So I need some sound advice. I think I was harassed a number of months ago at a local YMCA by another member. I decided to file this complaint internally, and now I'm worried I'm being stonewalled. Normally I would let something like this slide, but I've decided to take up this cause because I think it's the honorable thing to do. If only because I am inspired by the anti-bullying movement. Do I have legal options? Can somebody with any experience or strength with this sort of thing help me figure out what exactly happened to me, and share what they did in a similar situation? Details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 1, 2013 -
32 answers
My friends B and N have been together for years. They are happy together, supportive, and good people. But N is regularly verbally abusive to B, in small, sarcastic ways. It makes me (and other friends) uncomfortable. Can I do anything to help?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 25, 2012 -
40 answers
So after quite a few years in my PhD program in computational biology, I'm dropping out with a Masters. Where do I go from here?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2012 -
14 answers
Men of Mefi please explain - how do I give advice to a man? My male friend gives me lots of good advice but never asks for any from me. How do I keep the ledger balanced?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2012 -
43 answers
How to properly pursue a budding romance when hoping for some kind of fairly serious relationship. Difficulty level: I am young and foolish and what is this.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
6 answers
I'm a 21 years old girly-girl going into my junior year of college. I had a 'simple' surgery in November go horribly awry, leaving me on bed-rest for weeks, and initially fully fecally incontinent. I had to leave the semester early to recuperate, and took the spring semester off, and haven't interacted with my peers since I left. I am supposed to start school again on Tuesday. I'm largely better, and certainly out of diapers. Unfortunately though, gas still passes through me totally freely, and I'm absolutely petrified at the thought of being flatulent in quiet classrooms and lectures, etc. The noise is my only concern. Does anyone have any suggestions for ways I can silence my gas?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 3, 2012 -
24 answers
A close friend thinks she might try working as an escort, and I'm worried that my reaction to this is based on limited and biased information. Do you have first or second-hand experience of this?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
10 answers
I have a job. It's a pretty good job and I've been around here for a while. Some recent changes (some at work, some in life) and some things that haven't panned out like I envisioned have me looking around. But in my brief survey of the landscape, I think I may be stuck here because the salary ranges in my area for the skills I have are around 30% lower than the ~$85k I make in my current situation, which would simply not work for my budget. What fields or opportunities might I be overlooking?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2012 -
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Due to a new job, my family and I (wife, 2 kids, 2 cats) need to relocate from the DC area to Oregon in the near term future, ideally before the start of the Oregon school year (approximately September 1st). The wrinkle: how to deal with our currently-somewhat-underwater house in the Maryland suburbs of DC.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 26, 2012 -
14 answers
Because of a disability, I have not been in the workforce for nine years. I am now looking for employment and would like some advice on how to account for the absence.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 25, 2012 -
5 answers
Please point me to honest, helpful resources for first time home buyers. I would like to purchase a property in the US with cash and then rent it out. Can you please point me to resources that can help me learn the best way to do this while managing some of the risk?
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posted by anonymous
on May 30, 2012 -
6 answers
Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time.
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2012 -
8 answers
I discussed a friend's private, very personal, problem with my own friends, and now I feel terrible for doing so. Can I fix this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 15, 2012 -
24 answers
I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome.
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2012 -
63 answers
I'm looking for career path suggestions for a family member. From debt adviser in the charity sector to ???
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 23, 2012 -
5 answers
First-time parents looking for resources to get 4-month infant to sleep on his back. We've already consulted our pediatrician and family, and searched online... would appreciate any more help!
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2012 -
35 answers
I need a verbal and behavioral script to work from. I've experienced some recent weight gain. A relative will soon be visiting our home. Based on past experiences, I expect that he will comment on, judge, and offer advice about my weight. Please help me out.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 2, 2012 -
55 answers
I'm the defendant in a legal case and am being represented by a public defender. I feel I am not being represented fairly. My hearing is next week. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2012 -
12 answers
I am currently looking for a job and may (I hope) soon need to evaluate offers of employment. I know very little about healthcare, retirement, non-compete clauses, equity, intellectual property, and all the other fun topics that offer letters tend to mention. I can google "401(k) matching" as well as the next guy, but Google isn't going to tell me that this topic exists to be researched, or what the norms are for my industry/seniority/region. Where in Chicago can I find the potentially very specific advice (dare I call it hand-holding) I need to get through this without losing my pants? Appointment with university career services? Read a book/website? Retain a lawyer? Specific recommendations would be appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2012 -
6 answers
How do you handle dating multiple people when there's a possibility that you'll cross paths with one person while in the company of another?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2012 -
18 answers
I was just fired from my job because I didn't meet performance expectations. It's a terrible feeling. How can I best learn from this experience and attack the future?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2011 -
19 answers
Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2011 -
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My dad is 63. He's been diagnosed with pancreatitis, but there are a whole host of complicating factors, for that and for everything else. I'm at pretty much the end of my tether. Some advice?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 17, 2011 -
5 answers
Might be making a move back to the North West for a job. Tell me everything you know about McMinnville, OR housing, life, etc.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 6, 2011 -
4 answers
Okay to point out a friend's errors in a professional product meant for public consumption?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2011 -
17 answers
Seven-year-old boy incredibly defensive, takes everything too seriously and overreacts to criticism. Have you been one or had a child like this and can offer advice?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2011 -
23 answers
Is there anything I can say to discourage my socially-anxious friend from giving pedantic lectures?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2011 -
26 answers
I'm having a hard time sussing out whether a recent job candidate's informality (and non-adherence to gender norms) should be a major warning sign, eye-rollingly insignificant, or somewhere in between.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 23, 2011 -
84 answers
How old should you be to start online dating? Should I (very gently) suggest it to my sister?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2011 -
18 answers
My SO is a speech therapist/speech pathologist at a major hospital, and her department specializes in cancer patients. This can take a quite a toll on her, but the impact has worsened following her own skin cancer diagnosis last year. I was wondering if there were any books, websites, programs or resources designed to help healthcare providers deal with working with these kinds of cases, and perhaps also ones to deal with dealing with cancer diagnoses.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 23, 2011 -
6 answers
Help me attend my first industry conference! Need advice on asking permission/presenting my case to mgmt.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2011 -
5 answers
[Life Path/Career Advice Filter]: How can someone a person with diagnosed depression work in the field of human rights and social justice?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2011 -
5 answers
Lawyer people: I am a lawyer licensed in Illinois and have started to do some solo practice work. Do I need to form a LLC? Why?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 13, 2010 -
16 answers
Please tell me your stories of running away from it all, going home again, and all those impossible things: the bits that tripped you up, the ways it did work out after all, etc. I am exploring the possibility of doing just that and I can't decide if this is a jump worth taking or just crazy.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 5, 2010 -
28 answers
What to do with 100k? My wife and I together have been able to save just over 100k over the last couple of years, which is nominally reserved for the purchase of a house. I am looking at potential alternatives that may be a better short/medium term investment. We already have another 100k reserved for an emergency fund.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2010 -
21 answers
There's this girl that I'm very attracted to and who I feel is also attracted to me. Should I ask her out? Wait, though! I'm a snowflake!
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 27, 2010 -
11 answers
