for me on several occasions, I would like to leave in my bed room a little something, and a short letter.

Any of you imaginative/ writers out there, could give me some advice what to Buy? Also, what to write? (English is not my first language and it’s difficult for me to write something special, touching and well written to him for this occasion and the circumstances).

Motion Path in AE CS3

robbie01 — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 21:17:22 -0800

After Effects CS3: Newbie question driving me nuts. Can't paste a path as a Motion path. I've found a video tutorial and have read through Adobe's Help files and I seem to be following the instructions to the letter.

I have an object I would like to follow a motion path.

According to the tutorial/instructions, I copy the path I want (the one I'm using comes from a Mask Layer) and making sure the object's Position path is set to animate (at least one keyframe), I select the object, select the Position, and Paste the path to create a motion path. According to the video tutorial, this creates a dotted motion path line and you're done.

However, when I paste my path to the object's Position, it simply pastes as another (seemingly nested) layer under the object called "Mask". I can even move my object and see that is has a gray/default motion path that ISN'T the path I created. Somehow my pasted path is "missing" the link to pasting as the object's motion path.

I'm new to AE, so I'm sure I'm missing something very basic here, or perhaps there is a new procedure for doing this in CS3 and my tutorial is out of date, but CS3's Help file explains doing it the same way.

After Effects - Where did my file go?

dvjtj — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 21:19:39 -0800

After Effects - Where did my file go? I was working on an After Effects project last night with some big files, and went back to work on it today and, lo and behold, the color bars are there suggesting a file is missing.

Now considering I didn't move anything around or delete anything, I have absolutely no idea where it went. I searched the drives - nothing. Unless it accidentally was dragged somewhere else, but it should come up in a Spotlight search, right? All my footage is on external hard drives btw.

I imported all the fooage in Final Cut Pro. Its not there either. Its as if it didn't exist, although there is a reference to it in After Effects. I'm scratching my dumb ass head. What do I do? (I don't have the master tapes anymore either)

Emergency contraception in Virginia

Nothing — Sat, 19 Aug 2006 21:07:05 -0800

What is the availability of emergency contraception in Fairfax, Virginia, USA? My girlfriend and I will be spending a month in northern virginia. We use condoms, but (for medical reasons that do not apply to the one time high dose of the morning after pill) she is not on birth control medication. We have had a condom break before, but this was in France, and she took an emergency contraceptive fromt he pharmacy and everything was okay. Of course we are careful, but breaks can happen, so I want to be prepared. What are the options in Virginia?

Trouble in Spain, morning after pill help.

sled — Sun, 23 Apr 2006 11:37:20 -0800

Finding a morning after pill in Spain? Family friend is traveling in Spain, after last night she's in desperate need of a morning after pill but is traveling in a foreign place, worried, and has limited access to both internet and local help. Can anyone comment on the availability of the morning after pill, clinics, or telephone help in Spain? It should be noted, this has already happened, so reactive not proactive type birth control is needed.

Installing the Eve3 Framework

Toolshed — Tue, 04 Apr 2006 17:56:43 -0800

I'm trying to install the Eve3 framework on a Powerbook G4 in order to run the Magic Bullet Suite 2.1 plug-in for Adobe After Effects Pro 6.5. I have the downloaded framework file, but when I copy it to the Frameworks folder, the UNIX Eve3 executable file changes into a document, rendering the thing non-functional. All the other frameworks in the Hard Drive Library have lots of aliases in them, but Eve3 doesn't when I drag it over from the desktop. The installation instructions say copy the framework to /Library/Frameworks/. Does copy mean I can't drag it? Does it have to be done in UNIX/Terminal and if so, what are the commands? Is this the frameworks folder in the System Library or the Hard Drive's Library? I also have another file, the Eve3 Carbon Library. Where does that go?

After the jump?

feelinglistless — Mon, 30 Jan 2006 13:25:51 -0800

Does anyone know the origin of the phrases 'after the jump' or 'more after the jump'? It's something I've seen increasingly used online and although I sort of understand what it means, it would also be nice to know who said it first. I've attempted a google but all I seem to get are uses of the phrase rather than definitions.

Image after every reboot

bright77blue — Wed, 28 Sep 2005 12:33:03 -0800

Hi We have a computer training class and would like to have a fresh computer after every reboot - and need a method/utility to automatically refresh the PC from an image. I have two questions: How can this be done, and how can we prevent a re-image in case the class is longer than a day. Perhaps a menu with an option that defaults to re-image? Thanks!