I'm going to be a freshman going to college in the fall.
Any advice, helpful anecdotes, experiences, tips or suggestions? [more inside]
posted by petah
on Aug 8, 2005 -
I want to buy my son, who is turning six, a telescope for his birthday. I don't want to spend a fortune, but one site I looked at for advice said anything less than $300 is a piece of junk. Anyone have any advice (including specific models) on one I can by this budding astronomer for $100 or less?
posted by alexg23
on Jul 25, 2005 -
I contantly suffer from the-grass-is-always-greener syndrome. When I'm single, I crave being in a relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I crave being single. I'm afraid that it's going to screw up my current, excellent relationship ... [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2005 -
I've got a coding project, which will make me a bazillion dollars if I can pull it off. But I'm having trouble starting it, partially because I'm not a well-trained programmer, and partially becuase I'm unsure of whether to seek help. [more inside]
posted by metaculpa
on Jul 16, 2005 -
I'm a graduate student who has been dating a classmate for about a year and a half. She a nice girl for the most part and a mother. I should explain that she got pregnant at an early age (19) from an older man (about twice her age) and still managed to do well academically. While I realize that she is very well put together academically, emotionally she is not as mature a person as I would ideally like to be with. I recently broke up with her (or at least I thought I did), but ended up right back in her arms consoling her and attempting to stem the apparent emotional devastation this break up was causing. I have been clear about my issues and honest to no avail. What do I do to get out of this relationship? We live in the same building and function in the same atmosphere. I can live with her hating me. During the (mock) break-up she told me I was the best thing that ever happened to her and she can't let me go. I am only her second boyfriend (the first being the father of her child) and third person she's ever had sex with. She has a history of clinging. I imagine a lot of people would say sever this cold turkey, but theres no such thing for someone who clings so tightly and does not appear to have the emotional coping skills to deal with rejection. I am afraid of her hurting herself, the kid, me and so on. She has absolutely no friends outside of her sister who is a year younger, while I have many. She doesn't appear to be able to connect with anyone other than her sig. other (me) and her sister. She hates her mother, doesn't know her father that well and says she is unable to bond with her child (quote, " I don't really feel attached to the child"). This leaves me alone on an emotional island of sorts. Maybe we all need therapy. I have taken the issue of birth control into my own hands, as I am afraid if left to her we might 'accidentally' end up in babyland. A bad situation for all. Any ideas, I'm open.
posted by nmorgan
on Jul 7, 2005 -
I'm looking for a good book (or alternative resource) full of guidance/advice/caveats for a green rock band getting into the shiny world of regular original-music gigging. [more inside]
posted by cortex
on Jun 17, 2005 -
My 18 year old brother is graduating high school next week. I am compiling a book of "advice for living" for him as a grad gift. Does anyone have any good advice or anecdotes they would like to offer? Some suggested topics are Drugs, Being a Musician/Artist (he's an accomplished guitar player), Sex, Dating, Working, Money, Lifestyle, Cooking, Home Decorating, Women, Being a Man etc. [more inside]
posted by evilcupcakes
on Jun 10, 2005 -
Travel Advice Filter: I'll be in Annapolis and Royal Oak, Maryland, for a wedding this weekend. My husband and I will have a couple of pockets of time to use as we wish, and I'd appreciate first-hand advice on what to do in the area. [more inside]
posted by handful of rain
on Jun 6, 2005 -
My wife and I would like to go to Seattle for our 4th wedding anniversary, coming up this September. We want to treat ourselves and stay somewhere interesting and fun, but also lavish - something we don't do very often, as we're usually hardcore budget travelers. I saw an airfare and 2 night package at the W for $700 or so; while this is a good deal, I'm also tempted by the Kimpton boutique hotels, but don't know enough about what's available in Seattle (urban B&Bs? Niche boutique hotels?) to make an informed decision. Any suggestions from locals or Seattle-philes on where to stay?
posted by luriete
on May 25, 2005 -
How do you know your relationship is worth fighting for? Or, how do you know when to call it quits?
posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2005 -
It seems whenever I drive my 1996 Ford Contour over 40 mph or use my air conditioning, the car begins to smell of sulfur or rotten eggs. What do I need to do to fix this on my own?
posted by JFunk2800
on May 5, 2005 -
I'm a big fan of the British version of What Not to Wear. I've been watching it for years. Trinny, one of the presenters, has always worn dresses over pants. I always thought it was one of those things only she could pull off, but in a recent episode, she tried that look on someone who is built very similar to me (tall, wide hips, narrow shoulders), and it really worked. I tried on one version of this in a dressing room this weekend, and I think it's a look that could really work for me, but I'm having trouble working out what type of dress will work the best. I think I get the type of pants that work best (flat-front without any bulky details around the waist, flared leg, etc.), but the dress part... I can't quite imagine it. Any ideas? I'm 35, so I don't want to look like a trendy little girl. You know, like this
. [more inside]
posted by abbyladybug
on Apr 26, 2005 -
What should we do for our honeymoon? The soon-to-be Mr. Supafreak and I are planning to get married in summer '06. We have somewhat limited funds, speak only English, and want to learn about the world when we travel. [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak
on Apr 21, 2005 -
In the UK we have what are called Independent Financial Advisers (IFAs) who, funnily enough, give independent financial advice, either for a fee or commission. Collectively the IFAs run ads in the major papers and have a website
where you can find those local to you - you can go and see a few if you want, getting a second or third opinion. I now live in California - is such a service available here, and if not, how do you guys go about getting trusted advice on major financial decisions?
posted by forallmankind
on Apr 20, 2005 -
Pretend you got drunk and said/did something stupid & embarrassing involving a friend of friends who you know but not well. When, in the cold light of day, you realize how lame you were, do you (a) apologize or (b) hope they understand you were drunk and just drop it?
posted by dame
on Apr 16, 2005 -
I've recently signed a contract with a very large broadcast firm. I will be an Account Executive, and I must, must
do well at this. I start in 10 days. Any advice on practical, contemporary sales methods from experienced folks in the field? I'm selling radio in all the m markets (sports and classic rawk). [more inside]
posted by Baby_Balrog
on Apr 15, 2005 -
My otherwise quiet housemate is up at 3 am very agitated. Walking around, talking to himself non-stop, very angry and irrational. I think he is mentally not well. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by pants
on Apr 6, 2005 -
LongshotFilter: Anyone know anything about removal and replacement of the old-style, press-fit sealed-bearing bottom brackets installed in the Wicked and Yo Eddy Fat Chance mountain bike frames by Fat City Cycles in the late 1980s-mid 1990s? [more inside]
posted by RockyChrysler
on Apr 4, 2005 -
FashionFilter: Is there a "rule" about wearing a colored shirt with a black pin-striped suit? Are there other rules about female business attire that a soon-to-graduate-undergrad should be aware of? [more inside]
posted by asnowballschance
on Mar 21, 2005 -
My 11 yr old has iron deficient anemia related to colitis. I have been giving him a liquid iron supplement but it makes him feel nauseous. I have also tried pills - same result. I've tried administering multiple small doses - same result. Diet is as iron rich as I can make it. Does anytone have any suggestions as to how to increase his iron intake without this annoying (and uncomfortable) side effect?
posted by Neiltupper
on Feb 15, 2005 -
Has anyone ever become a notary? I'm interested in making some extra money and am wondering which notary schools you recommend, what tips there are to drumming up business, etc. (This is in California). [more inside]
posted by calwatch
on Feb 9, 2005 -
You're hosting a party for lots of people.
How do you manage the music to be played? If you decided to allow people to pick and chose their favourite tracks from your large MP3 collection - how would you go about doing it? [more inside..]
posted by ralawrence
on Feb 9, 2005 -
Due to a relationship breakup, I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping, and it's wreaking havoc with my life. I just can't sleep, I toss and turn most of the night. I never feel rested. I've tried Tylenol PM, but it just doesn't seem to work most times. I don't really want to drink myself into a stupor. Any suggestions on how I can fall asleep? [more inside]
posted by patrickje
on Feb 8, 2005 -
Financefilter: I am about to begin grad school, and I am wondering how on earth I am going to live on dramatically reduced funds. Any former starving students out there with tips? [+] [more inside]
posted by jennyjenny
on Feb 4, 2005 -
I really like Apparat
, Mouse on Mars
and Telefon Tel Aviv
: warm, crunchy, melodic, intricately textured electronica that never, or rarely, assaults the ear with walls of noise. What else will I like?
posted by gentle
on Jan 29, 2005 -
Yahoo is now offering domain name registration
for $4.98 per year. I have my domains registered with GoDaddy
but a couple are due for renewal soon. Is Yahoo's deal too good to be true? Have any of you had bad experiences with them? Should I switch?
posted by madman
on Jan 26, 2005 -
Tattoos: I'm interested in tattoos that seek to represent a concept, a relationship or a person. Do you have one? How did you come up with it? I'd like to hear descriptions of the image and what it means. (I'd ideally exclude concepts written out as words/kanji. Also not really applicable: more commonly-seen representations of persons/self such as zodiac signs and tattoos from portraits that literally depict a particular person.)
posted by xo
on Jan 19, 2005 -
We've just had an extensive discussion of good cover songs
, so it's time to ask the opposite question: what covers should be avoided at all costs? [+]
posted by SisterHavana
on Jan 18, 2005 -
Relating to yesterday's credit check question
, how do you reply to a prospective employer who wants your salary history in a way that's fair to your value? So many IT/Web type jobs over the past few years have seen pay rates chopped down. If they ask, and A) I know my former employers don't give out salary information; and B) they don't require some sort of three year old pay stub - then why can't I just fluff it up to my true value again? I don't want to get in trouble, but I'm sick of getting low-balled. There's no way I can let them continue to get away with this! Do you just lie? What's the system?
posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2005 -
I'm officiating my little sister's wedding ceremony this Friday, and I'm looking for a great reading. She's young and somewhat cynical, so something modern-sounding and non-mushy would be great. Any suggestions?
posted by waxpancake
on Jan 5, 2005 -
Franchise-owning MeFites: How did you get started? How did you pick the franchise? How much capital did you have? Most importantly: Would you do it again? [more inside]
posted by striker
on Jan 4, 2005 -
MacFilter: I'm buying my first Mac shortly-- an iBook. (After years on first Commodore then Windows) Can anybody share any resources (forums, websites, etc) that they find useful? How about any tips or tricks for a brave soul's first foray into OSX?
posted by keswick
on Jan 3, 2005 -
I've gone out with this girl on one date which went “ok”. And, at the time, I figured on going out with her at least once more since first dates can often be unrepresentative of other dates. [MI] [more inside]
posted by Handcoding
on Dec 25, 2004 -
Can anyone give me advice on the best way to ignite a brushpile before the drying days of summer? (MI) [more inside]
posted by docpops
on Dec 24, 2004 -
Any Danish Metafiltarians? The Danish Christmas tree is partially decorated with small strings of flags and I'm trying to figure out how to put them on the tree without making them look like ass. Anyone with non-Danish Christmas tree flag decorating experience feel free to chime in . . .
posted by jeremias
on Dec 23, 2004 -
Moving mistakes? I'm looking for generalized moving advice, apartment to apartment. There are great threads (this one
on moving to NY is really a classic) but what about the nuts and bolts of getting things into boxes and out again? What did you screw up last time? What do you know now that I don't yet?
posted by CunningLinguist
on Dec 21, 2004 -
I've got (what I consider to be) a great idea for a restaurant, but no knowledge or experience in the restaurant industry. Is there any way for me to profit from my idea?
posted by goethean
on Dec 20, 2004 -
AutoFilter: In a moment of terrible mental absence this morning, I drove about half a block in second gear with the hand brake engaged. While the right rear wheel smoked and the brake glowed visibly red, there seem to be no other consequences an hour after the fact. Does this merit a call to the mechanic to check it out if other malfunctions haven't arisen?
posted by Verdant
on Dec 16, 2004 -
On the "I can't remember what book this was..." kick, I've been trying to find a book from years ago that was so bad that it was phenomenal. It was sci-fi that began with the premise that whales and dolphins could speak human languages. We discovered this when a dolphin being trained for the Russian military finally broke and began speaking to humans as it feared for its life (I think). The book then goes on to silly detail about different cetaceans and how they talk (Blue whales being stupid and inarticulate, orcas talking in something resembling old english saying "Ye of the lande" and such - yes, the extra e was added in on some of those words). The whole thing comes to a head as we attempt to make contact with giant Jovian Space Whales and to do so construct our own gigantic robotic space whale with the brain of a blue whale.
I know this sounds like a crack-trip, but I REALLY want to find this book so that I can give it to a fellow marine ecologist as a gift for christmas. It's the funniest thing EVER.
posted by jearbear
on Dec 13, 2004 -
Suggestions for swapping-goods web site? I've done the eBay thing, but looking for swapping goods for goods. [more inside]
posted by benjh
on Dec 13, 2004 -
Drastic measure: hitting the reset button on your life.
My wife and I are, shall we say, in a slump. Our relationship is great, but our careers and general lifestyle are not satisfying. So we were talking about moving... far, far away [+] [more inside]
posted by C.Batt
on Dec 12, 2004 -